Best way to approach for marriage?

[ShadesOfGrey]

Aoa, There's this guy that i think would make a really good religious spouse, and short of actually going up to him and telling him that, how can i approach the situation? As i am not going to go up to him and ask but would like elders to approach the situation except that i don't know this guy well and therefore don't know much about him. I think he is interested in marriage and me and has given indication of this but don't know how to deal with the situation as he is a Student as well and don't want to jepordise anything nor do anything remotely harram- i want this to be resolved in a halaal way. Wasalams.

[TEH]

Why dont you have a word with one of his friends, get him to speak to this bro for you..

Or why dont you ask your parents to do it for you...

Or why dont you just use good old fashioned Emails, many brothers and sisters use it today, just to talk to him about it..

Oh and above all, do Istikhara.. :)

[Arsalan]

guys are good at giving the wrong signals to women.

you should get elders to approach his family .

[SoulAsylum]

Get one of ur friends to approach him, maybe a brother who knows him or a mutual freind, then find out if the guy is definitely interested in you and marriage with, than talk to the elders and ask them to move it forward.

[MalikOne™]

Do istikhara first- see what kind of outcome u get from that

if you feel positive afterwards- speak to a male member of the family and ask them to approach him on ur behalf

[Hekmaa]

The easiest thing is tell your interest to someone who you trust and are close to. Example, mother, father, brother, sister etc, though some cultures make it seem wrong for a sister to voice her interest Islamically it is totally allowed, and even encouraged, however in a modest way. Avoid sharing your feelings with girlfriends etc, as this creates fitnah.

Once your parents know, they can ask him if he is interested and if he is then Bismillah.

Though this might seem a little difficult, and hard on the ego etc, it is the best way as everything is brought to the open. You will also be at peace because you know you are following the sunnah.

You yourself must keep yourself nuetral and make your dua, because sometimes we might precieve things a certain way and they may not be so.

[aly]

ok sister .... when Khadija ( may allay be plessed with her ) the wife of the prophet Muhamed PBUH saw him and know about him and she got the felings that she want to marry him ... she send her Freind which were relative to the Prophet PBUH to him to tell him about Khadija (MABPWH) .

look for someone know him , ask this someone first about that guy to make sure that he is siutable for you , if so , tell him to talk to that man about marrige , no shy & no problem.

[BHAI]

ask any mahram to help you

be sure with yourself,
thoughts and presumptions in a marriage situation are a disastrous combination

[Al-ghurabah]

Aoa, There's this guy that i think would make a really good religious spouse, and short of actually going up to him and telling him that, how can i approach the situation? As i am not going to go up to him and ask but would like elders to approach the situation except that i don't know this guy well and therefore don't know much about him. I think he is interested in marriage and me and has given indication of this but don't know how to deal with the situation as he is a Student as well and don't want to jepordise anything nor do anything remotely harram- i want this to be resolved in a halaal way. Wasalams.


well you need to ask sumone your mehram or another person to find out about this guy. then they need to ask him if he is intrested in marriage right now..
do not ask im yourself not allowed.