Words to help me cope...

[lonely_me]

"If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, "I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me."

[lonely_me]

..."Certainly there are times when it is essential to exercise good judgment. There are also many times when judgment needlessly gets in the way.

Get beyond the need to make a judgment about every little thing, and rise to a higher level of awareness. When your energy is not consumed with constantly making judgments, you are free to be more positively effective.

Instead of contemplating whether the moment is good or bad, helpful or hurtful, accept that it simply is. Instead of fighting for or against something that doesn't matter anyway, simply live the reality of it.

Letting go of your need to judge does not diminish or impair your ability to make worthwhile judgments. In fact, when your judgment is an intentional choice instead of a habitual reaction, it becomes more meaningful.

Spend less time and energy judging and categorizing every little thing that comes your way. Enjoy how much more aware and alive you feel when you get beyond the need to judge.

Make judgment something you use wisely instead of something you crave endlessly. And free yourself to fully live each moment."...

[lonely_me]

...."Step back from the noise and confusion. You are not a part of it, and it does not have to consume you.

In serenity, there is strength. Staying calm, when confusion and chaos surround you, keeps you firmly in control.

Many things can trigger an impulse to react, an urgent desire to do something immediately. Hurried reactions, though, are usually not the most effective.

By staying calm, you can respond with much more power and positive focus. By staying calm, instead of letting events scatter your attention in a thousand different directions, you remain in control.

Staying calm does not mean that you're doing nothing. It means that you're responding with purpose, rather than with panic.

When turmoil arises, meet it with serenity. And you'll put yourself in a position of real power."...

[lonely_me]

..."When you are busy talking you cannot hear what others are saying. In the same way, when your mind is consumed with thinking and analyzing, you cannot learn what life has to tell you.

The ability to think is a useful, powerful and beautiful thing. Yet like all powerful things, thoughts are best when used in moderation.

If you become too consumed with your own thoughts, you can fail to see what is right in front of you. If you are too obsessed with analyzing every move, you become unable to move at all.

On a regular basis, take a quiet, peaceful retreat from your thoughts. Spend some time not plotting or worrying, not considering or agonizing, but just being and enjoying your own awareness.

Life can be wonderful when it is filled with noise, confusion, excitement and busy, complex thoughts. And those exciting times are even better when they're balanced with quiet, peaceful times.

Make it a point every so often to empty your mind. Then you'll be able to fill it with all the good things you want...."

[lonely_me]

...''You do not have to agree in order to understand. But you do have to listen with an open mind.

You do not have to give up or give in to another in order to understand. But you do have to give your attention and consideration.

You do not have to change your own position in order to understand the position of another. But you do have to accept that there are valid perspectives besides your own.

Seeing the world only from your own point of view puts you at a distinct disadvantage. The more open you are to understanding others, the more effective your every action will be.

Realize what a true blessing it is that there are those who see things differently than you do. By offering your understanding you gain the benefit of an expanded perspective.

You've no doubt experienced how good it can be when there's someone who listens and truly understands. What's even better is to be that someone..''