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Huja Usman
06-12-03, 11:45 AM
Akhi Abu Mubarak, Searhcing through your posts in ummah.com is a gold mine of good articles , Jazakallah Khayr
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (peace be upon him) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings.
3. Recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see anything wrong that your wife does, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (Pbuh) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It's a technique that Muslim men need to master.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah(charity) and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those things in your life.
8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (peace be upon him) set the example for us; when on numerous occassions he comforted his wives.
9. Be humorous and play games or sport with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (peace be upon him) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him): "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Make Dua to Allah - Ta'ala to make one's marriage successful. Insha-Allah. Ameen. And Allah Ta'ala knows best!!
Author: Uknown.
Courtesy: www.everymuslim.com
shouldnt this be in the brothers section? :confused:
ze leetle elper
06-12-03, 08:54 PM
No. :p
You can refer to it when your husband doesn't fulfil them. :D
If my husband would have done all that for me, hour merryage never would last that long.
Ali_Khan
07-12-03, 07:36 AM
<<If my husband would have done all that for me, hour merryage never would last that long.>>
u like em ruff?
u like em ruff?
Good day to you Ali_Khan.
No! I don`t like: cowboy, Caliph, or samuray man. In another words, ruffness is not in my, nor is in my husband nature.
I don`t care eather for a man, or a women for that matter, who swear, talk foul language. Nor i like volgar men or women.
To be a man, it doesn`t mean he has to be ruff, dirty, foul mouth, arrogant. Man can be very kind, gentle, affectionate, clean, lovable, attentive and kind, and still be a "really man".
I don`t think that a man should be like a little puppy. Follow order of: his wive, his mother, girlfriend, or any other woman, for that metter, try to please them, just wait to get a 'bone trown to him.
A man, don`t have to dressup for me, unless he has a social event that requires dressing up. Occasional and special events, i do like that a man gives presents, flowers, and things like that.
I love a man when he opens doors for a woman or pushes a chair for her to sit down
In all: i like a man to be a "man" and a woman be a "woman", without begging eachother to ged something.
I feel, that to many men are working hard to pleases their wives or their mothers/sisters, and the woman just stay there and: take, take and take.
Course, sometime is the other way around. But i am not that kind of woman eather; stay there and just please a man and loose my femmeninity, and act like a slave.
I never needed to provocate my husband to be femminine.
Our love his there for eachother needs, and when we needs. And, its all that it is necessary for him or me to have. Other things are only superficial and waste of time and money. Not to mention: acting like a 'marionet'.
Regards,
Cathy
Ali_Khan
08-12-03, 06:49 AM
Originally posted by allana
No! I don`t like: cowboy, Caliph, or samuray man. In another words, ruffness is not in my, nor is in my husband nature.
I don`t care eather for a man, or a women for that matter, who swear, talk foul language. Nor i like volgar men or women.
To be a man, it doesn`t mean he has to be ruff, dirty, foul mouth, arrogant. Man can be very kind, gentle, affectionate, clean, lovable, attentive and kind, and still be a "really man".
I don`t think that a man should be like a little puppy. Follow order of: his wive, his mother, girlfriend, or any other woman, for that metter, try to please them, just wait to get a 'bone trown to him.
A man, don`t have to dressup for me, unless he has a social event that requires dressing up. Occasional and special events, i do like that a man gives presents, flowers, and things like that.
I love a man when he opens doors for a woman or pushes a chair for her to sit down
In all: i like a man to be a "man" and a woman be a "woman", without begging eachother to ged something.
I feel, that to many men are working hard to pleases their wives or their mothers/sisters, and the woman just stay there and: take, take and take.
Course, sometime is the other way around. But i am not that kind of woman eather; stay there and just please a man and loose my femmeninity, and act like a slave.
I never needed to provocate my husband to be femminine.
Our love his there for eachother needs, and when we needs. And, its all that it is necessary for him or me to have. Other things are only superficial and waste of time and money. Not to mention: acting like a 'marionet'.
Regards,
Cathy
so dressing up for each other is bad? maybe u got the wrong idea but dressing up here does not mean putting on outlanishdly expensive clothes, it means wearing clothes that your spouse likes. and what exactly is wrong with that?
Good day to you Ali_Khan.
so dressing up for each other is bad? maybe u got the wrong idea but dressing up here does not mean putting on outlanishdly expensive clothes, it means wearing clothes that your spouse likes. and what exactly is wrong with that?
No, i din`t mean that way,
If its what you whant or looking for, or believe in this kind things, its fine.
For me, this kind of thinks are superficial. If me and my husband, celebrate special occasion like: birthday, Christmas or any other events, yes, we prepare the house accordally, and we both prepare orself with cleaning and decent clothes. But, yust for the sake to please eachother, its irrelevant. I like my husband the way he is, and looks, any time. We can have romantic time even after work on land, or cleaning the house. Infact, for me, my husband is more actractive when he is doing some work, and he feel the same way when he see me busy: work in the garden, be on in front of sewing machine, or busy on the front of the computer taking care my home based bussiness.
Even my cat, is very affectionate with me, when he sees me working, (couse he is a male cat). HAHAAA.
Greetings,
Cathy
Lateafha
08-12-03, 08:37 PM
Originally posted by allana
Even my cat, is very affectionate with me, when he sees me working, (couse he is a male cat). HAHAAA
SAY WHAT:rolleyes:
there is a cat that hits on woman? OMG.:eek:
Lateafha
08-12-03, 08:47 PM
Originally posted by allana
A man, don`t have to dressup for me, unless he has a social event that requires dressing up. Occasional and special events, i do like that a man gives presents, flowers, and things like that.
I think it's very important and nice if a man would do that for his wife. To dress up for his wife, not only for his work or the "social event" you mentioned.:)
Originally posted by allana
I feel, that to many men are working hard to pleases their wives or their mothers/sisters, and the woman just stay there and: take, take and take.
4real? I thought in most cases it was the exact opposite. :rolleyes:
Hello LATEAFHA.
Everyone is different and have different needs. If something works for some, its fine. Anything it makes people feel good, is worth doing.
BTW, the cat is my husband cat, but i do love him to, since he is a GOD creature, and part of the family.
Our cat is more outside animal, but he came inside to eat and get love now and then.
I, personally, like animals outside in their inviorment. We also have many wild animals, and i feed them. Also animals likes sweets, so i treat them with cookies or chocolate once an while. They love it. And i enjoy observe them. You be surprise what i can learn from them.
Regards,
Cathy
AhmedSyed
11-12-03, 05:09 AM
You be surprise what i can learn from them.
Thats cool. I've been trying to get the squirrel near my apartments to teach me how to climb trees, poles, and houses.
I think he has ADD. :D
AhmedSyed sayed:
Thats cool. I've been trying to get the squirrel near my apartments to teach me how to climb trees, poles, and houses
Now, now, now, AhmedSyed. i am sure you can be able to a climb tree without any anymal help.
Me and my brother climbed big trees all the time, when we where grown up. no one thought us. we just know!
I hope you was joking though.
greetings,
Cathy
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