brothers, what would you do?

[MMS]

what would you do if you and your wife had an argument and in the heat of the moment she slapped you :p

[Omar]

Send her to anger management classes :D

[AbuMubarak]

this thread should have been reported

but if a man's wife slaps him, he should be patient with her

the first time

[Emelianenko]

if she slapped me? first id walk round for the whole week like dis :eek3:
id dissapear for a week or two wid all me luggage,credit cards, block any joint accounts wid her,leave no cash whatsoever lying around for her..:p and see how she survived widout me :p THE FIRST TIME :eek:

[MMS]

this thread should have been reported

but if a man's wife slaps him, he should be patient with her

the first time

it should have
forwhaaa??
its a real issue
i wanna know what people would do

u hurted my feelings now :(

[AbuMubarak]

i did not mean to hurt your feelings, but compared to the other thread that was reported, this one is much more volatile

what would people do? akhi, that depends on almost everything imaginable, the reason, the people, the timing, the place, the level of pain, the damage done, the MO of both parties, a lot of things and everything

how could anyone sensibly answer that question?

[MMS]

i did not mean to hurt your feelings, but compared to the other thread that was reported, this one is much more volatile

what would people do? akhi, that depends on almost everything imaginable, the reason, the people, the timing, the place, the level of pain, the damage done, the MO of both parties, a lot of things and everything

how could anyone sensibly answer that question?

now ur calling me an akhi

that hurt my feelings even more :(

[MalikOne™]

depends why she slapped u...

if she slapped me for a good reason then take it, prolly deserved it

but if she slapped me for some next reason, id laugh in her face and stop giving her money :D

[AbuMubarak]

why do people have non-descript names, and then get upset when you mistake their gender?

[MMS]

why do people have non-descript names, and then get upset when you mistake their gender?

now ur dissing my username :(

what did i ever do to u? :(

:crying:

[AbuMubarak]

oy vay

[Arsalan]

Give her a warning, and slap her on the wrist (lightly), that if she does it again ever, ill be marrying a second wife and i wont need her permission !

For real!

[Ibn Khattab]

what would you do if you and your wife had an argument and in the heat of the moment she slapped you :p

i would be kind and considerate toward her as well as affectionate.

seriously, ask malikone:rolleyes:

[sunrise]

As salam ou lakoum

Why does anybody have to slap anybody!

We should be respectful you don't hit her, and she don't hit you
FINAL.....

Love and respect eachother

Not beat and challenege eachother...lol

Sunrise

[Saeedujana]

as salaamu alaikum,

i'd probably walk away for a while, come back with some chocolates and flowers, and tell her she looks cute. i wouldn't be brutally honest, but i'd tell her it wasn't very nice to hit her hubby like that, what if i replied with a back hander, or even worse.

saying that, thinking of some of the muslimah sisters, i might even wake up in hospital with a massive blue and purple shiner on my face. but i'd just tell the brothers i fell down some evil stairs.

ma'asalaama
saeed

[ze leetle elper]

Personally, I don't think this is a beneficial thread in light of the fact that the majority of the users who will reply to this thread are (a) unmarried and (b) are not able to give a realistic reply due to the fact that they are lacking being (a).

For an answer on what should be done in such cases (if this is a real situation you are speaking of that has happened) its best to direct the question to either someone more learned or even someone who is at least married inshaAllah.

[ur_yusra]

funny question.. all the same.. :p

[Al-Irhaab]

id think damn man my reflexes are so damn bad i cant even stop a woman from slapping me.... id be peed of at myself for the rest of the week... thinking damn man im getting old or sommet or im slow...

oh with my wife.... dont know laught at her and point at her saying idiot idiot idiot :hidban:

[K@M]

I would so over react and when she hits me, about 10 seconds late go "DUSH" and then jump onto the setee like in them indian movies so she feels really sorry for me and apologises even though it didnt hurt :D

[Niqaabi]

if i smack my hubby i think he'd smack me back. :crying:

but then again, i wouldnt dare hit my husband, voilence isnt the way.

[abdusamad]

if i smack my hubby i think he'd smack me back. :crying:

but then again, i wouldnt dare hit my husband, voilence isnt the way.

trust me it will happen though.. its part of marriage.. the wives of the prophet would hit him too.. he (saws) was not jus their husband but the nabi(saws) of Allaah.

[Al-Irhaab]

trust me it will happen though.. its part of marriage.. the wives of the prophet would hit him too.. he (saws) was not jus their husband but the nabi(saws) of Allaah.

i dont think they ever hit him... never heard that before... allah (Swt) knows best...

[abdusamad]

i dont think they ever hit him... never heard that before... allah (Swt) knows best...

I'll look up the hadeeth, where i thnk one of the wives hit his chest, and someone said, why are you hittin the blessed chest of the prophet, and he said.. its ok.. they do worse.


Allahu Alim.


I'll look it up.

[abdusamad]

actually, can someone back me up on that, if not then forget i mentioned it.. :(


Astughfirullah.

[Emelianenko]

im talking from experience aight :p ahem :p but erm give a cold look and walk away and give the silent treatment :D :D

[.: Anna :.]

I never heard that Abdussamad...
interesting to read the full incidents so plz if u can, paste in the hadith if u cn find online insha allah

[sunrise]

As salam ou lakoum

NOOOOOOOOOOO not the silent treatment!!! subhanaAllah

some men have soome coolld looks it would hurt me soo much...i would rather he hit me back (even though thats haram) than have him give me the silent treatment!

I just see how much its hurts when my mum gives it to me, let alone my husband!!

Sunrise

[Ruprecht]

Take a walk. Discuss things later when emotions have settled.

If thats not possible just grab her and hold her until she settles down.

Heaven forbid I marry a mad woman though :rolleyes:

[sunrise]

As salam ou lakoum

Nahhh thats evil man!!!
Allow the silent treatment!

Sunrse

[Emelianenko]

As salam ou lakoum

Nahhh thats evil man!!!
Allow the silent treatment!

Sunrse

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo..women shud think twice b4 slappin den innit..

long live silent treatment :p

[sunrise]

As salam ou lakoum

Okay, so what if he hit her!
What then he should get a pat on the back??

The silent treatment should only be sued in extreme situations...lol but hey she shouldn't slap him in the first place

Sunrise

[Niqaabi]

actually, can someone back me up on that, if not then forget i mentioned it.. :(


Astughfirullah.
I'll back you up bro cos i heard it too and i thought the prophet :saw: was so funny when he said "they do worse" :rotfl: :insha: i too will look for that hadeeth, though i am sure it was aisha who hit him and one of the elder wives said why is she hitting the messenger of Allah?

[Nirvana]

I would take it and avoid physical retribution I would verbally assault her back though but I would also end up getting smacked again:rubeyes:

[Katmandu]

I'd leave the room and do my own thing for a while and let things cool down. Then make it up again later.

[Sincere_Sista]

actually, can someone back me up on that, if not then forget i mentioned it.. :(


Astughfirullah.

Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that.

[MMS]

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allaah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1052)

:nervous:

[Emelianenko]

MashaAllah beutiful ahadith :D :D :D MMS watch out dudette u prob get siss on ur case now for ur head :p :p

[MalikOne™]

Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Masha'Allah

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum
Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that.
:rotfl: That is so0o0o0o cute! :inlove: SubahanAllah!"

Wa Alaikumassalam

[.: Anna :.]

Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that.Please can someone quote the full hadith? :D ia

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum

The Prophet's Disapproval of Women Beaters
Patient behavior was the practice of the Prophet, even when his wife dared to address him harshly. Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that." And once Abu Bakr, his father-in-law, was invited to settle some misunderstanding between him and Aishah. The Prophet said to her, "Will you speak, or shall I speak?" Aisha said, "You speak, but do not say except the truth." Abu Bakr was so outraged that he immediately struck her severely, forcing her to run and seek protection behind the back of the Prophet. Abu Bakr said, "O you the enemy of herself! Does the Messenger of Allah say but the truth?" The Prophet said, "O Abu Bakr, we did not invite you for this [harsh dealing with Aishah], nor did we anticipate it." quoted in: Mutual Rights and Obligations

:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

Wa Alaikumassalam

[.: Anna :.]

jazakallah for that tiny :) :up:

[Omar]

I cant find the source of that hadith....can anyone?

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than that.

Wallahu alim, but is this Hadeeth authentic?

Has anyone got the Reference for it. Forgive me for saying this but something doesn't feel right in this Hadeeth. Unless the whole context is not quoted.

Is this from Bukhari? Tirmidhi? Muslim?

A reference would be nice and useful please.

:salams

[abdusamad]

jazakuAllaah khayr ukhtee niqaabi, Sincere_sista, Double T.

[Black_Flag]

i would never hit my husband...jst as i expect him never to hit me!

[Emelianenko]

true mashaAllah :D

[Al-Irhaab]

i cant find any references for this hadith....

anyway hitting to the chest like that is different to slapping someone accross the face... if my wife slapped men :rolleyes: damn i dread to think wot i would do ....

[Al-Mujaddidah]

If I was a bloke and my wife slapped me :\ I'd be like 'huh...omg she just slapped me' - I think I would be too amazed to do anything :\

But Al7amdolellah I'm not a brother.

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum

Hitting the face is haram so she would have to repent :nono:

Better to just kick him in the shins. Much more painful :D

:buttkick: hehehe sweeeet!

Wa Alaikumassalam

Edit: :rotfl: @ Al-Irhabeyah. Alhamdulillah indeed!!! :D

[Al-Irhaab]

Assalamualaikum

Hitting the face is haram so she would have to repent :nono:

Better to just kick him in the shins. Much more painful :D

:buttkick: hehehe sweeeet!

Wa Alaikumassalam

Edit: :rotfl: @ Al-Irhabeyah. Alhamdulillah indeed!!! :D

yeah alhamdulillah yall are not men... otherwise we would be left wid femjabis for wives and who would look after our kids :rolleyes:

[Emelianenko]

ill stick wid silent treatment :p and on top of it to rub into her..id walk round in front of her and do my own house chores wid a empty look on me face :eek3: and id cook me own food wash me own dishes and not talk to her :D :D :D

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum
ill stick wid silent treatment :p and on top of it to rub into her..id walk round in front of her and do my own house chores wid a empty look on me face :eek3: and id cook me own food wash me own dishes and not talk to her :D :D :D
:eek3: bro erm does your wife KNOW this? Are you not beaten black and blue everyday especially as you're rewarding her for it! :D

:rotfl: at Femjabi. Sounds like...never mind :rolleyes:

Wa Alaikumassalam

[Al-Irhaab]

ill stick wid silent treatment :p and on top of it to rub into her..id walk round in front of her and do my own house chores wid a empty look on me face :eek3: and id cook me own food wash me own dishes and not talk to her :D :D :D

i dont know about doing my own chores and that i mean... whats the point of punishing urself when u supposed to be punishing her... hmm silent treatment is all good and that... oh what you do is you tell ur lil sis to come round and stay with you and you pass messages through her like...

make me food...
clean the house...
iron my clothes...
entertain me :rolleyes:

only kidding about the last one ;)

[Emelianenko]

well see this me point for some bros.the wifes of the prophet saw have said to this effect that the prophet saw wud help around the house..cook..milk the goats..this is big sunnah missing in the lifes of bros. we talk bout how Islam has given women more rights yet those actions which nabi saw showed us highlighting this...we join the jaahil ppl and find it degrading to ourselfs to help round the house or maybe help cook. :)
.and believe me..Silent treatment + doing house chores = one very fightened wife :p :p :D :D

[Al-Irhaab]

well see this me point for some bros.the wifes of the prophet saw have said to this effect that the prophet saw wud help around the house..cook..milk the goats..this is big sunnah missing in the lifes of bros. we talk bout how Islam has given women more rights yet those actions which nabi saw showed us highlighting this...we join the jaahil ppl and find it degrading to ourselfs to help round the house or maybe help cook. :)
.and believe me..Silent treatment + doing house chores = one very fightened wife :p :p :D :D

just because the prophet (saw) helped around the house once or twice does not make it sunnah... :rolleyes: there are different levels of sunnah aswell. some which the prophet (Saw) did as part of his own nature and some which he reccomended to the muslims... it is noteworthy.. that always when i read the seerah and the hadith etc.. the majority of them contain that the women cooked... prophet (Saw) used to go to so and so wife to ask for food.. or fatima (Ra) house... or the sahabiyah used to cook for the prophet (saW) and invite him etc... but anyway thats not the point...

silent treatment hmmm maybe after giving her a slap back :rolleyes:

[Al-Mujaddidah]

After giving her a slap back? :\ LOL

She'd prolly slap you again AND scratch you

[Emelianenko]

just because the prophet (saw) helped around the house once or twice does not make it sunnah... :rolleyes: there are different levels of sunnah aswell. some which the prophet (Saw) did as part of his own nature and some which he reccomended to the muslims... it is noteworthy.. that always when i read the seerah and the hadith etc.. the majority of them contain that the women cooked... prophet (Saw) used to go to so and so wife to ask for food.. or fatima (Ra) house... or the sahabiyah used to cook for the prophet (saW) and invite him etc... but anyway thats not the point...

silent treatment hmmm maybe after giving her a slap back :rolleyes:

once or twice? i think not bro..bro nabi saw was a perfect example to us in every way...at home, businnes, deen and so on..if we really love sum1 we love every way of theirs..be it in their nature and so on..nabi saw nature was the best..his actions was the best..his conduct with his wives was the best..he cooked ALONGSIDE with his wives..not tht he told em to sit down or watknot..the fact tht bros today voice how islam treats women so much better..yet we only voice this..in action..we r no different to the jaahils when it comes to practising what we preach bout womens rights. Fact of the matter is we find it degrading or a knock back to our "manly" side..no1 is more manly,more brave and couragous than the prophet saw..to kno tht he helped his wifes..and would also joke around with them..should be enuff to create tht desire within us to inculcate tht very same act into our lives..and those who fink it makes them less of a man.. :rolleyes: making excuses to not to follow every way of life of the prophet saw is what makes us less of a man :D

[TinyTerror]

Assalamualaikum

After giving her a slap back? :\ LOL

She'd prolly slap you again AND scratch you

:rotfl::rotfl: :rotfl:

Wa Alaikumassalam

[slmz :)]

OMG! if my hubby did that to me.. psshhh i aint his wife no more!
wh the hek duz he think he is!
he slap me n ill PUNCH HIM bak! lmao

[Ummati Al Islam]

The thread has almost changed to the other way round!

If my husband hit me, I would be truly devastated, number one because he could actually inflict pain upon me when he is supposed to protect me, but also because I may have done something so bad that actually made him hit me - i.e. I angered him. Naudhubillah.

[MMS]

i am a sister :(

if either the husband or wife hits each other or even swear at one another
the respect in the relationship is lost :(

[Nawar]

I dont understand the confusion, the folllowing series of events should occur;

1) Wife slaps her husband in the heat of the moment..

2) Husband does not do anything, he should be man enough to take a few slaps now and again...and is not pathetic enough to hit her back..

3) Husband apologises to wife for the reason which made her slap him, he obviously said something very wrong to his lovely wife

4) His wonderful wife accepts the apology because shes such a lovely person..

5) They live happily ever after InshAllah...


simple no???????...

[.: Anna :.]

but Nawar you're placing all the blame on the husband, if she has got so angry to that then some blame is on her too whatever the husband did to provoke. Depends on the situation :cool: but sometimes hubby won't have done something SO major and a wife could have got angry unproportionate. It happens

[Al-Irhaab]

I dont understand the confusion, the folllowing series of events should occur;

1) Wife slaps her husband in the heat of the moment..

2) Husband does not do anything, he should be man enough to take a few slaps now and again...and is not pathetic enough to hit her back..

3) Husband apologises to wife for the reason which made her slap him, he obviously said something very wrong to his lovely wife

4) His wonderful wife accepts the apology because shes such a lovely person..

5) They live happily ever after InshAllah...


simple no???????...

so in reverse

1) husband slaps wife in heat of the moment

2) wife does not do anything, she should be obediant enough to take a few slaps now and again, and it would be pathetic if she hits him back

3) wife apologises to husband for forcing him to slap her as she must have done something to cause her god fearing husband to slap her

4) husband accepts apology

5) they live happily ever after... well until the next time she gets out of hand and he has to slap her... :rolleyes:

[Nawar]

no see I was gona put it in my first post because I know brothers get a bit confused... the force of a mans slap would be far greater then the force of a womens slap.....HENCE he should be able to take a few slaps now and again....only a pathetic man hits his wife back, two wrongs dont make a right, why dont he go pick on a man his own size, or slap himself....that way, the wife can conserve her energy...

...If my husband hit me back, Id give him another wallop across his head.....and this time it'll leave the words DIVORCE on his forehead

[ur_yusra]

it is not allowed for a man to hit a woman... man should not use his power in order to physically abuse her.. a man is physically stronger and will hit with more force then say if a woman slapped a man.. thats not to say she should do it..

but nawar man if you were wearing gloves im sure you would have slapped them arab dudes in pizza hut..

[Al-Irhaab]

no see I was gona put it in my first post because I know brothers get a bit confused... the force of a mans slap would be far greater then the force of a womens slap.....HENCE he should be able to take a few slaps now and again....only a pathetic man hits his wife back, two wrongs dont make a right, why dont he go pick on a man his own size, or slap himself....that way, the wife can conserve her energy...

...If my husband hit me back, Id give him another wallop across his head.....and this time it'll leave the words DIVORCE on his forehead

whats force got to do with it :rolleyes: who said anything abt hitting her hard... beat her as it says in the quran to beat her... nothing wrong with that... why cant the woman show her respect and not hit her husband... no wonder there are more women in hell then men... thats what the prophet (saw) said ie because they are ungrateful... im sure if u left the words divorce on his head he give a slap back saying yessssssssssssssss :D even though no sane alim would grant u khula for that ...

my wife ever hit me .... :rolleyes:

[ur_yusra]

whats force got to do with it :rolleyes: who said anything abt hitting her hard... beat her as it says in the quran to beat her... nothing wrong with that... why cant the woman show her respect and not hit her husband... no wonder there are more women in hell then men... thats what the prophet (saw) said ie because they are ungrateful... im sure if u left the words divorce on his head he give a slap back saying yessssssssssssssss :D even though no sane alim would grant u khula for that ...

my wife ever hit me .... :rolleyes:

yeh what would you do if your wife hit you.. divorce her?? Im sure that would reallyyyyyyyyyyy break her heart... :rolleyes:

[Al-Irhaab]

yeh what would you do if your wife hit you.. divorce her?? Im sure that would reallyyyyyyyyyyy break her heart... :rolleyes:

why divorce her :rolleyes: first and foremost id hit her back.. then id marry again to teach her her place... oh after i give her the silent treatment and ban her from leaving the house apart from essentials and going to her parents etc... oooh and much worse ....:D

[Te'oma]

what would you do if you and your wife had an argument and in the heat of the moment she slapped you :p

a slap? no big deal. I'm not much of a man if I can't take a slap. Now if she came at me swinging punches or with a butcher knife, stronger measures may be in order but IMHO any man that hits a woman is not much of a man.

[Nawar]

it is not allowed for a man to hit a woman... man should not use his power in order to physically abuse her.. a man is physically stronger and will hit with more force then say if a woman slapped a man.. thats not to say she should do it..

but nawar man if you were wearing gloves im sure you would have slapped them arab dudes in pizza hut..

Yeh...:vomit: ..can you believe it.......glaring at us THE WHOLE TIME.....OLD ARAB PERVS....'WHERE YOU FROMMMMMMM.........i want to know......just....just....tell me'............I mean, dont be irritating MILITANT hijabis :hidban: ........:nono: .....just asking for trouble....

Its hard not to lose your temper with these people and smack a bit of sense in to them, as we did :D ....forget a slap... they deserved a bit of :55: ....with some toppings of :bang: and :badguy: ...finished off with some :boom: ....to send them back to under the dirty rock they managed to crawl out from.......

What do you think sis ????

[Nawar]

a slap? no big deal. I'm not much of a man if I can't take a slap. Now if she came at me swinging punches or with a butcher knife, stronger measures may be in order but IMHO any man that hits a woman is not much of a man.


:rofl1:

[Al-Irhaab]

Yeh...:vomit: ..can you believe it.......glaring at us THE WHOLE TIME.....OLD ARAB PERVS....'WHERE YOU FROMMMMMMM.........i want to know......just....just....tell me'............I mean, dont be irritating MILITANT hijabis :hidban: ........:nono: .....just asking for trouble....

Its hard not to lose your temper with these people and smack a bit of sense in to them, as we did :D ....forget a slap... they deserved a bit of :55: ....with some toppings of :bang: and :badguy: ...finished off with some :boom: ....to send them back to under the dirty rock they managed to crawl out from.......

What do you think sis ????

and you people wonder why the prophet (saw) said the best of place for women is in the house... :rolleyes: astaghfirullah man these guys need to be....

[Nawar]

Yeh...I forget that its ok to marry again just so that you can 'teach your wife a lesson' :scratch: .....its probably more due to the fact that you probably be gutted that you got hit by a women....BEWARE...second wife may do exactly the same thing...I mean rectify the problem, thats not the wife, thats THE HUSBAND who got hit for good reason

[Al-Irhaab]

Yeh...I forget that its ok to marry again just so that you can 'teach your wife a lesson' :scratch: .....its probably more due to the fact that you probably be gutted that you got hit by a women....BEWARE...second wife may do exactly the same thing...I mean rectify the problem, thats not the wife, thats THE HUSBAND who got hit for good reason

you dont need a reason to marry again apart from the fact that you want to :rolleyes: the problem is the husband.... aint taught his wife proper manners ... dont worry inshallah no chance of that happening to me alhamdulillah

[Nawar]

you dont need a reason to marry again apart from the fact that you want to :rolleyes: the problem is the husband.... aint taught his wife proper manners ... dont worry inshallah no chance of that happening to me alhamdulillah

No chance that you going to hit your wife back...EVER? or no chance that your wife is going to let you have a second wife...EVER????
either way....yeh Alhumdulillah...

[Al-Irhaab]

No chance that you going to hit your wife back...EVER? or no chance that your wife is going to let you have a second wife...EVER????
either way....yeh Alhumdulillah...

i dont need my wifes permission to take a second wife :rolleyes: aint no chance that my wife would touch me because she will know the consequences of her actions... hit my wife... wouldnt ever find the need to inshallah... as for second marriage... doubt it very much by my own choice... inshallah wont have the oppertunity to get married again:D

[Ayah]

I'd think a brother would try to get down to the root of the problem to determine what caused his wife to slap him. Not that any type of slap is or should be justified. It's sad that a situation that could probably be solved by talking things out like adults can turn into treating eachother like animals. If both the husband and wife fear Allah, then insha Allah, the couple would never have to worry about being in a situation like this. But then again, no one's perfect. When one is angry, he/she should take our beloved prophet's advice, to prevent the anger from getting out of control.

Book 41, Number 4764:
Narrated AbuDharr:
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.
Book 41, Number 4766:
Narrated Atiyyah as-Sa'di:
AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.
Taken from: Partial Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 41:

General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)

*glances at thread title* I'm not a brother, but I couldn't resist giving my two cents, like many of the other sisters did here. :p

~ Ayah

[MMS]

okay children so what did we learn from this thread?

1. Sisters dont marry brothers like al-irhaab who will slap back

joke :p

1. violence is not the answer :asta:
2. the husband and wife will not respect each other
3. and it makes the husband and wife end up somewhat like this :2hammers:

4. and then we all know if you are parents your children will turn out somewhat like this :nuts:

5. MMS is a sister :banghead:

[jimm]

I'd think a brother would try to get down to the root of the problem to determine what caused his wife to slap him. Not that any type of slap is or should be justified. It's sad that a situation that could probably be solved by talking things out like adults can turn into treating eachother like animals. If both the husband and wife fear Allah, then insha Allah, the couple would never have to worry about being in a situation like this. But then again, no one's perfect. When one is angry, he/she should take our beloved prophet's advice, to prevent the anger from getting out of control.


Book 41, Number 4764: Narrated AbuDharr:
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.

Book 41, Number 4766: Narrated Atiyyah as-Sa'di:
AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.

Taken from: Partial Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 41:

General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)

*glances at thread title* I'm not a brother, but I couldn't resist giving my two cents, like many of the other sisters did here. :p

~ Ayah

It is indeed a shame that some people here remember what the Quran says about men beating women then what is written above.

[.: Anna :.]

jazakallah ayah, good post as always :up: masha allah

[Muslimah006]

whats force got to do with it :rolleyes: who said anything abt hitting her hard... beat her as it says in the quran to beat her... nothing wrong with that... why cant the woman show her respect and not hit her husband... no wonder there are more women in hell then men... thats what the prophet (saw) said ie because they are ungrateful... im sure if u left the words divorce on his head he give a slap back saying yessssssssssssssss :D even though no sane alim would grant u khula for that ...

my wife ever hit me .... :rolleyes:


May Allah guide you brother, ameen. Ask yourself this, is this how our Prophet(sas) act? May Allah(swt) bless our Nabi(sas) for the rest of eternity. When I get so disappointed in men like you I only have consider my Prophet(sas) and his character for a second and my heart is calmned because he was a mercy to humankind. May Allah(swt) forgive us all for our shortcomings, inshAllah.

[wazza]

Give her a warning, and slap her on the wrist (lightly), that if she does it again ever, ill be marrying a second wife and i wont need her permission !

For real!

just think if you had an argument with both of them, you will be slapped on each cheek :nervous:

[wazza]

im talking from experience aight :p ahem :p but erm give a cold look and walk away and give the silent treatment :D :D

thats what i do as well. it doesnt take long for her coming and asking for mercy. strange its on the day when i give her the housekeeping money :confused:

[Refugee]

If my wife slaps me - i will let her get away for the 1st time - forgive and forget that sort of thing - but if this happens again then she will pay for that :spunch: - after all i aint a punching bag

[muslim_sis]

some of the views in this thread are @) hmmm

[Refugee]

aye aye aye vil u slp er bk???:hidban:

no i dont believe in hitting a women - but there are other ways to punish her without hitting her