true friends, YOUR opinion

[me_omar]

could you please tell me if one should really expect friends to be "perfect" ? :)

i mean how do you explain to a friend you really care about that you may still be a very true friend though you may not act exactly like they expect you to, "perfectly" ? :D

and what do you do if they insist -inderectly- that you be "perfect" in everything you say and do, though they dont act that way either? :up:

[Baby Paw]

If one is not perfect then how can one expect others to be perfect?

A true friend loves you for your perfect inperfections.

If they insist that you be perfect, then you tell them that you will be their mirror, so that you may see each others perfect inperfections.

[veilofmysoul]

Assalam-u-Alaikum

If a friend expects their friend to be perfect they themselves porbably feel they lack in something in some way and maybe by having a perfect friend,that may help then, as it maybe their thinking. I myself would never consider a person who expects me to be perfect as a friend. We as humans and individuals all have faults and flaws and it is from those mistakes that we learn. The most perfect man on this planet was Rasulullah (SAW) and we can try, but not be as perfect as him. We as humans are keen to learn and are very curious and we learn from our mistakes and thats how we go throughout our whole life. I personally would actually help my friend understand that each person is perfect because of their imperfection. =)

Wa Assalam-u-Alaikum

~~:nuts: :wacko:

[me_omar]

thanks baby paw, :) i always believed that love is unconditional ! :inlove: but i don't understand why the ones who place many conditions and very high standards on others are blinded from seeing about themselves what they are accusing others of being :rolleyes: i mean they are being controlling of their friends by placing such conditions on their friends ! i love my friends unconditionally :inlove: !

[me_omar]

thanks veilofmysoul ! :) in fact what i don't understand about such freinds is that why is it that they subject only their frinds to these standards, but not their parents, children, siblings...etc who may hav3e made even more mistakes against them ! :embar: don't friends deserve forgiveness to ! :rolleyes: and aren't so many mistakes are innocent mistakes ! how can they not forgive the ones who forgave them for much much much more mistakes they themselves did ! i wish THEY could tell me, too !

[me_omar]

i think those who are so critical of everyone and are unforgiving end up alone ! :freedom:

[MG]

ok, here goes :D


i used to have a couple of friends who i used to talk to now and again,like every few weeks but whenever i used to call them,they used to always get upset with me and make me feel guilty for not ringing more often, @ 1st i felt really bad and i started calling them every week but even that wasnt enuf!!

it really mentally exhausted me, i was always the guilty one,i was supposed to be at their beck and call, i mean if u wanna speak to me,y dont u jus call me!!!

in the end,i jus stopped ringing and taking their calls and feel so much better for it.

REAL friends dont care WHEN u call, real friends dont care what u do cos they will always be there for u, and they will be forgiving and think in your best interests

alhumdulillah,i have 3 great friends like that,absolutley perfect, they literally bought me back from a really bad time i was in:(, they gave me the confidence to hold my head up high and they are always their for me and really overprotective of me (my favourite quality in them:embar: )!! cos im the baby of the gang!!

so i advise ,only keep friends who bring good in your life.

[Ahlam]

Asalamu Alaykum

Perfection can not be mastered by humans…we have flaws and are easily tempted….if this person is truly your ‘friend’ then they should take you for who you are not what they would like you to be. Furthermore it is easier to focus on other people’s flaws than our own…tell your friend that perfection can not be mastered…we can strive towards it but they should not expect too much from you. Friends should not care about if you are perfect, tall, fat etc….

[muslimah85]

no ones perfect.....

[Ahlam]

no ones perfect.....

Except Allah (swt)

[muslimah85]

of course:rolleyes:


i meant in terms of humans.......

[Ahlam]

Asalamu Alaykum

I know that sister….however, others would probably dismiss that fact…better to be save than sorry.

[muslimah85]

sos bro i didn't mean to sound rude or offensice it just typed that way. jz for correcting my post:up:

[Ameera]

sos bro i didn't mean to sound rude or offensice it just typed that way. jz for correcting my post:up:
Ahlam is a sister!;)

[Guardian Hijab]

Asalamualaikum

in my opinion, true friends are ones who love you for the sake of Allah(swt), because not only do they want u to have the best in this life, but want you to have the best in the hearafter:love: :) 7 types of people get shaded on the Day of Judgment, and one of em is people who love one another for Allah's sake:inlove:

Wa'alaikumasalam:p
and dude, ya dont have to be perfect! Be yourself, and thats the closest u can get eh!:D

[Naiha]

no one is perfect..everyone is to have flaws within themselves...but it's the postives things about friends that really matter...you can't expect a husband or mother or father or sis or brother or any other person or realtionship to be perfect....

life would be the same if we all became perfect..no one would then realise their mistakes in life..no one would gain more knowledge of other people and who are their real friends.....you should always consider the postives things about your friends as they seem to have a much for higher score than the negative things about them...

i have a best friends who lives miles away from me....she's happily married and life for her is great mashallah....i don't ring her every week and i don't txt her every week...becuase our relationship with one another is so mutual and we are so close we don't really need to say a word to one another..as we know both know what we are thinking.....when we do ring each other....we're on the phone for hours..

you only begin to realise how much you love your friends when they are not within your reach...i love my friends for who they are and they love me for who i am...but yeah if we know one of us in not right then it's the friends job to set them straight....friends are a great thing....
really my life with my friends is great mashallah....i can get to behave like my normal self..i don't have to pretend to be this idealistic person.........

[islamik queen]

could you please tell me if one should really expect friends to be "perfect" ? :)

i mean how do you explain to a friend you really care about that you may still be a very true friend though you may not act exactly like they expect you to, "perfectly" ? :D

and what do you do if they insist -inderectly- that you be "perfect" in everything you say and do, though they dont act that way either? :up:

well a friend in my eyes is someone who's always there for ya
and doesnt judge you in any way
someone who's loyal and trust-worthy
a friend is someone who loves you

[Siddiqa]

thanks baby paw, :) i always believed that love is unconditional ! :inlove: but i don't understand why the ones who place many conditions and very high standards on others are blinded from seeing about themselves what they are accusing others of being :rolleyes: i mean they are being controlling of their friends by placing such conditions on their friends ! i love my friends unconditionally :inlove: !

Unconditional love needs to be understood down to its core.... and its not easy, if you have not been exposed to it as a child or growing up. Only when one truly comprehends a concept, are they able to implement it... in its fullest form.

[Siddiqa]

Assalam-u-Alaikum

The most perfect man on this planet was Rasulullah (SAW) and we can try, but not be as perfect as him.


Laa Ya Ukhti!
Rasullallah (saws) had imperfections too.... as amazing as a human being that he (saws) was. For instance, when he frowned at the blind man who asked him to recite a portion of the Qur'an.

1. (The Prophet [saws]) frowned and turned away,
2. Because there came to him the blind man (i.e, Abdullah bin Umm-Makum who came to the Prophet while he was preaching to one or some of the Quraysh chiefs)
3. But what could tell you that per chance he might become pure (from sins)?
4. Or that he might receive admonition, and that the admonition might profit him?
5. As for him who thinks himself self-sufficient,
6. To him you attend;
7. What does it matter to you if he will not become pure (from disbelief, you are only a Messenger, your duty is to convey the Message of Allah).
8. But as for him who came to you running.
9. And he is afraid (of Allah and His Punishment),
10. Of him you are neglectful and divert your attention to another,
11. Nay, (do not do like this), indeed it (these verses of the Qur'an) are an admonition,
12. So, whoever wills, let him pay attention to it.

[80:1-12]

Afterall, he was human... only exceptional because he (saws) was blessed and chosen to be a prophet, by the Will and Glory of Allah. Indeed, only Allah is perfect. :)

[slmz :)]

^^ i ddnt no that^^ thnx 4 sharin that sis...

alhamdullillah my m8s luv me 4 hu i am... not what i look like.... but for my personality....
i luv them so much ( 4 da sake of allah) coz they helped me get thru loads...

yo omar... if ur frend(s) dont accept u 4 hu u r... tell them wot kind of frend are u.... no1 is perfect (xept allah (swt)) u just b ur self... nd dnt hng wid da rong ppl.. as ive been tld......

c all u lot are my frends...i hope..lol.... u NO i aint perfect but alhamdullillah uve accepted me....j/khair ummah!

[me_omar]

jazak Allah to all of you who helped on this topic ! :)

i guess day after day i realize that my faults are much more than those of my friends so i accept them more than i accept myself ! :up: they are all better than me ! :D

[muslimah85]

jazak Allah to all of you who helped on this topic ! :)


i guess day after day i realize that my faults are much more than those of my friends so i accept them more than i accept myself ! :up: they are all better than me ! :D ]


GOOD ON YOU BRO!:banbear: :up:

[simplicity]

as muslimgirl mentioned about calling her frenz and feeling guilty about not contacting them. i went thru' the exact same thing. when i got older, i began to realize who are really my true friends. true friends call you any time they want to talk to you and you call them any time you want to. they are not bothered if you haven't contact them for some time because they know you are just busy, not that you forgot about them. there's no such thing as perfect friends. only good friends who would influence you to do good things. if you're always the one calling then you know something is wrong. my best friend happens to be one person who always always call me plenty of time. after finishing high school, i had this classmate who calls me up occasionally although last time when we were schooling, she never call me up to chat or anitin. so i know she's one of the few true friends around. and most importantly, true friends stick by you thru' thick and thin. if a friend run away at the sight of trouble, they aren't worth your friendship.