...marriage at a "young" age.....!

[StickyPeas]

well i proper welcome the idea!!! :mujahida: im a big time promoter off getting married as early as possible..
its excellent!! mashallah marriage is such a beautiful thing and helps u get closer to Allah swt as its half ur deen... i wud love nothing more than to obey my husband and please my Creator by doing so!! inshallah!! its also the best way to stay away from the traps shaytaan sets up for u

part of my promotion strategy --->

Take the reward of marriage and seek it through the Halal way for there is much reward from Allah (swt) in it, Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah said "There are three whom it is right for Allah to help: the slave whose master has agreed to let him buy his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum, [/i]the one who marries desiring to live a chaste life[/i], and the one who fights in the path of Allah." [Tirmidhi, Nasai and Ibn Majah]

Islam encourages marriage at a young age, it is narrated from Abdullah (ra) that the Prophet (saw) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse) and whoso is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." [Sahih al Bukhari]

Also Ali ibn Abi Talib (ra) reported the Messenger of Allah (saw) told him that "There are three things which you must not postpone: prayer when its time comes, a funeral and the marriage of an unmarried woman when she finds one suited for her." [Abu Dawud]

:cool:

i just had the urge to post this!!! i know many "young" bro's and sista's here really wana get married and alhamdulilah they are mature enuf to do so... my advice is that please do get married!!!

in some cases getting married becomes fard on the individual as its the only way to stop him/her from committing harram and displeasing Allah...

our aim in this life is to please Allah swt and fulfil our obligation towards him.. and that means gettin married in some of ur cases!!! its serious stuff, so go to ur folks, tell them its time for u go get married and inshallah set the wheels in motion... try ur hardest inshallah!!!

just like u try ur hardest to pray at the earliest and correct time, try ur hardest to get married as early and correctly as u can!!
inshallah where theres goodness u will reap the rewards!!

:mujahida:

[juvenile_mullah]

very tru.....

u get a MULLAH star

[Ebony]

theres a thread along this line in the lifestyle section stickypeas :D

[StickyPeas]

its a cause iv always been dedicated to... :mujahida:
wat more can i say sis

:cool:

[nam]

Sallam

marriage, be it old or young depends on the person. Some people are ready for it and some people are not. No point in ruining 2 lives at the same time when both or one is not interested.

ALlah HAfiz

WNam ("Why does Nam not have a GT-R R34 V Spec?" Nam 09/12/03)

[StickyPeas]

subhanallah bro if uv found a pious partner u will in no way be ruining ur life!!

its tru, some ppl are ready way b4 others, but theres inshallah soo much goodness in marriage im ready for it now, alhamdulilah!!! :)

[StickyPeas]

and i know this topics gettin verrry borin n repetative.. a new case of "i wanna get married" crops up almost everyday... :rolleyes:
but y'all gotta put up with it! coz dis gal aint stoppin!

:mujahida:

[juvenile_mullah]

mullah takes it ur not married yet, so r u engaged and r u a mature youth?

[StickyPeas]

im not married... yet... inshallah i want to be married soon tho :)

and alhamdulilah im mature enuf to handle it :mujahida:

and i wana improve my dedication and motivation towards the deen, and inshallah for me, marriage will be the best way to achieve that

[juvenile_mullah]

so u at school, college or uni (if u dont mind mullah asking)

[StickyPeas]

nah alhamdulilah bro i dont mind u askin... iv just quit uni... got a "masterplan" now tho, and uni aint part of it!
im having trouble tellin my dad i quit... dunno hows he's gonna react... inshallah he shud be ok with it... just gotta make lots of duaa... inshallah

[seven]

:eek:

[seven]

how you gonna get your car now? :eek2:

[juvenile_mullah]

car? well guess find young hband wid a spare cool car :D

Seriously, y have u quit uni, very drastic innit. U going back 2 it next yr (after marriage).

So u engaged then - rite?

[StickyPeas]

after marriage...inshallah i dont plan to go back to uni... uni's a baaad place full of distractions... all i wana do is please Allah swt... inshallah stay at home, look after my family, and continue spreading the islam... there i much reward in that!! :)

[juvenile_mullah]

but Muslim need to contribute in2 society and take part. Islam encourages education and there are a greater % Women in the Muslim world with degrees then in the western world.

True uni full off distractions, and if ur not comfortable then how abouts an open uni degree same value and u get study at home..... while ur hubbies away at work.

[StickyPeas]

me and education dont mesh well...

to put it in simpler terms

stickypeas + education = not learning + laziness + chilling&dossing + the displeasure of Allah

stickypeas + marriage = happiness + motivation for the deen + focus + the pleasure of Allah swt (+ kids) :) inshallah!

[juvenile_mullah]

so r u chillin in the uni library now (cos u quit and have no lectures) while ur dad thinks u in uni :eek:

wat degree were u doing

[StickyPeas]

nah bro, i aint been to uni for 3 weeks... my folks thinks its holidays... inshallah im gonna be tellin em soon that i aint goin back... inshallah after hajj i wudnt wana go back into that place anyway...

i was doing computer science with artifical intellegence tho... and before u ask - no it wasnt getting too much for me...

anywayz, il leave it at that... just wanted my point across - if u wana get married, just go for it and tell ur folks, its ur right and its the right thing to do inshallah

[juvenile_mullah]

with AI wow sounds really interesting, thanks for the advise btw Mullah is getting married in 2004 :)

Disclaimer: just to point out Mullah agrees with SPeas get married young is good and healthy. But Mullah wud also advise in general 2 stay focused on ur studies too...... but everyone's situation is different - Allah knows Best

[seven]

i can see sticky's point.... no point going to uni at the expense of your imaan.

if you can protect your imaan at uni then, by all means, go for it.

[outlandish]

sorry sis I tend to disagree a lot about what ur saying about the university
Going to the university is a test of imaan, and see how strong it is as well, everyone can be a mullah(good person) staying at home or some place without distractions, but test is when u place that person in a place with fitnaa and see how strong he/she really was. And than try to please Allah, since there is lots u could do there, for others,urself etc. And indirectly please Allah as well a lot more.
I agree uni has bad stuff,but it all depends on ourself, if u wanna see good, u stick with good only, else there is lot of bad stuff(sorry had to say) free mixing,useless threads at ummah too, we dont quit that do we. I see the good here in places like as islamic forum,muslim forum where there is a lot to learn as well.
Education is very important for women, marriage is too,but dont compromise on ur studies ukhti, this ummah already lacks behind soo much in everything, we need to improve on that a lot. And mostly since parents dont encourage u see very few muslims in universities which is very disappointing, especially sisters.
Everyone gets married and wants to have kids, thing is if u have an education as well, and instead of urself only did a lot with that education for the ummah as well.

[amal]

Originally posted by juvenile_mullah
Mullah is getting married in 2004 :)

Congratulation:) are you engaged already:confused:
Sticky you can go back any time to finish the studies, may be whould be useful to try to attend other uni, are you sure its not just a wrong degree:confused: - computers

[islamic jihad]

sis...i usually say 'pfffffffftttttt' to marriage

but seriously i agree with u

no uni...cos it's fitnah...and most importantly looking at the youth and their attitudes today...it's best they get hitched early...to guard their modesty :)

[abdulhakeem]

age of marriage??? (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=6649)

[StickyPeas]

Originally posted by outlandish
sorry sis I tend to disagree a lot about what ur saying about the university
Going to the university is a test of imaan, and see how strong it is as well, everyone can be a mullah(good person) staying at home or some place without distractions, but test is when u place that person in a place with fitnaa and see how strong he/she really was. And than try to please Allah, since there is lots u could do there, for others,urself etc. And indirectly please Allah as well a lot more.
I agree uni has bad stuff,but it all depends on ourself, if u wanna see good, u stick with good only, else there is lot of bad stuff(sorry had to say) free mixing,useless threads at ummah too, we dont quit that do we. I see the good here in places like as islamic forum,muslim forum where there is a lot to learn as well.
Education is very important for women, marriage is too,but dont compromise on ur studies ukhti, this ummah already lacks behind soo much in everything, we need to improve on that a lot. And mostly since parents dont encourage u see very few muslims in universities which is very disappointing, especially sisters.
Everyone gets married and wants to have kids, thing is if u have an education as well, and instead of urself only did a lot with that education for the ummah as well.

sis, alhamdulilah i understand wat ur saying, its true that uv gotta please Allah and work for the ummah at the same time.... mashallah having knowledge of things, gaining more knowldge - its an excellent and rewarding thing!! our ummah needs to be brought to the frontline of advancement!!! and inshallah we will be... inshallah!!

wat i sed about leaving uni, that was my view as to wat to do with my life and wats right for me in order to obtain Allahs pleasure... inshallah i will never stop workin for this ummah to unite and inshallah i will do wats best for the Deen..

we dont neccesarily need to go to uni to do all this... uni is a baaad place (in my experience, changing uni's or courses cant change that for me) and i need to refrain from going there - thats wats best for my imaan.. me quitting uni is a test for me!! iv gotta pull a big mission with ma dad to make him understand... and everything thats gonna come with that, consequences etc.. but alhamdulilah iv gotta leave for the sake of the Deen.. if i stay and see it as a test then i will fail miserably... its best to leave it in my case since the situation is in my control... inshallah everyone is different sis and we all get tested in different ways! but at some point we gotta draw the line... wud we rather stay and mess ourselves up even more or leave and inshallah work to make things better

all im saying is if your young and ready to get married - go do it!! inshallah!! we make it difficult for ourselves... sometimes things seem as if theyr major obstacles but once ur convinced u get the strength to overcome them they dont seem so major after all... inshallah just go for it!!

:)

[outlandish]

Insha allah sis I understand what ur saying now:)
I wish u all the best and May Allah help u in giving this big news to ur parents insha allah
Best of luck in life and May Allah reward you lots for this decission which in to please Him
ameen

[Ali_Khan]

StickyPeas, i agree with u, marrying earlier is better. After you are married u r in a better position to go to uni and u have more satisfying life... and also this is the natural way to live and is encouraged in Islam. May Allah give u successs :) :up:

[Layla_ca]

Marriage isnt the answer to all your problems ppl!..

[StickyPeas]

inshallah the answer to all our problems is to abide by Allah's laws and follow the one true path of Islam...
marriage is one of the many means to achieving our goal
also... if the problem is to do fulfilling needs and desires then subhanallah sis, Allah swt had told us that marriage is our answer

however its true- marriage isnt an answer to all our problems.. it really isnt... i think if one is having problems the first place they shud turn to is Allah swt... only Allah truly knows u, and only Allah is the best of helpers, the best provider of sustinance....

marriage is only an answer to ur problems when u know that ur problem is that ur not married...

but for me personally i understand that by me getting married inshallah a lot of my other problems will be solved since inshallah my husband and i will work together to sort them out...

[AbuMubarak]

Islam stands for sexual license. Hence, it prohibits all forms of adultery and fornication. It blocks all ways leading to this heinous evil and satanic act. But, on the other hand, Islam is also against suppressing the sexual urge. Consequently it calls people toward marriage and the institution of marriage plays very significant and outstanding role in Muslim society. It is because of this Islam forbids both castration and renunciation. Castration denotes suppressing sexual desire by removing the testicles, while renunciation means remaining celibate and renouncing worldly activity for the sake of devoting oneself to the worship of Allah or God.

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) noted that some of his companions were moving toward monasticism. And he declared this practice against his sunnah and a deviation from the straight path of Islam. It was, in fact, according to the practice of the Christians, which resulted in a number of social crimes. Abu Qatadah (may Allah be pleased with him) reports:

"Some of the companions of the Prophet (May Allah be pleased with them) once decided to relinquish the world, forsake their wives, and become like monk. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) told them with asperity:

"People before you perished because of their asceticism; they made excessive demands on themselves until Allah brought hardships on them: you can still see a few of them remaining in monastaries and temples. Then worship Allah and do not associate anything with him, perform the Hajj and the umrah, be righteous, and all affairs will be set right for you." (Ibn Jabir, Ibn al-Mundhir and Abdur Razzaq).

Abu Qatadah narrates that the (following verse was revealed concerning them:

"O ye who believe ! Do not make haram the good things which Allah had made halal for you, and do not transgress; indeed, Allah Almighty does not like transgressors." (5:87)

Mujahid narrates:
"Some people, including 'Uthman Ibn Maz'un and Abdullah Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with them) decided to renounce their wives, castrate themselves, and wear course clothing. Then the above verse following it were revealed." (Ibn Jabir).

It is reported by Bukhari and others that three persons came to the Prophet's wives and asked how the Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) conducted his worship. When they were told about it, they seemed to consider it but little, saying:
"What a difference there is between us and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him), whose past and future sins have been forgiven him by Allah!"

"As for me, I will always pray during the night", one of them said.

"I will have nothing to do with women and will never marry", the other said.

When the Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) heard about this, he explained to them their error and deviation from the strainght path, saying:

"I am the one who fears Allah the most among you, yet I fast and I break my fast. I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. He who turns away from my sunnah has nothing to do with me."

Marriage is the union of two opposite sexes. This institution is the backbone of human society. Islam does not believe in absolute suppression of the sensual side of human nature. Hence it encourages healthy enjoyments and one of these is the satisfaction of carnal impulses through marriage. It contributes to physcial, mental, moral and spiritual progress of human beings.

Islam seeks to form a righteous society at all costs. But this noble purpose cannot be achieved without a civilized family life. And family life begins with the sacred matrimonial relation between man and woman. It is the institution of marriage which seeks to prohibits fornication and adultery. Thus human society is saved from disruption and disintegration. Only a law of jungle can forbid this sacred and civilized practice.

The Holy Qur'an says:

"Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things." (Q. 24:32)

The Holy Qur'an says: "It is He Who has created man from water: then has He established relationships of lineage and marriage: for thy Lord has power (over all things)." (Q. 25:54)

Marriage brings wild, wanton and unruly sexual urge under control and provide civilized and universally accepted avenue for its proper individuals and societies. It seeks to preserve morals and chastity and leads to the perfection of Faith.

Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

"When a man marries, he, indeed, makes half of his Faith complete. Now let him fear Allah for the remaining half of it." (Baihaqi).

Celibacy and monasticism go against the concept of Islamic way of life. Islam does not approve of putting a check on lawful and normal release of sexual passion. It does not allow to annihilate sexual power. Shuch a ban on sexual urge leads to constant tension and finds out some unlawful outlet; if lawful avenue is blocked. Moreover, the purpose of perpetuation and multiplication of human remains unfulfilled if the institution of marriage is abolished.

The right of making a thing lawful and unlawful vests in Allah and no human being is allowed to exercise this right at his own will and if he does that, he transgresses the limits set by Allah, which is grievous sin.

A Muslim is not expected to refrain from marriage justfor fear of poverty or falling short of fulfilling his obligations. In order to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Aliah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) do whatever lies in his power to change his economic condition for the better. He may seek help form Allah, for he has promised to extend His help to those who want to marry for saving themselves from falling into the grave sin.

Allah Almighty says:
"Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things." (Q. 24:32)

And the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said:

"There are three who have a right to the help of Allah: the one who marries out of the desire to live a chaste life, the slave whose master has agreed to his buying his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum, and the one who fights in the cause of Allah." (Ahamd, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, Nasa'i, Hakim).

Badr Azimabadi

[Lateafha]

Originally posted by juvenile_mullah
Mullah is getting married in 2004 :)


But Mullah wud also advise in general 2 stay focused on ur studies too...... but everyone's situation is different - Allah knows Best

I'm getting married in 2004 too InshaAllah. :)
I agree with you on sticking to studies too. But sometimes I feel like dropping it all walahee.:freedom:

[outlandish]

I dont know ,most girls I know,once they get engaged,they change soo much,dont even wish to study anymore,even though before their like,no I will finish my studies,and later after that get married.
But once their engaged,they suddenly dont feel like studying anymore:confused: I wonder why they change soo much

[Ebony]

they bcome all :inlove: thts y
:p

[ze leetle elper]

I wouldn't mind going back to do futher studies once I am married... :p

Although it would be pretty difficult when I am travelling the globe with my husband...:D :inlove:

[outlandish]

Originally posted by Ebony
they bcome all :inlove: thts y
:p
lool hehe duhh
should have guessed,no wonder studies and grades seem to be going backwards:rolleyes:

[Lateafha]

Outlandish keep saying that

but wait when cupid hits your heart. Nothing else will matter ;)

[outlandish]

hehe no way am I gonna be like that
my studies are number one priority,no man is gonna change that

outlandish hopes :p

[Ebony]

on a serious note, it shouldnt really affect ur studies in the 1st place.
they r 2 separate parts of ur life
keep them separate

[outlandish]

Originally posted by Ebony
on a serious note, it shouldnt really affect ur studies in the 1st place.
they r 2 separate parts of ur life
keep them separate
it does affect their studies sis,I have seen sisters whom it has seriously affected.
I think they get all crazy that is why

[Ebony]

Originally posted by outlandish
it does affect their studies sis,I have seen sisters whom it has seriously affected.
I think they get all crazy that is why

yes...iv seen some girls tht go crazy too
but on the contrary, iv also seen a majority for whom it doesnt hinder their studies..infact, they bcme MORE determined.

so, thats wt i meant about it shouldnt affect their studies.
they shud b able2 keep a sane mind despite getting engaged or whatever

Ws

[Lateafha]

Originally posted by outlandish
I think they get all crazy that is why

crazy?:rolleyes:

[AbuMubarak]

Originally posted by outlandish
hehe no way am I gonna be like that
my studies are number one priority,no man is gonna change that

outlandish hopes :p we arent allowed to bet, so i will remain silent

[outlandish]

Originally posted by Intuition
crazy?:rolleyes:
no disrespect intended sis,I was talking about a friend of mine particularly whom I have seen the way it has affected her, I tell her always how come she changed soo much. Very rarely do i see girls stick to their education.

[outlandish]

Originally posted by AbuMubarak
we arent allowed to bet, so i will remain silent
hehe, I can tell u for sure this wont happen insha allah,am 100% sure of it,I know better than to turn like that :p :cool: