Matrimony Forum!!!

[seven]

since marriage is always a hot topic....

it's obvious many users feel that that there should be a matrimony forum on ummah... but there are also users that feel there should not be.

i just created this thread so we could get both points of view and discuss it!

so what do you think?

[ze leetle elper]

I knew my efforts would be appreciated someday! :D

*wipes tear*

Its so beautiful to see this all coming together in the end...now I can retire in peace :crying: :love:

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

w0o0oh0o0o0o iz iz fmle n i sed n0 c0z i fnk itz.........im nt gna sy nefin juz incze it 0fndz ne1 :D bt itz alz pplz 0wn chce if dey vna d@z gr8 if dey dnt jn da clb wo00oh0o0o :D

[Ebony]

:rolleyes:

Please, its just an excuse to engage in some loose behaviour all in the name of "marriage" of course.

Its open to abuse.

[ze leetle elper]

:rolleyes:

Please, its just an excuse to engage in some loose behaviour all in the name of "marriage" of course.

Its open to abuse.

You see its people like *her* who need this kind of help! :D Don't worry sis, we understand what you really mean... :) :love:

[Ebony]

You see its people like *her* who need this kind of help! :D Don't worry sis, we understand what you really mean... :) :love:

:rolleyes:

[veilofmysoul]

no. :rubeyes:

[seven]

undecided...

a rewarding service to provide yet open to abuse.

i suppose if there was a way to remove the dangers then yeah... why not!

[Noor]

seven i cannot believe u actually started this!

[MG]

did u have this idea first ze? i had it 3 days ago :p

ok ill let u have it , cos i love ya for the sake of allah swt :D

ok lets get voting, ebony i understand dont worry ;)

[seven]

seven i cannot believe u actually started this!
yeah... i was thinking earlier and realised i've only got 1 wedding invite this year so far :(

[Noor]

the year has barely started

[BHAI]

the intergender [pm system?:D

[MG]

yeah... i was thinking earlier and realised i've only got 1 wedding invite this year so far :(

at least u got 1 :(

[Salman Al-Farsi]

:nono:

:smack:

:asta:


Its the job of parents and elders to decide and find marriage partners for their children and the responsible members of the community not internet forums.

[Ebony]

did u have this idea first ze? i had it 3 days ago :p

ok ill let u have it , cos i love ya for the sake of allah swt :D

ok lets get voting, ebony i understand dont worry ;)

Whatever it is you girls are getting, are getting it wrong :rolleyes:

I don't want your services thanks :p

[Noor]

so when are we getting an invite to urs salman

[lonely_me]

I'm a terrible matchmaker. But I offer my help... provided that I get paid per hour I spend trying to convince a member of marrying the wrong one.

So... how much?!

[Salman Al-Farsi]

so when are we getting an invite to urs salman

This has totally put me off.. so hmm never.

[Noor]

that's not fair!

[MG]

This has totally put me off.. so hmm never.

wats put u off? nothings even happened ..................yet.... :D

[Mujaheedah]

:nono:

:smack:

:asta:


Its the job of parents and elders to decide and find marriage partners for their children and the responsible members of the community not internet forums.
exactly

[lonely_me]

BTW. I voted No.

That's the last thing we need at Ummah.com

[dcentenero]

I'm not sure what you mean by matrimony forum. YOu mean bros hooking up with the sisters? If that's it, then no. However I WOULD liek to see maybe a forum about the ins and outs of how to go about getting married and the traditions, as I am getting married next year, Inshallah, and I have no clue what I need to do before then to get ready.

[Khadhijah]

I am female and I think... NO! there should NOT be a matrimony forum

[janathi]

:nono:

:smack:

:asta:


Its the job of parents and elders to decide and find marriage partners for their children and the responsible members of the community not internet forums.

:salams

:up:

:wswrwb:

[.: Anna :.]

I put undecided but I guess its more to a NO. because we will just get free mixing in the name of marriage where people are just trying to chat everyone else up and maybe they dnt even have intention for marriage. In a way it may be useful 4 ppl sincere looking 4 marriage bt its hardly the only way 2 find someone. For marriage related topics, we use the lifestyle forum

[seven]

:nono:

:smack:

:asta:


Its the job of parents and elders to decide and find marriage partners for their children and the responsible members of the community not internet forums.
agreed.

but that approach has limitations... not everyone have the luxury of parent looking for someone they like, and a sister can't exactly go out and approach members of a community (probably a hayaa thing).

[Niqaabi]

I voted no. I agree with what anna and others have said, it will be abused, some people will just end up free-mixing and using 'marriage' as an excuse.

Funny how majority of the voters were sisters :rolleyes:

[Al-Muhaajiroun]

:nono:

:smack:

:asta:


Its the job of parents and elders to decide and find marriage partners for their children and the responsible members of the community not internet forums.I dunno which country you live in, but i wish it could be as this sweet as you make it like, but unfortunately no one help each other when it comes to marriage and i think that is soo wrong, remember not every parents are religious so they have some silly ideas like example they say that you must get married after you finished all your study which is very wrong to think like that as Muhammad (SAW) said for those who can marry get married. And as you know a male cannot approach a female and vicer versa so we need places like this to help the bro/sis. I mean if this is just as bad as born muslim then what is the luck of a revert?

[Al-Muhaajiroun]

I voted no. I agree with what anna and others have said, it will be abused, some people will just end up free-mixing and using 'marriage' as an excuse.

Funny how majority of the voters were sisters :rolleyes:To be honest i do agree with you in that sense, but i dont know how ever can we let our bro/sis get married then, because not every muslim can get married through there family knowing another family its not always the case. If it was in a Muslim state then yes everythink would be ok as the leader of the state will get a single bro/sis to get married straight away but we dont have that in the western world.

[Niqaabi]

I dunno which country you live in, but i wish it could be as this sweet as you make it like, but unfortunately no one help each other when it comes to marriage and i think that is soo wrong, remember not every parents are religious so they have some silly ideas like example they say that you must get married after you finished all your study which is very wrong to think like that as Muhammad (SAW) said for those who can marry get married. And as you know a male cannot approach a female and vicer versa so we need places like this to help the bro/sis. I mean if this is just as bad as born muslim then what is the luck of a revert?
bro, at the end salman said 'responsible members of the community'. That comes after the parents and really those are the people you go to if you have these 'backwards' parents.

[Juno_NH]

I think it might be a good idea, would bring a new spin on discussions in the forum perhaps.

[Te'oma]

funny thing here, the girls are saying no but the guys are saying yes.
I'm abstaining here.

[jimm]

I think its a great idea.

It will give the members of this forum to openly engage their intentions of getting married.

I think its unfair to make any assumptions stating that most people on this forum could be socially unapproachable. Further, i think it would be incomprehensible to assume that a lot of the members here hide behind a combover, brown trousers and a 15" screen.

Let there be marriage talk.

Let there be a forum rich with debate of what marriage really entails.

Most of all, let the pathetic rose coloured glasses and utopic views regarding marriage be adequately addressed.

Thats what this new forum is for isnt it?

Serious discussion?

Or is it??

[Al-Muhaajiroun]

funny thing here, the girls are saying no but the guys are saying yes.
I'm abstaining here.Well i dont think thats fair for you to say that as there are more females voting than males if you have noticed.

[MG]

i really dont see a probem here, if "chatting up" or "free-mixing" takesplace, wouldnt it be the role of a mod for that forum to control, jsu like "chatting up" or "free-mixing" is controlled on this side?

as for being responsible, guidelines would obviously need to be set and rules etc and the rest of their actions are down to themselves and allah swt, personally the worries i have seen conveyed on this thread, can easily happen on THIS side of the forum and sometimes HAVE happened from what i have seen, the only difference being that the intention would be to help someone get a wife or hubbie in the matrimony forum, i.e complete half their deen, not mentioning again the rewards in that.

Wats wrong with promoting HALAL relationships, if 2 people like each other, want to marry each other, they need to get the parents involved obviously asap.


P.S. wen i mentiond mod, i wasnt putting myself forward for this role, so dont get any ideas :p

[MG]

I think it might be a good idea, would bring a new spin on discussions in the forum perhaps.



:confused: :confused:

[MG]

I think its a great idea.

It will give the members of this forum to openly engage their intentions of getting married.

I think its unfair to make any assumptions stating that most people on this forum could be socially unapproachable. Further, i think it would be incomprehensible to assume that a lot of the members here hide behind a combover, brown trousers and a 15" screen.

Let there be marriage talk.

Let there be a forum rich with debate of what marriage really entails.

Most of all, let the pathetic rose coloured glasses and utopic views regarding marriage be adequately addressed.

Thats what this new forum is for isnt it?

Serious discussion?

Or is it??


no, im assumed its not for discussions,i mean we can do that here cant we?

i visualize (:D ) people starting a thread for themselves, putting like a little profile with details about themselves, what kinda hubbie/wife they are looking for (not personal details ect) and then if someone is interested in they can maybe PM the person?

Again, if it did go ahead, no pictures should be allowed, we dont wanna be put of our brekkie with the "cool" (yeh right) facial expressions . :)


wat were u thinking, seven or ze?

[.: Anna :.]

i really dont see a probem here, if "chatting up" or "free-mixing" takesplace, wouldnt it be the role of a mod for that forum to control, jsu like "chatting up" or "free-mixing" is controlled on this side?

as for being responsible, guidelines would obviously need to be set and rules etc and the rest of their actions are down to themselves and allah swt, personally the worries i have seen conveyed on this thread, can easily happen on THIS side of the forum and sometimes HAVE happened from what i have seen, the only difference being that the intention would be to help someone get a wife or hubbie in the matrimony forum, i.e complete half their deen, not mentioning again the rewards in that.

Wats wrong with promoting HALAL relationships, if 2 people like each other, want to marry each other, they need to get the parents involved obviously asap.


P.S. wen i mentiond mod, i wasnt putting myself forward for this role, so dont get any ideas :phmm tru u have a point, it happens without the marriage forum neway...

oh i dno. i do like the idea in a way but jst a bit uncertain

[MMS]

BTW. I voted No.

That's the last thing we need at Ummah.com

i agree with her :p

[Refugee]

BTW. I voted No.

That's the last thing we need on this forum

[tweety]

:rubeyes:...you know that's virtually plagiarism...

:p

[tweety]

i really dont see a probem here, if "chatting up" or "free-mixing" takesplace, wouldnt it be the role of a mod for that forum to control, jsu like "chatting up" or "free-mixing" is controlled on this side?

as for being responsible, guidelines would obviously need to be set and rules etc and the rest of their actions are down to themselves and allah swt, personally the worries i have seen conveyed on this thread, can easily happen on THIS side of the forum and sometimes HAVE happened from what i have seen, the only difference being that the intention would be to help someone get a wife or hubbie in the matrimony forum, i.e complete half their deen, not mentioning again the rewards in that.

Wats wrong with promoting HALAL relationships, if 2 people like each other, want to marry each other, they need to get the parents involved obviously asap.


P.S. wen i mentiond mod, i wasnt putting myself forward for this role, so dont get any ideas :p
lol MG...if there was one i think u shud be mod! and thats before i read the last sentence too :p

[Refugee]

:rubeyes:...you know that's virtually plagiarism...

:p

Now you have lost me, "plagiarism" is way too strong word for me to understand - and frankly i cant be bothered to go to dictionary.com :rolleyes:

[tweety]

t'was just a joke hombre....but i thought u went to Uni, no?

[ze leetle elper]

Hehe ok personally, I think it is a good 'idea' in regards to helping those who may not any other way in which to approach the situation etc

BUT I think that is where it stop. At an idea. To put it into practise would open it up to a lot of abuse and if something was to happen ie: users exchaging personal info, and something untoward happening to one of them, then we would be guilty of providing the platform upon which it happened? Plus there could be an exchange of personal info and it could be abused by the other party. Or people contacting one another 'just for fun' with no serious intention in mind?

Also, I think the users Ummah has at the moment, make up a majority of younger users, who, may have a strong urge to marry, but need to explore all their other opportunities before turning to the web? I'm sure there are avenues they can pursue though the family, friends, etc before deciding that the option they have left now is to look somewhere here?

Plus, no offence to teenagers since I was one too a long time ago :D you won't have those strong urges and hormones for the rest of your life lol -- so be patient and the best advice is make du'a to Allah (swt) because essentially nothing happens but with His permission!

ANYWHO, lecture over. :rubeyes:

[tweety]

^^^ I agree....

plus u get weirdos PMing ....i still get it and theres no such forum :eek:

:p

:D

[.: Anna :.]

Hmm yes with the teenagers a major problem is that they "want to get married" so they may contact each other with the intention of "marriage" but they won't either of them tell their parents or make any real plans 4 marriage, and after all they are like 13 and 14 years so obv their parents will not take it serious, but still they might say "we are talking cos we wna get married" aiming 2 marry each other after like 8 years or 5 years, or even one year but still. In this case maybe they are just fooling themselves a bit because they will kind of fall into the boyfriend and girlfriend mistake :S Thats an easy mistake to do so we shud try 2 help ppl 2 avoid it not help them to achieve the mistake.

[.: Anna :.]

^^^ I agree....

plus u get weirdos PMing ....i still get it and theres no such forum :eek:

:p

:Dweirdos best to jst ignore them. dnt even reply them with things like "i dnt wna marry you, u freak" they still take it as an excuse to reply

[Refugee]

t'was just a joke hombre....but i thought u went to Uni, no?

No i didnt went to university, because i have to support my family - Your post seems to suggest that people who didnt went to university are idiots, now proudness takes a person no where, its a gift from Allah, who has given you this opportunity to go to uni now you should be thankful to HIM rather then be proud about this - I wish they could teach this in university as well

[lonely_me]

Not to mention that whatever abuse will be there, the starter of such forum will be accountable for it in the hereafter. So be. c.a.r.e.f.u.l.

[slmz :)]

lmao..
i think u guys should go 4 it... itll be fun! n wierd to c the matches! :P

seven! IM SUPRISED AT YOU! ur wifey has been playin wid ur mind.. i bet shes soo happy about this eh! :P
haha

GO 4 IT

[seven]

:scratch:

[slmz :)]

:) so u got any cuples ready yet??

[tweety]

No i didnt went to university, because i have to support my family - Your post seems to suggest that people who didnt went to university are idiots, now proudness takes a person no where, its a gift from Allah, who has given you this opportunity to go to uni now you should be thankful to HIM rather then be proud about this - I wish they could teach this in university as well
i never said i went there. nor did i say or suggest anyone was an idiot.

oh dear...why u judging me man. i even said it was a joke.

nice that u have a family though...one of the best gifts i would have thought :up:

[Mary Carol]

seven i cannot believe u actually started this!

He knows there is free food at weddings...:up:

[ur_yusra]

I personally do not think that it is a good idea. Of course there are many people who wish to marry but at the end of the day this method is far too complicated and can even be dangerous. I think the cons outweigh the pros in this case. It is far better to let things go through the parents. It saves alot of hassle and alot of haram in some cases. Anyway those are my personal thoughts. It is difficult to find the right kind of spouse nowadays.. or so it seems..

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


I voted 'No'

Here's hoping i voted no as a sister and not accidently as a br :p


The marriage forum would be bliss fior the desperados on ummah and there are quite a few who just sign on for this purpose alone, the stupid, blunt ones get banned immediately whilst the sly ones twist things.

I can understand not everyones parents are as open minded in finding their offspring partners etc but imagine the shock parents would have in discovering a marriage forum exists on ummah- it will most likely be abused anyways - and who says the guys on ummah are genuine and the sisters are as well?

SOme sister might post 'looking for br who has [enter sister's weird criteria here]' and gets loads of offers through PM- she then thinks hmmm which one shall i pick. Some get rejected and become bitter and go beserk (it could happen!! @) )

Hey i know what we can call it though!
'Shadi online'

Geo TV addicts will understand this @)

:salams

[muslimah85]

I personally do not think that it is a good idea. Of course there are many people who wish to marry but at the end of the day this method is far too complicated and can even be dangerous. I think the cons outweigh the pros in this case. It is far better to let things go through the parents. It saves alot of hassle and alot of haram in some cases. Anyway those are my personal thoughts. It is difficult to find the right kind of spouse nowadays.. or so it seems..
not everyone has parents nor do everyones parents looks for what they children want in a spouse, easier said then done.

what about converts?

[muslimah85]

many sisters and brothers have found spouses through ummah and their parents have been fine about it.

Every type of system tends to get abused, good and bad is in everything, i think with the right restrictions, mointoring etc it should be ok.

No one is forcing anyone to sign up when people do they will know what their getting themselvs into

[Refugee]

Deleted

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

not everyone has parents nor do everyones parents looks for what they children want in a spouse, easier said then done.

what about converts?

Then they can go to a respectable marriage matrimonial website with a very high success rate- there are loads out there and they know the ins and outs. Is ummah forums gonna emply professional people which spend their entire day looking for matches based ones criteria etc? Don't think so, even if they had the money they might as well use it for Q&A session with a knowledgable Scholar who comes every week.

Most people think this is a kewl idea because it will be 'oh so kewl and oh so funny to see who matches with whom' :rolleyes: But the serious ones approach ina different way with jokes aside.

:salams

[muslimah85]

:start:

:salams



Then they can go to a respectable marriage matrimonial website with a very high success rate- there are loads out there and they know the ins and outs. Is ummah forums gonna emply professional people which spend their entire day looking for matches based ones criteria etc? Don't think so, even if they had the money they might as well use it for Q&A session with a knowledgable Scholar who comes every week.

Most people think this is a kewl idea because it will be 'oh so kewl and oh so funny to see who matches with whom' :rolleyes: But the serious ones approach ina different way with jokes aside.

:salams
who said it wasnt serious?

matching two people together is a blessesd thing, people get to know one another indirectly over ummah, in fact is a good place to start.

This who thing its a 'kewl idea' are immature some poeple dont have the right means to get married and this is the next best thing.

I knw many people whove married off ummah but have kept quiet about it theres more then we think, it might not be the best idea, but its just something worth considering.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


Whatever.

There's no point in me debating about it- i doubt the idea will be approved anyways. So this is a bit frutile. @)

:salams

[MG]

who said it wasnt serious?

matching two people together is a blessesd thing, people get to know one another indirectly over ummah, in fact is a good place to start.

This who thing its a 'kewl idea' are immature some poeple dont have the right means to get married and this is the next best thing.

I knw many people whove married off ummah but have kept quiet about it theres more then we think, it might not be the best idea, but its just something worth considering.

i agree, there are probably people on here who meet freely with non-mehrams jus for fun or as "friends" already, nobody is stopping that or bothered about it, wen here we are tryign to give brothers and sisters a halal way of making a good life and earning great rewards inshallah . Ummah would have good intentions in starting this up and the rest is between allah swt and the individuals. Guidelines jus need to be clear thats all from an islamic viewpoint.

[muslimah85]

:up: hit it on the head!

Those that are blessed with parents, friends to help them find matches casn easily criticise the idea and say ask you parents etc etc this is not always the case,

at times the amount of flirting, mixing on the forum is so apparent

[locked]

So far voting doesn't look too promising for those in favour :p

(no opinion from me - playing it safe)

[muslimah85]

So far voting doesn't look too promising for those in favour :p

(no opinion from me - playing it safe)
just and idea :)

[locked]

Another thing I've wondered is sometimes Male/Female isn't all that obvious (no offence to anyone). We have location, religion etc....why not gender...just a thought. Stop flirting in it's tracks ;)

[MG]

So far voting doesn't look too promising for those in favour :p

(no opinion from me - playing it safe)

well i hope the voting doesnt play to much of a big role in ummah's decision to do this or not but from an islamic viewpoint and wat is best for our brothers and sisters, i mean this isnt a "democratic election", next thing u know ,we'll be having a "recount" :p

[locked]

Good point.

I don't know who would take responsibility for this thing though (seems a big one too). Good idea though (to make it halal etc) but it would need to be well run if it's to be done 'properly'.

What do you say MG...up to it...:p

[MG]

Good point.

I don't know who would take responsibility for this thing though (seems a big one too). Good idea though (to make it halal etc) but it would need to be well run if it's to be done 'properly'.

What do you say MG...up to it...:p


i really would do it but i jus dont have time on my hands...seriously!

but i dontthink it would take alot of time to do cos, like i said once guidelines are set out, u dont really need to do anything else, maybe jus check peoples profiles and make sure ntohing unexceptable is in teh content, thast about it.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

well i hope the voting doesnt play to much of a big role in ummah's decision to do this or not but from an islamic viewpoint and wat is best for our brothers and sisters, i mean this isnt a "democratic election", next thing u know ,we'll be having a "recount" :p

:D LOL @ counting again.


Of course from the Islamic viewpoint it is nice and yes there are people who troubles finding spouses but if you like someone on ummah, think they would compliment your Deen, why not ask some head sister/brother or someone who knows both of you to approach the person.

Imagine the scenario:

You got a forum where newbies will come in- some are genuine, some aren't. How do you deduce.

A well known member posts 'I'm looking' etc he/she gets a few offers, hows he/she gonna deduce which one to pick? whose gonna get rejected.

What if there was a sister genuinely looking and got rejected a few times but different brs and some people of the forum knew about it, how would that make her feel?

And most importantly are people genuine, this isn't a 'people online are fakers' but whose to say they really do want to get married? Of course you can ask their friends on ummah but how would parents feel knowing you didn't involve them in one of the biggest steps of your life etc.

:salams

[m-shahzad]

Internet marriages ...........OmG.
Don't attract me.......I think that is not a god option.Parents should decide...
Acutally westren thought(Marriage on Internet)
I think

[muslimah85]

.Parents should decide...

to reiterate not eveyone has parents brother :)

[MG]

:start:

:salams



:D LOL @ counting again.


Of course from the Islamic viewpoint it is nice and yes there are people who troubles finding spouses but if you like someone on ummah, think they would compliment your Deen, why not ask some head sister/brother or someone who knows both of you to approach the person.

Imagine the scenario:

You got a forum where newbies will come in- some are genuine, some aren't. How do you deduce.

A well known member posts 'I'm looking' etc he/she gets a few offers, hows he/she gonna deduce which one to pick? whose gonna get rejected.

What if there was a sister genuinely looking and got rejected a few times but different brs and some people of the forum knew about it, how would that make her feel?

And most importantly are people genuine, this isn't a 'people online are fakers' but whose to say they really do want to get married? Of course you can ask their friends on ummah but how would parents feel knowing you didn't involve them in one of the biggest steps of your life etc.

:salams


sis all this would happen on the most successful of matrimoinal wedding sites, as for everyone knowing about bros or sisters being rejected, i completely understand , and this is where islamic etiquette and decency as a muslim needs to come in, these things would need to be outlined from the outset of the section.

[tweety]

to reiterate not eveyone has parents brother :)
true not everyone does

and sometimes not muslim ones

...or no other muslims around :eek:

[m-shahzad]

to reiterate not eveyone has parents brother :)

But there may be some elders(Buzurg):rolleyes:

[Ebony]

Your probably more likely to be successful in finding a marriage partner at the Mental Asylum than on here.

Most of the people on here are from there anyway :rolleyes:

[tweety]

...where's the mental asylum.....i think i got lost on the way there :scratch:


:p

[Al-Muhaajiroun]

to reiterate not eveyone has parents brother :)Not only that but what about the reverts? who there parents may not be muslims and may not have muslims friends just yet.

[janathi]

Now you have lost me, "plagiarism" is way too strong word for me to understand - and frankly i cant be bothered to go to dictionary.com :rolleyes:

:salams

lol ..well it means:

Plagarize:


To use and pass off (the ideas or writings of another) as one's own.
To appropriate for use as one's own passages or ideas from (another). I'm sorry I felt like letting you know :p

:wswrwb:

[Niqaabi]

Will bring a LOT of fitnah along with this new 'kewl idea'.

[tweety]

...what does fitnah mean...and is it good or bad...

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Will bring a LOT of fitnah along with this new 'kewl idea'.

Exactly.

And lol @ sis Ebony's mental analysis :p.... it's prob spot on . If one can't gets rejected then they can simply bounce off the matrimonial website walls @)

If people were genuine it would work, yes you can't always get genuine people but then ummah has it's fair share of deceivers.

:salams

[ur_yusra]

Will bring a LOT of fitnah along with this new 'kewl idea'.

If people want to do it, they'll do it regardless of their being a matrimony forum..

but those people who are genuinely looking may find it helpful..

I dunno.. like someone mentioned especially if they dnt have parents..

[Arsalan]

No i dont think there should be a matrimoney forum

Too many issues of quality control and moderation and other stuff.

[Refugee]

:salams

lol ..well it means:

Plagarize:


To use and pass off (the ideas or writings of another) as one's own.
To appropriate for use as one's own passages or ideas from (another).I'm sorry I felt like letting you know :p

:wswrwb:

Thank you for that - well at least some one cared enough to let me know the meaning of that :up:

[Black_Flag]

lol...i put undecided but i really wanna kno who put yes...come on..spill!!!

[Refugee]

lol...i put undecided but i really wanna kno who put yes...come on..spill!!!

Not me thats for sure :up:

[m-shahzad]

Not me thats for sure :up:

Not me ,too :up:

[Black_Flag]

hmmm really?? felt u needed 2 make that clear is it?? lol

[Refugee]

hmmm really?? felt u needed 2 make that clear is it?? lol

yeah i think we did - because pakis already have a bad name, so we decided to make things clear before some1 puts the blame on us as usual :rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

jokaa! im a paki 2 nd i kno exactly wht ur chtin abt...tho im a paki kuri..so not many pplz think im desperate 2 get married...nd i aint desperate...to make that clear...pakistan zindabaad!

[Refugee]

jokaa! im a paki 2 nd i kno exactly wht ur chtin abt...tho im a paki kuri..so not many pplz think im desperate 2 get married...nd i aint desperate...to make that clear...pakistan zindabaad!

i was jokaa :rolleyes: as well - i know you are a paki kuri whose urdu isnt great:hidban:

[m-shahzad]

i was jokaa :rolleyes: as well - i know you are a paki kuri :hidban:
:confused:

She is a kuri?:confused: A paki kuri:confused:

[Refugee]

:confused:

She is a kuri?:confused: A paki kuri:confused:

yes she's a british born paki kuri :rolleyes: unless us who are neither kuri nor british born

[m-shahzad]

yes she's a british born paki kuri :rolleyes: unless us who are neither kuri nor british born

Thanx you told me:)

[Refugee]

Thanx you told me:)

thats why i am here, to help you out bro :D

[Black_Flag]

huh...??? stop stalking me refugee and giving out details abt me...jeeezz ur da guy that pops his head thru ma window evry mornin init?? and m-shahzad y u so interested?????

[m-shahzad]

thats why i am here, to help you out bro :D


Yeah i Know that I got a bro there as well!!:inlove:

[Refugee]

huh...??? stop stalking me refugee and giving out details abt me...jeeezz ur da guy that pops his head thru ma window evry mornin init?? and m-shahzad y u so interested?????

calm down - majority of the muslims here are british born, big deal man - chill

[m-shahzad]

huh...??? stop stalking me refugee and giving out details abt me...jeeezz ur da guy that pops his head thru ma window evry mornin init?? and m-shahzad y u so interested?????

I thought that u r a bro.:rolleyes:

Intrested:eek: ....No sis:asta:

[Black_Flag]

lol..i was jst jokin man...touchy or wht!

[Black_Flag]

I thought that u r a bro.:rolleyes:

Intrested:eek: ....No sis:asta:

wht u on abt??? interested in wht?

and i thought u were a girl!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

sure lets have one

[m-shahzad]

wht u on abt??? interested in wht?

and i thought u were a girl!

I thought That you mind that:rolleyes: .I was just asking :rolleyes:
Now u know that I am a bro;)

[Black_Flag]

i mind wht? im confused :S

[Refugee]

i mind wht? im confused :S

go back and read all his post and this time think like a paki

[m-shahzad]

i mind wht? im confused :S

That I asked bro refugee that Is Black_flag Is a kuri?right after that you wrote y i am so intrested:rolleyes: .....
That i thought u mind it:rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

naaaaaah man thts 2 long...oh guess wht im eatin rite now....jelebi...mmmmmm yummmmyyy!!!

[Black_Flag]

ooohh na i dnt mind well i dnt kno...ur reaction was a bit weird tho...lol..nvr mind!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

wait ur paki black flag?..wats jelebi?..is that like jelly beans?

[m-shahzad]

And right now I am eating samosas My boss just bring them.

Hot Hot .Mumummmmmm.Bro refugee would you like some:)

[m-shahzad]

go back and read all his post and this time think like a paki

:rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

fine dnt offer me samosa's....im gonna have lamb biryani 2note so ner ner ner!!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

god i msoo confused

[Black_Flag]

wait ur paki black flag?..wats jelebi?..is that like jelly beans?

eeeeeerrrrrrmm na...

[Black_Flag]

its a paki thang! i love all ma paki pplzz!!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

no to wat..u bein paki..or that jelebi is jelly beans?

[Black_Flag]

jelly beans.

any by the way its pakistani's 2 non paki's so dnt say pakis...unless u want me and ma crew 2 rush u!

[m-shahzad]

fine dnt offer me samosa's....im gonna have lamb biryani 2note so ner ner ner!!!

I have asked bro refugee thats y.......................:D

[MMS]

it would be interesting if the poll was public :p

[m-shahzad]

no to wat..u bein paki..or that jelebi is jelly beans?

come to pakistan and u will know:rolleyes: Wats jelebi.

(A sweet):rolleyes:

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha wow..i didnt kno ur paki..anyways..samosa is good stuff...jelly beans are good too

[Refugee]

naaaaaah man thts 2 long...oh guess wht im eatin rite now....jelebi...mmmmmm yummmmyyy!!!

jelebi :vomit: - l prefer ladoos :up:

[Black_Flag]

oooh dnt tel him! lol im kidding....ur so mean m-shahzad!

[m-shahzad]

it would be interesting if the poll was public :p

Wat will you do then :D

[Refugee]

no to wat..u bein paki..or that jelebi is jelly beans?

who are you then i.e. ethnically

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

yeah ladoos are good..mmm

[Black_Flag]

jelebi :vomit: - l prefer ladoos :up:

ladoos :vomit: - i prefer jelebi's :up:

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

i am a mix of turkish..egyptian french spanish british and saudi arabian

[Refugee]

i am a mix of turkish..egyptian french spanish british and saudi arabian

nice - i am indian, iranian and paki

[m-shahzad]

jelebi :vomit: - l prefer ladoos :up:

Pagal Ladoos

Who0o0o0o0o0o0o0o0o:D

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

nice mix all in the same area lol

[Black_Flag]

interesting!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

yeah wonder wat this is has to do with matrimony ;) lol

[Black_Flag]

nice - i am indian, iranian and paki

but ur more paki rite???

[Refugee]

interesting!

what is ? my or app's ethnicity or the fact that we prefer ladoos :confused:

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

its funny all this time i thought u were a strate britt Black Flag..lol

[Refugee]

but ur more paki rite???

yeah the fact that i was born and bread their - In karachi :up:

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

ladooosss yuuuummmyyyyyy wo0o0o0o0o ashi bashi black flag

[Black_Flag]

i dnt like ladoo's and i was say interstin abt ur mix!

[Refugee]

ladooosss yuuuummmyyyyyy wo0o0o0o0o ashi bashi black flag

chill man - relax - take deep breaths :rolleyes:

[Refugee]

i dnt like ladoo's and i was say interstin abt ur mix!

one of a kind i guess :D thanks for clearing that :up:

[Black_Flag]

wht the hells ashi bashi??? oooh karachi....sweeeet man...im frm islamabad!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha..i am relaxed

[Refugee]

wht the hells ashi bashi??? oooh karachi....sweeeet man...im frm islamabad!

ashi bashi ??? no idea -

I have been to islamabad once - its too quite for my taste

[Black_Flag]

ive only been there once too..only been pakistan once...yeah it is quiet...i really wanted 2 go lahore coz we went in august...for jashne azaadi...but we didnt go...

[Refugee]

ive only been there once too..only been pakistan once...yeah it is quiet...i really wanted 2 go lahore coz we went in august...for jashne azaadi...but we didnt go...

try karachi next time - its the biggest city in pakiland :up: - got beaches and all

[Black_Flag]

yeah i will but prob wont end up going 4 a while now...i only went for like 5 days so not much time 2 see anything...went shopping mostly!

[Refugee]

yeah i will but prob wont end up going 4 a while now...i only went for like 5 days so not much time 2 see anything...went shopping mostly!

i havent been to pakiland for like 5 or 6 years now - if and when i go i will go for at least 2 weeks

[Black_Flag]

yeah but wen u go den all da aunty jee's will be tryin 2 get u hooked up wid their daughters init! thts y i aint goin 4 a while now

[Refugee]

yeah but wen u go den all da aunty jee's will be tryin 2 get u hooked up wid their daughters init! thts y i aint goin 4 a while now

i doubt it coz all my aunty jees from my dad side are shias and also half are shia from my mom side as well - and i am no longer a shia - so i doubt they will do that

[m-shahzad]

yeah but wen u go den all da aunty jee's will be tryin 2 get u hooked up wid their daughters init! thts y i aint goin 4 a while now

refugee Bro...........Fixed.:1popcorn: :rofl1:

[m-shahzad]

wht the hells ashi bashi??? oooh karachi....sweeeet man...im frm islamabad!

Ashi bashi = Achee bachee:up:

I am from Lahore:D

[Black_Flag]

lol ok..but theyre always those random aunties tht jst turn up @ ur house and say my son is a doctorrr...u like??? eewwwww

[Refugee]

lol ok..but theyre always those random aunties tht jst turn up @ ur house and say my son is a doctorrr...u like??? eewwwww

not in my case - a son a doctor ? :confused: -

[Black_Flag]

Ashi bashi = Achee bachee:up:

I am from Lahore:D

is it?? i always wantd 2 go lahore...apparently its 24/7 party!! :D

[Black_Flag]

not in my case - a son a doctor ? :confused:

never mind!!!!

[m-shahzad]

lol ok..but theyre always those random aunties tht jst turn up @ ur house and say my son is a doctorrr...u like??? eewwwww

Own experience....................
Or experienced one...........:D

[m-shahzad]

not in my case - a son a doctor ? :confused: -

Don't forget to invite me...........:D

[Refugee]

never mind!!!!


:boom:......... deleted ......... :bangbang:

[m-shahzad]

is it?? i always wantd 2 go lahore...apparently its 24/7 party!! :D

24/7 Party:confused: .
You wana come to lahore that's good:up:

[Refugee]

Don't forget to invite me...........:D

look bro i aint marring somebodies son who is a doctor :torture:

[m-shahzad]

:boom:......... deleted ......... :bangbang:

:rubeyes: .............:rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

hahahaha! refugee u gotta invite me 2! lol...yes experienced it and i jst laughed..which didnt go down 2 well with the aunties!

[m-shahzad]

look bro i aint marring somebodies son who is a doctor :torture:

Obviously!! U r going to marry somebodies daughter not son:D

[Refugee]

Obviously!! U r going to marry somebodies daughter not son:D

i know but thats what blackie said - when she was having a conversation with me - :rolleyes:

[m-shahzad]

Ohh yummy Now i finished my samosas:D
Tasty And some Carrot halwa as well:)

[Black_Flag]

dnt call me blackie! i nvr said it to u...said that happend 2me!

[Refugee]

Obviously!! U r going to marry somebodies daughter not son:D

on a different subject i maybe going to faisalabad in Oct / Nov - its a friends wedding - how far is faisalabad away from lahore

[m-shahzad]

i know but thats what blackie said - when she was having a conversation with me - :rolleyes:

may be telling you her own experience:)

[Refugee]

dnt call me blackie! i nvr said it to u...said that happend 2me!

thousand apologies Black_Flag

[m-shahzad]

on a different subject i maybe going to faisalabad in Oct / Nov - its a friends wedding - how far is faisalabad away from lahore

On 3 hours drive

[m-shahzad]

So you will be at lahore, too
Wana meet Me And imee bro

[MG]

this thread has gone waaaaayyyy of-topic................

[Black_Flag]

thousand apologies Black_Flag

ur forgiven...tho u cud rep me jst so tht i kno u really r sorry :P

[m-shahzad]

this thread has gone waaaaayyyy of-topic................

ooopps yeah
But it was intresting:D

[m-shahzad]

ur forgiven...tho u cud rep me jst so tht i kno u really r sorry :P

Sis MG has come.better to.:outta:

[Refugee]

ur forgiven...tho u cud rep me jst so tht i kno u really r sorry :P

i have to wait 24 hours for that and trust me i tried

[Refugee]

So you will be at lahore, too
Wana meet Me And imee bro

inshallah bro - thats the reason i asking about the distance :D

[m-shahzad]

i have to wait 24 hours for that and trust me i tried

No problem!!I have done that on behalf of you:up:

[Black_Flag]

awww thanks guys! im gettin out of here now aswell...nice chtin wid u guys...l8rzzz

[Refugee]

awww thanks guys! im gettin out of here now aswell...nice chtin wid u guys...l8rzzz

:salams :rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

oh wa'alaikum asalam bro!

[Refugee]

oh wa'alaikum asalam bro!

:D thats better :up:

[Niqaabi]

If people want to do it, they'll do it regardless of their being a matrimony forum..

but those people who are genuinely looking may find it helpful..

I dunno.. like someone mentioned especially if they dnt have parents..
If two people meet on the forum and would like to get married, or someone is looking to get married wants to know if anyone knows a bro/sis then they can do so by contacting bro/sis not the actual person themselves.
And once they have found someone they should go to their parents and arrange a meet-up where they will dicuss whatever you discuss in these meeting. (age, occupation etc) Not making a thread and sharing personal info across the net and not knowing whether the other person could be serious or not.
This is my point, some people just want a laugh and will make it into a joke. If it were to go ahead, i give it 2 weeks before they close it.

[Unique Muslimah]

lol..ummah is already a little martimonal spot..dont worry,no need to introduce a forum..

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

yeah..but how many marriages have we had..lol

[Niqaabi]

yeah..but how many marriages have we had..lol
2 believe me thats enough :rolleyes:

[MalikOne™]

Matrimony Forum?

Depends...if the team want a house of Fitnah then go ahead...or if u want to keep this a forum of discussion...then I suggest you dont.

[m-shahzad]

Matrimony Forum?

Depends...if the team want a house of Fitnah then go ahead...or if u want to keep this a forum of discussion...then I suggest you dont.

That will be much better:up:

[Ayah]

...what does fitnah mean...and is it good or bad...

Wow, so many posts followed the above, yet no one attempted to answer the question :p

Fitnah means an affliction or trial.

One tries to avoid fitnah in order to stay faithful/steadfast.

~ Ayah

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

i mean idk..i put yeah..lets have one..out of total curiosity..but idk now..i think its already a matrimony forum

[m-shahzad]

i mean idk..i put yeah..lets have one..out of total curiosity..but idk now..i think its already a matrimony forum

Sure!!!:rolleyes:

[Niqaabi]

i mean idk..i put yeah..lets have one..out of total curiosity..but idk now..i think its already a matrimony forum
if its already a matrimonial forum then we dont need to make it official do we?
Leave it as it is with less fitnah.

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

yeah thats true sis

[Nawar]

Definately NOT a good idea.....too much scope for weirdos and people with insincere intentions to thrive............too dangerous in my opinion, the issue of marriage is a very sensitive issue. For someone naive, it would be very dangerous....

[ur_yusra]

Definately NOT a good idea.....too much scope for weirdos and people with insincere intentions to thrive............too dangerous in my opinion, the issue of marriage is a very sensitive issue. For someone naive, it would be very dangerous....

I agree... :inlove:

[slmz :)]

how bout being a matramony forum.. without realising it.. but weve realised to so we cant not realise it.. coz we have???
:D.. feel free to feel comfused.. the pleasure is all mine :)

[Queenhatshepsut]

I voted yes, not because I think it should be a meeting place for potential marriage partners, but because it would be nice to know the customs of Muslim marriages. I am getting married in Feb. 2007 to a wonderful Egyptian Muslim; I am American; I will be moving to Egypt. Talk about culture shock!!! It would be nice to get advice on what is expected of me in my new role as Muslim wife living in Egypt.

Also, my fiance and I chose each other. He and I are both a little too old to let our parents choose our life partners.

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

ur gonna have to assimilate queenhatsheput..a big assimilation yes..sorta

[slmz :)]

:inlove: I voted yes, not because I think it should be a meeting place for potential marriage partners, but because it would be nice to know the customs of Muslim marriages. I am getting married in Feb. 2007 to a wonderful Egyptian Muslim; I am American; I will be moving to Egypt. Talk about culture shock!!! It would be nice to get advice on what is expected of me in my new role as Muslim wife living in Egypt.

Also, my fiance and I chose each other. He and I are both a little too old to let our parents choose our life partners.

aww thats soo sweet! good luk 4 ur move!!!
as long as u no some arabic.. ull get on well :)
ur huby will help u... :D
marriage is a wonderful thing - apparantly as ppl say :D

[MMS]

we have some very immature members they get a rep point from someone and begin to think of that person as a potential spouse
they change their potential list everytime they get a new person repping them or somebody agree's with their post :S

im not even exaggerating :p they fall in love every half hour or so :p

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Heaven forbid, if they should get a PM from the opposite gender :rotfl:


~wipes tear from eye and shakes head~ :D

:salams

[muslim_sis]

we have some very immature members they get a rep point from someone and begin to think of that person as a potential spouse
they change their potential list everytime they get a new person repping them or somebody agree's with their post :S

im not even exaggerating :p they fall in love every half hour or so :p
lol :rotfl:
but for real :rubeyes: thats quite very sad lol

[TEH]

we have some very immature members they get a rep point from someone and begin to think of that person as a potential spouse
they change their potential list everytime they get a new person repping them or somebody agree's with their post :S

im not even exaggerating :p they fall in love every half hour or so :p

LMAO...

Thats why you dont have reps...we dont have on maniac muslim... :p

[MMS]

i just realised, according to my post im the most wanted coz i have the highest rep :p

:nuts::outta:

my heads gone so big i cant fit it out this thread, im stuck

[abeeradil]

So true . . .
"love" has lost its value these days. . . .
Ppl.. fall in love every day... and its bcome so damn easy for Girls & Guys to change their partners.. its SiCk!
one day.. they are dreamin about spending their whole lives with this girl/guy..
next day... "oh it wus jus infatuation" !!

and Marriage . . . ppl'av made a "khel" outta it . . .

In Saudi Arabia.. esp among the Saudis.. divorce is bcomin so common..
any little problem... or misunderstanding... the family wil b demandin divorce..
thats so disspointin..
and its not even necessary that probs/misundrstndings shud b between hubby/wifey.. even if both in-laws aint Compatible.. ..!

the true ever lasting love between husband and wife... is rarely found these days . ! ..

[abeeradil]

And yea.. i Voted "NO" !!

they are Enuf of Matrimonial Sites online . . .
let this forum jus b a means of sharing views, opinions ..
rather than sharin fone nos. , email ids or addresses... !!!!

[MalikOne™]

w00t! nice sig...^^

[Refugee]

w00t! nice sig...^^

yeah indeed

[aztema_786]

whats the point??? if you are gonna marry a stranger, then ask your parents to look for one;

[abeeradil]

JazakAllah khair..
:) . . . for appreciatin . . .