How can i help her?

[Bent_al-islam]

salam allah alikom
how should i start?well i shall go ahead and start like this......i have a freind who is happily maried with children........alright.....and she is a pretty nice and sweet lady pretty i mean she has it all and she is will moltazemah in islam her problem is with her husbend here is how it goes..........she has been maried to him for about 6 or 7 yrz few months ago her hubby bought her a computer....hmmm now what .......when ever her husband would walk in the house she would go ahead and shut off the computer so he dont think that she is putting all her attention on it .....happend a few timezzz but one time he accused her of misusing the computer she swore to him and told him that she was not doing anything wronge and she was not missusing the computer and she tryid to explain to him why she turns it off when he gets there is becouse she didnt want him to think that she pours all her attentoin in the computer......he is a thick headed man she says ........now she does not know what to do.......should she just get rid of the computer knowing that she is not doing anything wornge that was my advice to her ......................CAN ANYONE PLZZZZZZZZ GIVE ME ADVICE ??????how can i help her?????

[Hekmaa]

Firstly your friend should avoid actions that would cause Suspicion. We are all humans and shaytan is our constant enemy, therefore any little thing can be reason for shaytan to create worries for us. Though your friend is turning off the computer out of good gesture, it is not down in the right way.



She can simply turn away from the computer and demonstrate her attention to him, rather then turn off the computer.



Imagine if you walked in on your child 5 times and each time they quickly turned the computer off then came to you, would you not wonder why they are doing that? Why not just come over? Could there be something?



So her actions have created suspicion and she should change it. Secondly she must do whatever is required to remove the miss trust that has come into they relationship.

She knows her husband best, and if she feels she needs to get rid of the computer then so be it. However if she does not change how she does things, next time it might be the phone etc. So she needs to regain that trust.

and Allah knows best

[mara]

Change the hubby brain:D

[MG]

wether she is doing soemthing wrong or not is beside the point, she should ask him wat she can do to show him she is doing nothing wrong, if he says get rid of the computer, then so be it, if he says, he wanna check teh history of teh computer, to see wat she been looking at , then so be it.

The hubbie needs to come b4 the computer me thinks :)

i dont think either of them are wrong in their thinking, i dont blame the hubbie for getting a little suspicious and the poor wife seems to have good intentions wen swithcing of the computer !

[peace2u]

or she can sit on the computer and finish whatever she's doing when he gets home, that way he'll see she not up to any evil.



Peace

[AbuSadiq]

or she can sit on the computer and finish whatever she's doing when he gets home, that way he'll see she not up to any evil.



Peace

Sure???

I think what sister MuslimGirl said above sufficed. Because by being on the computer while the hubby is in from work, without gieeting up and welcoming him, this may sound strange, especially if it has not being the trend in the house.