My father want to kill me

[MuslimSoldier]

:salams

in other thread i discuss about hypnosis and telekinesis because i affraid that this is jinn works. but the real problem i have is this:
the main reason i study hypnosis is because i have a mental and behaviour problem. i have alot of depression in my life. My father hate me because i disclose him being dishonest to my mother. this is the second time he do it with the same "already" married woman. this happen for about 4 years ago until now. he not just hate me but psychologically abuse me. what make me even more depressed is he pretending to be nice to me just when in front of my family. i became socially phobic because my behaviour, almost everybody hate make because my weird behaviour. they see me as an arrogant people. i dont know what happen to me, i cannot control my expression of face. whatever i feels sad or good my face is always showing little smile expression but in arrogant manner. but when i'm not see my own face i feel just normal, but if i see my face, it is far from what i feel. even i sick to see my own expression. i'm very affraid to go out side. if it needed, i try everything to hide my face, i feel very awkward when meet people on street. the more i try to be normal, the more weird i become. no body understand my problem. i ever think to suicide but Alhamdulillah Allah SWT still give me a patience.

i see hpynosis as an effective way to treating mental disease.so i study it and learn self hypnosis, its work good i become more normal but my father seems don't like if i look good and healty, he try everything to distract me when i'm doing self hypnosis. i can't hold this anymore, i use telepathic suggestion to make him a little headache just to stop him from distracting me and he know i do it maybe because he feel that only when he try to distract me. i know this is very wrong but i'm in very depressed condition. May Allah forgive me.

and Allah SWT give me more trial, my father learn hypnosis too(about one months ago).it seems he really wants to destroy my life because he try everything to do it. my family don't know about this, but they know i learn hypnosis. almost 24 hour he make me have an headache even my stumic and heart until this second. i try to decrease the pain by self hypnosis if not i maybe die or crazy now. i try to tell this to my mother but she don't believe me because he so nice to me when in front of her. only my sister believe me because she notice that my father try to make my mental broke down. but my mother still don't believe even my sister said that i'm true. she think i become crazy because i learn hypnosis. and this is hardest trial for me, he do fitnah on me by often make my mother and my sister headache and tell them that i do it to them. my sister know the truth but still cannot do anything, she just advice me to be patient. Allhamdullilah my mother was very patient, even if she believe that i do that, she still very nice to me and always dua for me. i feel very sad about this because she think i'm crazy. she is right, only crazy people that want to hurt his own mother or family. but it should be my father not me. what should i do?. i always dua for my mother, may Allah give her the truth and stop my father. please dua for me and my family.

[Supernova Nebula]

brother, I would advice you to read the morning and evening adhkar, read lots and lots of ayatul kursiyy inshaAllah, Allah will protect you from harm.

[AbuMubarak]

nova, you said it a lot better than i would have said it

Allah is our protection, Islam is our guidance, and the Prophet is our example

let us not just say it, let us mean it and live it

it would save a lot of problems

[lonely_me]

Oh poor you Brother... I know exactly what you saying... perhaps you can counter-attack by sending out more peacefull msgs to him, you'll get him eventually, if you know what I'm saying...

Another things is, after fajr prayer eat some dates and meditate...it's got to be at the time of day ... you'll get a bullet-proof aura, hopefully. I guess you already know how to do it...

I don't know if I were of any help, but it's all within your hands ...surround yourself with positive, loving, peaceful thoughts and he'll get affected ;)

Peace!

[Muslimah006]

inshAllah, I'm going to make dua for you brother.

[Guardian Hijab]

Asalamualaikum

InshAllah everything will work out brother. Aslong as you remember Allah, He will remember you. Don't not lose faith, and patience. Just hold on, even when you want to give up, just hold on even tighter. Here is a hadith that helped me brother, I dont remember word for word

"When my servant thinks of Me. I think of him. When he mentions My Name to an audience, I mention his name to an audience greater than his. If he comes to Me a hands-span, I come to him an arms-length. If he comes to Me walking, I come to him running"[Sahih-Bukari]

I pray that Allah guides you thru this hardship

"Verily with hardship comes ease, verily with hardship comes ease"

Wa'alaikumasalam

[Ayah]

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Scholars of Islam, as-salamu `alaykum. Is there any du`aa' or prayer that can overcome my anxiety and nervousness? Sir, you have helped me in becoming a better and a stronger Muslim; please help me to overcome this problem of mine. May Allah reward you for your work. Ameen.

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Sister, thanks a lot for your question. We earnestly implore Allah to alleviate your suffering and help you overcome your anxiety and nervousness.

Muslims always find peace of mind in dhikr. This fact is stressed in the Qur'anic verse that reads ( Who have believed and whose hearts have rest in the remembrance of Allah. Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest!) (Ar-Ra`d 13:28).

Responding to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:


Anxiety and worry can be overcome by seeking refuge in Allah through consistency in dhikr. As Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim has pointed out, dhikr entails manifold benefits, the most important of which is that it brings us closer to Allah while keeping us away from Satan, who whispers all kinds of thoughts and suggestions in our minds and hearts. The next most important benefit of dhikr is that it removes all feelings of grief, worry, and anxiety from our hearts and bestows on our souls true serenity, joy, peace, and bliss. Allah says, ( Those who believe and whose hearts find tranquility in the remembrance of Allah. Lo, it is in the remembrance of Allah that hearts find tranquility) (Qur’an: Ar-Ra`d 13:28).

We also read that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to look expectantly towards Prayer (being the perfect means of dhikr) as the true source of bringing joy to the heart. He said, “The true joy of my heart is in Prayer.” It is also worth remembering that, according to Islam, Allah alone is the Ultimate Source of Peace; His name is As-Salam.

Therefore, I advise you to practice dhikr consistently so that it becomes your second nature. This can be achieved through consistency: The first step is to be diligent in performing your salah consistently and regularly at the appointed times, while being fully awake and mindful of the meanings and feeling the true spirit of it. Second, condition yourself to turn to Allah always in du`aa' (suplication) and istighfar (seeking Allah's forgiveness). An excellent way of establishing consistency in dhikr is by forcing yourself to say and meditate on the power words such as the following:

"Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi subhan; Allahi al-`azheem" (glory be to Allah, and praise be to Him; glory be to Allah the Glorious).

"Subhan Allah wa bi hamdihi `adada khalqihi, wa ridha'a nafsihi, wa zinata `arshihi, wa midada kalimatihi" (glory be to Allah and praise be to Him in a manner that befits the [infinite] number of His creation, and as it pleases Him, and as it befits the true weight of His throne as well as His infinite knowledge).

Furthermore, condition yourself to read the following du`aa' on a regular basis as they have been prescribed by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) for repelling anxieties and gaining serenity and peace. You are best advised to read them an odd number of times (preferably three) in the mornings as well as at night prior to retiring to bed:

La ilaha illa Allahu al-`azheem al-haleem; la ilaha illa Allahu, rabbu al-`arshi al-`azheem, la ilaha illa Allahu, rabbu as-samawati wa al-ardi wa rabbu al-`arshi al-kareem (There is no god but Allah, the Glorious, the Clement; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the mighty throne; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the heavens and the earth, and Lord of the noble throne).

Allahumma inni (if you are male say: `abduka wa ibn `abdika ibn amatika; if you are female say: amatuka wa bintu `abdika wa bintu amatika), nasiyati bi yadika madin fiyya hukmuka `adlun fiyya qada’uka as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitabika aw `allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi `ilm al-ghaybi `indaka an taj`ala al-Qur’ana rabi`a qalbi wa nura basari wa jila’a huzni wa dhahaba hammi (O Allah, I am Your servant, son/daughter of Your servant, my forelock is under Your firm grips, Your decree in my case is sure to be realized, and Your judgment is just. I ask of You by invoking every single name that You possess, with which You have called Yourself, or You have revealed in Your scripture or You have instructed any of Your creation or You have kept hidden with Yourself in the knowledge of the unseen realities to make the Qur’an the spring of my hearts, light of my eyes, and dispeller of my grief and remover of my anxieties).

Ya hayyu ya qayyumu bi rahmatika astaghithu (O the Ever-Living, the Eternal Source of all beings! I beseech Your mercy and assistance).

I pray to Allah to grant all of us freedom from anxieties and worries, and bestow on our hearts true peace, serenity and tranquility in both worlds. Verily, He is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. Ameen.

[MuslimSoldier]

Thanks for you all , May Allah give you more blessing. -pray:


Another things is, after fajr prayer eat some dates and meditate...it's got to be at the time of day ... you'll get a bullet-proof aura, hopefully. I guess you already know how to do it...

i try to make aura shielding but this just decrease the pain, but Alhamdulillah i can still hold it. i worry about my mother, she looks very suffer, i can't imagine what she feel. even she believe that is me that cause her pain, she just pretending that nothing happen but she can't hide it. When i see her like this, i feel very sad and angry but i can't do anything, just watch her suffer. May Allah give her patience.

Again thanks you all . May Allah give you reward for your kindness. -pray:

[Niqaabi]

Read surah falaq and nas as well as ayatul kursi.
Insha'Allah may Allah make it easy on you brother.

[Tony]

Muslim Soldier, you didnt say how old you are, but if you are over 16 it may be a good idea to get yourself a flat of your own. Living with your Dad will drive you nuts. You sound like you need a bit of space.

[*muslim*]

Muslim Soldier, you didnt say how old you are, but if you are over 16 it may be a good idea to get yourself a flat of your own. Living with your Dad will drive you nuts. You sound like you need a bit of space.

I agree with you , the only thing you have to leave house < and if you got relative uncle or grandfather go and talk to them , special your relative of your mother side .

You have to help your mother , as you said he make her suffering , you are not young , take your decision .

thanks

[a mu-min]

in the Rememberance of allah does the heart find peace, Read the quran and read the meaning of it read the hadiths and act upon it wallahi it will save you from a lot of mental problems the kuffars suffer.

[Al-Irhaab]

brother whatever you do take into consideration the effects it will also have on your mother. Hypnosis is self delusion. If yor father is using sehr then the best idea is for you to leave home and be treated with ruayah. Also you should speak to your mother and the rest of your family and make them and yourself strong in the deen. Your mother should not live with someone who commits adultery.

Read this duah as much as you can. Audhu bi kalimatillahi hittam matu min sharri ma khalaq....

If you cannot leave home read this duah a lot..


Allahumma inna najalooka fi nahoorihim wa naudhubika min shuroorihim

orrrr

allahumma ajirni fi musibitihi wakhlufni bi khayrim minha

make yourself as strong as you can in your deen and no one can hurt you unless is a test from Allah (swt) to give you greater reward.

[a mu-min]

mashallah brother, it's this very practices that make you even more crazy.

[abdusamad]

Assalaamu Alaykum,

I would ask the brother not to leave his home, for one main reason, His Mother. We have our responsibility to protect and guard our parents and help them in ill times and in old age. SubhanuAllah i may not go through the same thing as you, but i have suffered Deen wise, where as in my father tried to make me stay "moderate/modern/non-sunnah" Let me tell you one, thing imaan is strong, very strong, strenghten your imaan by constant reememberings of Allah. What place is greater than the masjid to remember Allah. By Allah there is no place more dearer to me than the masjid in this Dunya. Spend time there, every muslims praying, walking in, or doing dhikr will remember you of Allah. Do alot of Duah and Surely Allah Guards the momineen.
Do constant Dawah to both of your parents, for you father to utter the truth to him and narrate hadeeth and qoute Quran to him, he can not deny the words of Allah and his Rasool (s.a.w.)

If you say your mother is also having hard time, stay with her, and keep her strong and remind her too that Allah rewards those who suffer for the sake of Allah. InshaAllah Allah will reward you all for your suffering.
Your father may be in wrong, like all the ones who go astray, remind them of their existence and our mission as muslims. InshaAllah he will notice his wrong doings. InshaAllah.

May Allah guide you brother, May Allah guide us all,

Ya Allah you are the Most Mercifull, Most Forgiving, Most Powerfull.

Ameen.

JazakuAllah khair.

[mouse]

brother, I would advice you to read the morning and evening adhkar, read lots and lots of ayatul kursiyy inshaAllah, Allah will protect you from harm.


it sounds as though your in need of medical help... go and see your doctor, who can give you a reference to a specialist
good luck..hope it all turns out for you

[Supernova Nebula]

it sounds as though your in need of medical help... go and see your doctor, who can give you a reference to a specialist
good luck..hope it all turns out for you

Agree with that too, yeah medical help as well as some "spiritual foods"

[MuslimSoldier]

i can't leave my mother and sister with him. i can't tell this to anyone here except my sister. i affraid they don't belive me because i can't prove it. my father provoke them to believe that i'm the wrong here. they hate me and think that i'm crazy . it seem he really plan it in very detailed.

But i believe Allah will give me the way out. i grateful to Allah for give me strength for thru this hardship. i stop do hypnosis for now. this month i'm 20. i'm still college and not have a job yet, so i cannot move from here, since it would cost many and not good for my mother and sister because i can't protect them.

May Allah give all of us salvation in this world and the hereafter. -pray:

[mara]

i affraid they don't belive me because i can't prove it. my father provoke them to believe that i'm the wrong here. they hate me and think that i'm crazy . it seem he really plan it in very detailed.
Who have ears to listen will listen what you said. At this point you did the right thing, but need to stop. Leave your father to do what he please and never remind to him. Certain "family issues" need time to solve it. Your mom will take one action or other when will consider to do it. Many times the "children" doesn't know everything whats happening between the parents.

[mystic_muslim]

muslim soilder does your private messaging work... if i were to pm you would you write back? its quite important

[MuslimSoldier]

Who have ears to listen will listen what you said. At this point you did the right thing, but need to stop. Leave your father to do what he please and never remind to him. Certain "family issues" need time to solve it. Your mom will take one action or other when will consider to do it. Many times the "children" doesn't know everything whats happening between the parents.

:salams

i agree with you, but the more i look calm the more abusive he become, like i say he don't like if i looks good and healthy. last night he make me feel pain in my heart, head, eye, stumic and sometime ears for a couple hours. i'm not counter attack him. he seems more crazy if i just calm. For now the best i can do is just be patient. i will tell my mother to read ayatul kursiyy alot and try to tell her that i'm not the cause of her pain and tell her to dua that may Allah give her the truth of who is the cause of her pain. but still doubt about this, i'm affraid this will make the situation even worst because nobody support or believe me here except my sister. what do you think? what should i say to my mother? what you do in my situation?
- nobody believe me
- my sister believe me but they think i hypnotize her to believe me.
-"everybody" hate me because my abnormal behaviour.
- my mother and everybody think that i'm crazy and make her suffer.

see what i mean, i can't do anything, just patient and wait for Allah helps.

[MuslimSoldier]

muslim soilder does your private messaging work... if i were to pm you would you write back? its quite important

yes it is working and yes i would write back. or just email me.

[mystic_muslim]

what is ur email address?

[Noor]

Mystic Muslim, if it is disocvered that you are trying to do something illegal like sell a passport, you will be kicked off the board and reported to the authorities.

[serious]

Brother Soldier

I don’t think there is a father who can hate his son or a son who can hate his father but they might hate each other's behavior
If this is the case then there is no a problem but misunderstanding so the solution is not so complicated as there is a base for this misunderstanding or argument.

In this story soldier has mentioned the reason his father has taken a stand against him which is disclosing his dishonest to his mother .what ever the father has done it was not fair the son to disclose his bad side to the wife as in general it is not suppose to do this even if the person who has committed such a mistake was not relative
So the first conflict has begun from this point ,thus the hatred is not between the bodies but between the characters
Although the father has made a mistake or doing yet but the son should not stand infront of him as a judge since this only increases the stubbornness of the father

It is sometimes wise to act like your eyes are closed until the right time comes to talk about issue but it seems you have rushed under emotion and looked as stranger to him showing your love for your mother and him as an enemy
If the stories has been this way then what you have done was due to your little experience in how to deal with things that you have applied on your father

so if you are in the same small age then what you are feeling is just a kind of lack of weighing things thus you have no any problem but just wrong feeling and you will get rid of this when you grow up more and see things in a different way than you had or see it now

But if you are matured then what you did to your father was not correct therefore you need to apologize for your wrong reaction even if he was in the wrong path
When we try to blame a person and judge for his wrong deeds it is very important to straighten our behavior to be listened and respected other wise there will no be a positive result when both sides are losing their temper

What I want to say is soldier try to get closer to your father despite his deeds that you don’t like because this makes him dislike your deed as well

The rest of your family are aware what is going between you and him but they don’t want to add gas on the fire ,they don’t want to agree with you that your father hates you but they know you are different and that is all .so the natural love between you and him is there however you are giving priority to the negative side only
He needs your help as a man so try to be closer and more flexible and more grown up man then you will find him different than you see him now
Make duaa for him and may ALLAH help you both

[MuslimSoldier]

Brother Soldier
It is sometimes wise to act like your eyes are closed until the right time comes to talk about issue but it seems you have rushed under emotion and looked as stranger to him showing your love for your mother and him as an enemy
If the stories has been this way then what you have done was due to your little experience in how to deal with things that you have applied on your father


I'm not even want to tell this to my mother. my mother talk to me but i don't really remember what she said, i think she said that she hear from neighbour that my father still doing it. but i remember i give her answer: "Yes it is right..." and i tell her that i keep this for along time because i don't want to see her suffer and i can't imagine what he is going to do to my mother when they fight. he very often hit my mother, throw and breaking things and ever threaten my mother with machete and tell her that he will kill her if she talk to the other about his bad (i don't really remember what he said but similar like that), my mother call me and say "See! your father want to kill me, kill me!!(to my father)", my father show a shame face and hide the knife, i don't know what to do, i'm very upset to them and just go back to my room and thinking "what kind of parents they are, my father want to kill my mother, and my mother call me just to see my father kill her", and he not do that(this happen when i was young).

i don't know that this is right or not but i think that is the right time to tell her. for safety i gather the other family from his side and decide to talk about this in my uncle house(near from my house) and wait for him to come home. i got a proof in history on his cellular phone that he call the woman everyday and show this to my family. my aunt go to the woman house(just front in my house) and ask her to go to my uncle house.......
the problem is not clear from here. its need a couple days for the situation become normal again.

he is not showing any grudge to me for a couple years and i'm feel just fine with him, until i notice it that he want to make my mental broke down after i learn psychology when i study hypnotherapy. he doing it in psychological manner, his acts, words etc. i start to remember what his act since that happen to now. i notice his words, acts etc is "intentionally" try to indirectly and diretly make my mental broke. My sister notice this too, she said that he looks pretending in words and acts to be a "father" when in front of my family. maybe he not just pretending to be nice to me but to my mother and sister too, if not why he have the heart to make my mother and sister feel pain "everyday" just to fitnah me. you have no idea how the pain is. it feels like there is a nail in your head thru your throat. ear-drum and eyes feels like want to blowout.

the woman is moving from here and sell her home(about a 2 year ago). new family come to that house and you're not gonna believe this, he try to do it again with new already married woman in that house, but this time the woman not respond to him. i think i'm the only one that notice this, i talk to my sister but she already notice it. this is prove that he did not regret of what he done before. i don't know what problem he have but my mother say that from her marriage with him, he is very brutal person and always hurt my mother and he ever been jailed when i was 5. i don't know how my mother can stay with him but she said she stay with him just for me and my sister. if the result like this, i think better for her to divorce for us. i think she worry about financial problem if they divorce but i said to her that better to me to being poor than have a father like him.

and the second reason i learn hypnosis is because in many police dept use hypnosis to interogate. i learn how to create lie detector with hypnosis with simple suggestion like "when you lie your finger will move by it self". i try hypnotize him to prove that he want to make my mental broke. but before i do this, he learn hypnosis too and torture me with that. he even try to make me have an accident, i see him do something with my motorcyle and i see it in the morning to check it and found the nut in tyre is loose. i think this is the biggest worry he have, he affraid that i can prove them about what he have done to me. i think he do this just for save his face in family and public. you can imagine how about if my family know the truth about him. but this is the truth. and he show no regret of what he do. when i try to tell this to my mother she don't believe it and talk to my father about what i said but he manipulate her to believe that i'm crazy because i learn hypnsis. he not talk to me.(he should talk to me if he really a good "father"). i'm very frustated and two days later, i'm plan to pay a professional hypnotist to do that, my mother agree with this. but when my mother tell him about this. he talk to me and tell me what is my problem. i tell him that i notice him for years he try to make my mental broke.... he say sorry... but he not confess that he learn hypnosis.(this is prove that he not really mean to say sorry)

i forgive him and i think the problem is finish here. but he still do that. i try to nice for a couple days to him but he still do that. my mother think the problem is clear. i can't talk this to my mother, she will think that i really crazy. and i notice that he talk to me just to save him self. and i end up in this condition that i wrote in my previous post. i will try your advice and thanks for that.

[mara]

what you do in my situation?
- nobody believe me
- my sister believe me but they think i hypnotize her to believe me.
-"everybody" hate me because my abnormal behaviour.
- my mother and everybody think that i'm crazy and make her suffer.

see what i mean, i can't do anything, just patient and wait for Allah helps.
I would step back. First i would say sorry to my father and mother.Secondly i would concentrate to finish my studies to become independent with my own pocket money.When you will finish your studies you will get a job and the things will change completely.

Your attitude its useless because the parents don't want to accept it. Going on you would not do anything else just to annoy them, and they will look even more strange at you. I repeat myself but you need to think they are married around 21 years now, they can have certain agreements between them, which often the childrens are not knowing.
Don't go further!

[MuslimSoldier]

I would step back. First i would say sorry to my father and mother.Secondly i would concentrate to finish my studies to become independent with my own pocket money.When you will finish your studies you will get a job and the things will change completely.

Your attitude its useless because the parents don't want to accept it. Going on you would not do anything else just to annoy them, and they will look even more strange at you. I repeat myself but you need to think they are married around 21 years now, they can have certain agreements between them, which often the childrens are not knowing.
Don't go further!

I am step back, but he still grudge on me and even try to kill me. he do this for years. what i do now is just for defend my life. i think he will stop it if someone or my mother know about this. before he learn hypnosis, i just ignore him whatever he do or said to me. but now i need to do something. moreover he not just make me suffer but also my mother and sister to do fitnah on me. how i can concentrate to study if he always make me have headache. he do it almost 24 hour everyday even this second. whatever i do, prayer, study, eat, sleep he still do that. and i can't just tell this to anyone, i need to prove it. my father agitate anyone near me, my family, neighbour to hate me. this is the hardest trial that Allah give to me. but now i feel more peaceful after post it all here and read much advice from you all and still need much. i try to strenghten my imaan. i start to read ayatul kursiyy regularly, this make me feel peace in heart and mind even i still feel the pain. maybe anyone can take a lesson from my life and you should be grateful to Allah for not give you the same trial. and please dua for me and my family because dua is the most powerfull weapon. May Allah give us the right path to his paradise.

[Tony]

[QUOTE=MuslimSoldier]:salams

i agree with you, but the more i look calm the more abusive he become, like i say he don't like if i looks good and healthy. last night he make me feel pain in my heart, head, eye, stumic and sometime ears for a couple hours. i'm not counter attack him. he seems more crazy if i just calm.

I believe you are suffering from paranoid delusions.

See your Doctor, do it now.

[Al-Irhaab]

brother muslim i honestly believe that someone has done sehr on you maybe it is your own father maybe someone has done it on him. I have had sehr done on me and bro ill be honest it is very dehabilitating but alhamdulillah I am having treatment for it. You need to see a specialist alim who can maybe tell you what is going on. For all you know maybe someone has provoked your father to do this to you.

But have trust in Allah (Swt) and read duah constantly. Inshallah as you age you will also see yourself become stronger and wiser and have the ability to take your mother and your sister out of this problem, but this is on condition you stay true to the deen. Without islam thier is nothing,

[MuslimSoldier]

[QUOTE=MuslimSoldier]:salams

i agree with you, but the more i look calm the more abusive he become, like i say he don't like if i looks good and healthy. last night he make me feel pain in my heart, head, eye, stumic and sometime ears for a couple hours. i'm not counter attack him. he seems more crazy if i just calm.

I believe you are suffering from paranoid delusions.

See your Doctor, do it now.

:salams

i understand why you think like that. but believe me it is real, he attack me with telephatic hypnosis, i know that because i learn it to. it is so obvious that he do that to me. for example the pain is get stronger about 5-15 minute before he come home and i don't know when he will come home. if this is paranoid delusions how that can happen? and this happen to my mother and sister too. i can counter-attack him but this is not good solution and i think it is a sin if i do that.

brother muslim i honestly believe that someone has done sehr on you maybe it is your own father maybe someone has done it on him. I have had sehr done on me and bro ill be honest it is very dehabilitating but alhamdulillah I am having treatment for it. You need to see a specialist alim who can maybe tell you what is going on. For all you know maybe someone has provoked your father to do this to you.

But have trust in Allah (Swt) and read duah constantly. Inshallah as you age you will also see yourself become stronger and wiser and have the ability to take your mother and your sister out of this problem, but this is on condition you stay true to the deen. Without islam thier is nothing,

I think this is not sehr. if this sehr maybe i will feel the pain constantly. telepathic hypnosis only affect when the person concentrate on you and think the effect. i understand this because i learn it to. i learn hypnosis to healing my self. but i read on www.islam-qa.com that hypnosis is jinn work(sehr). so i study if further to investigate this is right or not because from many hypnosis book i read, i never found about jinn. so i my post problem here.

i believe that Allah will help me. i read ayatul kursiyy regularly and always dua and i feel more patient . but sometime i feel hopelesss. but i know i shouldn't be like that, i must keep my imaan strong. and what is the meaning of dua you gave to me. i think it will be more good if i know the meaning.

[MuslimSoldier]

Al Irhaab, sorry i mean the dua that you post here to me

[SamR]

Muslim Soldier,

I feel for you, I honestly do. Your father sounds like a bad man. My father was a bad man too. My homelife as a child was not happy, and this will affect you as a child.

But without wanting to sound harsh or to judge, it really does sound to me like you are suffering from psychosis. There are some very big clues in what you are saying that causes me to believe this.

And I happen to know what I am talking about, because I suffer from bipolar disorder myself (otherwise known as 'manic depression'). I have had three 'psychotic episodes' in my life. Right up until I was diagnosed, and treated medically for my problem.

IF (and I say 'if' because you may well not have a problem)...but IF you have a chemical imbalance in your brain, the only way to fix it is with medication, which will fix the chemical imbalance.

I strongly urge you to go to a doctor and talk about what you are feeling. He or she will be able to give you far more help than a bunch of random experts on a debate board.

Whatever you do -- good luck.

Cheers

Sam

[TRANSWARP]

Oh poor you Brother... I know exactly what you saying... perhaps you can counter-attack by sending out more peacefull msgs to him, you'll get him eventually, if you know what I'm saying...

Another things is, after fajr prayer eat some dates and meditate...it's got to be at the time of day ... you'll get a bullet-proof aura, hopefully. I guess you already know how to do it...

I don't know if I were of any help, but it's all within your hands ...surround yourself with positive, loving, peaceful thoughts and he'll get affected ;)

Peace!


I don't understand, are you encourageing taking up the traits of new agers and witches? or can you show me any islamic texts which allow such things?

thanks.

[mara]

What about to move from house? The students can stay in the college hostel. The parents will have the same expenses.

[MuslimSoldier]

But without wanting to sound harsh or to judge, it really does sound to me like you are suffering from psychosis. There are some very big clues in what you are saying that causes me to believe this.

thank for your concern Sam, you right i am suffering psychosis, weird bevaiour, socially phobic etc. this is why i learn hypnotherapy. i want to fix my own problem because no body understand my problem and if i tell them they not believe it. i study psychology too so at least i can analyse my own problem. i am lack of security from my childhood until now. this is because the coarseness of my father. i always worry about my mother when they fight. do you know what make me feel relief? when he say that he will leave our house. but he always coming back and apologize to my mother. but this always happen again and again. they often fight in front of their children. letting me and my sister wacth the coarseness of my father, hit , throwing things. my problem going worst after i disclose about his cheating. he hate me even want to make my mental more break. no body know about this except my sister. i try everything to stay "alive" and i found hypnosis is very effective for mental problem. i study it and use it. i slowly show improvement. but my father not letting me going further, he try everthing to distract me when i do self hypnosis. the worst thing is he learn hypnosis. i think he is watching me how to learn hypnosis. he use telepathic hypnosis to torture me. i know this is not easy to believe. and i find on www.islam-qa.com that hypnosis haraam they said it is jinn works. now i was studying it further with our friend Bizza because from many hypnosis book i read i never found about jinn. if it has been proved that it is not jinn work, insya Allah we will try to prove it here.

and i suggest for the parents here to at least read a psychology books about children. because there is many thing that seem not a problem when they child but can be disaster when they grown up. don't think they not understand your word or act. because every little of your word or act will be reflected when they grown up. in many case the biggest problem is security. it can cause lack of self confident, not comfortable with them self etc. it can make a big different for the child when the mother choose to give them milk in a bottle or breast-feed them.
if you choose the last one, your children will feel alot of security from you.
What about to move from house? The students can stay in the college hostel. The parents will have the same expenses.
i don't have it in my college. even it have, he still can do it to me.

[mara]

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i don't have it in my college. even it have, he still can do it to me.
In this case spend more time out from the house,like go to library. If he will see you less may be will be better for both . :)

[SamR]

thank for your concern Sam, you right i am suffering psychosis, weird bevaiour, socially phobic etc. this is why i learn hypnotherapy. i want to fix my own problem because no body understand my problem and if i tell them they not believe it. i study psychology too so at least i can analyse my own problem. i am lack of security from my childhood until now. this is because the coarseness of my father. i always worry about my mother when they fight. do you know what make me feel relief? when he say that he will leave our house. but he always coming back and apologize to my mother. but this always happen again and again. they often fight in front of their children. letting me and my sister wacth the coarseness of my father, hit , throwing things. my problem going worst after i disclose about his cheating. he hate me even want to make my mental more break. no body know about this except my sister. i try everything to stay "alive" and i found hypnosis is very effective for mental problem. i study it and use it. i slowly show improvement. but my father not letting me going further, he try everthing to distract me when i do self hypnosis. the worst thing is he learn hypnosis. i think he is watching me how to learn hypnosis. he use telepathic hypnosis to torture me. i know this is not easy to believe. and i find on www.islam-qa.com (http://www.islam-qa.com/) that hypnosis haraam they said it is jinn works. now i was studying it further with our friend Bizza because from many hypnosis book i read i never found about jinn. if it has been proved that it is not jinn work, insya Allah we will try to prove it here.

and i suggest for the parents here to at least read a psychology books about children. because there is many thing that seem not a problem when they child but can be disaster when they grown up. don't think they not understand your word or act. because every little of your word or act will be reflected when they grown up. in many case the biggest problem is security. it can cause lack of self confident, not comfortable with them self etc. it can make a big different for the child when the mother choose to give them milk in a bottle or breast-feed them.
if you choose the last one, your children will feel alot of security from you.

i don't have it in my college. even it have, he still can do it to me.

Muslim Soldier,

Please listen to me. Hear my words.

Learning about psychology, and how the behaviour of your father has impacted on your self belief, WILL help you. No doubt. You need to take that path and follow it.

Hypnosis may well help you too. It certainly won't hurt.

But if you are suffering psychosis, which is a chemical imbalance of the brain, neither psychology OR hypnosis will help that. The only way to help that, is to redress the chemical imbalance. Which means taking some medication. That is the only way.

As a disgnosed bipolar person who has suffered psychosis, I take something called olanzapine now when I feel the psychosis niggling away at me. I am in tune enough with my disorder to know when it is starting to creep up on me. After a few days on olanzapine, I feel completely different. Believe me...I feel BETTER. It pains me to see you as someone I don't know, but who I believe MAY be suffering from the same disorder, struggle with something that could well be fixed with a few days of sensible medication.

Do you know what? When I have been psychotic, I have seen my mother as the anti-Christ. I locked my house up to her. I stayed away from all my windows, as I honestly believed that she could penetrate the glass with her evil thoughts towards me.

All of this was a complete nonsense. My mother is wonderful to me, and always has been. My illness at the time made me think otherwise.

I am not saying your father isn't a bad man (my dad certainly always has been, and still is, and my psychosis or lack of it doesn't change that). But what I am saying, is that IF you are suffering psychosis, you are NOT seeing things clearly. Not by a long shot.

Please...go to a doctor mate. I really think it might help.

Best wishes. Good luck.

[MuslimSoldier]

Muslim Soldier,

Please listen to me. Hear my words.

Learning about psychology, and how the behaviour of your father has impacted on your self belief, WILL help you. No doubt. You need to take that path and follow it.

Hypnosis may well help you too. It certainly won't hurt.

But if you are suffering psychosis, which is a chemical imbalance of the brain, neither psychology OR hypnosis will help that. The only way to help that, is to redress the chemical imbalance. Which means taking some medication. That is the only way.

As a disgnosed bipolar person who has suffered psychosis, I take something called olanzapine now when I feel the psychosis niggling away at me. I am in tune enough with my disorder to know when it is starting to creep up on me. After a few days on olanzapine, I feel completely different. Believe me...I feel BETTER. It pains me to see you as someone I don't know, but who I believe MAY be suffering from the same disorder, struggle with something that could well be fixed with a few days of sensible medication.

Do you know what? When I have been psychotic, I have seen my mother as the anti-Christ. I locked my house up to her. I stayed away from all my windows, as I honestly believed that she could penetrate the glass with her evil thoughts towards me.

All of this was a complete nonsense. My mother is wonderful to me, and always has been. My illness at the time made me think otherwise.

I am not saying your father isn't a bad man (my dad certainly always has been, and still is, and my psychosis or lack of it doesn't change that). But what I am saying, is that IF you are suffering psychosis, you are NOT seeing things clearly. Not by a long shot.

Please...go to a doctor mate. I really think it might help.

Best wishes. Good luck.
:salams
Sam, if you don't mind, please tell me more about your experience. when you have psychosis, what make you believe that your mother is anti-christ? maybe her act or word. what is the story that make you have that condition. i am have mental disorder but i believe that this is not delusions. the reason you think that i have psychosis is the telepathic hypnosis right? i understand if this is the reason. because many people is not know much about this even they that have school degree of hypnotherapy. Some hypnotherapy school teach this but very rare and of course they not exposing it to public for some important reason. i make exception here because i need to tell the detail of my problem here. i know that most of you will think that i crazy. but i really need to be listened. because i can't tell this to anyone here in my place and i don't want to talk it more with my sister because i don't want her to feel my pain. maybe i should prove it here. what do you all think ? should i prove this here or you just believe my words? but again i'am still have not an answer that it is permissible or not in islam? I listen to you Sam, Insya Allah i will try your advice , thanks for your empathy.

[mara]

I don't think you are crazy and you have nothing to prove me. But i believe a change in your life would be beneficial for you. And would really help you.

[Ebony]

MuslimSoldier

How long have you been having delusions, feelings of paranoia, social anxiety?
How does it vary; are there particular places, events, situations that make it worse? If so, can you point out to us what those situations were and when it happened.

[MuslimSoldier]

I don't think you are crazy and you have nothing to prove me. But i believe a change in your life would be beneficial for you. And would really help you.
Thanks if you believe me. I think is not just me who needs help but my mother and sister too. so i should think about them too not just saving my self.

Anyone who read my problem here would think that there is two possibilities. i am crazy(i'm just having delusion) or my father crazy(he really do it). suppose you all believe that my father the one who is crazy. if you are in my position, i believe you will try everything to save your family from him.

if you think that i'm crazy, and if the reason is the telepathic things. what should i say? i don't know what should i do to to explain this. but i teach this to our friend Bizza just for experiment purpose, maybe he can affirm my statement here that telepathic is real. but i'm not see him a couple days here, maybe he is busy. and if anyone have another reason please tell me it would be very helpful.

MuslimSoldier

How long have you been having delusions, feelings of paranoia, social anxiety?
How does it vary; are there particular places, events, situations that make it worse? If so, can you point out to us what those situations were and when it happened.

its about 4 years. is not delusions but my behaviour, its like i cannot control my own behaviour. this make me socially phobic. just a years ago i become interested in psyhcology and hypnotherapy.

before i learn it , i have a little suspicion about my father behaviour to me. after i learn it i see thing more clearly in my family about what make me have this condition. i'am surely that my father is intentionally wanting me have a mental disorder even now he want to kill me. i notice his act or word is psychologically is directing me into this condition.

your question sound like you think that my condition about headache etc is a delusions.believe me it is not. he doing it in random time but he always do that when prayer time and remember, this happen not just to me but my mother and sister too. my behaviour, its going worst when i meet people that i don't know and when in crowd. the more i try to be normal the worst it become. how do you feel when you work really hard for someone and no matter how really hard you try they always not accept your work or not even appreciate it. thats what i feel to public but i know that this is not their false to socially reject me. but i'm going better now.

often i feel that i can't hold it anymore, you can imagine in my condition. there is no one like you or believe about your problem even your own family and you notice that your father is the cause of your problem, he is intentionally want to destroy your life and you have nothing to prove it, all you can do is just patient and wait something happen.

and do you all have any information or opinion about hypnosis in islamic way? it very confusing, they say it is haraam but the other say it is halaal? because it is very valuable for me.

[Immanuel]

Look to Jesus, ask Jesus to help you and i GUARANTEE that he will, that is only if you sincerly want him to.

Read ACTS 2:21
GOD Bless!!