faqir
28-02-05, 01:04 PM
My Husband is Addicted to Heroin
Answered by Ustadha Umm Salah
www.sunnipath.com
*Question:*
I am a Scandinavian woman who converted to Islam two years ago. My
husband is from a Muslim country. Before we met, he was addicted to
heroin. Although he was clean when I first married him, he soon
regressed and started using drugs again. He has been to four rehabs in
our two and a half years together. He has also sought medical and
psychological help to no avail. He has also hit me. We have a baby
together, but most of our money goes to buy drugs. My husband now lives
on the street. I say a lot of nasty things to him when I see him
because
I am so disappointed. I don't know what to do about him. Is there any
prayer I can say for him? I don't want his son to see him this way.
What
is your advice for me? I am afraid separation will be the only
solution.
*Answer:*
*In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful*
* *
Praise be to Allah. May the peace and blessings of Allah shower upon
our
Beloved Messenger, his family, companions, and those who follow them.
Dear Sister,
May Allah Most High give you patience and strength.
Normally, I would advise you to send your husband to a rehab facility.
But since he's already been four times and nothing seems to have
helped,
you may have to face the possibility that your husband's condition is
out of your hands. Often, a person may be in rehab time and time again
before they finally kick the habit. It sounds like you have really
tried
to help your husband. But, ultimately, it is your husband who will have
to decide that he wants to change.
If you feel you are up to it, then make one last effort to get him off
the street and into rehab. Don't hide this from his family. If he has
any family around, they are obligated to help you deal with him. Let
his
family step in and play a role.
I also advise you to go to a reliable scholar and discuss your
situation. Your husband is not fit to be a husband at this point. You
have a baby to think about. Right now, your husband is not there for
the
baby, but you are. You don't need to be in a situation where your money
is going to buy drugs. You do need to be in a situation where you have
peace of mind. Let your husband's family get him off the streets. You
can still want the best for your husband, but you also need to think
about your own situation. Divorce, though painful, is something you may
need to consider for the wellbeing of you and your baby.
Whatever you decide to do, turn to Allah in your decision. There's a
link on Sunni Path which will tell you about Salat al-Istikhara or the
Prayer for Guidance at:
http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00002836.aspx.
Also, there's a prayer called Salat al-Haja, which you can make when
asking Allah to grant a need or desire. Here are the details:
According to /Mishkat/, whoever has a need that can be fulfilled by
Allah or by a human being should make a good ablution, then pray two
rak'as. After finishing, he should glorify Allah, send blessings on the
Prophet, peace be upon him, and then say:
There is no deity save God, the Clement, the Bountiful. Glory be to
God,
Lord of the Magnificent Throne! Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds! I
beg of Thee the causes of (obtaining) Thy mercy, and the purposes of
(securing) Thy pardon; spoil from every righteousness, and safety from
every sin. Leave no sin of mine unforgiven; no anxiety unrelieved; and
no need of mine, wherewith Thou art pleased, unfulfilled. O Thou the
Most Merciful of those who show mercy! (Narrated by 'Abdullah ibn Abi
'Awfa in Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.) [A.H. Farid, Prayers of Muhammad]
May Allah make things easy for you.
And Allah alone gives success.
Umm Salah (Zaynab Ansari)
Learn Islam <http://www.SunniPath.com (http://www.sunnipath.com/)>. Visit SunniPath -
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Answered by Ustadha Umm Salah
www.sunnipath.com
*Question:*
I am a Scandinavian woman who converted to Islam two years ago. My
husband is from a Muslim country. Before we met, he was addicted to
heroin. Although he was clean when I first married him, he soon
regressed and started using drugs again. He has been to four rehabs in
our two and a half years together. He has also sought medical and
psychological help to no avail. He has also hit me. We have a baby
together, but most of our money goes to buy drugs. My husband now lives
on the street. I say a lot of nasty things to him when I see him
because
I am so disappointed. I don't know what to do about him. Is there any
prayer I can say for him? I don't want his son to see him this way.
What
is your advice for me? I am afraid separation will be the only
solution.
*Answer:*
*In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful*
* *
Praise be to Allah. May the peace and blessings of Allah shower upon
our
Beloved Messenger, his family, companions, and those who follow them.
Dear Sister,
May Allah Most High give you patience and strength.
Normally, I would advise you to send your husband to a rehab facility.
But since he's already been four times and nothing seems to have
helped,
you may have to face the possibility that your husband's condition is
out of your hands. Often, a person may be in rehab time and time again
before they finally kick the habit. It sounds like you have really
tried
to help your husband. But, ultimately, it is your husband who will have
to decide that he wants to change.
If you feel you are up to it, then make one last effort to get him off
the street and into rehab. Don't hide this from his family. If he has
any family around, they are obligated to help you deal with him. Let
his
family step in and play a role.
I also advise you to go to a reliable scholar and discuss your
situation. Your husband is not fit to be a husband at this point. You
have a baby to think about. Right now, your husband is not there for
the
baby, but you are. You don't need to be in a situation where your money
is going to buy drugs. You do need to be in a situation where you have
peace of mind. Let your husband's family get him off the streets. You
can still want the best for your husband, but you also need to think
about your own situation. Divorce, though painful, is something you may
need to consider for the wellbeing of you and your baby.
Whatever you decide to do, turn to Allah in your decision. There's a
link on Sunni Path which will tell you about Salat al-Istikhara or the
Prayer for Guidance at:
http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00002836.aspx.
Also, there's a prayer called Salat al-Haja, which you can make when
asking Allah to grant a need or desire. Here are the details:
According to /Mishkat/, whoever has a need that can be fulfilled by
Allah or by a human being should make a good ablution, then pray two
rak'as. After finishing, he should glorify Allah, send blessings on the
Prophet, peace be upon him, and then say:
There is no deity save God, the Clement, the Bountiful. Glory be to
God,
Lord of the Magnificent Throne! Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds! I
beg of Thee the causes of (obtaining) Thy mercy, and the purposes of
(securing) Thy pardon; spoil from every righteousness, and safety from
every sin. Leave no sin of mine unforgiven; no anxiety unrelieved; and
no need of mine, wherewith Thou art pleased, unfulfilled. O Thou the
Most Merciful of those who show mercy! (Narrated by 'Abdullah ibn Abi
'Awfa in Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.) [A.H. Farid, Prayers of Muhammad]
May Allah make things easy for you.
And Allah alone gives success.
Umm Salah (Zaynab Ansari)
Learn Islam <http://www.SunniPath.com (http://www.sunnipath.com/)>. Visit SunniPath -
http://www.SunniPath.com (http://www.sunnipath.com/)
An Online Academy for Traditional Islamic Knowledge