Help required for 'newbie'

[student'86]

A few of you may have noticed me about since yesterday but to those who haven't, greetings http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

I have only been learning about Islam for a few weeks now so my appologies for making any silly or fundimentally flawed questions as I am still trying to understand the way things work. I have always been aware of a 'greater entity' so to speak and dispised many aspects of society (the western) but have never followed a religion before until I was recently guided this way by some very close friends. I am enjoying and appreciating what I'm finding but I still have a long way to go http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/rubeyes.gif (the main reason I came on this forum as I have limited access to people who can guide and help me).

My readings and teachings so far have only really covered the declaration of accepting Allah, part of the life of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and the first few pages of the Quran (english translation). I have been told various other stories and some quotes from the Hadith but these have been as and when my teachers have felt to tell me.

What I would really like help with at the moment is how to live my life so that I can better my learning and understanding. At the moment I have family memebers trying to destract me because they don't believe it's the right way, so my will power is being tested daily.
I didn't know whether to put this in the everyday life section but considering I need to know how things are relavent to Islam I thought it better here.

I have now met a gentleman who has become my Baba (sp?) and has given me a shawl and promises to send me some clothes over once he returns to Pakistan as he wants to encourage me to cover up. He has been giving me a lot of advice recently and says he believes that I will become a lovely and religious woman.
My only other teacher is my fiance and although the advice and teachings he gives me are sound, he is slightly westernised from his stay here and although likes the idea of me covering up and being a lot more modest...he also likes it when I wear western clothes http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/conf06.gif
So in all honesty I'm very confused as how to behave and act at the moment, espeically around our muslim friends.

My relationship is also a thing I am now puzzling over as it is 'dating' in the western sense, however he said the day he asked me out that he wanted to marry me and spend his life with me but until our wedding we are living much as western people do http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif
From all that I have read this shouldn't really be happening so I don't know how best to go about it. We have been together for 4 months and will marry within the next 3 months.

All advice greatly appreciated. I will try to use proper welcomes etc but I still get a little flustered some times in which and when to use them http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/untitled.bmp

[*IslamicGirl*]

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Greeting Student86

Hey if you want to chat or if you want to hook up with Muslim sisters, InshaAllah i can help you. I can forward you my MSN address if you wish?

I swear i'm legit, not some chicken-drumstick-in-hand-underpant-walking-fat-lazy-bald-guy-on-the-net :p

Members can vouch that i'm a sis :)

[*islamia]

lol@islamic girl yea but student86 u can email me too, inshallah i can help, and no im not a ugly-desperate-fat-couch potato-40 yr old man :D LOL

[*IslamicGirl*]

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:salams

Yes i forgot the age 40 ;) :p


:salams

[AbuMubarak]

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underpant-walking-fat-lazy-bald-guy-on-the-net :p

Members can vouch that i'm a sis :)
well, i can pretty much vouch for islamicgirl, no one has ever complained about her bing fat,lazy and bald

[Khuzamah]

check ur pm :) I dno if you have the pop ups enabled or not?

[student'86]

:salams

I have a pop up blocker in built into my browser which I can not seem to disable at the present so I have only just noticed your message. Many thanks for getting in touch :)

I have replied and would love to discuss with you further if you have the time?

I would like to thank the others as well that I have spoken to today.

[*IslamicGirl*]

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:salams

well, i can pretty much vouch for islamicgirl, no one has ever complained about her bing fat,lazy and bald

:p


You forgot the most important part: guy :p

:salams

[moshyman]

I swear i'm legit, not some chicken-drumstick-in-hand-underpant-walking-fat-lazy-bald-guy-on-the-net :p



Have you been viewing my webcam??

[*IslamicGirl*]

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:salams

Have you been viewing my webcam??

I said guy, not Alien... *ahem* :D

:salams

[ponderingstar]

A few of you may have noticed me about since yesterday but to those who haven't, greetings http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

All advice greatly appreciated. I will try to use proper welcomes etc but I still get a little flustered some times in which and when to use them http://www.ummah.org.uk/forum/images/smilies/untitled.bmp


AW!!!! Welcome sis! Your post is lovely and i can also vouch for Islamic girl, although i have never seen her and so i could just be very confused...



I would just like to say that you may be entering a period in your life where you discover beautifully that you believe completely and utterly in the presence of one powerful being and that really, that being is the sustainer and creator and beauty in our lives. Although love for a man can be immense, you may not be aware of how much devotion you will (God willing) have to Allah once you see the logic, and the beauty in Islam. For this reason I sincerely suggest that you slow down and sit down and talk to your fiancé about his dreams and desires and goals in life and what his ambitions and understanding of life are etc. Not that a few differences cannot be overcome, but that if two people are married they form extremely important roles in each others lives and it can be very difficult if one person wants to submit their will utterly to Allah and the other wants to do the opposite. I get the feeling that that may not be the case, and by the sounds of things your fiancé sounds as if he is open to a discussion, it's just that there are many confused Muslims out there and maybe (perhaps) you may be the catalyst for something very beautiful? Anyway I’m rambling and please remember that I am by no means a professional so take everything with a pinch of salt.

Was salaam

PS

[student'86]

Thank you for your reply :)

I was unsure whether to post personal matters on an online forum where anyone can see but I have since spoken to my fiance who says that we can distance ourseleves until our marriage if that is my wish as he wants only the best for me.
It was my decision to look at Islam although as a muslim he obviously approves of it :D so he wants to help me and not infringe me in anyway.

It is with respect I read what you are saying and I will keep my eyes and heart open :up:
I already know most of his ambitions and views as we have spoken a lot about such things (since I come from a western background it was perfectly normal to spend a lot of time together and talk to each other about all manner of things) so I am confident that we will get on fine.
If I'm perfectly honest he has high hopes for me with regards to my faith :embar: but not so much that he will pressure me but he is excited to see how much I grow and develope over the years.

All will be well :insha: and I have have endless love for both of them :D

[muslim_sis]

allah guide u both inshallah :)
sis , check ur pm

[student'86]

Have done :up: