Distant Nikahs.. Hit or Miss

[ur_yusra]

If you wanted to marry someone, but marrying them meant you had to live away from them for about two years.. would you still get the nikah done and only see your spouse occasionally.. or would you wait it out the two years and then get married..??

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

yup i vud @lzt ya gud cht 2 em innit n itll b halaal :D

0nli if i rly vntd 2 mry em if i jzu v0z lak hmmm den id al0w it id b lak cya l8r w0oo00oho00oo0o0 :D @)

[muslim_sis]

well if u really like one another , then i think it'd be a better option to get married , but be distant at the beginning - coz then u could speak together and basically be halal for each other , even though over a distant , that speaking could probably build on the relationship. Allahu Allam ...

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

i n0 sum1 hu 0nli g0t engagd i n0 derz n0 sch tng az engmnt in islm bt u n0 evry1 new dey v0z 4 ech 0dar n dey lvd lak in diff cntrz n da mn v0z seein anda w0mn in da sme cntry da 1 e lvd n v0z chtin 2 da 1 dwn ere :S v0tta SIK0

[ur_yusra]

i n0 sum1 hu 0nli g0t engagd i n0 derz n0 sch tng az engmnt in islm bt u n0 evry1 new dey v0z 4 ech 0dar n dey lvd lak in diff cntrz n da mn v0z seein anda w0mn in da sme cntry da 1 e lvd n v0z chtin 2 da 1 dwn ere :S v0tta SIK0

thats really sad.. :(

If they were actually married and living together do you think that would have happened??

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

thats really sad.. :(

If they were actually married and living together do you think that would have happened??

ermmm idun0 da sik ting v0z d@ e v0z seein da grl frm iz cntry b4 da 1 in da 0dr cntry gt engd n e uzta by dem da sme stf n cht 2 em b0ff man i meba ven da 0da 1 fnd 0t twaz :( bt i v0z der 4 da rescue wo0o0h0o0o :D

[muslim_sis]

i n0 sum1 hu 0nli g0t engagd i n0 derz n0 sch tng az engmnt in islm bt u n0 evry1 new dey v0z 4 ech 0dar n dey lvd lak in diff cntrz n da mn v0z seein anda w0mn in da sme cntry da 1 e lvd n v0z chtin 2 da 1 dwn ere :S v0tta SIK0
well most muslims i know refer to the engagement as just doing the aqd (contact) , so that u become halal for each other , but dont live together... but really i think its best to just say ''we're doing the contract'' than confusing people ...

...As for that story of da ''siko guy'' , he obviously didnt have his deen !?? he would/should fear Allah in that!!! i hate it when i hear stories like that :crying:
some men:asta:

[ur_yusra]

hey.. can the people who voted for waiting two years own up..:p

I would like to know why..

[muslim_sis]

hey.. can the people who voted for waiting two years own up..:p

I would like to know why..
me too ... i was waiting lol ... its ur opinion (ppl hu voted to wait) , now voice it (well type it) lol

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

well most muslims i know refer to the engagement as just doing the aqd (contact) , so that u become halal for each other , but dont live together... but really i think its best to just say ''we're doing the contract'' than confusing people ...

...As for that story of da ''siko guy'' , he obviously didnt have his deen !?? he would/should fear Allah in that!!! i hate it when i hear stories like that :crying:
some men:asta:

c0ntrct lo0l d@ mkez me laff :S loo0l


yea man e 0bzly cdnt 0f bin i flt lak bzhin iz fce up ven i fnd 0t!!!:( :bang: :badguy: :boom: :bangbang: :mujahida: i v0z rdy cpt i dnt ave a pne tckt 2 gt 2 iz cntry

[muslim_sis]

c0ntrct lo0l d@ mkez me laff :S loo0l


yea man e 0bzly cdnt 0f bin i flt lak bzhin iz fce up ven i fnd 0t!!!:( :bang: :badguy: :boom: :bangbang: :mujahida: i v0z rdy cpt i dnt ave a pne tckt 2 gt 2 iz cntry
didnt get the as tbit after the gun fight lol :p

contract ... y dat make u laugh - IT IS really a contract ...

[ur_yusra]

didnt get the as tbit after the gun fight lol :p

contract ... y dat make u laugh - IT IS really a contract ...

When you say contract do you mean nikah???

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

didnt get the as tbit after the gun fight lol :p

contract ... y dat make u laugh - IT IS really a contract ...


i feel lak bazhin sumfin baaad :S l0o0o0l

l0oo0l i dun0 it rmndz me 0f a fne cntrct 0r sufmin ahah l0oo0l :p:hidban:

[muslim_sis]

When you say contract do you mean nikah???
`Aqd Az-Zawaj (Marriage Contract)

Marriage in Islam is a civil contract based on offer and acceptance, and on witnesses. It can be performed anywhere, and does not need to take place in the mosque or with a certain scholar. The Muslim man, however, is not allowed to have a Christian religious wedding service. The contract does not have to be written; the practice of writing down the marriage contract was adopted later on, and has proven to be beneficial, preserving and proving the conditions of the marriage.
http://www.therevival.co.uk/marriage/marriage_islam.php

[.: Anna :.]

I wd do it neway

[Al-Irhaab]

yard him why wait for someone for 2 years and why marry someone u cant be with :rolleyes: go marry a turk or sommet instead

[ur_yusra]

yard him why wait for someone for 2 years and why marry someone u cant be with :rolleyes: go marry a turk or sommet instead

why a turk.. :scratch:

anyway the living apart while married thing has not been recommended by some sisters who have been in that situation.

[Al-Irhaab]

why a turk.. :scratch:

anyway the living apart while married thing has not been recommended by some sisters who have been in that situation.

thats why i said yard it just marry the turk instead... turkish masjids are beautiful :rolleyes:

[ur_yusra]

thats why i said yard it just marry the turk instead... turkish masjids are beautiful :rolleyes:

which turk.. :confused:

[elefantebianco]

hey.. can the people who voted for waiting two years own up..:p

I would like to know why..

Salams,

I would wait 2 years....(or more)

Well basically when you find some one you are compatible with time does not matter, the chemistry between you is too strong to forget it.....(its unexplainable) if thats even a word....it would be injust if you moved on to another guy/girl...but obviously this would be after doing istikhara and asking Allah -swt- guidance.....

Auden: Like love we don't know where or why
Like love we can't compel or fly

[ur_yusra]

Salams,

I would wait 2 years....(or more)

Well basically when you find some one you are compatible with time does not matter, the chemistry between you is too strong to forget it.....(its unexplainable) if thats even a word....it would be injust if you moved on to another guy/girl...but obviously this would be after doing istikhara and asking Allah -swt- guidance.....


Auden: Like love we don't know where or why

Like love we can't compel or fly



ok.. so why not get your nikah done??

[Nawar]

Its not really a easy situation to say one way or the other. It depends on the circumstances.....

If the two wish to make the stiuation halal, and they are finding it difficult to mantain halal otherwise, then ofcourse they should get married khalas... It is better to deal with the issues that will come with the marriage, then it is to deal with the issues of not getting married with the possibility of haraam...
If however, there is no problem of fitna, and they are willing to have no contact etc for 2 years then they can wait....

.......Actually, forget it, go with the turk..whoever that is :rolleyes:

[Al Qadr]

If a couple have a nikkah, I think its more sensible for them to live together a.s.a.p

[elefantebianco]

ok.. so why not get your nikah done??


looool who said i have found some1 looool.....your so funny sis....well erm i will if its meant to be do the Nikkah asap....i dunno......i will just have to wait and see hey...loooool........

[MalikOne™]

Id get my nikah done even if we were apart for two yrs..it'd help u focus and concentrate on other areas of life.

[elefantebianco]

Id get my nikah done even if we were apart for two yrs..it'd help u focus and concentrate on other areas of life.


Wow you came back...i totally agree.....otherwise it just makes lyf more complicated....

[MalikOne™]

Wow you came back...i totally agree.....otherwise it just makes lyf more complicated....

Yer I am :scratch: for now

Plus u now have two years to prepare and plan for your wife/husband financially and mentally.

[ur_yusra]

oh wait.. did I just hear a..

*bump*... ;) :p

[MMS]

nikaah is okay but long engagements usually end in disaster