Abu ayub
25-02-05, 10:04 PM
salam-alaykum.
Alhamdulilah I am getting married, Please make du'a that evething goes okay. The problem begun when My mother said to me that I was going to marry a sister from our home town in turkey. I said okay After a few months when I met her, I didnt want to marry her and he was also a good muslimah. When I said this to my mother she became very angry against me, Evetytime I see her she screams at me says why didnt you do that, She blames me and eveything, Becouse of this I moved to my best friends house (My best friend is from Eritrea, And I have allways hanged around eritreans. During this time The brother introduced me to a sister from Eritrea, who was a good Muslimah. We got a long fine and we decided to get married insh'Allah. I introduced her to my mother and my family, I thought all hell would break out but my mother and her and my sisters liked each other very much, After this, My mother just joked with me "So you liked arab girls" lol. The real problems begun when I went with my uncle to the girls father, He understood why I was her, After we discussed He said to to me that He would Never give his doughter to me, I asked him why he said "Becouse your a Turk". I talked to him many times and after 5 months I went to him again, He didnt even recive my salams, At this time the sister got sick becouse of all this and he called me and said, He agreed to the marriage,
Alhamdulilah, After we planned the wedding he says that the mehr should be 8000$, Subhnallah, I was shocked when I heard this, I talked to to her and said did you claim so much for the mehr, and She said that her father forced her to say this, The father wants us allways to break up, Subhanallah. This humiliated me infront of my family. When I see him I get very angry, He prococes me sometimes so I hit him. I've called the iman and brothers to talk to him but he will not listen. He also said once Why do you have those clothes and this beard? Arent you educated,? He says these things infront of my future wife. I'am a student, I cant afford 8000$ the mahr, ANd this is very un usal high mahr. Even if I pay he will not give the money to my future wife, He will take it himself..
I dont know what to do, Can he do that? Please make du'a.
jazakallahu khayr.
Alhamdulilah I am getting married, Please make du'a that evething goes okay. The problem begun when My mother said to me that I was going to marry a sister from our home town in turkey. I said okay After a few months when I met her, I didnt want to marry her and he was also a good muslimah. When I said this to my mother she became very angry against me, Evetytime I see her she screams at me says why didnt you do that, She blames me and eveything, Becouse of this I moved to my best friends house (My best friend is from Eritrea, And I have allways hanged around eritreans. During this time The brother introduced me to a sister from Eritrea, who was a good Muslimah. We got a long fine and we decided to get married insh'Allah. I introduced her to my mother and my family, I thought all hell would break out but my mother and her and my sisters liked each other very much, After this, My mother just joked with me "So you liked arab girls" lol. The real problems begun when I went with my uncle to the girls father, He understood why I was her, After we discussed He said to to me that He would Never give his doughter to me, I asked him why he said "Becouse your a Turk". I talked to him many times and after 5 months I went to him again, He didnt even recive my salams, At this time the sister got sick becouse of all this and he called me and said, He agreed to the marriage,
Alhamdulilah, After we planned the wedding he says that the mehr should be 8000$, Subhnallah, I was shocked when I heard this, I talked to to her and said did you claim so much for the mehr, and She said that her father forced her to say this, The father wants us allways to break up, Subhanallah. This humiliated me infront of my family. When I see him I get very angry, He prococes me sometimes so I hit him. I've called the iman and brothers to talk to him but he will not listen. He also said once Why do you have those clothes and this beard? Arent you educated,? He says these things infront of my future wife. I'am a student, I cant afford 8000$ the mahr, ANd this is very un usal high mahr. Even if I pay he will not give the money to my future wife, He will take it himself..
I dont know what to do, Can he do that? Please make du'a.
jazakallahu khayr.