The Keys to Success

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum

InshAllah we can all benefit from this article

Tolerance & Forgiveness: the Keys to Success

Nura's eyes blurred with tears as she heard the Imam proclaim,

"The Prophet, [sallallahu alayhe wa sallam (SAWS)] said,

"Do not sever relations. Do not indulge in mutual enmity. Do not entertain rancor and jealousy against one another, and not be jealous of others. Be brethren among yourselves and become Allah's slaves. It is not permissible for a man to have severed his relations with any of his brethren for more than 3 days."
(Bukhari)


She realized then that almost 6 months had passed since the last time she spoke to Aisha, and now she could not even remember what their fight had been about.


We all have had disagreements with our brothers and sisters, but why is it so wrong to harbor animosity? Why does Islam emphasize freeing the heart from hatred and enmity?

Even more dangerous is that harboring hatred will eat away at our faith.

The Prophet said, "Listen, may I not tell you something more important than salah, fasting and charity?" The companions requested him to do so. He said, "To keep the mutual relationship on the right footing, because the defect in the mutual relationship is the thing which shaves a thing clean. I do not mean that it shaves the hair, but that it shaves (removes) the religion."
(Tirmithi)


Hatred consumes the heart, so much that we forget Allah's justice and mercy. Our gratitude to Allah is repelled by resentment of others.


That is why Satan's favorite method for destruction is instilling enmity in the believer's heart. He uses this weapon to weaken the Muslim community and make it vulnerable to both physical and spiritual enemy attacks.

Our physical enemies do not stand a chance against the Muslim Ummah unless disunity has weakened it. Our spiritual enemies, Satan and our lower desires, do not stand chance against our faith unless animosity has weakened it.


Most importantly, however, we should purify our hearts continuously to attain Allah's forgiveness, a blessing we all desperately need.

The Prophet (SAWS), assured us that, "Every Monday and Thursday men's acts are placed before Allah. On these days, Allah forgives the sins of everybody, except the polytheists. However, if there is a person who has spite and hatred against his bother, he says about them, 'Leave these two alone in their condition till they reconcile."
(Muslim)


Clearly, purity of heart is a quality we must acquire, and so Allah, the Merciful, has given us the means to attain it.


We should begin by keeping our hearts free from jealousy.

The Last Messenger (SAWS), warned us, "Keep away from jealousy, for jealousy eats up virtues in the same way as fire eats up wood."
(Abu Dawud)

We must realize that all blessings are from Allah, which He gives to whom He wills without measure. Failure to accept this and be grateful is rebellion against the will of Allah. This, in fact, was the crime of Satan when he refused to submit to Allah's ordinance to make Adam Allah's khalifah on Earth!

Maintaining our brotherhood also means to never sever relations. The Prophet (SAWS), admonished us against this serious sin,

"There are three persons whose prayer does not rise even a fist above their heads. One is that man who leads the prayers of others who do not like him. Second is that woman who spends her night in such a way that her husband is displeased with her. And third are those two brothers who have severed their relations with each others."
(Ibn Majah)

While it may seen that severing relations is just a result of harboring hatred, and not a cause, it actually prolongs and hardens angry feelings by allowing them to go unresolved. Even worse is that severing relations distorts our perception of the incident and causes us to become bitterer.

Instead, we should rush to resolve disagreements. If our brother wronged us, we should give him sincere advice. If we wronged our brother, we must race to seek forgiveness from him and from Allah.

The Prophet (SAWS), has instructed,

"He who has harmed his brother's rights or has hurt his honor, then he should please him today, before the day comes when there will be neither Dirham nor Dinar with him. If he would have virtues, then they would be taken in proportion to the aggression that he had committed. If there would be no virtues in his record, then the evil deeds of the oppressed would be thrust into his account."
(Bukhari)

We should also soften our hearts and forgive if we were wronged. This requires great inner strength, as was the case for Abu Bakr when his relative spread a rumor against Aisha. Though Abu Bakr was rightfully angry, but when he heard the verse,

"Let them forgive and overlook; do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?"
[Qur'an 24:22],

he responded by pardoning his relative, saying, "I like that Allah may pardon me."

Covering each other's faults is part of forgiveness, and comes with a great reward as the Seal of the Prophets, alayhemus-salam, has promised, "Any one who knows about the defect of his brother and he has concealed it, then Allah will cover his defects on the Day of Judgment."
(Tabarani)

Clearly, this means we should never backbite. Because not only does it cause others to share our anger, but it also causes our hatred to flare and multiply. Even more serious is that it will surely make the conflict harder to resolve.

We see the wisdom in the Prophet's words when he said,

"None of you should convey to me any hurtful thing about my companions, for I want that as long as I may come to you my bosom should be clean in respect of every one of you."
(Abu Dawud)

Let us all then hearken to the call of Allah when he ordered us to "….hold fast, all of you together, to the rope of Allah, and do not separate."
[Qur'an 3: 103]

May Allah Subhanahu grant us all the serenity to accept what we cannot change, to change what we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Please remember me in your duas

Feeamanillah

[elefantebianco]

Assalamualaikum

InshAllah we can all benefit from this article

Tolerance & Forgiveness: the Keys to Success

Nura's eyes blurred with tears as she heard the Imam proclaim,

"The Prophet, [sallallahu alayhe wa sallam (SAWS)] said,

"Do not sever relations. Do not indulge in mutual enmity. Do not entertain rancor and jealousy against one another, and not be jealous of others. Be brethren among yourselves and become Allah's slaves. It is not permissible for a man to have severed his relations with any of his brethren for more than 3 days."
(Bukhari)


She realized then that almost 6 months had passed since the last time she spoke to Aisha, and now she could not even remember what their fight had been about.


We all have had disagreements with our brothers and sisters, but why is it so wrong to harbor animosity? Why does Islam emphasize freeing the heart from hatred and enmity?

Even more dangerous is that harboring hatred will eat away at our faith.

The Prophet said, "Listen, may I not tell you something more important than salah, fasting and charity?" The companions requested him to do so. He said, "To keep the mutual relationship on the right footing, because the defect in the mutual relationship is the thing which shaves a thing clean. I do not mean that it shaves the hair, but that it shaves (removes) the religion."
(Tirmithi)


Hatred consumes the heart, so much that we forget Allah's justice and mercy. Our gratitude to Allah is repelled by resentment of others.


That is why Satan's favorite method for destruction is instilling enmity in the believer's heart. He uses this weapon to weaken the Muslim community and make it vulnerable to both physical and spiritual enemy attacks.

Our physical enemies do not stand a chance against the Muslim Ummah unless disunity has weakened it. Our spiritual enemies, Satan and our lower desires, do not stand chance against our faith unless animosity has weakened it.


Most importantly, however, we should purify our hearts continuously to attain Allah's forgiveness, a blessing we all desperately need.

The Prophet (SAWS), assured us that, "Every Monday and Thursday men's acts are placed before Allah. On these days, Allah forgives the sins of everybody, except the polytheists. However, if there is a person who has spite and hatred against his bother, he says about them, 'Leave these two alone in their condition till they reconcile."
(Muslim)


Clearly, purity of heart is a quality we must acquire, and so Allah, the Merciful, has given us the means to attain it.


We should begin by keeping our hearts free from jealousy.

The Last Messenger (SAWS), warned us, "Keep away from jealousy, for jealousy eats up virtues in the same way as fire eats up wood."
(Abu Dawud)

We must realize that all blessings are from Allah, which He gives to whom He wills without measure. Failure to accept this and be grateful is rebellion against the will of Allah. This, in fact, was the crime of Satan when he refused to submit to Allah's ordinance to make Adam Allah's khalifah on Earth!

Maintaining our brotherhood also means to never sever relations. The Prophet (SAWS), admonished us against this serious sin,

"There are three persons whose prayer does not rise even a fist above their heads. One is that man who leads the prayers of others who do not like him. Second is that woman who spends her night in such a way that her husband is displeased with her. And third are those two brothers who have severed their relations with each others."
(Ibn Majah)

While it may seen that severing relations is just a result of harboring hatred, and not a cause, it actually prolongs and hardens angry feelings by allowing them to go unresolved. Even worse is that severing relations distorts our perception of the incident and causes us to become bitterer.

Instead, we should rush to resolve disagreements. If our brother wronged us, we should give him sincere advice. If we wronged our brother, we must race to seek forgiveness from him and from Allah.

The Prophet (SAWS), has instructed,

"He who has harmed his brother's rights or has hurt his honor, then he should please him today, before the day comes when there will be neither Dirham nor Dinar with him. If he would have virtues, then they would be taken in proportion to the aggression that he had committed. If there would be no virtues in his record, then the evil deeds of the oppressed would be thrust into his account."
(Bukhari)

We should also soften our hearts and forgive if we were wronged. This requires great inner strength, as was the case for Abu Bakr when his relative spread a rumor against Aisha. Though Abu Bakr was rightfully angry, but when he heard the verse,

"Let them forgive and overlook; do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?"
[Qur'an 24:22],

he responded by pardoning his relative, saying, "I like that Allah may pardon me."

Covering each other's faults is part of forgiveness, and comes with a great reward as the Seal of the Prophets, alayhemus-salam, has promised, "Any one who knows about the defect of his brother and he has concealed it, then Allah will cover his defects on the Day of Judgment."
(Tabarani)

Clearly, this means we should never backbite. Because not only does it cause others to share our anger, but it also causes our hatred to flare and multiply. Even more serious is that it will surely make the conflict harder to resolve.

We see the wisdom in the Prophet's words when he said,

"None of you should convey to me any hurtful thing about my companions, for I want that as long as I may come to you my bosom should be clean in respect of every one of you."
(Abu Dawud)

Let us all then hearken to the call of Allah when he ordered us to "….hold fast, all of you together, to the rope of Allah, and do not separate."
[Qur'an 3: 103]

May Allah Subhanahu grant us all the serenity to accept what we cannot change, to change what we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Please remember me in your duas

Feeamanillah

Salaams wow masha'Allah so much knowledge to be gained...May Allah help us to follow that which is in this article....May Allah reward you Tinyterror...shower you with mercy and forgiveness, protect you, and keep you on this straight path...may Allah Help us all to be pious mumins insha'Allah

Quick question...does Allah just forgive everyone on monday and thursday and is this reason we fast on these day.......Jazaak Allah to anyone who can answer this....

[MalikOne™]

:jkk: TinyTerror for tha article- just a shame some people have too much pride to take heed and to sincerley forgive and forget.

[janathi]

Assalamualaikum

InshAllah we can all benefit from this article

Tolerance & Forgiveness: the Keys to Success

Nura's eyes blurred with tears as she heard the Imam proclaim,

"The Prophet, [sallallahu alayhe wa sallam (SAWS)] said,

"Do not sever relations. Do not indulge in mutual enmity. Do not entertain rancor and jealousy against one another, and not be jealous of others. Be brethren among yourselves and become Allah's slaves. It is not permissible for a man to have severed his relations with any of his brethren for more than 3 days."
(Bukhari)


She realized then that almost 6 months had passed since the last time she spoke to Aisha, and now she could not even remember what their fight had been about.


We all have had disagreements with our brothers and sisters, but why is it so wrong to harbor animosity? Why does Islam emphasize freeing the heart from hatred and enmity?

Even more dangerous is that harboring hatred will eat away at our faith.

The Prophet said, "Listen, may I not tell you something more important than salah, fasting and charity?" The companions requested him to do so. He said, "To keep the mutual relationship on the right footing, because the defect in the mutual relationship is the thing which shaves a thing clean. I do not mean that it shaves the hair, but that it shaves (removes) the religion."
(Tirmithi)


Hatred consumes the heart, so much that we forget Allah's justice and mercy. Our gratitude to Allah is repelled by resentment of others.


That is why Satan's favorite method for destruction is instilling enmity in the believer's heart. He uses this weapon to weaken the Muslim community and make it vulnerable to both physical and spiritual enemy attacks.

Our physical enemies do not stand a chance against the Muslim Ummah unless disunity has weakened it. Our spiritual enemies, Satan and our lower desires, do not stand chance against our faith unless animosity has weakened it.


Most importantly, however, we should purify our hearts continuously to attain Allah's forgiveness, a blessing we all desperately need.

The Prophet (SAWS), assured us that, "Every Monday and Thursday men's acts are placed before Allah. On these days, Allah forgives the sins of everybody, except the polytheists. However, if there is a person who has spite and hatred against his bother, he says about them, 'Leave these two alone in their condition till they reconcile."
(Muslim)


Clearly, purity of heart is a quality we must acquire, and so Allah, the Merciful, has given us the means to attain it.


We should begin by keeping our hearts free from jealousy.

The Last Messenger (SAWS), warned us, "Keep away from jealousy, for jealousy eats up virtues in the same way as fire eats up wood."
(Abu Dawud)

We must realize that all blessings are from Allah, which He gives to whom He wills without measure. Failure to accept this and be grateful is rebellion against the will of Allah. This, in fact, was the crime of Satan when he refused to submit to Allah's ordinance to make Adam Allah's khalifah on Earth!

Maintaining our brotherhood also means to never sever relations. The Prophet (SAWS), admonished us against this serious sin,

"There are three persons whose prayer does not rise even a fist above their heads. One is that man who leads the prayers of others who do not like him. Second is that woman who spends her night in such a way that her husband is displeased with her. And third are those two brothers who have severed their relations with each others."
(Ibn Majah)

While it may seen that severing relations is just a result of harboring hatred, and not a cause, it actually prolongs and hardens angry feelings by allowing them to go unresolved. Even worse is that severing relations distorts our perception of the incident and causes us to become bitterer.

Instead, we should rush to resolve disagreements. If our brother wronged us, we should give him sincere advice. If we wronged our brother, we must race to seek forgiveness from him and from Allah.

The Prophet (SAWS), has instructed,

"He who has harmed his brother's rights or has hurt his honor, then he should please him today, before the day comes when there will be neither Dirham nor Dinar with him. If he would have virtues, then they would be taken in proportion to the aggression that he had committed. If there would be no virtues in his record, then the evil deeds of the oppressed would be thrust into his account."
(Bukhari)

We should also soften our hearts and forgive if we were wronged. This requires great inner strength, as was the case for Abu Bakr when his relative spread a rumor against Aisha. Though Abu Bakr was rightfully angry, but when he heard the verse,

"Let them forgive and overlook; do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?"
[Qur'an 24:22],

he responded by pardoning his relative, saying, "I like that Allah may pardon me."

Covering each other's faults is part of forgiveness, and comes with a great reward as the Seal of the Prophets, alayhemus-salam, has promised, "Any one who knows about the defect of his brother and he has concealed it, then Allah will cover his defects on the Day of Judgment."
(Tabarani)

Clearly, this means we should never backbite. Because not only does it cause others to share our anger, but it also causes our hatred to flare and multiply. Even more serious is that it will surely make the conflict harder to resolve.

We see the wisdom in the Prophet's words when he said,

"None of you should convey to me any hurtful thing about my companions, for I want that as long as I may come to you my bosom should be clean in respect of every one of you."
(Abu Dawud)

Let us all then hearken to the call of Allah when he ordered us to "….hold fast, all of you together, to the rope of Allah, and do not separate."
[Qur'an 3: 103]

May Allah Subhanahu grant us all the serenity to accept what we cannot change, to change what we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Please remember me in your duas

Feeamanillah

:salams

Ameen!! Subhan'Allah beautiful post sis! :love:

:wswrwb:

[muslim_sis]

ameen to the dua
& jazakillah for posting this sis :) :up:

[elefantebianco]

:jkk: TinyTerror for tha article- just a shame some people have too much pride to take heed and to sincerley forgive and forget.

Salams it can be hard to forgive and forget however we should al be reminded that if we are sinners...and continously ask Allah to forgive us then who are we not to forgive others....

Allah is the forgiver, he loves forgiveness...and forgives those that forgives others...try and remind this to people....it may not be so much pride as much, it may be they are sincerly hurt by others actions....

May Allah make us amongst those who forgive and May He the Forgiver, forgive us for all our sins...ameen ya raaab al-3lameen

[MalikOne™]

Salams it can be hard to forgive and forget however we should al be reminded that if we are sinners...and continously ask Allah to forgive us then who are we not to forgive others....

wasalaam...exactly..I know its hard.. like I find it hard to forgive someone once I see thier true colours..and the only way I learn to forgive them is when I see a change in them and once they swallow thier pride for the sake of brotherhood and sincerley understand what they did was wrong without all the extra ish they add into it.


Allah is the forgiver, he loves forgiveness...and forgives those that forgives others...try and remind this to people....it may not be so much pride as much, it may be they are sincerly hurt by others actions....

It all depends on the context of the situation.


May Allah make us amongst those who forgive and May He the Forgiver, forgive us for all our sins...ameen ya raaab al-3lameen

Aameeeen

[elefantebianco]

wasalaam...exactly..I know its hard.. like I find it hard to forgive someone once I see thier true colours..and the only way I learn to forgive them is when I see a change in them and once they swallow thier pride for the sake of brotherhood and sincerley understand what they did was wrong without all the extra ish they add into it.



It all depends on the context of the situation.


Aameeeen

My dear brother of this beautiful religon the first step of forgiveness is to forgive them yourself...and not judge them....i know its hard...however i feel i was the the FATANA (the problem causer) i think its important for the brotherhood to stay strong...to shake hands and hug your brother ad greet them with salaam for surly this will be the begining process of both people trying to get over the issue...may Allah make it easy for both parites...and insha'Allah for everyones sakes the brotherhood returns as strong as it is....

People make mistakes true colours...surly my brother those are not your words butg someone elses...try and ponder over every1's actions...surly this was not the way we should do such things....May Allah forgive us all...those of us who cover our brothers faults...Allah will cover ours on the day of recompense i feel we all did the total opposite...and being a sister its a barrier to being a true friend to him so its in the brotherhoods hands....

May Allah make it easy for us all

[MalikOne™]

People make mistakes true colours...surly my brother those are not your words butg someone elses...try and ponder over every1's actions...surly this was not the way we should do such things....May Allah forgive us all...those of us who cover our brothers faults...Allah will cover ours on the day of recompense i feel we all did the total opposite...and being a sister its a barrier to being a true friend to him so its in the brotherhoods hands....

May Allah make it easy for us all

Naa those are a 100% my words drawn by my own conclusions...but u kno this aint really tha place to talk about it. Im not easily influenced by other people no matter how close they are to me, so please forget that assumption.

Ameen

[TinyTerror]

WaAlaikumassalam

Ameen to the beautiful duas.

Elefantebianco you have a beautiful way with words mashAllah. I find them pleasing to read. May Allah Tala reward you :)

Though in respect to beautiful words i must admit you've lost me with your username :rotfl: It Roxx :D

MalikOne may Allah make it easy for you :)

Feeamanillah

[elefantebianco]

Naa those are a 100% my words drawn by my own conclusions...but u kno this aint really tha place to talk about it. Im not easily influenced by other people no matter how close they are to me, so please forget that assumption.

Ameen

Ok as you wish my brother in islam...i am sorry i made that assumption ....i am just worried about the brotherhood and trust me...for me to admit that i had to swallow my pride...and i had to go seek forgiveness of the brother who i had wronged....and i will do it infront of the whole ISOC if its wished for surly he had a right over me and i didnt give him this right...just a thought.....

May Allah forgive us our sins...May he make it easy for this crack in the wall of brotherhood to be resealed instead of opened further...may Allah protect us from SHAYTAN who is using this opportunity to his best intrest....dividing us AGAIN....May Allah keep us on the straight path...protect us...guide us...shower us with mercy and forgiveness...protect us all from the punishment of the grave and hell...May He allow us to die as muslims....

And to TINYTERROR my name is italian...and it means WHITE ELEPHANT...dnt ask...its a lil ranmod....And jazaak Allahu khairan for your kind words regarding my writing...

Your sister in islam...

P.s Malik1 i really hope i have not offended you and please forgive me if i have....

[MalikOne™]

Ok as you wish my brother in islam...i am sorry i made that assumption ....i am just worried about the brotherhood and trust me...for me to admit that i had to swallow my pride...and i had to go seek forgiveness of the brother who i had wronged....and i will do it infront of the whole ISOC if its wished for surly he had a right over me and i didnt give him this right...just a thought.....

May Allah forgive us our sins...May he make it easy for this crack in the wall of brotherhood to be resealed instead of opened further...may Allah protect us from SHAYTAN who is using this opportunity to his best intrest....dividing us AGAIN....May Allah keep us on the straight path...protect us...guide us...shower us with mercy and forgiveness...protect us all from the punishment of the grave and hell...May He allow us to die as muslims....

P.s Malik1 i really hope i have not offended you and please forgive me if i have....

I am also worried about the brotherhood- we cant let one incident divide us all. Therefore when I next see in person the person whom it may concern I will talk to them about it confidentally and give them my opinions and questions. Because theres a lot I dont understand and this incident and re-moulding of brotherhood isnt as black and white as it seems. Because this lurking sense of injury and enemity hasnt been "removed" from the majority of the people involved including the main person- evidentley from the actions- therefore we are still at square One.

But u kno before I was jus making general statements that I had learnt from past experiences not just the ones u are assuming. :)

[elefantebianco]

I am also worried about the brotherhood- we cant let one incident divide us all. Therefore when I next see in person the person whom it may concern I will talk to them about it confidentally and give them my opinions and questions. Because theres a lot I dont understand and this incident and re-moulding of brotherhood isnt as black and white as it seems. Because this lurking sense of injury and enemity hasnt been "removed" from the majority of the people involved including the main person- evidentley from the actions- therefore we are still at square One.

But u kno before I was jus making general statements that I had learnt from past experiences not just the ones u are assuming. :)

GOD u can be so annoying:rolleyes: i know u were nt jst talkin about this issue but since i am trying not to free mix in coll...i dnt have another way of trying to tell ppl that we really have to stop this from happening....i had to PM the head bro about it.....But insha'Allah they can also forgive and forget this is one thing us muslims find hard to do...yet we wish Allah forgives us... (i am sure they are going to find it hard its like every1 they knew and trusted went agaisnt them) May Allah forgive us all for this...i think hand shakes are the KEY for this removes enemity between too people...so please just try this...insha'Allah helps us all in this situation...

[Emelianenko]

Brotherhood?? we shud use tht word carefully ;) ive seen lot of ppl talk bout it especially when giving dawah to others and when the poop hits the fan "brotherhood" is nothing but a word and ppl r quick to run when it means living upto it.

[MalikOne™]

its like every1 they knew and trusted went agaisnt them May Allah forgive us all for this......

Narrated Anas: Allah's Apostle said, "help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or he is an oppressed one. People asked, "O Allah's Apostle! It is all right to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?" The Prophet said, "By preventing him from oppressing others." (Book #43 (http://www.searchtruth.com/book_display.php?book=43&translator=1&start=0&number=624), Hadith #624 (http://www.searchtruth.com/book_display.php?book=43&translator=1&start=0&number=624#624))

If showing someone what they did was wrong and giving them naseeha is going against them- then so be it if thats how they want to see it.

But yeh will take your advice...

This is my last post on this subject.

[elefantebianco]

Narrated Anas: Allah's Apostle said, "help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or he is an oppressed one. People asked, "O Allah's Apostle! It is all right to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?" The Prophet said, "By preventing him from oppressing others." (Book #43 (http://www.searchtruth.com/book_display.php?book=43&translator=1&start=0&number=624), Hadith #624 (http://www.searchtruth.com/book_display.php?book=43&translator=1&start=0&number=624#624))

If showing someone what they did was wrong and giving them naseeha is going against them- then so be it if thats how they want to see it.

But yeh will take your advice...

This is my last post on this subject.

My dear brother of this beautiful religon...Masha'Allah and jazaak Allahu khairan for the Ahadith...however naseeyha is a very big issue for we went against the etiquettes of giving naseeyha we betrayed his trust and did not give him his rights over us to cover his sins...i was fuming i let emotions get the better of me....however surly i should have made wudu prayed to rukaah and i would have seen the situation from a different point of view...why did we insist on everyone knowing this...why did people who were not involved have to know???? we should have followed the islamic ways and i should not have turned to a mortal person for help...but should have turned to Allah swt....he has acknowledged his mistake....any ways i could go on with a list of what we should have done the situation has passed lwe NOW need to LEARN from this mistake insha'Allah....May Allah ease this for us all and hasten the Relief after this hardship and unite all the muslims....ameen Ya raab Al-3alameen.....