Ummah Weddings

[Chained_Water]

OK.. I'm probably going to get told off for this because it may be slightly controversial (yes I’m being a naughty mod tonight) :outta:

Buttttt... after the success and excitement of the last ummah wedding (mashaAllah, aint they cute :love: ).. :D

I was just wondering and couldn't help but ask..

Try to behave though!

[Chained_Water]

P.S. Don't worry it's not a public poll... BUT you can still tell us all about it in a post :p

[Mr_Jailer]

Chained W: You're keen and enthusiastic 'bout the marriage idea according to some of the posts you've posted on related topics.

Since you opened this thread care to share your views on marryin' someone you met from online?

:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

[Jam]

:salams

How many Ummah weddings have there been so far? I know the recent one, but have there been any before? :confused:

:wswrwb:

[Marwan]

I was thinking of telling my future wife about this Forum but this thread just scared that prospect away.

Plus, we have alot of differing views so it'll just be ackward. I don't want internal squabbles broadcasted throughout Nerd-Wave Central. I can just imagine Ali Khan and the other Akhawan telling me to "control my woman.":D (I love you guys BTW)

[mara]

:salams

How many Ummah weddings have there been so far? I know the recent one, but have there been any before? :confused:

:wswrwb:Mu'minah wedding summer last year:) They met each other here ,one year engagement followed by wedding:)

[moshyman]

Don't tell me.. there's gonna be like a 'Ummah' divorce centre too...

[Jam]

:salams

Mu'minah wedding summer last year:) They met each other here ,one year engagement followed by wedding:) :masha: :D How wonderful! May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Tala give them life long happiness!

Don't tell me.. there's gonna be like a 'Ummah' divorce centre too...:sub: very optimistic of you akhi. you need my marriage pep-talk (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=50415&p=529699) I think!

:wswrwb:

[moshyman]

Hehe no pep-talks for me. marriage will find me soon enough... In fact I believe my mother is buggin' me about it now...


'Ummah' Marriages are okay as long as we stick to within our limits...

[Jam]

:wswrwb:

'Ummah' Marriages are okay as long as we stick to within our limits...I agree akhi that we should strive for taqwa - however its when the intention is NOT marriage that limits are gravely transgressed akhi. There is no better union, than an Islamic union between two people for the sake of Allah!!! Have a look around you (your at uni aren't you?) and see the number of muslims bf/gf relationships. :sub: thats where limits are transgressed.

I sincerely think a internet forums like this are a better compromise. People aren't actually in each others' presence personally and they are discussing Islam. If someone likes what someone else is saying (note they are being judged on their words, views and knowledge - and not on superficial things like looks) and has intention of marriage, they can initiate a dialogiue through an intermediary - and begin the process.

Just remember how our noble Prophet :saw:'s wife Khadija (ra) proposed to him? Proposals are fine, if done the right way - and the intention is Nikkah!! :D

:wswrwb:

[seven]

hey! there's no option for me! :inlove:

[sajid]

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=32252

[mara]

hey! there's no option for me! :inlove:you found your half:love: We know that,:p

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

well..insha'allah my future wife is ummm...aware of Ummah..but did i have to meet her on here??..

[Mary Carol]

Don't polls belong in The Polling Station?

http://www.ummah.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=106

[MG]

i wanna know who the 14.29% are who are trying to set a date!!!


come one,own up!!

[moshyman]

Im one of the No way! Have you seen the weirdo’s in this place?! I don’t have a death wish thank you.

[MG]

Im one of the
wow!!!

omg!! who is she,who is she!!


dont u dare say u cant tell us!

[moshyman]

wow!!!

omg!! who is she,who is she!!


dont u dare say u cant tell us!

Err.. I cant tell you...:D

[MG]

Err.. I cant tell you...:D
not fair,then u shouldnt have told me?

how about a clue? have i been in convo with her?

wait a minute........u joined feb2005 and your alredy making plans to get married!!!

not fair,not fair at all................

[Jam]

:salams

not fair,then u shouldnt have told me?

how about a clue? have i been in convo with her?

wait a minute........u joined feb2005 and your alredy making plans to get married!!!

not fair,not fair at all................
Sis, I think you should read his post (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showpost.php?p=530077&postcount=17) again.

:wswrwb:

[MG]

:salams


Sis, I think you should read his post (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showpost.php?p=530077&postcount=17) again.

:wswrwb:
moshyman,that is not nice!!! leading me on like that!! u coulda told me..thanx bro anjum,for saving me further emabrassment.

*face goes red,runs out of the room*

[salma_]

already married so can't take part.

but who has been married here recently.

[MG]

already married so can't take part.

but who has been married here recently.#


seven and ze

[ze leetle elper]

I know of one coming up inshaAllah :D

[Ebony]

I know of one coming up inshaAllah :D
Not A & B is it?!

[ze leetle elper]

A, B, C, D...who knows? :D

[MG]

A, B, C, D...who knows? :Di think u have a RIGHT to tell us.....see u in the SISTERS FORUM!!

[Ebony]

i think u have a RIGHT to tell us.....see u in the SISTERS FORUM!!
we all know who it is anyway....whether Ze tells us or not!

[MG]

we all know who it is anyway....whether Ze tells us or not!
wel the sis over here (me) has obviously been left out, will someone please tell me(or u can PM)

[Jam]

:salams

i think u have a RIGHT to tell us.....see u in the SISTERS FORUM!!Hold on Hold on! If there's a wedding, then obviously its a sister AND a brother - thus this information should not be confined to the Sisters forum!! :freedom:

we all know who it is anyway....whether Ze tells us or not!We do? :confused:

:wswrwb:

[Ebony]

wel the sis over here (me) has obviously been left out, will someone please tell me(or u can PM)
yeaahh...pop into Sis section and il ~bump~ the thread fr u ;)

Anjum: U go bck and give the Bro Section a good dusting :p

[Jam]

Anjum: U go bck and give the Bro Section a good dusting :p
Well at least you remembered I am a bro :p

[Ebony]

Well at least you remembered I am a bro :p
i hve memory lapses Sis.

[Ebony]

~not related to my previous posts~

Sajid has marriage in the pipeline. he jst likes bein secretive abt it

and sis CW...hve u got something up ur sleeve too? ;)

[MG]

~not related to my previous posts~

Sajid has marriage in the pipeline. he jst likes bein secretive abt it

and sis CW...hve u got something up ur sleeve too? ;)
i await u in the sis section or why dont u jus PM me!!!

[Ebony]

i await u in the sis section or why dont u jus PM me!!!
i bumped the thread fr u :p go hve a peek!

[Al-Nasser]

something strange happened.....everytime i try to view this thread Internet Explorer freeze.....i took that as a sign...a sign like "one click away from doom" or "vote now and regeret eternally"

i don't understand...i was trying to read this thread with pure intentions wallah :scratch:

[MG]

i bumped the thread fr u :p go hve a peek!
sis i dont understand exaclty what i read,jus gimme da names!!!!!!

[Chained_Water]

LOL, now I wanna know who's wife would kill them! :rotfl:

seven: the thread is inspired by you and ze so theres no need for an option for you :p (though you do have the "wife would kill me" one available, lol )

saj: stop being so secretive :freedom:

Ebony: nope.. nothing in the pipelines, I'd make a huge global announcement thingy on the forum if there was :banan:

[Makki]

this obsession with marriage is so weird.......

i aint getting married till im at least mid-20s inshaAllah

[MG]

yeaahh...pop into Sis section and il ~bump~ the thread fr u ;)

Anjum: U go bck and give the Bro Section a good dusting :p
i found who it is getting married!!

Awwwwwww!!! so sweeeett!!

[Jam]

:salams

this obsession with marriage is so weird.......

i aint getting married till im at least mid-20s inshaAllah:insha: akhi! I hope we all will be invited!! :D

i found who it is getting married!!

Awwwwwww!!! so sweeeett!!Come on spill the beans sis! :p

:wswrwb:

[Slayeress_]

whos marrying.? any1 from UK?

[Makki]

:salams

:insha: akhi! I hope we all will be invited!! :D
oh of course...

Come on spill the beans sis! :p
obviously its Art...

[Ebony]

i found who it is getting married!!

Awwwwwww!!! so sweeeett!!
hoooraaaah!
u didnt hear it from me tho :p (u probably didnt...doesnt seem like my bumping of the thread in sis section -which u were supposed to read!- and the link helped!)

[MG]

hoooraaaah!
u didnt hear it from me tho :p (u probably didnt...doesnt seem like my bumping of the thread in sis section -which u were supposed to read!- and the link helped!)
its cool, even thou i had to put out a SECOND SOS!!

[MG]

:salams

:insha: akhi! I hope we all will be invited!! :D

Come on spill the beans sis! :p

:wswrwb:
bro anjum,im sorry but my lips are sealed,if i tell ya ill hav to kill ya!

[Ebony]

Anjum: Why dont u enquire abt it in the BRO SECTION?
dont u still hve cobwebs to dust?

[Ahlam]

people obssesed about marriage or what?!:rolleyes:

i have already someone in mind:evilb:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

Don't polls belong in The Polling Station?

http://www.ummah.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=106
Assalam Alaykum Sister Mariam

Thanks for pointing this out, I was wondering the same :)

[Chained_Water]

:eek: Who sis Ahlam.. tell tell!

Hey there's nothing wrong with talking about the M word.. we need it every once in a while in ummah :p

Makki: Hey you! You started a thread it marriage not so long ago or have you forgotten already? :D

[Chained_Water]

Chained W: You're keen and enthusiastic 'bout the marriage idea according to some of the posts you've posted on related topics.

Since you opened this thread care to share your views on marryin' someone you met from online?

:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
Brothers first :D

I will give my views later inshaAllah :banan:

[Ahlam]

:eek: Who sis Ahlam.. tell tell!


it is my sweet secret:evilb:

[Marwan]

Anjum: Why dont u enquire abt it in the BRO SECTION?
dont u still hve cobwebs to dust?

Cobwebs? I'll have you know that place is vibrant as ever.:D

Now the drainage problem, that's a whole different issue.

[Jam]

:salams

:masha:! :masha: Good to hear so many are ready to fulfil half their deen!! :D

I hope I will get an invitation to the brothers' section of all these weddings!! http://img206.exs.cx/img206/8343/bananas9hb.gif

:wswrwb:

[Chained_Water]

Bro Anjum: where are you getting all the cool banana's from :eek:

Sis Alham: Sisters section.. NOW! I want details, pleasssse :embar:

(You know, Anjum/Ahlam... I always get you two confused!)

[Chained_Water]

I wanna know who those 4 users are who've thought about it but don't have the courage to pursue it further!

TELL ME!

We'll all help you get it sorted :D

You could be happily :inlove: with a little bit of help :banan:

Come on.. own up!

[Muslimah1210]

no intentions of getting a guy thru net lol

I'm trying hard to concentrate on seeking knowledge allahmdulillah. Marraige is the last thing on my mind.

brothers and sisters out there who are gonna getting married...May Allah fulfill all your wishes and bless you with lot of happiness in this world and hereAfter Ameen.

walaikum salaam wr wb.

[Ahlam]

Sis Alham: Sisters section.. NOW! I want details, pleasssse :embar:


then it wouldn't be a secret:D

[Chained_Water]

It would so be a secret.. it'd be a secret that I'm in on :D

[Ebony]

It would so be a secret.. it'd be a secret that I'm in on :D
I might tell u who ONE of the 4 people are...if u tell me ur NAME sis :p

[Ahlam]

I might tell u who ONE of the 4 people are...if u tell me ur NAME sis :p
i know her name...tell me who the person is and i'll tell you....:up:

[Chained_Water]

Ebony:

My name? Oh.. is it that time of the week again?
I'll give you another clue in the thread in sis section :p

You're not one of them are you?! :eek:
You seem so anti-marriage.. but I think that is just a front, really you're a mushy monster waiting to be unleashed :rotfl:

[Ahlam]

It would so be a secret.. it'd be a secret that I'm in on :D
good try ukht...but err it is my secret!:inlove:

[Chained_Water]

i know her name...tell me who the person is and i'll tell you....:up:You do NOT!

Oops.. are you just sneakily trying to get info out of her :embar:

[Ebony]

Im one step ahead of you ladies ;)

CW:
nah, no clues..im getting BORED of them!

[Ahlam]

You do NOT!

Oops.. are you just sneakily trying to get info out of her :embar:
you are so not good at this:rolleyes: let the master be at work ey sister:evilb:

[Chained_Water]

good try ukht...but err it is my secret!:inlove::rubeyes:

:(

:crying:

Don't you trust me sis?

At least tell us in sis section or even here if it'll be an ummah wedding :(

I'm going to be upset until you reveal more information :crying:

[Chained_Water]

Im one step ahead of you ladies ;)

CW:
nah, no clues..im getting BORED of them!
I'm not bored of them though :D

:banan:

[Ebony]

I'm not bored of them though :D

:banan:
~sigh~

[Ahlam]

:rubeyes:

:(

:crying:

Don't you trust me sis?

At least tell us in sis section or even here if it'll be an ummah wedding :(

I'm going to be upset until you reveal more information :crying:
you know i hate people crying...it makes me cry! you are doing this on purpose! my soft spot...:(

i'll tell you when the person comes!:rolleyes:

[Ahlam]

Im one step ahead of you ladies ;)


you can't be! we have started yet:rolleyes:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

Asslam Alaykum

As much as i dont approve of this thread, I voted for the category i come under by mistake :embar:

Is there a way I can undo this? :p

[MG]

right,i lot better include me in on this, otherwise i will be very angry.......we r sisters ,we can tell eachother anything and secrets are always safe,now spill.....

[Ahlam]

right,i lot better include me in on this, otherwise i will be very angry.......we r sisters ,we can tell eachother anything and secrets are always safe,now spill.....
a secret is never a secret sister if you tell another person....my lips are sealed tightly! too tightly...

[Ebony]

you can't be! we have started yet:rolleyes:
ive started alright...

[Jam]

:salams

Asslam Alaykum

As much as i dont approve of this thread, I voted for the category i come under by mistake :embar:
LOL mouse slipped accidentally over the correct option and you happened to lean on the left button at that exact time eh? :D :p

:wswrwb:

[Chained_Water]

Asslam Alaykum

As much as i dont approve of this thread, I voted for the category i come under by mistake :embar:

Is there a way I can undo this? :p



Wa alaikum as salaam,

Of course bro.. if you tell us which category you fall into.. I can deduct a vote from it :p

So go on :D

[Ahlam]

ive started alright...
*cough* cheater *cough*:rolleyes: lol...

[MG]

ive started alright...
sis ebony, sis CW we gotta join forces, sis ahlam, if u dont tell us,what kinda sis does that make u? telling us would be like u never said a word!!

[Ebony]

Always stay one step ahead of the competition as they say... ;)

[Chained_Water]

I'm doing the crying sis.. I'm too upset by this secrecy amongst sisters :crying:

I can barely breath with all this crying :crying:

You tell her off sis muslim_girl.. I'm too busy picking up the broken pieces of my heart.

[Ahlam]

I'm doing the crying sis.. I'm too upset by this secrecy amongst sisters :crying:

I can barely breath with all this crying :crying:

You tell her off sis muslim_girl.. I'm too busy picking up the broken pieces of my heart.
aww bless i'm touched...but the answer is still no!:D


sister MG what kinda of sister am i? the one love by you all:inlove:

[Ebony]

I'm doing the crying sis.. I'm too upset by this secrecy amongst sisters :crying:

I can barely breath with all this crying :crying:

You tell her off sis muslim_girl.. I'm too busy picking up the broken pieces of my heart.
ha! Sheeps in wolves clothing :p

Its so WONDERFUL to hve info others want!

EXHILIRATING! ~Mwahahahaaaa cough cough..splutter splutter

[MG]

ok,tell me whenu finished crying cos then u can take over,ok?


sis Ahlam: and if we sisters end up losing our dignity (thru begging and pleading,till it got downright embarrasing!) then, our "contact" (CW) will ban u from the sisters section and me and sis Ebony will never talk to u again and if u STILL dont tell us...............................we will ban u from Ummah.com!!

[mara]

Ahlam if you could not keep the secret and don't say anything ,now you are forced to speak.

Why?
Because he will think you are ashamed by him, he has some huge faults or a secret wife on this forum which was not announce yet. I will take in this way.

[Chained_Water]

Sis Ebs.. you know who sis Ahlam has in mind for marriage? :eek:

No way!

That is so not right :crying:

[Chained_Water]

ok,tell me whenu finished crying cos then u can take over,ok?


sis Ahlam: and if we sisters end up losing our dignity (thru begging and pleading,till it got downright embarrasing!) then, our "contact" (CW) will ban u from the sisters section and me and sis Ebony will never talk to u again and if u STILL dont tell us...............................we will ban u from Ummah.com!!:eek: LOL.. getting forceful eh?

:rotfl:

[Chained_Water]

Where's bro Salman gone.. and bro Anjum?

This is turning into the sisters section :freedom:

[MG]

:eek: LOL.. getting forceful eh?

:rotfl:
hey,i gotta do something!!

and anyhow u girls find out b4 me, u better tell me,i mean it!!

this forcefullness and threatening behaviour takes alot out of me u know!!

[Ahlam]

ok,tell me whenu finished crying cos then u can take over,ok?


sis Ahlam: and if we sisters end up losing our dignity (thru begging and pleading,till it got downright embarrasing!) then, our "contact" (CW) will ban u from the sisters section and me and sis Ebony will never talk to u again and if u STILL dont tell us...............................we will ban u from Ummah.com!!
is that a threat?:eek2: i don't work well in a pressure:rolleyes: :D and who said 'he' knows i have him in mind...stop assuming sisters...you are all wrong, he he.

I know something you don't know...

a sweet secret...
I know something you don't know...:evilb:

[Chained_Water]

sis that is evil.. you can't tease us like this..

he doesn't know? :eek:

OMG, does that mean you're one of those without the courage to pursue it.. TELL US!

We'll help you :D

[Ahlam]

sis that is evil.. you can't tease us like this..

he doesn't know? :eek:

OMG, does that mean you're one of those without the courage to pursue it.. TELL US!

We'll help you :D
lol....i told you, i'll tell you when he comes here....:rolleyes:

my secret....
ain't secrets so sweet when kept hidden? :D

[Ahlam]

come on now sisters you know me better than that! like i'd see the brothers on the forum as anything but my fellow brothers in Islam! honestly sisters....it was jokes! the secret is no longer a secret :(

[Chained_Water]

aww :there: no real genuine sad faces allowed OK sis?

Now can the users who voted please stand up :D

[ZawjatuRaafi]

i just thought this was a neat little story... i met a sister the other day and we got to talking about how we met our hubbys and mashaa Allah she met her hubby in ummah chat :)

they married 2 years later and al hamdulillah are still very happily married that was 4 years ago mashaa Allah...

[Ahlam]

there is no poll for me to vote for!

[MG]

i just thought this was a neat little story... i met a sister the other day and we got to talking about how we met our hubbys and mashaa Allah she met her hubby in ummah chat :)

they married 2 years later and al hamdulillah are still very happily married that was 4 years ago mashaa Allah...
hmmmmm, im getting ideas.....

[Ahlam]

i just thought this was a neat little story... i met a sister the other day and we got to talking about how we met our hubbys and mashaa Allah she met her hubby in ummah chat :)

they married 2 years later and al hamdulillah are still very happily married that was 4 years ago mashaa Allah...
wow mashallah....

i'd like to warn you sisters in advance....you won't see me announcing my wedding to a fellow ummah brother! (no offense good brothers)

[Chained_Water]

aww :) mashaAllah.. thats nice sis asiyah

which sis was it?

There are quite a few ummah chat marriages.. not all turned out well :(

[Ahlam]

aww :) mashaAllah.. thats nice sis asiyah

which sis was it?

There are quite a few ummah chat marriages.. not all turned out well :(
hence why i shall not marry someone from ummah (once again no offense good brothers)...i don't like the whole 'i told you so' rubbish:D ain't i a smart girl!

this is all girls-Go sisters!

[Chained_Water]

:rubeyes:

LOOK! Someone else just needs to set the date! :inlove: May Allah(swt) bless their marriage :D

[MG]

:rubeyes:

LOOK! Someone else just needs to set the date! :inlove: May Allah(swt) bless their marriage :D
Ameen!

[Jam]

:salams

LOL so all that crying and begging was for nothing? :p LOL honestly you sisters are drama queens (meant in the most brotherly way :D )

:wswrwb:

[Ebony]

Wt i said was true..dnt know abt anyone else tho..

[Mr_Jailer]

Guys get too emotional, but they keep their emotions locked inside :freedom:

Sisters are more ready to *open up* - i guess they have to, if guys don't.

At the end of the day girls want lots of info... they love payin' attention to detail, they just like to know 'bout everythin'.

There's a sister at work who wants to know 'bout everythin'... it comes a time where i reply politely 'if i felt u needed to know, i' wud've told ya' :inlove:

It seems to do the trick... cos I have noticed that 'what u didn't need to know' info can be used to backbite ppl by cross-referencin' and puttin' 2 and 2 together at a later date.

:cool:

So, now brothers have 'opened up' can u Chained Sis, give your 2 cents.

*Awaits patiently* though I guess I'd be readin' ur posts at 7am in the morn', as ur doin' nights as per usual ;)

[Chained_Water]

Yeh I'm always on the graveyard shift.. not for long though.. I have work lined up starting next week inshaAllah :D

What do you mean the brothers have opened up? You basically gave no info whatsoever in your post :p ..did you think I wouldn't notice?

So go on.. which option did you pick in the poll? Thats all you need to say

[Mr_Jailer]

Al-Muwatta Hadith

Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab from Ali ibn Husayn ibn Ali ibn
Abi Talib that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, said, "Part of the excellence of a man's Islam is that he leaves what
does not concern him."

:inlove::freedom:

[Mr_Jailer]

Yeh I'm always on the graveyard shift.. not for long though.. I have work lined up starting next week inshaAllah :D

What do you mean the brothers have opened up? You basically gave no info whatsoever in your post :p ..did you think I wouldn't notice?

So go on.. which option did you pick in the poll? Thats all you need to say
There's no option for me in that poll so I abstained.

My answer would be that I'd give myself a 2% chance of findin' s/o from online.

Failin' that, best head *back home* and give a sister the opportunity to get her own copy of the 'Red Book' :eek2:

[Chained_Water]

:eek2: a passport?

I hope you find a sister there who has more than that in mind as a basis for marriage.

[Jam]

:salams

:inlove::freedom:Ahki this suffix to your post could mean one of two things:

1. You love freedom (of being single)
2. You are in love with the idea of an Islamic marriage, but you want freedom from the Spanish inquisition.

Now which is it?
You tell your bro now can't you, I mean we are bros :banbear: :fastcar: :bangbang: :badguy:

:wswrwb:

[Mr_Jailer]

:eek2: a passport?

I hope you find a sister there who has more than that in mind as a basis for marriage.
You and me both. :rubeyes:

[Jam]

:salams

There's no option for me in that poll so I abstained. My answer would be that I'd give myself a 2% chance of findin' s/o from online. OK so my post above is void in the light of this. Well 2% is still something, I can work with 2%. I can be your intermediary akhi, just give me the word!

:wswrwb:

[Chained_Water]

Awww, bro Anjum how sweet of you.. so nice to see brotherly concern and love. MashaAllah.

Take it to the brothers forum and sort it out! There is already one other wedding in the pipelines that I am hoping to attend :banan:

Maybe you can arrange another one for us all :up:

[Mr_Jailer]

:salams

Ahki this suffix to your post could mean one of two things:

1. You love freedom (of being single)
2. You are in love with the idea of an Islamic marriage, but you want freedom from the Spanish inquisition.

Now which is it?
You tell your bro now can't you, I mean we are bros :banbear: :fastcar: :bangbang: :badguy:

:wswrwb: Let me open up to the banger I bought last week, but driven for the first time today. Doesn't look like this :fastcar:, but its pretty ruthless at eatin' up tarmac. I'll post pics when I take some.

I'll cut to the chase. RE: no. 2: I've engaged in discussion with unmarried brothers and one or two advised to marry s/o semi-practisin'. Otherwise they'll control you in particular if their educated additionally.

I think he was referrin' to ppl well-versed in their madhabs :scratch: who'll try an impose their madhab views on the hubby, even tho the hubby may not be undertakin' unislamic practises.

So, where ppl are semi-pious, they can grow and mould their Islam on a common ground and increase their understandin' of deen as a tandem, rather than antagonisin'.

There are also pros and cons for marryin' both from *back home* and also *british girls*. I can sympathise with sisters where brothers who have been misbehavin' while in their youths rely on *pious* sisters to improve their deen. This is a wrong approach, and the bro' (and sisters who do this) should mend their ways or make intention to independant of marriage prospects. Havin' experienced bad behaviour, they'll just most probably misbehave while married if their expectations of their partner fail to live to their standards. This isn't really on. :nono:

And as for marryin' from *back home* - there are other issues... I won't mention any, but if you wanna know, maybe I'll tell ya in PM.

Chained: Now that I've opened up, your turn :embar:

[Mr_Jailer]

Maybe you can arrange another one for us all :up:
What a fantastic idea, just hope that Anjum invites me. :fastcar:

[Chained_Water]

:up: on the car..

Hmm, I sort of think I know what you're saying about marrying someone semi-practising.

Err.. although I don't understand what semi-practising actually means :eek2: Weird way to put it I think.. because what does fully practising entail? and what would semi-practising then entail? and is anyone then fully-practising?

Anyways.. I'm assuming you mean that it's better if you marry someone on your own level in terms of thinking, practising and learning Islam.. that way you can grow, learn and develop together? ..as opposed to go in set in your ways and thinking and for those to both be very different and then lead to problems?

Well.. thats what I read your post as.

Hmm, well I'd obviously agree that it's important to be on the same wavelength as your spouse, be able to communicate your thoughts and beliefs properly before marriage so that you know there aren't any MAJOR issues in the household after you marry, esp in terms of bringing the kids up. If you're thinking and goals in terms of deen are different, then you have a rough road ahead of you.. because people can compromise on which area to live in, what you fry your eggs in or whether you have carpets or wooden flooring.. but when it comes to beliefs, compromise is difficult.

As for marrying back home.. let me guess, your mom and dad have a distant (or perhaps not so distant) cousin in mind for you? :p ..Am I right? LOL

As long as you can communicate, respect, commit to one another and accept your differences or overcome them.. then where you're from isn't a major issue :)

[Mr_Jailer]

Its really difficult to communicate your thoughts and beliefs before marriage, if uve never experienced marriage. Gettin' married can actually change values and beliefs. At best before marriage its a stab in the dark... its what you percieve that will happen.

As for parental involvement, it'll be good that mummy would agree to my final say :inlove:

I'm still young, I'm active, I've got a job interview on Friday. Should I get a job in the field I want over the next few years, the liklihood is that I'll live away from home, and I'd expect the wifey to be with me and not mummy. It'd be more important for wifey to get along wid me than it wud be for her to get along with mummy :D

U catch my drift... ?

Now... that car is somethin'... :scratch:

[Chained_Water]

I have a job interview on Friday too! :D

But I'm stuck on what to do.. yesterday I was desperate for a job.. today Alhamdulillah I have two to choose from :scratch:

I'm so undecisive, this is gonna be hard.. probably wait until Friday to decide.

I'm only a gap year student though.. yours sounds more important, so best of luck bro, May Allah(swt) give you success in everything you do.

Living away from home and your wife not having to live with the in-laws can take off sooo much pressure from the marriage, so thats :up: ..Not that all mother-in-laws are horrible.. but it just means theres more than two people to the marriage, the whole family gets tangled up in it, and you know, three is crowd (does that sound like an anti-polygamy comment.. oopsy.. I meant three's a crowd unless you have more than one wife lol)

[Salman Al-Farsi]

Assalam Alaykum

Not sure where the term 'semi practising' and 'practising' came from? The charity case of marrying a cousins from backhome so she can have a good life? And someone who just prays :p

As human beings, and due to our limited knowledge, we cannot alwasy make good decisions. What is important is that our decisions are made according to the Shariah as the furqan (criterian). Narrated Abu Hurraira and it is agreed upon that Prophet (saw) said , "A Women may be married for four qualities, for her property, her rank, her bauty and her religion. So get the religious ones and prosper"

In another hadith:
"He who marries a women for her beauty, Allah will not make him enjoy her beauty, he who marries a woman for her wealth, Allah will not make him enjoy her wealth. He who marries a woman for her deen, Allah will make him enjoy the beauty and the wealth."
Reported both Bukhair and Abu Dawud

Imam Bayhaqi in his Nasa'ee reports that Rasool Allah (saw) described good wife as 'when you see her she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you leave her behind, she guards herself and your property."

These are some of the qualities a Muslim must look for when searching a partner.

Waslaam

[Salman Al-Farsi]

:up: to the Friday interviews :)

[Chained_Water]

Wa alaikum as salaam brother Salman.

JazakAllah Khair for that great post :)

I think ummah weddings would probably be based on deen and good character inshaAllah.. I mean how can anyone here have an intention to marry based wealth or beauty.. for all anyone knows, the person they wish to marry could be the poorest and least attractive person here. ..though of course marrying someone you find completely unattractive would hardly be ideal :eek2:

[Songbird]

this obsession with marriage is so weird.......

i aint getting married till im at least mid-20s inshaAllahI'm so sad I can barely remember my mid 20s...though as I recall they were good years...

[Songbird]

you found your half:love: We know that,:pExcuse my nawtiness, but did you all know that I actually knew Seven before he fell for his sweet-heart?

Yup, betcha didn't know that eh Miss Zee...

Aaaand...

Me was [also] privy to the unfolding of it all...to bro Seven's heart being slowly captured [:love:] by the lovable Miss Zee...

Aaaaaand...

I know a wee bit more too...but there's a cost involved there [and that'll be Sterling too peeps; not bleedin' Rupees!]

[Siddiqa]

I know a wee bit more too...but there's a cost involved there [and that'll be Sterling too peeps; not bleedin' Rupees!]
Hey! psssttt... Songbird!
I can barter some bird feathers... what say you?

And no, before you even think it... they are NOT chicken feathers... they is me own personal collection of different birdies. ;)

[Mr_Jailer]

Assalam Alaykum

Not sure where the term 'semi practising' and 'practising' came from? The charity case of marrying a cousins from backhome so she can have a good life? And someone who just prays :p

As human beings, and due to our limited knowledge, we cannot alwasy make good decisions. What is important is that our decisions are made according to the Shariah as the furqan (criterian). Narrated Abu Hurraira and it is agreed upon that Prophet (saw) said , "A Women may be married for four qualities, for her property, her rank, her bauty and her religion. So get the religious ones and prosper"

In another hadith:
"He who marries a women for her beauty, Allah will not make him enjoy her beauty, he who marries a woman for her wealth, Allah will not make him enjoy her wealth. He who marries a woman for her deen, Allah will make him enjoy the beauty and the wealth."
Reported both Bukhair and Abu Dawud

Imam Bayhaqi in his Nasa'ee reports that Rasool Allah (saw) described good wife as 'when you see her she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you leave her behind, she guards herself and your property."

These are some of the qualities a Muslim must look for when searching a partner.

Waslaam

Thanks for the reminder bro. I came up with the term 'semi-practisin' to define someone as... I know what I mean... but hard to explain at this hour of the morn'... but Chained W was on the right track.

I don't normally label ppl as pious or religious or practisin', and don't get impressed if they label themselves as practisin' if they manage to pray the 5 daily prayers.

There's much more to bein' a Believer - a Muslim who hears and obeys Allah swt Command and acts upon it, than to simply pray 5 times and fast durin' Ramadhan. Allah swt didn't only enjoin prayer on the muslims but sent Muhammad saw to advise us how we conduct our daily life, from with which foot to enter masjid, which finger nails to clip first, the sequence for doin' wudhu, which shoe to put on first, how to behave in a gathering etc etc...

These lil thin's can mould a normal person into a Believer in addition to obligatory acts of worship. But its rare to find a 'Believer'. Its rare to find 'Believers' qualities in your selves.

One can only try n do their best and learn their deen and act upon it. -offtopic:

Its hard to find the qualities to look for in a wife from behind a screen. At least knowin' the person or a friend through friends or family or intermediaries (like Anjum) can provide a means to learn more of the 'real' person as oppossed to their internet personality.

Its a lil bit complicated. And try explainin' to ur gran how u met... 'internet ke hotha?' I hear her ask.

Lol.

[MG]

There's no option for me in that poll so I abstained.

My answer would be that I'd give myself a 2% chance of findin' s/o from online.

Failin' that, best head *back home* and give a sister the opportunity to get her own copy of the 'Red Book' :eek2:
LOL!! it will very difficult to find a sister who dont see the "red book" flash b4 her eyes everytime she looks at her "husband", sad but sooooooooooo tru!

[Salman Al-Farsi]

Thanks for the reminder bro. I came up with the term 'semi-practisin' to define someone as... I know what I mean... but hard to explain at this hour of the morn'... but Chained W was on the right track.

I don't normally label ppl as pious or religious or practisin', and don't get impressed if they label themselves as practisin' if they manage to pray the 5 daily prayers.

There's much more to bein' a Believer - a Muslim who hears and obeys Allah swt Command and acts upon it, than to simply pray 5 times and fast durin' Ramadhan. Allah swt didn't only enjoin prayer on the muslims but sent Muhammad saw to advise us how we conduct our daily life, from with which foot to enter masjid, which finger nails to clip first, the sequence for doin' wudhu, which shoe to put on first, how to behave in a gathering etc etc...

These lil thin's can mould a normal person into a Believer in addition to obligatory acts of worship. But its rare to find a 'Believer'. Its rare to find 'Believers' qualities in your selves.

One can only try n do their best and learn their deen and act upon it. -offtopic:

Its hard to find the qualities to look for in a wife from behind a screen. At least knowin' the person or a friend through friends or family or intermediaries (like Anjum) can provide a means to learn more of the 'real' person as oppossed to their internet personality.

Its a lil bit complicated. And try explainin' to ur gran how u met... 'internet ke hotha?' I hear her ask.

Lol.
Assalam Alaykum Bro

I agree, Mashalah you have a great outlook.

But you know, sometimes our bros and sis start looking for ideals somewhat from a fantasy world, if you know what I mean. :)

[Salman Al-Farsi]

LOL!! it will very difficult to find a sister who dont see the "red book" flash b4 her eyes everytime she looks at her "husband", sad but sooooooooooo tru!Assalam Alaykum

I am sure its not that bad, :) we all want a better life. Back home they are made to believe its a better life out here.

Alot of my cousins did back home marriages, they are very happy, my older bro is heading off next month for the same. But me ..naa, never. :)

[ze leetle elper]

Excuse my nawtiness, but did you all know that I actually knew Seven before he fell for his sweet-heart?

Yup, betcha didn't know that eh Miss Zee...
Oh yes I did ;)

I also have some information on you my dear-- so let the blackmail begin! :D

[Mary Carol]

Where's the option:

I’ve thought about it but.. his wife would kill me!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

Wait..wat...i m so0 lost on this thread..haha

[Mr Nadu]

I got married with someone i met online and i got my UK Visa as well.

[Salman Al-Farsi]

I got married with someone i met online and i got my UK Visa as well.
Great, I hope no one from Ummah forums :)

[sajid]

u know actually this option

"No way! Have you seen the weirdo’s in this place?! I don’t have a death wish thank you."

i dont think its a good option..........once u get to know a person wud u still see them as a weirdo?

its the same with anything meeting ur spouse...maybe a friend friend whom u never seen before...of course u aint gonna marry anyone that u pick on this forum........

[Jam]

:salams

I got married with someone i met online and i got my UK Visa as well.
LOL Am I the only one that lives in the UK, but wants to move East? :nuts:

:wswrwb:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

i lived in e.london for too long.

[Jam]

:salams

i lived in e.london for too long.
I meant Midde East ahki!! :nuts:

:wswrwb:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

:salams


I meant Midde East ahki!! :nuts:

:wswrwb:

Assalam Alaykum

I know, but there isnt anything in middle-east that you dont find in e.london.
Except for the obvious.

[slmz :)]

well..insha'allah my future wife is ummm...aware of Ummah..but did i have to meet her on here??..

oooh is that a gud thing or a bad thing!?!?!?!?;)

[Salman Al-Farsi]

BTW who were the last Ummah couple?

[slmz :)]

i dunno.. all i no is that za nd seven got married.... dunno bout ne1 els???:eek2:

[Jam]

:salams

Someone also mentioned Sister Mu'minah got married with a brother from here :masha:, and I read somewhere that another couple got married via Ummah chat :masha:

:wswrwb:

[Muslimah1210]

Assalam Alaykum

Not sure where the term 'semi practising' and 'practising' came from? The charity case of marrying a cousins from backhome so she can have a good life? And someone who just prays :p

As human beings, and due to our limited knowledge, we cannot alwasy make good decisions. What is important is that our decisions are made according to the Shariah as the furqan (criterian). Narrated Abu Hurraira and it is agreed upon that Prophet (saw) said , "A Women may be married for four qualities, for her property, her rank, her bauty and her religion. So get the religious ones and prosper"

In another hadith:
"He who marries a women for her beauty, Allah will not make him enjoy her beauty, he who marries a woman for her wealth, Allah will not make him enjoy her wealth. He who marries a woman for her deen, Allah will make him enjoy the beauty and the wealth."
Reported both Bukhair and Abu Dawud

Imam Bayhaqi in his Nasa'ee reports that Rasool Allah (saw) described good wife as 'when you see her she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you leave her behind, she guards herself and your property."

These are some of the qualities a Muslim must look for when searching a partner.

Waslaam

ASalamualaikum wr wb,

these days people are not really looking for religious person.

guys looking for beauty, education(worldly), wealth and other things.

I know few girls who are getting rejected, because of the way they look.

If the girl is not beautiful, she doesn't have right to get married? even when she is religious?

Only true muslims can understand those hadiths :)

May Allah swt keep us on the right path...the path of pious...Ameen.

walaikum salaam wr wb.

[Salman Al-Farsi]

ASalamualaikum wr wb,

these days people are not really looking for religious person.

guys looking for beauty, education(worldly), wealth and other things.

I know few girls who are getting rejected, because of the way they look.

If the girl is not beautiful, she doesn't have right to get married? even when she is religious?

Only true muslims can understand those hadiths :)

May Allah swt keep us on the right path...the path of pious...Ameen.

walaikum salaam wr wb.
Assalam Alaykum

Well said, I agree, this is a big problem amongst young Muslims, the influnece of society has made people believe in something called the 'ideal'.

It is a condition that the suiters have to find each other attractive, but this does not mean people should look for Miss world or Rambo lookalike, just means they are a suitable couple. Everyone is attractive in their own way, even shrek found someone :)

If the criteria extracted from the above Ahadith is not the one of Muslims when seeking a suitable marriage partners, in that case they will be accountable for it in the Akhirah, there will be no blessing in their marriage and Allah tala will not be pleased with them.

It is great injustice for a sister or her Wali to reject the proposal of a Brother who is upright and pious, and according to the hadith if he is turned away a great fitnah will befall. In the same way if a brother rejects a sister without considering her fear of Allah (swt) it would be injustice and he would have to answer Allah on the day of judgement.

I am told by brothers who are married, that physical attraction dies down after a while, its only the fear of Allah that remains and correct motivation of enjoying each others company for the sake of Allah tal and to raise an Islamic family.

[Jam]

:salams

these days people are not really looking for religious person.

guys looking for beauty, education(worldly), wealth and other things.

I know few girls who are getting rejected, because of the way they look.

If the girl is not beautiful, she doesn't have right to get married? even when she is religious? :masha: Sister you are correct,

However may I humbly add that I know of pious practising brothers who have also been rejected because of the same reason, or they don't have an "athletic build", and I know many, many brothers who get rejected because they aren't rolling in money. Its a two way street unfortunately.

May Allah give us all guidance to choose our spouses with the correct intentions. Ameen.

:wswrwb:

[Salman Al-Farsi]

:salams

:masha: Sister you are correct,

However may I humbly add that I know of pious practising brothers who have also been rejected because of the same reason, or they don't have an "athletic build", and I know many, many brothers who get rejected because they aren't rolling in money. Its a two way street unfortunately.

May Allah give us all guidance to choose our spouses with the correct intentions. Ameen.

:wswrwb:
Assalam Alaykum

When brothers or sisters get rejected as above, they should be happy that Allah Tala saved them.

[sajid]

or like they say

A blessing in disguise...

I heard another good one

If allah wants u to have something he will give u

if allah dont want you to have something he will say no and give you something much better!

[Ahlam]

or like they say

A blessing in disguise...

I heard another good one

If allah wants u to have something he will give u

if allah dont want you to have something he will say no and give you something much better!
brother he won't say 'no' that is personification...but i get what you mean...i just felt like being annoying:embar:

i didn't vote....

[Ebony]

It was me.

[Ahlam]

It was me.
he he...finally came out of your shell ey?:D

[Chained_Water]

Where's the option:

I’ve thought about it but.. his wife would kill me!:rotfl: I didn't think of that one.. maybe I should add it ;)

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

lol..its a good thing ;)

[Chained_Water]

Saj the "No way....." option was lighthearted.. I doubt everyone who voted thinks all the users are weirdo's :)

It's just for people who are totally anti having an ummah wedding.

[Shaolin's-Finest]

are you lot trying to workout who voted "Yes, we both want to marry, all that remains is setting the date." ???

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

i was one of them...

[Ebony]

Provisional date set is the 27th of Aug 2005

Ws

[Jam]

:salams

Provisional date set is the 27th of Aug 2005

Ws:eek: :masha:!! :D

:wswrwb:

[ze leetle elper]

Provisional date set is the 27th of Aug 2005
WHAT?! :eek:
(That's my birthday :D )

[Ebony]

Luvly

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

Ebony..u were the other one?

[Ebony]

Ebony..u were the other one?
As above

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

wait ok..i was one of the pple who put the first one..are u the 2nd lol?? j/w

[Ebony]

Yes

[outlandish]

Yesreally :O
who is the lucky guy?

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

awww!

[Ebony]

awww!
:eek2: do u find evrything cute?!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

yes i do!!!

[sajid]

Thank you soo much it worked :D

[Ebony]

Thank you soo much it worked :D
eh? elaborate

[sajid]

Oooooooopps Sorry wrong forum :embar: :embar:

[Ebony]

Oooooooopps Sorry wrong forum :embar: :embar:
Send us the wedding invite when u get them printed

Ta.

[sajid]

Indeed on the condition that - there must be net access in the wedding hall - incase my server goes down and if i have to reboot it!

[Ebony]

Il bring my laptop
dnt u worry about it Saj

[Mary Carol]

So the question is, will I be visiting the
Highlands in August or another locale?

[Ebony]

So the question is, will I be visiting the
Highlands in August or another locale?
Strathclyde

Highlands is too far up north

[sajid]

Il bring my laptop
dnt u worry about it Saj
as long as it got Wireless Internet Connection 10mbs! Then that would be Fab! ull get special treatment ;)

[Ebony]

as long as it got Wireless Internet Connection 10mbs! Then that would be Fab! ull get special treatment ;)
I get special treatment anyway

[Abdul-Curim]

number of threads on marriage on the increase why not try the questionaire below ...

Questions to Ask a Prospective Marriage Partner

Don't just rush into marriage. Sort out these key issues in advance.

click below

http://www.islamfortoday.com/marriage01.htm

[mara]

Provisional date set is the 27th of Aug 2005

Ws
Congratulation :love:

[Ahlam]

so Ebony getting married ey?...i want an invitation and i'm sorry but i don't take 'no' as an answer, lol, mabrook ukht! May Allah (swt) shower his blessings on you and your hubby-to-be!

[Uthman]

Congratulations Ebony! May Allah grant you both a long life with health, prosperity and happiness!http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_3_4v.gif Ameen!

[Ayah]

Below, I posted a little reminder for myself, first and foremost, and everyone else. Now, with respect to this topic that was brought up: If someone has a prospective spouse in mind, please talk to your parents about this issue. If you're not able to do this, then don't bother going any further. Some people let conversations & communications carry on for years without informing their parents about it, and in the end, they find out that either their parents disapprove or they can't even consult with them about it. So before taking matters like this too far, it's extremely important to speak to your parents :) Wallahi, I can't say that enough. Otherwise, you might end up hurting yourself, and worst of all, your fellow Muslim brother/sister.

~Ayah

www.islamonline.net (http://www.islamonline.net/)
Internet chat is very similar to writing letters or talking to someone on phone. Actually it is a combination of both. Muslims have to observe the same rules as they observe in writing letters or making telephone calls. Islam does not permit love letters or intimate conversations between males and females who are not married to each other.

In all our correspondence and conversations we must observe haya' or modesty. Boys and girls should not chat with each other just for socialization or passing time. It is haram (unlawful) for a non-mahram Muslim male and female to indulge in long conversations with each other unless it is necessary for education or for business. All conversation must be decent. The Qur'an reminds us again and again that all our words are recorded and we shall be held accountable for our words as well as our deeds on the Day of Judgment. (See Al-Ahzab 33:70; Qaf 50:18)

If one finds an interesting partner through Internet and there is a desire to know more about each other in order to get married, then one should involve one's elders in this matter. Let the elders or some responsible friends do the investigation and negotiation on your behalf. Even when you want to talk to that person, it is good to have an elder present in this chat. In Islam the khalwah (privacy) with the non-Mahram female (ajnabiyyah) is forbidden. Khalwah of course occurs when a male and a female are alone in person. But a virtual khalwah can also happen through conversation by phone or Internet. Just as men and women should not be alone with each other, in a similar way they should not be alone to talk to each other on phone or via Internet chat, especially if this conversation is about personal matters."

[Uthman]

Alhamdulillah! Words of wisdom.

[MG]

as long as it got Wireless Internet Connection 10mbs! Then that would be Fab! ull get special treatment ;)i want an invitation anmd i dont take no's either!

plus i live in london :-)

*runs to wardrobe to see what to wear*

[MG]

As above
think it goes without saying (abotu my invite), jus tell me time and place!!

*runs to wardrobe to see what to wear*

[Ebony]

Yep.
Let me get my (and his) clothes sorted out 1st!

[Salman Al-Farsi]

Assalam Alaykum

This deserves a sticky somewhere.
We should keep a check on ourselves, only we know and Allah knows whats in our heart... inshallah modesty is the best policy in these circumstances.




Below, I posted a little reminder for myself, first and foremost, and everyone else. Now, with respect to this topic that was brought up: If someone has a prospective spouse in mind, please talk to your parents about this issue. If you're not able to do this, then don't bother going any further. Some people let conversations & communications carry on for years without informing their parents about it, and in the end, they find out that either their parents disapprove or they can't even consult with them about it. So before taking matters like this too far, it's extremely important to speak to your parents :) Wallahi, I can't say that enough. Otherwise, you might end up hurting yourself, and worst of all, your fellow Muslim brother/sister.

~Ayah

www.islamonline.net (http://www.islamonline.net/)
Internet chat is very similar to writing letters or talking to someone on phone. Actually it is a combination of both. Muslims have to observe the same rules as they observe in writing letters or making telephone calls. Islam does not permit love letters or intimate conversations between males and females who are not married to each other.

In all our correspondence and conversations we must observe haya' or modesty. Boys and girls should not chat with each other just for socialization or passing time. It is haram (unlawful) for a non-mahram Muslim male and female to indulge in long conversations with each other unless it is necessary for education or for business. All conversation must be decent. The Qur'an reminds us again and again that all our words are recorded and we shall be held accountable for our words as well as our deeds on the Day of Judgment. (See Al-Ahzab 33:70; Qaf 50:18)

If one finds an interesting partner through Internet and there is a desire to know more about each other in order to get married, then one should involve one's elders in this matter. Let the elders or some responsible friends do the investigation and negotiation on your behalf. Even when you want to talk to that person, it is good to have an elder present in this chat. In Islam the khalwah (privacy) with the non-Mahram female (ajnabiyyah) is forbidden. Khalwah of course occurs when a male and a female are alone in person. But a virtual khalwah can also happen through conversation by phone or Internet. Just as men and women should not be alone with each other, in a similar way they should not be alone to talk to each other on phone or via Internet chat, especially if this conversation is about personal matters."

[Mary Carol]

Yep.
Let me get my (and his) clothes sorted out 1st!

MABROOKS!

EBONY!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

hey y'all are invited to my USA one!!

[MG]

hey y'all are invited to my USA one!!
i want mine in the post pleease!!!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha ok..

[Muslimah1210]

hey y'all are invited to my USA one!!
salams,

make sure its in Chicago hehe.;)

walaikum salaam

[Mary Carol]

Let's get him to get married along the Lake in summertime.

Or maybe in the gardens in front of the Lincoln Park Conservatory?

[Muslimah1210]

:salams

:masha: Sister you are correct,

However may I humbly add that I know of pious practising brothers who have also been rejected because of the same reason, or they don't have an "athletic build", and I know many, many brothers who get rejected because they aren't rolling in money. Its a two way street unfortunately.

May Allah give us all guidance to choose our spouses with the correct intentions. Ameen.

:wswrwb:
Asalamualaikum wr wb,

yes bro, I agree with you. That's the thing happening with other brothers/sisters around the world.

Even my parents, they want me to get married to someone who is really educated...over here they are looking for so called "worldly education" It doesn't matter to them if the guy is religious or not...as long as he prays atleast 2 times a day :( They think guys will change when da time comes. Not everyone changes. Then why not look for a religious guy.

its soo desi mentality :mad:

walaikum salaam

[Muslimah1210]

Or maybe in the gardens in front of the Lincoln Park Conservatory?
salams,

not a bad idea sis...let see what he thinks about it? hehe.

walaikum salaam.

[Chained_Water]

On the rejecting people because of their looks issue:

It is important that you feel attracted to the person!
It wouldn't make sense to sign your life away to someone who is completely unattractive to you and you cringe at the thought of touching.

[marjan]

what if you're unattracted to yourself

[Chained_Water]

what if you're unattracted to yourselfYou don't have to engage in intimate sexual acts with yourself so thats not as bad.

Although I can see how finding yourself unattractive would have negative effects on your self esteem and stuff maybe.. maybe jimms interventon therapy or a self-help book can fix that though.. if not, a husband who thinks you're the most beautiful thing alive would probably help :D

[marjan]

My wife would kill me. In fact if I had a wife I'd kill me, talk about marrying the wrong person.

[Chained_Water]

:p I liked mariams suggestion too :up: "..his wife would kill me!" LOL

Have you ever considered Art marjan? I think he's a nice guy.. you two could make a nice couple.. I heard you had dinner with him tonight, or is Tommy Tompkins fibbing again?

[AdamLevine]

i'll take four please

[Chained_Water]

do you want fries with that?

[marjan]

lol she means flies

[Chained_Water]

No really, I meant fries.. apparently its trendy to serve burgers and fries at weddings now, Britney Spears told me.

Have you thought about Art yet?

[marjan]

Yes I will take up Art InshAllah. I have been called a Bohemian before.

[Chained_Water]

edit: check PM marjan :D

[marjan]

Art is ... very abstract

[Chained_Water]

:eek2:

I'm talking about Art art.. you know who ;)

[marjan]

I am taken

[Mary Carol]

You mean marjan is trying to steal Art from me?

Or does she want to be a co-wife?

[marjan]

I will not steal anyone/thing. That's naughty.

[Chained_Water]

marjan :eek: you are taken?!

:crying:

I bet he's not as nice as Art.. :freedom: I'm heartbroken.

[marjan]

he's nice

[Mary Carol]

I will not steal anyone/thing. That's naughty.

Glad to hear it.

But if you are taken, then someone may be stealing you. :(

[marjan]

!!!!!!!!!!!! truth

[slmz :)]

mabroook ebony!!! so happy 4 u!!
app: who u gettin married 2!?? lol
ebony: who r u gettin married to??

[Mary Carol]

marjan :eek: you are taken?!

:crying:

I bet he's not as nice as Art.. :freedom: I'm heartbroken.

You are correct.

Art is ace.

Why not pursue marriage with him for yourself to relieve the heartache?

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

Shaima..i was jus sayin ima get married in the USA insha'allah..sounds great Mariam ;)

[slmz :)]

cool... if i was gettin married to sum1 frm abroad i would have 1 wedding here and 1 there! so its even!

[Ebony]

Chained Art Water

has a nice ring to it, dnt u think?

[MG]

Chained Art Water

has a nice ring to it, dnt u think?
all these weddings coming up, sounds soooo exciting, ok ,all i wanna know is when am i gettin my invites??

Bro apprentice??

sis Ebony??

Sis CW???

and anyone else thats getting married!!!!!

i love weddings!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha thats a great idea Shaima haha!

anyways..everyone from Ummah is invited to my weddin in a couple of yrs..insha'allah..no joke!

[slmz :)]

ye sme here but if u live abroad ( outside england).. ppshh i aint payin 4 ur tiket! lol!!!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

i will :)

[slmz :)]

aww bless... well u gna have to w8 4 a couple of years... until then ur frst on my list! lol

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha first huh?

[slmz :)]

lolz well after my other frends and family and eeevvvvvvvrryyyy1 els... ye u can b frst! lol!!!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

ok ok..thanks!!

[slmz :)]

hey happi now....lol

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

no..but its ok :P

[slmz :)]

u either take it or leave it *looks at the list and starts to think whether she shul rub app's name off*

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

well who is the groom??

[slmz :)]

xcuse me but u havnt tld me hu the luky wife is! u havent tld eny of us! :P lol!

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

ummm..well i asked first!

[slmz :)]

mabroook ebony!!! so happy 4 u!!
app: who u gettin married 2!?? lol
ebony: who r u gettin married to??
actually u'll find that I did!
:up: :D

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

ugh..but im askin u!!

[slmz :)]

look app i asked frst

[ay1404]

...why do i get the feeling this could go for ages n ages...

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

i asked u tho..2nd :P

[Chained_Water]

ooooh lookie.. who's the one that wants to marry someone from ummah but hasn't told them yet :eek:

Out with it :mujahida:

Sounds like a job for the resident marital advisor *looks around for Ze* :scratch: ..is that girl still busy being a newly wed?

[ThE aPpReNtIcE]

haha...

[Chained_Water]

:eek2: suddenly there's four people who would love to marry someone at ummah but haven't told them yet?

[AdamLevine]

ooooh lookie.. who's the one that wants to marry someone from ummah but hasn't told them yet :eek:

Out with it :mujahida:

Sounds like a job for the resident marital advisor *looks around for Ze* :scratch: ..is that girl still busy being a newly wed?
raises hand

but i've told her now

[Jam]

:salams

:masha: I think Sis Ze needs to expand her operation!!! :eek:

:wswrwb:

[Chained_Water]

Adam, here you go, drink this magic lassi.. I've been told it cures the "Marry Me Syndrome"

Let me know if it works :banan:

[Chained_Water]

Maybe we should alert sis Ze to this thread.. her presense is definately required..

But not by Adam.. I think he's just another ummah.com joker.. he reminds me of sis marjan (no offense sis :p )

[AdamLevine]

Maybe we should alert sis Ze to this thread.. her presense is definately required..

But not by Adam.. I think he's just another ummah.com joker.. he reminds me of sis marjan (no offense sis :p )
:(

[Chained_Water]

Emotional blackmail is a good strategy.

But not good enough.. :banan: