less interaction w/guys

[searchingforGod]

i haven't reverted to islam yet but insha'allah i will soon. my question is- how to tell guys i see all the time that it is no longer appropriate to talk to them in such a friendly manner w/o hurting their feelings.

[Mr_Jailer]

Masha'Allah, hope it becomes easy for you... your friends will think differently of you when you wear hijab and visit the masjid etc. They probably don't know much 'bout Islam, and will feel confused, like assume you will be locked inside the house, oppressed by havin' to cover your body.

You have to tell them how it is, tell them that although you're the same person, explain the decision why you need less interaction. If they're decent they'll understand and leave you to it.

Insha'Allah.

[umm_musa]

Salam, insha'Allah you will find it easy, i too had to go through the leaving behind guys thing, it takes time. For me it wasn't so hard because I became muslim just as i left college, so i naturally lost touch with people (on purpose!)
Or if worst comes to worst, you could just be really cold with them and they'll get the pic, it's the lesser of two evils i guess. Although having said that, you don't want to give a bad image of islam by being too harsh with people. I pray Allah gives you the strength to join us Muslims! When you do I'll be here for you insha'Allah, so remember my name! lol.
Of course best thing is try to explain, delete guys numbers from your phone is a good start,or change job, i dunno, it is hard, but Allah will help you if you are sincere insha'Allah.
God Bless

[Niqaabi]

:alhumdull that you are :insha: going to revert soon :up:

:insha: you need to tell them in a way that will not hurt their feelings yet be firm with them as well. If you are too gentle they tend to twist it and soon you'll be out bowling with them on the weekend.
I think you should either call them or if you bump into them then just say it straight.
You've become a muslim and one of the orders from Allah is that muslim females do not mix with muslim males and vice versa if they are not mahram (men who are permissable to marry) and as these friends are your mahram then you cannot mix with them. You can also tell them its one of the ways shaytaan (devil) tries to make people sin, by first being friends, then hugging, light kisses and soon fornication, as all these things entail desires to do one thing or another and that is what shaytaan will make you do.
Also try to add in some nice comments to the ones that will probably take it hard, like you have liked their company, and :insha: if they become muslim you can be friends in jannah :D (already you're doing daw'ah)

And seriously, after that some might be pesistant in keeping that friendship and telling you that they wont hit on you, or touch you etc, but some might even call you and say they forgot you were muslim, but since they rang you might as well have a quick chat etc which will end up being for 2hours.
So stay strong and just be firm and tell them this is not from Islam, and delete their numbers and be strict with them and dont go out with them etc.

hope everything goes well for you :up:

[Quest]

wisdom

its all in how u come across, be formal this closes doors shaytan would love left open, islam is not telling u to be cold to them nor is it asking u to not talk to people period. Islam wants u to uphold modesty, so certain crowds and certain environments wont let u do that. just tell them that, may ALLAH make it easy for u. also what are u waiting for? revert as soon as u can (i get the picture that u have already by heart) just dont delay it sis, death comes an announced.

[MangoChutney]

u have gotten some good advice up there ^^ Alhamdulillah

my two cents:

from exp. i'll tell u, men tend to behave dfrntly if YOU behave dfrntly and u'll start to behave dfrntly once u obtain the hijab (head scarf/ and covering ur self properly).Start to show more carefulness in ur interactions w/ them and prove more modesty in ur character...u'll see them slowly drift away like foam ontop of water....

it gives u a feeling of over-powerment :D

[sadf]

what about sisters r they allowed to gase or look at non-mahram men