Sins and Forgiveness

[muslim_girl_in_need]

Salaam,

I was wondering...how can we be forgiven if we have committed sins? Major sins I mean? Is there any way to ask for forgiveness and know that you will be forgiven? I am worried that I will go to Hell after I die.

I've done so many awful things that I'm ashamed to post but I need help. Please help me.

Here are the following sins I've committed:
1. Disobedience to Parents
2. Ignored Prayer
3. Lied
4. Consumption of unlawful food

And, I have one more problem: I am in love with a non-Muslim man. He's a Catholic. He loves me too. We are in a relationship but our parents do not know. I don't know what to do. It's very hard for me to let go of him. I cannot leave him. We have not committed fornication or adultery, however we have kissed. We both feel deeply for each other and we want to marry but I know that it is a major sin if a Muslim woman marries a non-Muslim man. My father is an Islamic scholar. He knows that this non-Muslim is a friend of mine, but doesn't know about the relationship between us. I am very worried. I would like to marry him. Is it possible to marry him if he converts? I know that he can't convert to marry me nor can I force him to, but what if he decides on his own to convert for the sake of interest in following Islam? Would it be legal in Islam to marry him then? I love him very much. He's a very nice person and very caring and understanding about me. He respects my religion and beliefs and he's very decent. He respects me most of all and my father too. What do I do? Can someone help me?

Thank you.

Muslim Girl in Need of Help.

[Abu.Bakr]

Asalaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah,

Welcome ikhti. I ask Allah to shower His Mercy upon you.

First and foremost I think it is important that you know it is haram to reveal your sins. It would have been better for you to ask someone of knowledge whom you trust and know will keep everything confidential.

In regards to Allah forgiving your sins, know that Allah is most Merciful and Forgiving. View this thread - http://ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?p=923801

The answer to your question can be found here - http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=2285&dgn=4

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid about a similar situation says -


Praise be to Allaah.

It is regrettable indeed that anyone would fail to adhere to the religion which Allaah has commanded us to adhere to. What is even more distressing is the fact that a Muslim woman would have a relationship (of any kind) with a non-related Christian man for ten years, when she knows that this is something which angers Allaah, Who has forbidden believing women to do such things in the Qur’an (interpretation of the meaning): “… they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boyfriends…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:25]. Equally upsetting is the fact that what this Muslim girl’s father fears most – with regard to the marriage described – is not Allaah, but what his mother will say and how his reputation among his relatives will be affected.

In any case, there is no way out of this problem now except one: this man must become Muslim in a real sense, and start to practise Islam, and he and this girl should repent for what they have done. Then marrying him will be permissible, and what people may say does not matter, so long as everything is done in accordance with Islam and in a way that will not earn the anger of Allaah; the matter can also be explained to close relatives. If this is not possible, then the relationship with this man should be cut completely, and all thought of him should be dismissed from one’s mind. If, my sister, you feel that there is some harshness in this answer, then by Allaah it is only in your best interests and out of concern for you. We ask Allaah to accept our repentance and have mercy on us, for He is the One Who accepts repentance and is All-Merciful.

In regards to your father being a scholar, with all due respect ikhti but a Sheikh that came to my local Islamic centre a few weeks ago who had studied Islam for 19 years at the University of Medina said he had not gained a quarter of the knowledge needed to become a scholar. They usually would have memorised the entire Quran by the age of 5. From what I have heard, there are no current scholars. May Allah bring them back, Ameen.

There is no doubt that your relationship with this man is strictly forbidden under the laws of Islam. You seem like a concerned Muslimah and I suggest you fear Allah and cut off all contact with this man. Remember that your reward with Allah is greater than the reward this man can give you. And remember the wrath of Allah will be bestowed upon you if you continue this relationship, and you need to ask yourself 'Is it really worth it?'

All this of course if he doesn't repent sincerely and enter Islam as a whole.

I ask Allah to guide you and increase the Iman in your heart, Ameen.

Wasalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

[muslim_girl_in_need]

Thank you very much. I greatly appreciate your help. May Allah bless you and your family. Thank you once again.

[Juba]

I can't believe you done this !!!!!

is this a joke ?????

leave him now ya father is a sheikh do you want to break his honor ????

if you was my daughter you will be killed if it went any further like you know adultery.

leave him before you do something stupid.


next time you see him REMEMBER ALLAH IS WATCHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Abu.Bakr]

I can't believe you done this !!!!!

is this a joke ?????

leave him now ya father is a sheikh do you want to break his honor ????

if you was my daughter you will be killed if it went any further like you know adultery.

leave him before you do something stupid.


next time you see him REMEMBER ALLAH IS WATCHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Brother/Sister, there are better ways to advise people InshaAllah. Understanding and patience if very important. None of us are infallible, we all fall into sin and Allah knows this. Just as long as we repent and leave the sin for good than we have nothing to worry about InshaAllah.

[icarrim]

You do not cure a disease by killing it.History is not short of Muslims who have sinned,seriously repented,and have proved to be better Momins.

[Ruprecht]

Hmm... It's like Romeo and Juliet but with Muslims and Christians and even more complications.
Hopefully your story has a better ending :eek3:

[Batu Caves]

hi all,

watch out..at first people start with seeing...then touching. then after some period kissing.then..hugging... at the end guess what....

stop before you've gone far.

[MG]

Salaam,

I was wondering...how can we be forgiven if we have committed sins? Major sins I mean? Is there any way to ask for forgiveness and know that you will be forgiven? I am worried that I will go to Hell after I die.

I've done so many awful things that I'm ashamed to post but I need help. Please help me.

Here are the following sins I've committed:
1. Disobedience to Parents
2. Ignored Prayer
3. Lied
4. Consumption of unlawful food

And, I have one more problem: I am in love with a non-Muslim man. He's a Catholic. He loves me too. We are in a relationship but our parents do not know. I don't know what to do. It's very hard for me to let go of him. I cannot leave him. We have not committed fornication or adultery, however we have kissed. We both feel deeply for each other and we want to marry but I know that it is a major sin if a Muslim woman marries a non-Muslim man. My father is an Islamic scholar. He knows that this non-Muslim is a friend of mine, but doesn't know about the relationship between us. I am very worried. I would like to marry him. Is it possible to marry him if he converts? I know that he can't convert to marry me nor can I force him to, but what if he decides on his own to convert for the sake of interest in following Islam? Would it be legal in Islam to marry him then? I love him very much. He's a very nice person and very caring and understanding about me. He respects my religion and beliefs and he's very decent. He respects me most of all and my father too. What do I do? Can someone help me?

Thank you.

Muslim Girl in Need of Help.


i agree with the brother, u must not reveal your sins to anyone, it is not allowed sister.

Wen we commit sins and we want to repent for them and ask forgiveness, we must first leave or stop that sin, and only then can we start repenting, we must make intention not to go back to that sin, u should also start doing good deeds to please allah sister, i.e start giving charity, help the poor, etc etc to please allah and allah only.

Sister start praying and ask allah to guide u on the right path.

As for the realtionship u are in,u must stop this asap, firstly it is completley forbidden for you to be IN a relationship with a man (who is not your husband) wether he is non muslim or muslim, secondly u could NEVER marry a non-muslim,whihc i know u are aware of, thirdly do u really think u would ever be happy if u married this man or continued in this relationship with him? u would be turning ur back on allah, u would be hurting your parents in the worst way imaginable , ive seen it happen sis and its only gonna be u who will end up unhappy for the rest of your life.

Put allah swt and your parents first and the rewards for this will be enourmous sis, i know its easy to say but take refuge in allah swt.

May allah swt make it easy on u and guide u on the right path.Ameen.

[fresh ladoos]

Learn adab. Thats not the way to speak to a fellow muslim.




I can't believe you done this !!!!!

is this a joke ?????

leave him now ya father is a sheikh do you want to break his honor ????

if you was my daughter you will be killed if it went any further like you know adultery.

leave him before you do something stupid.


next time you see him REMEMBER ALLAH IS WATCHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Nawar]

I can't believe you done this !!!!!

is this a joke ?????

leave him now ya father is a sheikh do you want to break his honor ????

if you was my daughter you will be killed if it went any further like you know adultery.

leave him before you do something stupid.


next time you see him REMEMBER ALLAH IS WATCHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!


What a stupid thing to say, next time don't bother posting such garbage....

[Nawar]

InshAllah to the sister in need of help....do not dispair, ever, for Allah (swt) is full of mercy..make repentance and make it sincerely...I pray Allah (swt) will forgive you for your sins...

However there are also conditions to repentance, one of which is that you have to completely LEAVE the sin which you are doing. In this case, it would be breaking the relationship you have with the non-muslim man. If it is your desire to marry him, of course he must become muslim. Then I would recommend he comes to see your father about marriage....