Racist Parents

[Convert]

Salaam
I am a revert sister - my parents are extremely prejudiced and racist.
I spoke with my Uncle at length over how over the years I have tried to turn their racist beliefs around and it really upsets me.
I have tried as Allah SWT taught us to love my parents etc and show them the right path BUT the racism thing has not stopped nor has it lessened.
In confidence I told my Uncle that I thought it was extremely ignorant/arrogant of them to think that way - and told him I was sadenned that he too was turning out that way!
In conclusion, when my parents were particularly rude my uncle told them this - thinking it would stop them from continuing - which it did - but now my parents are even more so unhappy with me than normal as this is what they believe I think of them - I have to face them very shortly - any pearls of wisdom how to deal with this one? (It is their opinions I disagree with not them!!!)

[dhakiyya]

Try to explain to them that its their racist opinions that you think are arrogant and ignorant, not them as people. Show them that you love them and are a good daughter, be helpful, offer to do the washing up and stuff like that... (its small things like that that go a long way, and actions speak louder than words)

Also their being upset could be because no-one has told them the truth about this before and as they say the truth hurts... they may be embarrased to think that their daughter is ashamed of some of their opinions.

[nadous]

Salaam
I am a revert sister - my parents are extremely prejudiced and racist.
I spoke with my Uncle at length over how over the years I have tried to turn their racist beliefs around and it really upsets me.
I have tried as Allah SWT taught us to love my parents etc and show them the right path BUT the racism thing has not stopped nor has it lessened.
In confidence I told my Uncle that I thought it was extremely ignorant/arrogant of them to think that way - and told him I was sadenned that he too was turning out that way!
In conclusion, when my parents were particularly rude my uncle told them this - thinking it would stop them from continuing - which it did - but now my parents are even more so unhappy with me than normal as this is what they believe I think of them - I have to face them very shortly - any pearls of wisdom how to deal with this one? (It is their opinions I disagree with not them!!!)

Salam Aleekum

I understand what you mean. My family is like that too even after 8 years they continu. They never will accept. They increase specially with the kids. They keep telling me to don't encourage them in it. To don't let my daughter to get submit to a men etc... The only way i found it is to ignore them. I try to don't go outside with them and if i have to i dress up normaly with no hijab, just a scarf as a bandana top of my head , my hair thight under. I don't eat pork like today it is easter and my sister wanted me to go eat there. "I make mash potatoes and big ham, she says" lol... nothing i can do. So i say i can't go today my husband working tonight but will pass by this week.

Don't fight for nothing just ignore what they say and if you can turn it as something positive. 5 times prayers, time you have to expend. Don't do it when they are there wait and do it later. etc...

They never will be agree just ask Allah to forgive them for this and give you enough force to pass this.

nadous

[sadf]

if u encounter racism yourself than y do u white ppl show such bitter hatred to asian muslim men and asian ppl, I was punched in the face at my workplace by a white algerian brother bcos he doesn't view me as a proper muslim, I've had a knife pulled out on me down north london by a white turkish muslim brother, at least your parents r honest and r keepin it real, I find the older generation of white people less racist than the younger generation, the younger generation show such bitter hatred.