Younger or Older?

[veilofmysoul]

Assalam-u-Alaikum

This thread may seem a little stupid, but its a question i've been wondering for a while ...
If you were to marry someone - would it matter if they were younger or older?
and what's your limit .. how many years older or younger?

ME-- Younger, most probably not =s, but you never know Allahu Alam
and Older- yes, my limit is 1o-13 years, but not too old, below 10 is better, but if i was to marry someone older than me, im not marrying some 50 year old or 30 year old 10-13's the limit(maximum) =) and for younger less than a year younger..lol =D

How bout u ?...
by the way sorry for this thread if it seems stupid just want to see other people's opinions =D inshallah

Wa Assalam-u-Alaikum

~~:wacko: :nuts:

[RaNdOm]

lol salaam

actually before i was like ERGH NO WAY younger but it doesn't seem TOO bad now, i guess the older you get the smaller the age gap difference seems....but then i havta admit people who are older than me they DEF have sumt about them that makes you think wow.....i dno why but marrying someone the same age seems really weird to me loool :wacko:

[veilofmysoul]

Yeah me too.. don't know why... =)

[PiElle]

if you are in your early twenties... tendency to go for older (5-10) is to compliment your lack of experience in life...

then when your in you late 20s to early 30s - u want someone almost same age... to compliment your experience in life...

then when you are in your later thirties and more, you'll want someone younger... because the older ones will usually be very set in their way of lives....

that's my personal views.... hope my reply helps....

[veilofmysoul]

nice opinion... yea i've noticed the same in many cases, but in many other cases it's not the same.. Allahu Alam ... jazakallahu khayr for your opinion



if you are in your early twenties... tendency to go for older (5-10) is to compliment your lack of experience in life...

then when your in you late 20s to early 30s - u want someone almost same age... to compliment your experience in life...

then when you are in your later thirties and more, you'll want someone younger... because the older ones will usually be very set in their way of lives....

that's my personal views.... hope my reply helps....

[PiElle]

nice opinion... yea i've noticed the same in many cases, but in many other cases it's not the same.. Allahu Alam ... jazakallahu khayr for your opinion

oh... what many other cases have you seen? i'll be interested to know... i love marriages that work... :-)

(Allahu Alam ... jazakallahu khayr (?) for your opinion)

[MangoChutney]

hmm....good Question...

Personally, I'd prefer someone older than me but i wouldnt mind someone younger a couple of yrs. But then again, Allahu Alim.

[sajid]

u talking from a guys or girls perspective?

[veilofmysoul]

both... not specified.. anyone anywhere anyhow

[sajid]

well

for a guy its common they marry girls younger

for girls its comon they marry guys older then them...

[veilofmysoul]

now that's an obvious one.. but there are ppl who think differently then this, this one is morely seen as stereotypical and not always true

but this is the way i thought it should be, cuz i now way in Jannat want someone younger than me, that's just scarry =\

[Muslim Sista]

i don't know ppl that are like younger u seem to have more in common wid and older ppl and am talking bout 5-10yrs older they seem to have conflicting views about certain subjects, but then ur more likely to respect the older aren't u?

[babysara]

its a bit typical that people think that girls have to marry some1 older then them and guys have to marry some1 younger then them...i mean if you love some1 whats the big deal with age....i know a woman that is older than her husband 10 years and they are happily married....why does age have to be a big issue in marriages???if you met someone through the net they might not give their true age and you might fall in love with them,would you not marry them if you did have the chance just because age is concerned?????

[peace2u]

older insha Allah, not more than 10 years
Insha Allah, not younger than me, not even someone my age :(


Peace

[Bubble-Buster]

its a bit typical that people think that girls have to marry some1 older then them and guys have to marry some1 younger then them...i mean if you love some1 whats the big deal with age....i know a woman that is older than her husband 10 years and they are happily married....why does age have to be a big issue in marriages???if you met someone through the net they might not give their true age and you might fall in love with them,would you not marry them if you did have the chance just because age is concerned?????

:scratch:

[Bubble-Buster]

hmmmmmmm


For Muslims, should the age be an issue or the piety?

In Islam the purpose of marriage is procreation, by the way; and to protect the society from moral and sexual debauchery.
I felt obligated to point this out, since I read few misguided opinions or practices.

[Mary Carol]

Age shouldn't matter.

Compatibility matters.

[babysara]

why are you being typical...tell me what difference it makes if you marry someone younger than you???are you scared that it will not look good infront of you friends and relatives....is marriage only for showing of you wife/husband or is it commitment to each other????older insha Allah, not more than 10 years
Insha Allah, not younger than me, not even someone my age :(


Peace

[babysara]

oh and bubble buster can you please explain to me why what i have said is not making sense to you?:scratch:

[Bubble-Buster]

oh and bubble buster can you please explain to me why what i have said is not making sense to you?

You are referring to this post (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showpost.php?p=575742&postcount=15), right?

To answer your question, how about trying that I am a Muslim, who can notice a fallacy when it is committed.

[Stillcurious]

A Muslim man can have a wife for many moods, one is very young, one is fairly young, the third one is fairly old and the fourth one is very old. Am I not right?

[Ebony]

A Muslim man can have a wife for many moods, one is very young, one is fairly young, the third one is fairly old and the fourth one is very old. Am I not right?

Picking a wife is not down to mood.

[muslimah85]

if we could have four hubby's i'd go insane no thanks :rubeyes:

[Stillcurious]

Picking a wife is not down to mood.

Nice to notice you accept my classification! Instead of moods you can classify the wifes by other criteria, of course. What do you think would be the most important criteria for your (future?) husband? What would you like them to be?

[muslimah85]

humour, consideration (im not sure if guys have this ?:scratch: ) and considerate, also a practising guy, whose not too set in his ways and open to other ideas. :p

Adventurous :boom:

the main problem i'll have is finding someone who is himself , i've come across many many people who present themselves as some other person ie in personality, when you look closer sadly its not the same. :nervous:

[Ebony]

Two arms, two legs and a head would be fine with me.

[muslimah85]

Two arms, two legs and a head would be fine with me.

whatever! :p what happened to ur anti guy stance? sis ur standards are slipping :D

[Ebony]

whatever! :p what happened to ur anti guy stance? sis ur standards are slipping :D

Even aliens have 2 arms, 2 arm and a head sis.

[K@M]

inshaAllah for me anything within a year boundary so a year older or younger will be great :)

[muslimah85]

would you just restrict to a years boundry?

[Bubble-Buster]

A Muslim man can have a wife for many moods, one is very young, one is fairly young, the third one is fairly old and the fourth one is very old. Am I not right?

Your mind is where it shouldn't be. People don't get married for such absurd reasons.

You should consdier leanring about the Shariah rules that apply and then the reasons a Muslim man can marry to a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife.

[veilofmysoul]

jazakallahu khayr for all your responses... i like everyone's opinions and bubble i understand your point as well and that's very true mashallah

*shoked(my thread has actually exceeded on page =)))))*
keep them coming inshallah

Assalam-u-Alaikum

[Mary Carol]

Two arms, two legs and a head would be fine with me.

Fill that head with a brain and a heart in his abdomen and I'm sold.

[K@M]

would you just restrict to a years boundry?

No, not at all. Its just preferable.

[Stillcurious]

Your mind is where it shouldn't be. People don't get married for such absurd reasons.

You should consdier leanring about the Shariah rules that apply and then the reasons a Muslim man can marry to a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife.

I advise you to read what I replied to Ebony.

[Black_Flag]

for me the guy cannot be younger...can be same age as me...but not more than five years older...

[babysara]

why?why not younger?give me one good reason,if he can love you in the same way as someone older then why?

[Black_Flag]

because i jst couldnt marry someone younger than me! nd thats a good enough reason for me!...lol.