Attention Attention!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

salam......

i wud jus like 2 say dat... IM GETTIN MARRIED!!!!!!!!:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

i wil be gttin married nxt month:insha: .
ok dats all i wanted 2 say.....

wsalam

[MG]

oh my gosh!!!


Mabrooks sis, Mabrooks !!

may Allah (swt) make it a very successful one for you!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

thank u!!

[Black_Flag]

heeyyy sofs u gettin married?? im so happy for you...wait i already knew u were gettin married...oh well...nd byw i found a real nice pink ring 2 go wid my suit for ur wedding!!..cant wait...

[Sofia_naqvi]

lol :up:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

lol :up:

are u getting married to black flag?

[Sofia_naqvi]

lollll...
no wayyyyyyy
shes my cuzin... SHES A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im gettin married 2 an arab guy.. frm iraq...

[Salman Al-Farsi]

lollll...
no wayyyyyyy
shes my cuzin... SHES A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im gettin married 2 an arab guy.. frm iraq...

Oh ok. Good luck :)

[ponderingstar]

Hahahaha!

CONGRATULATIONS SIS!!!!

i'm laughing because i'm not the only one who mistook black flag for a guy... heh heh. maybe you need to feminin up your avater sis? or call yourself pink flag.... hahaha.. no j/k heh heh

But may allah grant you a happy successful marriage and the wisdom and patience and understanding and empathy required to make it truly beautiful! Oha nd may ALlah grant you a wonderful Husband who has great character and a soft heart :D

[ze leetle elper]

But may allah grant you a happy successful marriage and the wisdom and patience and understanding and empathy required to make it truly beautiful! Oha nd may ALlah grant you a wonderful Husband who has great character and a soft heart :D

Ameen :)!

Marriage is such a beautiful thing :inlove:

[Ebony]

Congratulations Sis :)
At least now we've found out you're not a bro..lol

Ws

[muslim_sis]

CONGRATULATIONS SIS ...
may Allah bless your marriage and make it happy one inshallah. and mashallah completing half ur deen ;-P

[muslimah85]

congratulations sis! :inlove: mashallah hope it all goes well,

tell us more tell us more!!!!! :p

[Mira]

Salaamz!

You're so happy, masha'Allah, and I'm happy for you :D

Congratz!

[Khadhijah]

Asslamu Aleikum Warahmatullah


Mabrooooks sis:D
may allah grant you a happy successful marriage and the wisdom and patience and understanding and empathy required to make it truly beautiful! Oha nd may ALlah grant you a wonderful Husband who has great character and a soft heart :D
Ameen!

[Sofia_naqvi]

Hahahaha!

CONGRATULATIONS SIS!!!!

i'm laughing because i'm not the only one who mistook black flag for a guy... heh heh. maybe you need to feminin up your avater sis? or call yourself pink flag.... hahaha.. no j/k heh heh

lol.. yh i gues she does..

[simmy]

lol

why does feel like this thread should have been called...

Attention Attention I AM A SIS!!!!!!!!

Congratulations sis Sofia_naqvi, InshaAllah all the planning and the day goes well.

[Sofia_naqvi]

congratulations sis! :inlove: mashallah hope it all goes well,

tell us more tell us more!!!!! :p

lol.. i will tell u ..jus ask away.....

[Sofia_naqvi]

lol

why does feel like this thread should have been called...

Attention Attention I AM A SIS!!!!!!!!

Congratulations sis Sofia_naqvi, InshaAllah all the planning and the day goes well.

lol...
thank u!!!

[aurorascopic]

awww :D congratulations sis :D awww

[Niqaabi]

congrats!
wish i was ready for marriage! still doing my stupid A-Levels!!! grrrr

[cheeky]

Mabrook sis Ameen at the dua.

Are you Iraqi too? hey do u have a sis called fatima? lol anyways

Hope everything goes well inshallah :d

wasalam

[K@M]

Congrates Sis and mabrook (lol, what does that even mean, just everyone says it when someone announced thier marriage, does it mean congratulations?)

[Chained_Water]

But may allah grant you a happy successful marriage and the wisdom and patience and understanding and empathy required to make it truly beautiful! Oha nd may ALlah grant you a wonderful Husband who has great character and a soft heart :DAmeen :)

:love: Congratulations sis. :love:

Whens the big day and whats he like and how did all happen?

Details are the best bit ya know :D

[MG]

Congrates Sis and mabrook (lol, what does that even mean, just everyone says it when someone announced thier marriage, does it mean congratulations?)

yes it means congrats.


Yes sis CW is correct, we need details and quicktime!

[Yusuf!]

cONGRATS :inlove:

[Yusuf!]

I thought mubarak meant blessings?

[MG]

I thought mubarak meant blessings?

mubarak-baad= congrats

bless- barkat dena

blessed - shaad

blessing - rehmat

[babysara]

congratz...u seem real happy and i am real happy 4 u....

[PiElle]

gong xi nee... (congratulations you!) :-) well done! :-)

[islamik queen]

awwh congratulations sis!! mashallah excellent news juss make sure you dont trip in yo lainga or woteva u guna wer:inlove:

[veilofmysoul]

Mabrooks sis... inshallah

May Allah help you succeed in all aspects of life and let this marriage be a way to easily reach jannah and may it please Allah and may you always remain happy.. ameen

Assalamu Alaikum

[sajid]

Congratulations

[Sofia_naqvi]

Mabrook sis Ameen at the dua.

Are you Iraqi too? hey do u have a sis called fatima? lol anyways

Hope everything goes well inshallah :d

wasalam

no im not iraqi.. im frm pakistan.. lol no i dnt hav a sister called Fatima
thank u...

[Sofia_naqvi]

Ameen :)

:love: Congratulations sis. :love:

Whens the big day and whats he like and how did all happen?

Details are the best bit ya know :D

thank u..!!
da big day is on...may 29th
lol wat do u mean wats he like??
It was a love marriage...:inlove:

[Sofia_naqvi]

awwh congratulations sis!! mashallah excellent news juss make sure you dont trip in yo lainga or woteva u guna wer:inlove:

lol i didnt even think of dat...
thanx

[Sofia_naqvi]

Thank u every1!!!:D :D :D :D

[Black_Flag]

well i have been out of this thread for a while...but seems like everyone wants 2 kno about sofia's fiance...i will tell u if she lets me...i will also tell u if she doesnt!;)

And by the way everyone I AM A GIRL!!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

well i have been out of this thread for a while...but seems like everyone wants 2 kno about sofia's fiance...i will tell u if she lets me...i will also tell u if she doesnt!;)

And by the way everyone I AM A GIRL!!!

u loser :rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

errm i aint a loser...jst wait till i c u sofs...

[muslimah85]

sis come on more details aaaaw marraige is cool, cant wait how did u guys meet etc ???// is he sweet to you? how did ur mom and dad take it :D

[aysh10]

Assalamwaalaikum,

Congrats
May Allah grant peace and blessings to you and your husband.


Salamz to the happy couple

[Black_Flag]

sis come on more details aaaaw marraige is cool, cant wait how did u guys meet etc ???// is he sweet to you? how did ur mom and dad take it :D

sofs will nvr tel u lot...but i will...they met through some m8s...@ first they didnt like each other..but hey u kno how love works...yeah he is sweet mashallah nd they make a really sweet couple...nd what do u mean how did her parents take it??

[jimm]

bro black flag, your assuming that emotions are an entity for them to work

[muslimah85]

well i got two mates shes pakistani and he's jordanian and at first it took a lot of convinving for her parents to agree to the marraige due to being of diff cultures. I knw its naff but it happens :(

[Black_Flag]

bro black flag, your assuming that emotions are an entity for them to work

OH FOR GODS SAKE....IM A GIRL!!!!!!!! AARGGGHHH!!!

[Kayled]

Mabrook ya o5tee wa atmana lakom kol 6ayeb! :D :D
Goleelna kaman 3an al3eraqi..

-

Congrats sis, I wish everything well for you two.
Tell us more about dis iraqi..

PEACE & LOVE EVERYONE lol.... :nuts:

[Sofia_naqvi]

sofs will nvr tel u lot...but i will...they met through some m8s...@ first they didnt like each other..but hey u kno how love works...yeah he is sweet mashallah nd they make a really sweet couple...nd what do u mean how did her parents take it??

lol.. ur def a loser.
aww u really think we make a sweet couple? :inlove:

[Sofia_naqvi]

Tell us more about dis iraqi..

lol wat u wana knw bout dis iraqi??

[Ebony]

What do you want to tell? ;)

[Sofia_naqvi]

What do you want to tell? ;)

lol....
hes so cute...:inlove:

[muslimaah]

sis as your gettin married now Inshallah i thought ill give u a few tips! (no im not married so im not talkin from experience....lol)

TIPS FOR A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one

The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.
Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam

Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.

Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations

Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.

Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse

Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)

Be Your Mate's Best Friend

Try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.

Spend Quality Time Together

It is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. Spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. Often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project. Both spouses should enjoy the particular option chosen and distractions should be kept to a minimum.

Express Feelings Often

This is probably a very "Western" concept and one that some people may have difficulty fulfilling, but it is important to be open and honest about one's feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of communication should always be open and any concerns should be brought to the attention of the other spouse as soon as they arise. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The "silent treatment" has never been the remedy for anything.

Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness

Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.

Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.

Surprise Each Other at Times

This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.

Have a Sense of Humour

This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.

Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements:

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.

Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.

Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.

Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.

Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.

If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ lol thanx:up:

[Black_Flag]

^^ lol thanx:up:

sofs u joka!...i kno exactly wht u thinking!

[Jam]

:salams

:masha: congratulations - may Allah subhanahu wa'tala grant you a happy, healthy and fruitful marriage. Ameen. :)

:wswrwb:

[khaoula]

ur 2 young

[Black_Flag]

how do u kno if shes too young or not? do u know how old she is?

[Sofia_naqvi]

init....
if u looked at my profile and looked at my birthday.. dats wrong.. dats not my real age!.. im really... ?? <-

[Sofia_naqvi]

:salams

:masha: congratulations - may Allah subhanahu wa'tala grant you a happy, healthy and fruitful marriage. Ameen. :)

:wswrwb:

thank u brother Anjum..

[MangoChutney]

Mabrook ya o5tee wa atmana lakom kol 6ayeb! :D :D
Goleelna kaman 3an al3eraqi..


Since when were the 5's and 6's also used in the arabic literature ??
Man, i'm so off-tune with these things.

7a7a7a7a7 [hahahahah] ;)

So sis Sofia, Masha'Allah on finding yourself a husband.....
you've accomplished something that many of us here still haven't. Congrats.

A pakistani and Iraqi...Subhan'Allah....hmm, i guess the mixed-marriages trend is back in this summer. :banan:

Any advice(s) for the wandering bachelorette's ? :p

Keep it cool insha'Allah.
Love from Canada ~Sis MC.

[cheeky]

lol mango :p

2= ء


3= ع


5= خ


6= ط

7= ح

What else have I missed?

Mabrook again sis sofia..hope it all goes well on the day inshallah :D

Zaghrouta from me and mango lol ...(LALALALALALALAAAAYYYY ) hehe

[Sofia_naqvi]

Since when were the 5's and 6's also used in the arabic literature ??
Man, i'm so off-tune with these things.

7a7a7a7a7 [hahahahah] ;)

So sis Sofia, Masha'Allah on finding yourself a husband.....
you've accomplished something that many of us here still haven't. Congrats.

A pakistani and Iraqi...Subhan'Allah....hmm, i guess the mixed-marriages trend is back in this summer. :banan:

Any advice(s) for the wandering bachelorette's ? :p

Keep it cool insha'Allah.
Love from Canada ~Sis MC.

lol thank u!!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

lol mango :p

2= ء


3= ع


5= خ


6= ط

7= ح

What else have I missed?

Mabrook again sis sofia..hope it all goes well on the day inshallah :D

Zaghrouta from me and mango lol ...(LALALALALALALAAAAYYYY ) hehe

thank u!

[MangoChutney]

lol mango :p

2= ء


3= ع


5= خ


6= ط

7= ح

What else have I missed?

Mabrook again sis sofia..hope it all goes well on the day inshallah :D

Zaghrouta from me and mango lol ...(LALALALALALALAAAAYYYY ) hehe

This is why I lowe you. :D

[MMS]

congratulations

i feel like getting married too now

[Omar]

Congrats

Same here

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ lol r u guyz sure bout dat!

[MMS]

i am....

[MMS]

i want 1000 rep points for my dowry

[Omar]

thats quite a hefty sum

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ init..

[cheeky]

MMS..I repped ya lol..n not cuz i wana marry ya

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^sorry wat did u say??:rubeyes: :confused: :scratch:

[Tahajjud]

WOOOOOOOOWWWWWWW

GREAT!!!

congratulations, Allah blessings on you. May the guy turn out to be as happy as you.

salaam waliekum.

[Black_Flag]

wohoooo its nearly may sofia....r u gettin excited...coz i am!

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ lol... yh i guess !!!!

[Black_Flag]

wht do u mean u guess....u shud be like wwwwwwwwwoooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhoooooooooo wwwwwwwooooohhhhhhhhooooooo....nd i also said dat 2 hussein...nd he was like ok then wwwwwwwwoooooooohhhhhhhhooooooooooo!!!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ lol.. joka... wen did u speak 2 him?? u neva tld me!!!

[Black_Flag]

eeerrrm yday....he was really happy nd excited...alhamdulillah!....

[muslimah85]

:inlove: aw mabrooks once again sis bet ur so exited, all the best :love:

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ thanx! yes i am!!:inlove:

[Sofia_naqvi]

who in dis forum is married? or engaged?

[muslimah85]

who in dis forum is married? or engaged?
thats for you to find out :banbear:

[MMS]

Im going to marry my rep points

[muslimah85]

Im going to marry my rep points
we should team you up with rodders :p

[Sofia_naqvi]

thats for you to find out :banbear:

lol :p

[MangoChutney]

So sis sophia,

have u figured what ur going to wear ?.....cause i sure haven't!! :banan:

[Nida'76]

so sofia... may ALLAH bless be with u and ur husband....



lol :p

[Sofia_naqvi]

So sis sophia,

have u figured what ur going to wear ?.....cause i sure haven't!! :banan:

lol.... im wearing white wiv platinum jewellery and my fiance is wearing a black suit......! and who said ur invited... jk!!!

[Neyzen]

may u have a happy life.

ws

neyzen

[Sofia_naqvi]

so sofia... may ALLAH bless be with u and ur husband....

thank u!

[Sofia_naqvi]

may u have a happy life.

ws

neyzen

thank u!

[Muslim Sista]

salam......

i wud jus like 2 say dat... IM GETTIN MARRIED!!!!!!!!:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

i wil be gttin married nxt month:insha: .
ok dats all i wanted 2 say.....

wsalam
congrats


btw how old are u?

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ im... 20

[Black_Flag]

ssssssoooooooooffffffffsssssss ur wedding clothes....maaaaaannnn...evrytime i come 2 ur house i go to c dem!!!! wwwwwooooooowwwwwww

[muslimah85]

ssssssoooooooooffffffffsssssss ur wedding clothes....maaaaaannnn...evrytime i come 2 ur house i go to c dem!!!! wwwwwooooooowwwwwww
lol! what they like?

[Sofia_naqvi]

ssssssoooooooooffffffffsssssss ur wedding clothes....maaaaaannnn...evrytime i come 2 ur house i go to c dem!!!! wwwwwooooooowwwwwww

lol joka!!! trust me i keep lookin at dem 2!

[Sofia_naqvi]

lol! what they like?

der beautiful.. i love dem!!

[muslimah85]

der beautiful.. i love dem!!
what dress, lenga, suit, come on sis :D

[Black_Flag]

lengha suit.........its beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Sofia_naqvi]

its more like a fish tale.. suit thing....black flag... y dnt u tell dem wat ur wearin!!!!!

[Black_Flag]

they didnt ask wht im wearing...so :b

[muslimah85]

they didnt ask wht im wearing...so :b
ok then what u wearing black flag ? :D

[Sofia_naqvi]

yh i knw.,.. im tellin u 2 tell dem :P

[Black_Flag]

im wearing a light pink fish tail lengha thing...with a corst style top....it sssssoooooooo bufffffffffffff

[Black_Flag]

nd its got silver embroidery...on organza....buuuuffffff

[Sofia_naqvi]

yh it is really niceee....

[Black_Flag]

no its BBBBBBBUUUUUUUFFFFFFFF!!!!!!!! omg i cnt wait 2 c husseins face wen he sees u on da weddin day...in ur buff suit nd jewelry...i bet he will be like OMG!

[Sofia_naqvi]

lol.... awwww....hes so cute..

im gonna b all

:inlove: :embar:

[Sofia_naqvi]

only....32 days left!!!!!!!!!

wo hoooooooo........:D :inlove: :D

[Naiha]

keep in mind..that you should pray that evrything goes according to plan....
i understand your excitement but sometimes behind the happiest causes there are bad moments waiting to come out...i'll make dua for you sis...may everything lead up to happy marriage..ameen...

don't mean to bring dowm your hopes sis...just seeing it from both sides...

[Black_Flag]

thanx 4 dat naiha....but anywayzzz

[Sofia_naqvi]

^^ lol yh thanx..i understand... but

32 days WOOO HOOOOO...

[Sofia_naqvi]

31 days left!!!!!!

[MangoChutney]

so sis, u married yet?! :p

[Black_Flag]

lol she's not married yet its on da 29th of May...not long left now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wwwwwwwwwoooooooooohhhhhhhoooooooo!!!!!!!!

[ABDELWAHHAB]

31 days left!!!!!!
as-Salaamu Alaykom wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuh Ukhtee Sofia_naqvi

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[ABDELWAHHAB]

lol she's not married yet its on da 29th of May...not long left now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wwwwwwwwwoooooooooohhhhhhhoooooooo!!!!!!!!
as-Salaamu Alaykom wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuh UkhteeBlack Flag
May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Black Flag get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[ABDELWAHHAB]

Assalamwaalaikum,

Congrats
Salamz to the happy couple

[/color]
as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Ayesha get married when your 16 years old. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[ABDELWAHHAB]

(no im not married so im not talkin from experience....lol)

TIPS FOR A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one

The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.
Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often

Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.

Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam

Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.

Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations

Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.

Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse

Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)

Be Your Mate's Best Friend

Try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.

Spend Quality Time Together

It is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. Spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. Often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project. Both spouses should enjoy the particular option chosen and distractions should be kept to a minimum.

Express Feelings Often

This is probably a very "Western" concept and one that some people may have difficulty fulfilling, but it is important to be open and honest about one's feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of communication should always be open and any concerns should be brought to the attention of the other spouse as soon as they arise. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The "silent treatment" has never been the remedy for anything.

Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness

Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.

Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.

Surprise Each Other at Times

This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.

Have a Sense of Humour

This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.

Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements:

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.

Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.

Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.

Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.

Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.

If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.


as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Muslimaah get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[bubblez_far]

I'll be getting married soon too..pls make same kinna dua for me too :crying: i might make a thread about it too..but then not sure, if by then u guys get tired posting in to-be's threads :p.
but do keep me in ur prayers too :D.
Massalam

[muslimah85]

as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Ayesha get married when your 16 years old. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.
:confused: a bit young isn't it? and illegal in todays society!

[muslimah85]

I'll be getting married soon too..pls make same kinna dua for me too :crying: i might make a thread about it too..but then not sure, if by then u guys get tired posting in to-be's threads :p.
but do keep me in ur prayers too :D.
Massalam

:salams

mabrooks on your forthcoming marraige:banbear:,will pray and make dua that it all goes well inshalla, bung up a thread, we never get tired of marraige!:D

and why are you crying? ;'p, it should all be :inlove:!

waslaam

:salams

[ABDELWAHHAB]

:confused: a bit young isn't it? and illegal in todays society!
In Islam after the age of puberty is reached the muslimmeen people can get married.
In America and Masr(Egypt) a 16 year old girl can get married legally.

Plus biological a 16 year old girl can be a wife to her husband and a mother to her children.

[ABDELWAHHAB]

I'll be getting married soon too..pls make same kinna dua for me too :crying: i might make a thread about it too..but then not sure, if by then u guys get tired posting in to-be's threads :p.
but do keep me in ur prayers too :D.
Massalam
as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Bubblez_far get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[bubblez_far]

mabrooks on your forthcoming marraige:banbear:,will pray and make dua that it all goes well inshalla, bung up a thread, we never get tired of marraige!:D

and why are you crying? ;'p, it should all be :inlove:!

waslaam

:salams

m crying coz... i dunno.. maybe for ur duas..or maybe just upset to leave my family after some days :( but inside m really very much :inlove: thanks for ur good wishes.

as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Bubblez_far get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

thanx for ur prayers brother. :jkk:

Massalam

[MMS]

as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee Bubblez_far get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

hey what about me :crying:

[ABDELWAHHAB]

hey what about me :crying:
Do not cry Ukhtee MMS, I did not forget you.

as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee MMS get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

[muslimah85]

hey what about me :crying:
:rotfl: aaw!

[MMS]

Do not cry Ukhtee MMS, I did not forget you.

as-Salaamu 3laykom wa-Ra7matullaahi wa-Barakaatuh

May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make you Ukhtee MMS get married soon. May ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make your future marriage be a tremendous immense infinite happy success here and the hereafter.

ameen ameen ameen :nuts:

[Hayaa]

hmm..seems like the marriage season's jus around the corner. My sis's getting married, so is my cousin, and then another one plus a frined...oh well ! i still ahve lots of dresses to make !!!!!! lol http://www.ummah.net/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

akhti Sofia...MABRook !!!! May Allah bless your new life (whenever it begins),and fill it with happiness - Ameen. http://www.ummah.net/forum/images/icons/icon7.gif

[MangoChutney]

So.....when is the wedding anyways?

[Black_Flag]

looks like u were very bored abdel wahab!...lol...omg...nearer and nearer the big day!!!!! wwwwwwwoooooohhhhhhhhooooooooo hope everything goes well inshallah!...pray 4 us nd the new couple evrybody!

[Black_Flag]

So.....when is the wedding anyways?

29TH MAY 2005!!

[Hamza_786]

:wacko: heeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyy. Lol u made a thread for your wedding. Just wait and see what im gonna wear. Im gonna steal the spot light on your wedding day. Hahahah. Na im only jking. So you guys excited. Whats amber wearing? Where is she these days?

[ABDELWAHHAB]

looks like u were very bored abdel wahab!...lol...

Alhamdulillaah wa ma'shaa'ALLAH I was not bored at all. Alhamdulillaah wa ma'shaa'ALLAH I'm not bored at all. Alhamdulillaah wa ma'shaa'ALLAH I pray Duaa to ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for the Muslimmeen to be helped.

[Black_Flag]

oh hamza...u jker...lol u can c wht im wearin...jst read the thread!...nd btw im black flag in case u ddnt realise! :)

[Hamza_786]

seen, ur wearing the buff pink thing yeah, lol. Cant wait to see you in it!

[MangoChutney]

are u all related? :rolleyes:

[Black_Flag]

no...me nd sofia r cuzins...nd hamza is our m8!

[Mu7ajaba]

Assalamu Alaikum,
MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK!!!!!!!!:inlove: ;)
I love seeing mixed marriages, shows the diversity and beauty of Islam:up:

Fi Amanullah

[esin]

salam......

i wud jus like 2 say dat... IM GETTIN MARRIED!!!!!!!!:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

i wil be gttin married nxt month:insha: .
ok dats all i wanted 2 say.....

wsalam


I hope you wii be happy sis

ı hope Allah plan my marriage

[Black_Flag]

Ameen

[aBu DuJaNaH]

Assalamu Alaikum,
MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK!!!!!!!!:inlove: ;)
I love seeing mixed marriages, shows the diversity and beauty of Islam:up:

Fi Amanullah

Assalamu Alaikum Brothers and Sisters,

With all due respect sister, mixed marriages are a blessing but its not something to be encouraged. Mixed marriages brings lots of heartache and trouble to both sets of family - This is not only my experience, but the experience of numerous brothers and sisters I have encountered.

I am a Iraqi sunni and I wanted to have a mixed marriage to a pakistani kashmiri sister, but because of that I had caused trouble and heartache to both my parents, family, myself and her and her family. why? Because the Iraqi culture and the pakistani cultures are two different things.

I am from a religous Iraqi family, and the sunni Iraqis are Allah fearing and very religous community, but the pakistanis are not religous but very cultural. For isntance, the Pakistanis dont wear hijab (not in bradford anyway..just a handful of them!) Its very much a bollywood dominated community.

To cut a long story short, I decided not to go ahead with the nikah and I decided to give up on the wedding. Because of the heartache that it caused, my father passed away 2 weeks later.

Alhamdullilah, I am now engaged to a Sunni Iraqi girl who comes from, and understands, our culture and our history and our current struggles. A Pakistani would never have understood, no matter how religous she was or well informed. I will be getting married in August 2005 and I ask Allah (swt) to make our lives happy and to serve him according to his book and the Sunnah of the beloved Prophet Muhammed (saw).

[aBu DuJaNaH]

Assalamu Alaikum,
MABROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK!!!!!!!!:inlove: ;)
I love seeing mixed marriages, shows the diversity and beauty of Islam:up:

Fi Amanullah

Assalamu Alaikum Brothers and Sisters,

With all due respect sister, mixed marriages are a blessing but its not something to be encouraged. Mixed marriages brings lots of heartache and trouble to both sets of family - This is not only my experience, but the experience of numerous brothers and sisters I have encountered.

I am a Iraqi sunni and I wanted to have a mixed marriage to a pakistani kashmiri sister, but because of that I had caused trouble and heartache to both my parents, family, myself and her and her family. why? Because the Iraqi culture and the pakistani cultures are two different things.

I am from a religous Iraqi family, and the sunni Iraqis are Allah fearing and very religous community, but the pakistanis are not religous but very cultural. For isntance, the Pakistanis dont wear hijab (not in bradford anyway..just a handful of them!) Its very much a bollywood dominated community.

To cut a long story short, I decided not to go ahead with the nikah and I decided to give up on the wedding. Because of the heartache that it caused, my father passed away 2 weeks later.

Alhamdullilah, I am now engaged to a Sunni Iraqi girl who comes from, and understands, our culture and our history and our current struggles. A Pakistani would never have understood, no matter how religous she was or well informed. I will be getting married in August 2005 and I ask Allah (swt) to make our lives happy and to serve him according to his book and the Sunnah of the beloved Prophet Muhammed (saw).

[Zrq]

congrats sofia_naqvi may allah make your marriage work insharallah.

anywaze i dont why other though you were a guy, newver mind, life is a little confusing.

where did u meet your husband and how long had you known him before u got married.

[Sofia_naqvi]

congrats sofia_naqvi may allah make your marriage work insharallah.

anywaze i dont why other though you were a guy, newver mind, life is a little confusing.

where did u meet your husband and how long had you known him before u got married.

thank u..
lol im not a guy!!!! Lol
we meet threw family friends..... we maried after 8 months afer meeting...

[MangoChutney]

so how did the nikkah go? :)

[Sofia_naqvi]

so how did the nikkah go? :)

it went fine...everything was fine, was a little nervous at first, but then it was all gd......:up:

[H25]

Mabrooooooooookkkk sister :D


I wanna get married too :(