Obsesssed about marriage

[nam]

Sallaam

Why is this forum absolutely obsessed about marriage? These threads come up very frequently and they all result in the same things being said. Really, is it that important or are we just unable to find other topics to discuss?

ALlah Hafiz

SNam ("Sleepy and off to the sack where i can rest my head, thus nam is of to beddie bed bed" 28/05/04)

[Khuzamah]

yeah.... I think it is that important :p :up:

Importance of Marriage in Islam
Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger. The Qur'an says:

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best. (16:72)

These verses of the Noble Qur'an clearly show that in contrast to other religions like Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism etc. which consider celibacy or monasticism as a great virtue and a means of salvation, Islam considers marriage as one of the most virtuous and approved institutions. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) declared, "There is no monasticism in Islam." He further ordained,

"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)
Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)
The importance of the institution or marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following hadith of the Prophet,


"Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."
With these Qur'anic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet (peace be upon him) in mind, we shall examine the institution of marriage in the Shari'ah.
The word zawaj is used in the Qur'an to signify a pair or a mate. But in common parlance it stands for marriage. Since the family is the nucleus of Islamic society, and marriage is the only way to bring families into existence, the Prophet (peace be upon him) insisted upon his followers entering into marriage The Shari'ah prescribes rules to regulate the functioning of the family so that both spouses can live together in love, security, and tranquillity. Marriage in Islam has aspects of both 'ibadah (worship) of Allah and mu'amalah (transactions between human beings).

In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.

In its mu'amalah aspect, marriage being a lawful response to the basic biological instinct to have sexual intercourse and to procreate children, the Shari'ah has prescribed detailed rules for translating this response into a living human institution reinforced by a whole framework of legally enforceable rights and duties, not only of the spouses, but also of their offspring.

These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,


"When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by taqwa.

the source of this is http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/humanre...m/marriage.html

[Ebony]

although marriage is important..4 some ppl thts al they evr think about
its miffing me off too :banghead:

[nam]

Originally posted by Khuzamah
yeah.... I think it is that important :p :up:

Importance of Marriage in Islam
Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger. The Qur'an says:

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best. (16:72)

These verses of the Noble Qur'an clearly show that in contrast to other religions like Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism etc. which consider celibacy or monasticism as a great virtue and a means of salvation, Islam considers marriage as one of the most virtuous and approved institutions. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) declared, "There is no monasticism in Islam." He further ordained,

"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)
Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)
The importance of the institution or marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following hadith of the Prophet,


"Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."
With these Qur'anic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet (peace be upon him) in mind, we shall examine the institution of marriage in the Shari'ah.
The word zawaj is used in the Qur'an to signify a pair or a mate. But in common parlance it stands for marriage. Since the family is the nucleus of Islamic society, and marriage is the only way to bring families into existence, the Prophet (peace be upon him) insisted upon his followers entering into marriage The Shari'ah prescribes rules to regulate the functioning of the family so that both spouses can live together in love, security, and tranquillity. Marriage in Islam has aspects of both 'ibadah (worship) of Allah and mu'amalah (transactions between human beings).

In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.

In its mu'amalah aspect, marriage being a lawful response to the basic biological instinct to have sexual intercourse and to procreate children, the Shari'ah has prescribed detailed rules for translating this response into a living human institution reinforced by a whole framework of legally enforceable rights and duties, not only of the spouses, but also of their offspring.

These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,


"When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by taqwa.

the source of this is http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/humanre...m/marriage.html

Sallaam

I am not denying it religious importance, however, there seems to be a huge emphasis placed on it on this forum.

Allah HAfiz

QNam ("Ter Rex; just think of eating the leg" 08/05/04)

[Ebony]

ur marriage isnt goin2 stand for very long, if u urself hvent developed as a person and ur imaan is weak
and i doubt talking about marriage itself will sort tht out

Ws

[Ankaboot]

Originally posted by nam

Why is this forum absolutely obsessed about marriage?

SNam ("Sleepy and off to the sack where i can rest my head, thus nam is of to beddie bed bed" 28/05/04)
I for one..
Blame ZEE...

:badguy:

PS.. wagwon Snam

[nam]

sallaam

Nah, zee is just a pawn in the whole process. Btw, welcome back anka :), if your back that is :)

Allah HAfiz

NAm ("Whats wagwon snam?" 08/05/04)

[baba]

Originally posted by nam
Why is this forum absolutely obsessed about marriage? These threads come up very frequently and they all result in the same things being said. Really, is it that important or are we just unable to find other topics to discuss? I think it's due to the age of the people on the forum... most are reaching 20 or in their early 20s, so they will be thinking about the other half of their deen: marriage.

Can't blame them.

[ClashCityRocker]

i myself dont care for marriage and most certainly dont care to be involved in one.

[baba]

Good for you :rolleyes:

[Sultan]

Famous quote from Blackadder:

"Marriage is like a christmas cracker-after one bang it's all a disappointment"



:rotfl:

[Mary Carol]

Originally posted by oneshot
LOL! ROTFLMHO! Nam, Nam, Nam... Spring is in the air, and plans are being made to ensure this world goes on and on and on...

As Allah (swt) ordained.

Myself, I find it refreshing and uplifting to see the youngsters around here developing into productive adults, and taking an interest in the awesomely important responsibilities of marriage and child-bearing/raising.

Youngsters, what about us middle-agesters?

Given all the ugliness and strife in this world, what could be a better indicator of the beauty and continuity of this world than to see youngsters grow up, find their life's mates, and start new families?

Peace,

Oneshot

Ameen.

PS - I will remind you of this post when you come on here, all fired up that you yourself are getting married! :D :D

Ameen, again. :p

[seven]

you know how ppl blame other to take the attention awat from themselves? ..... well .. nam? :eek2:

[ze leetle elper]

Did someone mention marriage? :D :inlove: ;)

[nam]

Originally posted by baba
I think it's due to the age of the people on the forum... most are reaching 20 or in their early 20s, so they will be thinking about the other half of their deen: marriage.

Can't blame them.

Sallaam

I have noticed the age demographic on this forum. However, i still dont think the topic should come up as much as it does. I think you should make one marriage thread and then make that a sticky. THat thread will sure to get some major post numbers.

I understand the religious and personal importance. I may also one day venture into my living hell and get married.

Bro Oneshot, you are more than welcome to remind me of this post when i do come all fired up and gettin g married. However, the likely chances are that when or if i do that i will not announce it here.

Allah HAfiz

DNam ("Do we all make effort to achieve or modify our future choices? Is that the extent of effort?" 08/05/04)

[nam]

Originally posted by oneshot
Nam:

You are special, though. I confidently predict that you are going to marry the smartest, prettiest, funniest, most absolutely perfect and wonderful woman that this world has ever seen. She will be the zenith of beauty and charm and piety, and will truly be the most stunning of the 10 billion women that Allah has made so far!

You are going to be amazed that Allah created you in the same millinium as this glorious creature, and that somehow you were both put on paths that were destined to cross. You are going to be even more amazed that for some undecypherable reason, this absolute perfect creation will even give you the time of day, much less laugh at your silly jokes and seem to feel the same way about you that you do about her!

And when this happens, you are going to realize that this event is so momentous and wonderful and without doubt the luckiest thing that has ever happened to any man that has ever lived, that you are going to feel this overwhelming need to tell everyone whose name you can remember the unbelievably good news! Yes, I'm pretty certain we'll hear all about it!

Peace,

Oneshot

PS - I should know these things, because it happened to me! ;)

Sallaam

Great story, still, time will tell. When it happens or if it happens, time will tell.

Allah HAfiz

DNam ("Runny nose is the worst torture a person can put themselves in" 08/05/04)

[Huja Usman]

Originally posted by seven
you know how ppl blame other to take the attention awat from themselves? ..... well .. nam? :eek2:

Seven Mash-Allah.


When ever I see marriage threads or even the word marriage mention I see clearly 3 names

Seven :) Baba Zee.


These brothers are desperat in need of a wife.

Who will help them?

[outlandish]

lol soo true nam
I realise the importance of it,but to see if appearing again and again even after a week,seems like some ppl deperately need to get married. I am sure there are much more even importer things in islam,somehow marriage seems to attract all:freedom:

[outlandish]

Originally posted by Huja Mehmet
Seven Mash-Allah.


These brothers are desperat in need of a wife.

Who will help them?
well i guess make up some marriage site or something?and than get to see if any sister is available for them:p

[ze leetle elper]

Originally posted by Huja Mehmet
Seven :) Baba Zee.

These brothers are desperat in need of a wife.

Wife? :nervous:

As kind as the gesture is Huja, I'd rather have a husband. :D :p

[seven]

look, don't be so cynical... am just desperate for half my deen :freedom:

:D :p

[seven]

Originally posted by Huja Mehmet
Seven Mash-Allah.


When ever I see marriage threads or even the word marriage mention I see clearly 3 names

Seven :) Baba Zee.


These brothers are desperat in need of a wife.

Who will help them?
hey... we just express what everyone else are thinking... don't deny it! :eek2:

[ze leetle elper]

Originally posted by seven
look, don't be so cynical... am just desperate for half my deen :freedom:

Someone who understands my plight. :freedom:

[marjan]

why don't you try and understand eachother's plight together

[ze leetle elper]

Originally posted by marjan
why don't you try and understand eachother's plight together

Ahh, another victim.

Do not despair fair maiden, thine shall be married before ye sun sets over yonder. :D

[marjan]

nah I don't want to get married thank you.

[Ankaboot]

It's a phase that all go through...
But to be obsessed about it..
Only a few have the privilege to experience that...

:D

SNum.. If you want, could locate that thread when you were in that phase.. :D

Back? No one ever is back..

[nam]

Originally posted by Ankaboot
It's a phase that all go through...
But to be obsessed about it..
Only a few have the privilege to experience that...

:D

SNum.. If you want, could locate that thread when you were in that phase.. :D

Back? No one ever is back..

Sallaam

erm, no thanks, but thanks for the offer sis :)

I have matured though (very arguable though)

Allah HAfiz

VNam ("If people were rabbits, would we still eat grass and think about pot at the same time?" 08/05/04)

[typical asian]

stop pretending you are "hard man"

everyone want for mareej i know that

some people make big hoo-baa some people keep quiet

you keep quiet

but you still want for mareej so pretending you are not wanting mareej ok??!!

gilli danda!

[ClashCityRocker]

i thought flirting is haram?

[seven]

who's flirting?

[marjan]

I flirt with myself someones, you know try and give myself loads of eye contact.

I always feel superconfident afterwards

[marjan]

dating myself could be an option but I scared of experiencing true love, what if I get hurt?

[seven]

Originally posted by marjan
dating myself could be an option but I scared of experiencing true love, what if I get hurt?
it's inevitable... you will find someone else and probably marry and then you'll be heartbroken

:scratch:

[Ebony]

Originally posted by marjan
dating myself could be an option but I scared of experiencing true love, what if I get hurt?

u can always smash the mirror?
thts the only way2 end the relationship with urself

[marjan]

that's my point. I'm torn and I shall fling myself into my studies as a means of getting past my heartache and longing to be with myself.

It will be difficult

But somehow I will move on


*sigh*

[ze leetle elper]

:rofl1:

[Mary Carol]

Originally posted by ze leetle elper
As kind as the gesture is Huja, I'd rather have a husband. :D :p

What a shocking revelation! :eek:

[Mary Carol]

Originally posted by marjan
dating myself could be an option but I scared of experiencing true love, what if I get hurt?

Ever hear the song "You Always Hurt The One You Love"? :)

[dhakiyya]

Huge numbers of people everywhere in the world are obsessed with love and partners.... just think yourselves lucky that as this is a Muslim forum people are discussing *marriage* not who they'd like to have a cheap s**g with like on plenty of other forums where that's the only topic of conversation

[Khuzamah]

Originally posted by dhakiyya
Huge numbers of people everywhere in the world are obsessed with love and partners.... just think yourselves lucky that as this is a Muslim forum people are discussing *marriage* not who they'd like to have a cheap s**g with like on plenty of other forums where that's the only topic of conversation

lolll good point :up:

[peace2u]

Nam got 3 pages of marriage talk!! LOL


Peace

[ze leetle elper]

Umm BUMP :D!

[Arsalan]

Seven Mash-Allah.


When ever I see marriage threads or even the word marriage mention I see clearly 3 names

Seven :) Baba Zee.


These brothers are desperat in need of a wife.

Who will help them?


Progress... :up:

[muslimah85]

why don't you try and understand eachother's plight together
:rotfl: marjan got it in one!! Aww :p

[Ebony]

Im just so :eek: at my use of shorthand!

Good thing my writing is now legible, although content doesn't make any sense :D

[.: Anna :.]

stop pretending you are "hard man"

everyone want for mareej i know that

some people make big hoo-baa some people keep quiet

you keep quiet

but you still want for mareej so pretending you are not wanting mareej ok??!!

gilli danda!
heheh good words brother :up::up::D

[.: Anna :.]

Im just so :eek: at my use of shorthand!

Good thing my writing is now legible, although content doesn't make any sense :Dyup its quite amusing to see :p
(i still write that way myself but still)

[Ebony]

Don't you miss the good old days? :D

[.: Anna :.]

I guess but then u can't keep stuck in the past Ebony dear, u have to adapt :p

[muslimah85]

marriage indeed :inlove:

[muslim_sis]

marriage indeed :inlove:
indeed :love:

[Ebony]

I guess but then u can't keep stuck in the past Ebony dear, u have to adapt :p

Nooooo..don't wanna :D :p

[muslimah85]

indeed :love:
:D :D :inlove: :D :D

[muslim_sis]

:D :D :inlove: :D :D
hmm
..i c we're speaking the same language..

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

:D :D :inlove: :D :D

hmm
..i c we're speaking the same language..

may Allah help u both in ur mission not imposible Ameen:rolleyes:

[muslim_sis]

may Allah help u both in ur mission not imposible Ameen:rolleyes:
who said we were on a mission , if we were then i think its fair to say mission 99% accomplished haha lol

[muslimah85]

may Allah help u both in ur mission not imposible Ameen:rolleyes:
Ameen :inlove:


indeed we are on the same level

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

who said we were on a mission , if we were then i think its fair to say mission 99% accomplished haha lol

sumtime that 1% can take years :D

[muslim_sis]

sumtime that 1% can take years :D
u know, i just thought that after posting and i was gonna edit , but u quoted me too fast lol...its actually very true

ameen ameen ameen !!

[muslim_sis]

Ameen :inlove:


indeed we are on the same level
*smiles*

[muslimah85]

sumtime that 1% can take years :D
indee :( thats so true :crying: *hmmm*

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

u know i just thought that after posting , was gonna edit , but u quoted me too fast lol...
ameen ameen ameen !!
i see :D

:nerdbro:

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

*smiles*

indee :( thats so true :crying: *hmmm*

look like u sisters r in trouble or sumthing:rubeyes:

well pray to Allah with ikhlas, inshaAllah u will b rewared soon

may Allah help u in ur mission quickly Ameen

[Umm 'Umarah]

sisters; what are your worst fears about getting married?

[muslimah85]

sisters; what are your worst fears about getting married?
not being able to marry who you want cos of racial prejudices from the other side :mad:

[muslimah85]

look like u sisters r in trouble or sumthing:rubeyes:

well pray to Allah with ikhlas, inshaAllah u will b rewared soon

may Allah help u in ur mission quickly Ameen
AWWW jazakallah khayr brother! :D

[Umm 'Umarah]

not being able to marry who you want cos of racial prejudices from the other side :mad:

racial or cultural? or racial aswell as cultural indifferences?

[muslimah85]

bit of both

[Ibn-e-Muslim]

not being able to marry who you want cos of racial prejudices from the other side :mad:

if he is practicing brother and ur family is with u i mean u have a suport of ur wali and the boy is able to take care his wife, by shariah u r good to go

Allah o alam

[muslimah85]

if he is practicing brother and ur family is with u i mean u have a suport of ur wali and the boy is able to take care his wife, by shariah u r good to go

Allah o alam
true :),

[Cristiana]

although marriage is important..4 some ppl thts al they evr think about
its miffing me off too :banghead:

I had never heard this expression before. It's now one of my favourite english words:D

I think some people (like me) just love talking about it because we are very happy and looking forward to it. Especially if it's delayed by some difficulties and sometimes it's frustrating, talking about it is like daydreaming I guess...it makes me feel good again.

...I know i must be miffing a lot of people off:inlove: (thanks for the word!)
Are you a bro or a sis?

[*Muhammad*]

Sallaam

Why is this forum absolutely obsessed about marriage? These threads come up very frequently and they all result in the same things being said. Really, is it that important or are we just unable to find other topics to discuss?

ALlah Hafiz

SNam ("Sleepy and off to the sack where i can rest my head, thus nam is of to beddie bed bed" 28/05/04)

i think it is good for some people u know instead of talking about boyfriends-girl friends bla bla bla

[.: Anna :.]

I had never heard this expression before. It's now one of my favourite english words:D

I think some people (like me) just love talking about it because we are very happy and looking forward to it. Especially if it's delayed by some difficulties and sometimes it's frustrating, talking about it is like daydreaming I guess...it makes me feel good again.

...I know i must be miffing a lot of people off:inlove: (thanks for the word!)
Are you a bro or a sis?
shes a sis... an anti mushy one

[Cristiana]

shes a sis... an anti mushy one

I see...:D I've got to retain the mushiness when I'm around her then:D

[CheifJunior]

Sallaam

Why is this forum absolutely obsessed about marriage? These threads come up very frequently and they all result in the same things being said. Really, is it that important or are we just unable to find other topics to discuss?

ALlah Hafiz

SNam ("Sleepy and off to the sack where i can rest my head, thus nam is of to beddie bed bed" 28/05/04)

People go through problems. Every problem is unique, and even if it is the same they wish to let out their frustrations and worries and get some consolidation from others who can give some support.

I used to have just your attitude. But when you actually GROW UP and reach maturity you will think different. People need to vent their worries and this is the best place. And yes they are all marriage issues because marriage is one of the hot problem areas nowadays.

So lay off!!

[jimm]

People go through problems. Every problem is unique, and even if it is the same they wish to let out their frustrations and worries and get some consolidation from others who can give some support.

I used to have just your attitude. But when you actually GROW UP and reach maturity you will think different. People need to vent their worries and this is the best place. And yes they are all marriage issues because marriage is one of the hot problem areas nowadays.

So lay off!!

if maturity entails acting like a love sick idiot who cannot view lifes obstacles with objectivity and forethought, then, i wish to never grow up.

[qwickmalik]

salam,

i think one of the reasons also is that, for non-ummah-members, Nasheeds, Marriage and Learn about Islam are among the areas that they're allowed to view, and that's why there's always a lot of ppl viewing these areas. i've always wondered why there're always more pple viewing these three areas compared to the General forum for example.

these r the areas that attract people to the forum.

[CheifJunior]

if maturity entails acting like a love sick idiot who cannot view lifes obstacles with objectivity and forethought, then, i wish to never grow up.

No it dosent. But for someone who is going through it, you cant comprehend how it is because you havent been through it yourself. I will love to see how you feel and quote what you just said if you fell in love. hmmm "love sick idiot"??? that wont be coming out of your mouth then.

Everyone makes mistakes to pound on them. Making mistakes is what makes you a better person becuase you actually learn from them!!

[jimm]

love is a learned response, an emotion of psychological convenience

[Te'oma]

Nooooo..don't wanna :D :p


Life is change little sister...you either change and adapt or you get left behind and die :D

[Guvna]

Life is change little sister...you either change and adapt or you get left behind and die :D

feeling rather philosophical this morning!!! :rolleyes: :D

[Te'oma]

nawww I have a head cold and I'm gettin stooopid from the medicine...maybe I should head to bed :zzz:

[Guvna]

nawww I have a head cold and I'm gettin stooopid from the medicine...maybe I should head to bed :zzz:

lool ohh dear! allah giv you shifa' and speeedddyy recovery! keep warm... plenty fluids! and no tree climbing!! :torture:

get some rest now!!! :D