Quest
12-04-06, 02:11 AM
Have you ever had a thought which changed someones life? or made a decision, its weird but i kinda did a couple of times.
let me tell you about one particular incident. i use to go on this other muslim website way before ramadan, infact i am an old skool member there. there was this one particular sister named Umm justice i use to see her around the forums a lot, she was one of the few i liked there, she seemed down to earth, smart and reserved (my kinda people)
one day i logged on, and saw a particular comment she made, i swear by Allah as i read, my best friend (who also happens to be my dads youngest brother *my uncle*) popped into my head.
i thought huh? but the more i read this sisters post, the more i saw my uncles face, i had this gut feeling that she was perfect for him. both practicing muslims, both reserved and intelligent, both funny, etc
i remember talking to my uncle once and asked him why he never married, as handsome as he is, i know sisters whom are in a cue for him, infact this world is so small, i was talking to one sister once, she told me where she was from knowing its a small city i asked if she knew my uncle, she replied
"Girl know him? i use to attend his lectures so i could stare at him"
i was like whoa? lol i dont know this girl and she was a lil to open, she realised and started apologising before she asked if he was married or not.
when i asked him why he never married, he would joke and say, i'd marry right after you do, when i get serious he would say
"I pray ALLAH has a great plan for me, i have seen many sisters, but am still looking for a particular one"
so i would say "dont stress yourself man, just pick a sister with a good heart and polish her up"
he found the fact that i was laid back about everything and would have an answer for every situation
that day when i saw umm justices post, i had this gut feeling that she is not only perfect for my uncle, but that he is perfect for her, i sent her a msg in PM asking why she didnt get married
she said "i promised myself that i wont settle for nothing less then a man who is true loyal and obedient to allah, am starting to worry that such a man may not exist in our day and age am 24 and not getting younger"
i replied "what if i told you he does exist but your paths have not crossed yet,"
she replied "you have my attention"
so i gave her my uncles profile.
a few days passsed and i didnt hear from her, being a woman myself i knew she didnt wana show shes fully interested so i sent her a message joking around, she was used to a more serious side to me. so though i expected her to laugh, i surprised when she over laughed and fell of her chair!
she said she had a list of questions and wanted me to answer them truthfully, i took the list and did just that,
the truth is my uncle is more then words can describe what i said looked like an exageration to her, so i said see and judge for urself.
"he sounds to good to be true" she said i replied "i feel like making bad things up just so u can feel am being realistic, truth is, u dont know some one untill u travel with them or live with them, my uncle and me are so close when ever he is passing thru heathrow airport he thinks its a sin to jump on a plane with out seeing me, so i see him often, when he visits, my own sisters get jealous when he says am gonna stay with quest, so yes i have lived with him, and when ever he leaves i wana cry, because when he is around my iman is high"
she said whats a normal day like with him?
i said "He wakes me up for fajr, first thing i do is get some juice, first thing he does is stare out of the window, he would then make wadu, wear a white khamis, call the adaan then i pray behind him, then we would sit and talk till sunrise, he would wanna read things that i write, his like that always shows interest in others, we would talk about everything, if i am sleepy i sleep, he stays up reading quran.
come morning, i dont know how he does it but he is always the 1st one up, and is already groomed by the time i am just beating the alarm, when i get up i would go to make us breakfast, he loves pancakes so as i make them, he is the type to stay in the kitchen with u, he would make the tea, clean what ever he sees is disorganised because he is a clean freak.
after breakfast he would ask me to take him to a few places, the last time he was here he wanted to visit my brother in prison, so i took him there. on journeys, he is the quiet type, often because he is thinking about something, when i show interest he would smile and say something real deep.
if its around evening, he would ask me to sit down and would teach me things about Islam, his not judgemental so has patience when i do something silly, in the whole time i have known him i seriously cant remember one argument we had.
when he is upset, he likes to be alone, when he is totally ****ed, u can tell because he would have an annoyed look on his face, but he never shouts, he just walks away"
next thing i did, was send her pictures of him, it was weird because i was determined to get them together, so took matters into my own hands.
a day later i saw her on msn, and asked what she thought of the pictures
she replied "mashallah"
i said "mashallah what?"
she laughed and said "his better then what i expected, u didnt exagerate"
so i said, "i have no reason to lie" she asked for pics of me, so i sent her them,she sent me one of her.
i remember looking at her picture, she was beautiful had these big puppy eyes, seductive smile, but mostly i was feeling her bag!
now that she was interested, i had a problem lol my uncle had no clue what so ever, so i called him and said
"I know a sister who is your perfect match"
he laughed and said "hold on a sec u sound to confident, a sister who is my what?"
i got serious and asked him if he trusted me he said yes, i said "am dead serious, this sister is perfect for you and if u let her pass you by you will epotomize stupidity"
he began laughing and said "ok u have my attention, u really like her dont you?"
i told him yes i love her for the sake of ALLAH.
now that he was willing to get to know her, as was she, the major problem is location
check this, he goes to madina university in suadi, she lives in dubai and i am from london. one would think how do u establish a link lol
i passed him her email then stepped out the picture.
i then prayed to ALLAH "My lord your are the controller of the hearts unite theirs and make this work if they are khayr for one another"
i never mentioned the situation to umm J nor my uncle. i still saw her around the other website, then one day she responded to one of my threads, but what she said was not a replie to the thread i knew this, but others couldnt see she said something akin to
"if the duas i made for u are answered you will be the most blessed of women, never in my life have i loved a sister the way that i love u, i can never repay you for what u did"
i replied "girl sure u can return the favor lol no just kidding just make it work thats all i ask"
others are thinking what are these two talking about, i would smile and say nevermind.
2 months later, i get a phone call telling me the nikah took place, one month later she moves to madina to live with my uncle.
"5 months ago quest i would never have thought i would be married and making hijrah to madina"
she would say.
when my family was told my uncle is getting married everyone went on a hype, who is the girl? was the one question asked, i would replie "she is a dime a dozen"
the next question is how do u know? i would say she is a friend, they would say since when do u have friends in dubai? i would say long story but i keep it international.
the sister is aged 24 my uncle is aged 27 after they got married i remember she once said, in the begining she was skeptical what i said seemed to good to be true especialy when she asked for defects abt my uncles character and i said non come to mind, not to mention the whole internet thing, she said the only reason she risked it was because of what she knew about me, she liked me for who i was and felt it must run in the family. I told her i have the magic stick when it comes to my family and she will be marrying into one of the best. and that i would be honered to have her as the mother of my future cousins. (this is how much i liked this girl she is 3 years older then me so i relate to her in many ways also)
I remember her telling me, she recently turnt 24, was upset and alone in dubai, and that i came along at a time she wanted to have her own family but was not feeling any of the marriage proposals she got. i told her Allah works in mysterious ways.
the best part to their marriage was to see the look on my friends faces who thought i embarked on an impossible quest, some were upset because they wanted my uncle for themselves others just thought it was a dead end situation to many obstacles to over come.
but those whom knew me best knew that i would stop at nothing untill i saw it worked.
its storys like these and more that i have the nick name quest, i see something, am told its impossible then i stand and say watch me make it happen. then it happens.
so long as ALLAH is on your side on a matter nothing is impossible.
Moral: sometimes the biggest regret is not in taking a risk, but looking back one day and wondering what if u did risk.
give people the benefit of the doubt, have tawwakal and be patient good things come to those who meet the said criteria
let me tell you about one particular incident. i use to go on this other muslim website way before ramadan, infact i am an old skool member there. there was this one particular sister named Umm justice i use to see her around the forums a lot, she was one of the few i liked there, she seemed down to earth, smart and reserved (my kinda people)
one day i logged on, and saw a particular comment she made, i swear by Allah as i read, my best friend (who also happens to be my dads youngest brother *my uncle*) popped into my head.
i thought huh? but the more i read this sisters post, the more i saw my uncles face, i had this gut feeling that she was perfect for him. both practicing muslims, both reserved and intelligent, both funny, etc
i remember talking to my uncle once and asked him why he never married, as handsome as he is, i know sisters whom are in a cue for him, infact this world is so small, i was talking to one sister once, she told me where she was from knowing its a small city i asked if she knew my uncle, she replied
"Girl know him? i use to attend his lectures so i could stare at him"
i was like whoa? lol i dont know this girl and she was a lil to open, she realised and started apologising before she asked if he was married or not.
when i asked him why he never married, he would joke and say, i'd marry right after you do, when i get serious he would say
"I pray ALLAH has a great plan for me, i have seen many sisters, but am still looking for a particular one"
so i would say "dont stress yourself man, just pick a sister with a good heart and polish her up"
he found the fact that i was laid back about everything and would have an answer for every situation
that day when i saw umm justices post, i had this gut feeling that she is not only perfect for my uncle, but that he is perfect for her, i sent her a msg in PM asking why she didnt get married
she said "i promised myself that i wont settle for nothing less then a man who is true loyal and obedient to allah, am starting to worry that such a man may not exist in our day and age am 24 and not getting younger"
i replied "what if i told you he does exist but your paths have not crossed yet,"
she replied "you have my attention"
so i gave her my uncles profile.
a few days passsed and i didnt hear from her, being a woman myself i knew she didnt wana show shes fully interested so i sent her a message joking around, she was used to a more serious side to me. so though i expected her to laugh, i surprised when she over laughed and fell of her chair!
she said she had a list of questions and wanted me to answer them truthfully, i took the list and did just that,
the truth is my uncle is more then words can describe what i said looked like an exageration to her, so i said see and judge for urself.
"he sounds to good to be true" she said i replied "i feel like making bad things up just so u can feel am being realistic, truth is, u dont know some one untill u travel with them or live with them, my uncle and me are so close when ever he is passing thru heathrow airport he thinks its a sin to jump on a plane with out seeing me, so i see him often, when he visits, my own sisters get jealous when he says am gonna stay with quest, so yes i have lived with him, and when ever he leaves i wana cry, because when he is around my iman is high"
she said whats a normal day like with him?
i said "He wakes me up for fajr, first thing i do is get some juice, first thing he does is stare out of the window, he would then make wadu, wear a white khamis, call the adaan then i pray behind him, then we would sit and talk till sunrise, he would wanna read things that i write, his like that always shows interest in others, we would talk about everything, if i am sleepy i sleep, he stays up reading quran.
come morning, i dont know how he does it but he is always the 1st one up, and is already groomed by the time i am just beating the alarm, when i get up i would go to make us breakfast, he loves pancakes so as i make them, he is the type to stay in the kitchen with u, he would make the tea, clean what ever he sees is disorganised because he is a clean freak.
after breakfast he would ask me to take him to a few places, the last time he was here he wanted to visit my brother in prison, so i took him there. on journeys, he is the quiet type, often because he is thinking about something, when i show interest he would smile and say something real deep.
if its around evening, he would ask me to sit down and would teach me things about Islam, his not judgemental so has patience when i do something silly, in the whole time i have known him i seriously cant remember one argument we had.
when he is upset, he likes to be alone, when he is totally ****ed, u can tell because he would have an annoyed look on his face, but he never shouts, he just walks away"
next thing i did, was send her pictures of him, it was weird because i was determined to get them together, so took matters into my own hands.
a day later i saw her on msn, and asked what she thought of the pictures
she replied "mashallah"
i said "mashallah what?"
she laughed and said "his better then what i expected, u didnt exagerate"
so i said, "i have no reason to lie" she asked for pics of me, so i sent her them,she sent me one of her.
i remember looking at her picture, she was beautiful had these big puppy eyes, seductive smile, but mostly i was feeling her bag!
now that she was interested, i had a problem lol my uncle had no clue what so ever, so i called him and said
"I know a sister who is your perfect match"
he laughed and said "hold on a sec u sound to confident, a sister who is my what?"
i got serious and asked him if he trusted me he said yes, i said "am dead serious, this sister is perfect for you and if u let her pass you by you will epotomize stupidity"
he began laughing and said "ok u have my attention, u really like her dont you?"
i told him yes i love her for the sake of ALLAH.
now that he was willing to get to know her, as was she, the major problem is location
check this, he goes to madina university in suadi, she lives in dubai and i am from london. one would think how do u establish a link lol
i passed him her email then stepped out the picture.
i then prayed to ALLAH "My lord your are the controller of the hearts unite theirs and make this work if they are khayr for one another"
i never mentioned the situation to umm J nor my uncle. i still saw her around the other website, then one day she responded to one of my threads, but what she said was not a replie to the thread i knew this, but others couldnt see she said something akin to
"if the duas i made for u are answered you will be the most blessed of women, never in my life have i loved a sister the way that i love u, i can never repay you for what u did"
i replied "girl sure u can return the favor lol no just kidding just make it work thats all i ask"
others are thinking what are these two talking about, i would smile and say nevermind.
2 months later, i get a phone call telling me the nikah took place, one month later she moves to madina to live with my uncle.
"5 months ago quest i would never have thought i would be married and making hijrah to madina"
she would say.
when my family was told my uncle is getting married everyone went on a hype, who is the girl? was the one question asked, i would replie "she is a dime a dozen"
the next question is how do u know? i would say she is a friend, they would say since when do u have friends in dubai? i would say long story but i keep it international.
the sister is aged 24 my uncle is aged 27 after they got married i remember she once said, in the begining she was skeptical what i said seemed to good to be true especialy when she asked for defects abt my uncles character and i said non come to mind, not to mention the whole internet thing, she said the only reason she risked it was because of what she knew about me, she liked me for who i was and felt it must run in the family. I told her i have the magic stick when it comes to my family and she will be marrying into one of the best. and that i would be honered to have her as the mother of my future cousins. (this is how much i liked this girl she is 3 years older then me so i relate to her in many ways also)
I remember her telling me, she recently turnt 24, was upset and alone in dubai, and that i came along at a time she wanted to have her own family but was not feeling any of the marriage proposals she got. i told her Allah works in mysterious ways.
the best part to their marriage was to see the look on my friends faces who thought i embarked on an impossible quest, some were upset because they wanted my uncle for themselves others just thought it was a dead end situation to many obstacles to over come.
but those whom knew me best knew that i would stop at nothing untill i saw it worked.
its storys like these and more that i have the nick name quest, i see something, am told its impossible then i stand and say watch me make it happen. then it happens.
so long as ALLAH is on your side on a matter nothing is impossible.
Moral: sometimes the biggest regret is not in taking a risk, but looking back one day and wondering what if u did risk.
give people the benefit of the doubt, have tawwakal and be patient good things come to those who meet the said criteria