Disabled Spouse

[Holepuncher]

Salaams

seeing how everyone on here loves the topic of marriage so much, I thought i'd introduce a new line of thinking...

would anyone marry someone with a disability... Disability comes in many forms and not every disability is visible and for those who think disabled means someone in a wheelchair... try expanding your horizons..

anyway yes, no, maybe.... give ur reasons... and Pls don't give answers which sound the best.... truly look deep into yourself and ask yourself what would you do if you had a proposal but that person has some kind of disability.

[peace2u]

it would depend on what the disability was. Mental...no, pyschological....no, physical....maybe. Allah (swt) knows best.



Peace

[MG]

it would depend on what the disability was. Mental...no, pyschological....no, physical....maybe. Allah (swt) knows best.



Peace


i agree with peace2u, would be no point in getting married if the first 2 are there, i think.

[GothiKa]

i agree with peace2u, would be no point in getting married if the first 2 are there, i think.

Believe it or not, my disabled(mentally) cousin is married. Here's another point to ponder on, my cousin is not an attractive woman either. She has a son who's now 10 years old.

amazing!:up:

[mara]

After what i have noticed until now:embar: Mens have the tendency never to grow up. They remain childrens and act like them. Even inside of the marriage they expect to be spoiled, never are thinking at wife feelings, always them, them..:banghead: . Even in politics they are thinking in this way.

[GothiKa]

After what i have noticed until now:embar: Mens have the tendency never to grow up. They remain childrens and act like them. Even inside of the marriage they expect to be spoiled, never are thinking at wife feelings, always them, them..:banghead: . Even in politics they are thinking in this way.

Do not generalise.

[Khuzamah]

I don't know if I would have.... don't wna sound mean but unless they were reaaaaalllly soo extra good, I may have considered it. But u do need ur husband to be able 2 provide 4 u and ur family :S

Bt if u married someone and later they became disabled that is different, because by then u already love him :inlove: and so of course u stick with him.

Before hand, it wd b harder 2 consider the guy as u dnt love him or know him much so far... so ur going all on the rational side, weighing up the pros and cons of the situation... BUT if he is so goood in his deen, some people will probably overlook the diabliltiy.

Also depends there are dif levels of disability, sometimes it could affect ur life badly as in u need 2 look after him 24/7 kinda like a baby :( or it could b something very small he can live with it fine, and he is still independant and like an adult...like some deaf people or someting

[Mujaheedah]

actually i know personally 3 sisters mashaallah physicaly injured (in a wheelchair) they are all happily married alhamdulillah, and I know of one that is a little disturbed mentally but she too found herself a husband.. so Allahu Alam

[Mujaheedah]

and yeah that is so true I think that a persons character and deen are the stuff that truly count, the Islam of a person is the main thing that you are suposed to look for when getting married, i mean you can marry the prettiest most perfect person and if he doesn't want to practice this religion he will stray you from the right path also...

[Ebony]

Can someone clarify what is being meant by mental disability and psychological disability?

Although some conditions such as depression and anxiety are considered to some to be forms of disability, as with any other condition, once the individual learns how to manage it, it does not impair them from being "normal" (whatever "normal" is).

Alongside everything else, those who are physically disabled are still human. They too have desires and wishes, to marry, raise a family. So its only fair they be treated like humans as opposed to sub-humans.

All issues need to be taken into consideration before accepting or rejecting a proposal (as they would with a "normal" suitor)

[MG]

Believe it or not, my disabled(mentally) cousin is married. Here's another point to ponder on, my cousin is not an attractive woman either. She has a son who's now 10 years old.

amazing!:up:

subhanallah, but is it a happy marriage? does it not cause problems for them? i spose it depends wat kind of mental state it is.

[Supernova Nebula]

I think it's all about Allah casting into your heart the feeling of accepting him/her in your life plus some other factors of course. if the feeling is not there, no matter how good looking, perfect physically, rich etc the one proposes to you, u wont accept him/her in your life. I saw a TV doc, normal man marrying disabled woman vice-versa.

[MG]

I think it's all about Allah casting into your heart the feeling of accepting him/her in your life plus some other factors of course. if the feeling is not there, no matter how good looking, perfect physically, rich etc the one proposes to you, u wont accept him/her in your life. I saw a TV doc, normal man marrying disabled woman vice-versa.


i know a man married to a mentally unstable sister, unfortunately her family didnt tell him about her mental state b4 the marriage :(

the marriage is basically non-existent but he cant bring himself to leave her , poor thing. Feel sorry for the both of them, allah knows best.

[Supernova Nebula]

i know a man married to a mentally unstable sister, unfortunately her family didnt tell him about her mental state b4 the marriage :(

the marriage is basically non-existent but he cant bring himself to leave her , poor thing. Feel sorry for the both of them, allah knows best.

ohh :(

[MivharMeni]

Mentally disabled, hell no.

I've dated physically disabled guys before.
One crippled muslim guy from Pakistan; had polio as a child.
But he was very smart, very handsome, was hella paid $$$$$$$!
But he traveled alot.......awww. :(

[peace2u]

Can someone clarify what is being meant by mental disability and psychological disability?



mental as in some one retarded or has a developmental disability like autism, down syndrom etc. psychological as in someone who is schizophrenic or has multiple personality etc.


Peace

[Hekmaa]

Can someone clarify what is being meant by mental disability and psychological disability?

Although some conditions such as depression and anxiety are considered to some to be forms of disability, as with any other condition, once the individual learns how to manage it, it does not impair them from being "normal" (whatever "normal" is).

Alongside everything else, those who are physically disabled are still human. They too have desires and wishes, to marry, raise a family. So its only fair they be treated like humans as opposed to sub-humans.

All issues need to be taken into consideration before accepting or rejecting a proposal (as they would with a "normal" suitor)

LOL! you sound worried eb, dont worry there is hope, and treatment :outta:

[mara]

i know a man married to a mentally unstable sister, unfortunately her family didnt tell him about her mental state b4 the marriage :(

the marriage is basically non-existent but he cant bring himself to leave her , poor thing. Feel sorry for the both of them, allah knows best.
Here you can ask for divorce and will obtained it. The pity should never be mention inside of the marriage. I always believed this its the worst feeling for us, someone to has pity on you.:(

[Ebony]

LOL! you sound worried eb, dont worry there is hope, and treatment :outta:

Just trying to clarify what is being meant by the terms, as most often some assume you know.

Worry? :rolleyes:

[SoulAsylum]

Can someone clarify what is being meant by mental disability and psychological disability?

Although some conditions such as depression and anxiety are considered to some to be forms of disability, as with any other condition, once the individual learns how to manage it, it does not impair them from being "normal" (whatever "normal" is).

Alongside everything else, those who are physically disabled are still human. They too have desires and wishes, to marry, raise a family. So its only fair they be treated like humans as opposed to sub-humans.

All issues need to be taken into consideration before accepting or rejecting a proposal (as they would with a "normal" suitor)

Well said Ebony.........took the words right out of my mouth :up:

If these people who would'nt consider marrying someone with a psychological disabilty or a physical disability they are being really shallow!! And yeh like Ebony says define "normal"? There is no such thing as "normal".

[Niqaabi]

:up:@ebony, my way of thinking.
:insha: i was told that it is permissable for a woman to take care of someone disabled. i was at my local kebabish and saw the guy who works there feed this disabled guy i see quite often, anyways i had this rush to go and take the fork and feed him myself.
I dont mind taking care of disabled people, and i wouldnt mind marrying someone who is slightly less disabled.
if someone was in a wheelchair then i wouldnt mind, but someone who is paralysed, i would have personal problems, so in this situation i would help to take care of them, but not marry them.

Allah knows whats best in my heart.

[nonmuslim]

Believe it or not, my disabled(mentally) cousin is married. Here's another point to ponder on, my cousin is not an attractive woman either. She has a son who's now 10 years old.

amazing!:up:

Amazing to me how you find that a "not attractive, mentally disabled woman" can overcome and do well. :nono:

Some people (not directed at you) are "disabled" in the heart though they look ok on the outside and should never be married or raising kids at all. Some of the best carers are simple people who have maybe been cared for themselves, and know what is needed, people who know we all need each other and "normal" is a falsehood.