age of marriage???

[StickyPeas]

Salaams...

jus wana know wat u think is the perfect age sum1 cud get married.... and why?
:confused:

[Ebony]

depends on the person..i dnt think there is a 'perfect' age


Ws

[Abdurrashid]

To, the perfect age to get married is when you found someone you want to be with in your whole life.

[Abdurrashid]

To me, the perfect age to get married is when you found someone you want to be with in your whole life.

[StickyPeas]

:)

[Nour-al-Islam]

Salam sticky,

well, i married in the age of 19. But there isnt the perfect age i guess... some people are childish even in the age of 30 *lol* :D
In my opinion, you should marry, as soon as u r sure, that ur partner could be for life. (sorry for bad english, just learnd it at school :rolleyes: )

Greetz,
Nour

[AbuMubarak]

when you are ready to have sex, its time to get married

[EVILution]

Originally posted by Raafi
when you are ready to have sex, its time to get married


Astaghfirrullah.......but maybe then InshaAllah I'll never need to get married ........yesssssssssssssssssssssssss!

[Nour-al-Islam]

:confused: what does that mean, muslim youth ;)

[StickyPeas]

immaturity kicks in ;)

[baba]

RIGHT NOW!

Cos if you keep putting it off you'll get too old!!

[StickyPeas]

:D hehehe baba....

great minds think alike ;)

:cool:

[baba]

Yeah! And anyone who says otherwise should be taken out and shot! :D

[StickyPeas]

hehehe... MY's in for a bit of a treat then ;)

[angelgirl101]

The older I get, the sooner I wanna get married. But if I told my dad that, he'd have a heart attack!

:D ;) :D

[angelgirl101]

Originally posted by baba
Yeah! And anyone who says otherwise should be taken out and shot! :D

That rules me out then!:D

[EVILution]

Originally posted by StickyPeas
hehehe... MY's in for a bit of a treat then ;)

xplain plz, my dead brain is even more dead today!

[illusionz]

me n a few of my m8s were discussing this issue n most of us thought a perfect age to get married(4 gals that is) would be 22/23+ as that is after most of us hav finished studying, started work n saved up sum money. but the obv. answer would be wen u r ready, but how do u kno wen ur ready?:D :confused:

[baba]

There's no need for gals to save up money, they can get an allowance from the husband innit!

[illusionz]

gals get allowance from their husbands after they get married not b4. :p

[StickyPeas]

true that, us gals gotta pay up for the weddin and other stuff.... (unless parents are super generous or super rich)

thats why me wanting a job!!!
:rolleyes:

[Ebony]

my parents r super generous..told me i didnt need a job, they wud give me money!
but i of course, being sensible, went n got a job :p

learn how2b independent etc etc..actually, main reason was so i wudnt get bored at home!

lol

Ws

[Usmanb]

Sallaams

Well if we use the formula x-7z/x+4, we should get an approximate age for marriage:rolleyes: :D, Sticky there isn't no right age for marriage, each person is different. As long as the person is mature then it is Ok. I tend not to agree with Raafi, as when you are ready to have sex is at 14 and if that is the main point of getting married then you are going to be dissapointed about the fact that u got married for sex, not a willingness to spend lifes with each other.

I am not married nor engaged, much to the dismay of my Mum, but i told her Med, then travel then maybee marriage. Only Allah knows.

Allah Hafiz

Usmanb

[Rosie]

I THINK THAT THE BEST TIME TO MARRY IS WHEN YOU HAVE FOUND A PROPER MUSLIM WITH IMAAN AND GOOD HEALTH WITH A GOOD PERSONALITY WHEN YOU ARE BOTH MATURE ENOUGH AND UNDERSTAND THE RULES OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.

[Lateafha]

Whenever Allah makes it possible

if you have the right person, and the right person wants you too, thats the right time tie the knots;)

[abaleada]

A college education is not a requirement for getting married. It is a cultural imposition. Get over it.

I'm still pondering over this thinking in Palestine that a boy needs to have a house before he can marry a woman, considering the frequent illegal destruction of houses by zionist terrorists.

[abaleada]

And it is the groom who pays for the wedding. Not the woman.

[ze leetle elper]

:inlove:

[dour]

Never before the age of 21

[Lateafha]

Originally posted by ze leetle elper
:inlove:

what is with you LoL

Is this a senstive topic???:p LoL
I know you like to talk about marriage, so say soemthing :p

[ze leetle elper]

Well, I must admit, it is my favourite topic. :p :love:

What shall I say? :inlove:

[allana]

A male should never get marry before his 30`s and not before he finish his studies and graduate and has a job.

Female, never befor her 25`s. and she should never depend on her husband finacial way. Never!! She also should have her own job, before marriage.

[EZ]

Allah SWA has appointed a time for each person's marriage and with whom as everything else too. i.e time date place of death.

woops have i put a dampener on the topic? :(

[seven]

Originally posted by ze leetle elper
Well, I must admit, it is my favourite topic. :p :love:

What shall I say? :inlove:
how about "qabool hai?" :rolleyes: :p

[EZ]

Originally posted by seven
how about "qabool hai?" :rolleyes: :p


seven is that a proposition that you making?? :p

[seven]

Originally posted by EZ
seven is that a proposition that you making?? :p
ze is always going about marriage... i'm just thinking who'd be more relieved to see her married off. her? or us? :p :D

[EZ]

Originally posted by seven
ze is always going about marriage... i'm just thinking who'd be more relieved to see her married off. her? or us? :p :D


Most likely the immediate family who have had to put up with her a lot longer than any of us :freedom:

[Ebony]

Originally posted by EZ
Most likely the immediate family who have had to put up with her a lot longer than any of us :freedom:

:rotfl:
awww..im sure they cnt bear2 be apart 4rm her ~ahem ahem~

Ws

[Ayah]

Originally posted by allana
A male should never get marry before his 30`s and not before he finish his studies and graduate and has a job.

Female, never befor her 25`s. and she should never depend on her husband finacial way. Never!! She also should have her own job, before marriage.

There's no islamic basis to that, therefore, you should not use the word "never" even if it's your opinion which you may think is "never wrong." :p

~Ayah

[Kaaju Barfi]

allana, in muslim culture people are encouraged to get married early. i do agree with u tho, that the man shud be able to provide for his wife and future siblings. the women shud be educated and have a job, but it is her right that the man provides for her . she is not at all obliged to go out and work if she doesn't desire to.

[Ebony]

so long as the man is able2 provide for his wife (and maybe later on for his children) then he should marry.
the age at which men can provide 4 their spouse may vary..so there isnt an 'ideal' age

Ws

[Modesty]

Originally posted by allana
A male should never get marry before his 30`s and not before he finish his studies and graduate and has a job.

Female, never befor her 25`s. and she should never depend on her husband finacial way. Never!! She also should have her own job, before marriage.

are you serious? Allah is the one who provides, don't think it's your degree or a certain job, remember that ALLAH is the only provider,

ALLAH can take away all that you've been working & studying for and make you poor, and ALLAH can make you rich even when have no degree and a job,

Your faith and intention is what gets you where you wanna be, not your money or job or a degree,

[Gwenhwyvar]

I reckon, when you meet that special somebody, and you guys know your ready, then go for it.........:D

but me! i'm planning to get married at the age of 27, inshallah. Cos i wanna finish uni first, @), (which is next year Woohoo)!!! Get a decent job, to save up enough cash to travel the world..... :inlove: for a good couple of years, :D carry on being the free spirit that iam. After all that, and Allah willing. Then i'll be ready for my "Soul Mate", .........lol but my mates say at 27 i'll too old, and no one will want me :scratch:
But thats a risk i'm willing to take :p

[Modesty]

Originally posted by Gwenhwyvar
I reckon, when you meet that special somebody, and you guys know your ready, then go for it.........:D

but me! i'm planning to get married at the age of 27, inshallah. Cos i wanna finish uni first, @), (which is next year Woohoo)!!! Get a decent job, to save up enough cash to travel the world..... :inlove: for a good couple of years, :D carry on being the free spirit that iam. After all that, and Allah willing. Then i'll be ready for my "Soul Mate", .........lol but my mates say at 27 i'll too old, and no one will want me :scratch:
But thats a risk i'm willing to take :p

lol Gwenhwyvar:)
but if the right person comes along now? Are you going to put him on hold till your 27?:p , true love only comes along once, so don't let it pass you when it comes knocking at the door of your heart:love:

:inlove:

[abaleada]

marry for piety

love will follow, if the person is pious

[Gwenhwyvar]

Originally posted by Modesty
lol Gwenhwyvar:)
but if the right person comes along now? Are you going to put him on hold till your 27?:p , true love only comes along once, so don't let it pass you when it comes knocking at the door of your heart:love:

:inlove:

Very true indeed sis........
im still waiting for that Prince Charming....:zzz: wake me up if he walks by.........:p

[allana]

Posted by Modesty:

are you serious? Allah is the one who provides, don't think it's your degree or a certain job, remember that ALLAH is the only provider,

Some people of any religion, rely to much to GOD to provide for them. Its dependency to me. I never ask GOD to give me riches or give luxury. Everything i have, i worked for, sometime very hard. Not to get rich, but i do like to work not just for money, but volonteering and help the needy. I had a lot in my life, sometime lots of money. I seldom use money to buy things. I all ways try to be self sufficient, and let my family and my husband have fun spend the money that i make and don`t spend. I don`t have time to waist: gone around and spend money for futile things
In my life, so far, i have more then i can handle.I never make my
husbond work on two jobs, so i can waist money, by buying things that i don`t need
Materialistic things are not important to me.

Now, if people like to have everything, and they aspect GOD to provide for him. Its their problem. GOD is not there to for this kind of things. They should work for themself to get what they want.

I pray and thank GOD every moment of my life couse i LOVE HIM, not becouse HE as to give me materialistic things. But, it seems that the less i look for pleasurable things and money, the more i have.



greetings,

Allana

[Modesty]

Originally posted by Gwenhwyvar
Very true indeed sis........
im still waiting for that Prince Charming....:zzz: wake me up if he walks by.........:p

oh you wait and see sis, the best things in life happen when you least expect them:love:

I'll give you a pinch when he comes:p

[allana]

@ Gwenhwyvar

I congratulate you for the way of you thinking. Not many, thing like you. You seems to be very articulate. Good for you. I can asure you will have more than you can imagine in life some day.


Regards,

Allana

[Gwenhwyvar]

Originally posted by Modesty
oh you wait and see sis, the best things in life happen when you least expect them:love:

I'll give you a pinch when he comes:p

lol, i can't wait.... :inlove:
so i'll be expecting a pinch from you .....lets say.....7yrs time :p

[Gwenhwyvar]

Originally posted by allana
@ Gwenhwyvar

I congratulate you for the way of you thinking. Not many, thing like you. You seems to be very articulate. Good for you. I can asure you will have more than you can imagine in life some day.


Regards,

Allana

Allana,

Thank you, thats so sweet :)
i hope you are sucessful in gaining all your hopes and dreams. :D
peace,
Gwen

[ze leetle elper]

Originally posted by seven
ze is always going about marriage... i'm just thinking who'd be more relieved to see her married off. her? or us? :p :D

:eek2:

Well I personally feel sorry for the poor lad I'll end up with. :D

Little does he know what he will be letting himself in for lol. :p

[ALISHBA]

dere is no right age to get married u shud get married wen u feel independant u don't need anyone else help. if ur always relying on yor parents den u will get no where in life cuz u won't no wat to do.

[haqa]

Originally posted by Raafi
when you are ready to have sex, its time to get married

Originally posted by EVILution
Astaghfirrullah.......but maybe then InshaAllah I'll never need to get married ........yesssssssssssssssssssssssss!


I think what raffi means is that, when u reach puberty u should get married, as this would protect u from temptation from shaitan.

[taz]

MALES SHOULD MARRY WHEN THEY CAN AFFORD TO .

[Shorty]

sum1 tol me its sunnah to get married young as it stops u 4m bein naughty:rolleyes: :D

[F@zZ]

Salam 2 ya all.....ideally for gals @ 22 and guys @ > 24 cuz as most of u have said the gal would have finished her degree and maybe found a job and the guy also would have dun the same but with the extra few yrs he would be well settled into his occupation with great stability to build a future relationship.

Allah hu allam as to when each of us will be united with the partner that He has chosen for us. May Allah SWT give those seeking a partner the best possible match and May Allah make all marriaes successful. Ameen

[dour]

never before the age of 21.

[abdulhakeem]

wat is the best age to get married? (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=12869)

[JiHaDiYa]

well.... 2 b honest ukti, i personly think if da sista is mature enough n she is well educated about marriage (household duties, manz rights, womenz right etc... ) then i think she sud fufil da sunnah n marry yng! oh yh also she needs to b able to maintain kids, 2 me i think the age 17 onwards is a perfect age, bt ppl difeer in regards 2marriage!:rolleyes:

allahualim