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Mu'minah
02-10-03, 05:45 PM
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
Originally posted by Mu'minah
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
islamic character!!!! first and foremoast
Mu'minah
02-10-03, 05:50 PM
well islamic characteristic ... matlab
knowledge of quran n sunnah seerah of the prophets and sahabahs tajweed hijabified or niqabified in all these aspects ??
what bout cooking ..... would u guyz like it if she cooks rice everyday same old plain rice with dhaal....
or what if ur late from work would u call her and tell u gonna be late ....
etc .... i'm jus worried bout marriage sorry ... i need no what irritates da guyz most so i can be pre-prepared
i think it wud depend on the guy, per se. not evry1 is the same..wat might annoy some men, others may not be all tht bothered.
dnt worry about marriage! it'l b fine..you'l figure out wt gets him angry/happy..jst a matter of time :) (this is coming 4rm some1 who's not married :rolleyes: so up2u whether u want2tke my advice :p )
Ws
.: Anna :.
02-10-03, 06:36 PM
salaam sis
well i'm not married so i dont really know...but when u get married u could talk 2 ur husband about it and ask him what things he does and doesnt like u 2 do insha allah, cuz if u got that info from someone else it could b something that another bro thinks is good but ur husband doesnt like it, so just talk 2 him.
communication is sposed 2 really help marriages work i think, but yeah if he sees ur making the effort 2 ask n 2 try n please him insha allah he'll b satisfied w/ that
am not an expert tho cuz i dont really know nething about what its like bein married
fi imanillah
anna
seinhumour
02-10-03, 06:45 PM
A large wallet (kidding). I concur with Sajid. someone who's character reflects that of piety and righteousness in the way of Islam.
Yeah I concur with Sajid too.
For me, "buff on the inside" is more important than "buff on the outside". Ideally my dream wifey would also have a good sense of humour and be interesting to talk to, i.e. so I can spend aaaaaages chatting and never get bored :D
well its is a dream girl than i would obviously want a remale muslim who can cook, speak urdu, is skinny, in shape, doesnt really matter what nationality really. but this is only for a dream girl.
AbuMubarak
02-10-03, 07:25 PM
speak urdu?
skinny?
yeah, top priorities
and what non-asian speaks urdur?
And what is a remale? :confused:
ze leetle elper
02-10-03, 09:30 PM
Originally posted by baba
For me, "buff on the inside" is more important than "buff on the outside". Ideally my dream wifey would also have a good sense of humour and be interesting to talk to, i.e. so I can spend aaaaaages chatting and never get bored :D
:up:
Same applies for me.... :inlove:
Ali_Khan
02-10-03, 11:34 PM
Most nicest thing I would like to see in my wife would be taqwah. After that, love of me ;)
IsLaMiC_FrEsH
02-10-03, 11:51 PM
lips
Ankaboot
03-10-03, 03:25 AM
Originally posted by Mu'minah
well islamic characteristic ... matlab
knowledge of quran n sunnah seerah of the prophets and sahabahs tajweed hijabified or niqabified in all these aspects ??
what bout cooking ..... would u guyz like it if she cooks rice everyday same old plain rice with dhaal....
or what if ur late from work would u call her and tell u gonna be late ....
etc .... i'm jus worried bout marriage sorry ... i need no what irritates da guyz most so i can be pre-prepared Easy..
Get all those questions down on paper...
When he first comes down to see you (the first interview so to speak)...
Fire away..
'Do you snore?' is a classic opening question :D
BubbleGum
03-10-03, 05:41 AM
Don't ask us a lot of questions a soon as we step in the door from work.
OOPPS, That is for AFTER you get married :p
Peace,
~Bub
ze leetle elper
03-10-03, 09:27 AM
Originally posted by IsLaMiC_FrEsH
lips
I find it extremely disturbing that people place priority on appearance rather than character/ personality. :freedom:
Lips?
What if those lips were a backbiting menace? :banghead:
AbuHanzalah
03-10-03, 09:41 AM
I would have to say the thing i that i looked for in a wife when i decided to look, was that she fears Allaah, after that i placed my trust in Allaah and Allhumdillaah i found someone who was everything and more.
Some say beauty, and so on so fourth, but no-one has seen true beauty until the akhirah, where we will find the likes of Mardhiyah and the Hoor Al Eyn!
outlandish
03-10-03, 10:26 AM
Originally posted by ze leetle elper
I find it extremely disturbing that people place priority on appearance rather than character/ personality. :freedom:
Lips?
What if those lips were a backbiting menace? :banghead:
well ppl are always ppl, outward does most of the time count a lot for many ppl
I myself would prefer character, than anything else,since u have many beautifull ppl these days, but very few beautifull characters..
Blaster
03-10-03, 10:32 AM
Originally posted by Mu'minah
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
a companion in this life and the hereafter...
ze leetle elper
03-10-03, 10:51 AM
Originally posted by outlandish
u have many beautifull ppl these days, but very few beautifull characters..
Definately. :inlove:
(My fave topic) :D
beautiful face n very aesthetically pleasing bod athletic fit healthy nice mouth small nose small ears medium length hair {preferably brown} light coloured eyes about 5ft6 in height around 125 lbs 19-21 yrs old muslimsh {obviously}
ze leetle elper
03-10-03, 11:01 AM
Originally posted by qaatil
beautiful face n very aesthetically pleasing bod athletic fit healthy nice mouth small nose small ears medium length hair {preferably brown} light coloured eyes about 5ft6 in height around 125 lbs 19-21 yrs old muslimsh {obviously}
No comment. :banghead:
*IslamicGirl*
03-10-03, 11:09 AM
Originally posted by qaatil
beautiful face n very aesthetically pleasing bod athletic fit healthy nice mouth small nose small ears medium length hair {preferably brown} light coloured eyes about 5ft6 in height around 125 lbs 19-21 yrs old muslimsh {obviously}
U 4got the part when u say she has 2 b a Non-Shia
:rolleyes: :p ...seriously the amount of times u cuss them i'm not suprised u ddn't mention it in ur little matrimonial ad! :rolleyes:
actually i would definately not give my love 2 a shia or qadyani noi i.e those out of the fold of islam
imagine i marry a ****e n she goes n does mutah with my friends the says it was halal
also never a madhkalli or tableeghee or bareilwee or sufi
Mans nature is only natural. I could not bring myself to marry a really ugly woman regardless of her piety.
I would not marry a really beautiful woman that is not pious.
I woudn't mind an average looking woman, so long as her piety is not average. Her piety has to always be top class.
So my first and formeost condition is that she has to be pious. After that if her looks are reasonable i'll be happy enough.
As for the defintion of piety then that is simple.
Have the correct aqeedah.
Live according to Sharia. (which includes urging the husband to go in the path of jihad)
Practices tazkiyah of nafs.
Avoids bida'h
A little homour in her is always good.
Sallaam
Sis mu'minah, if u want a serious answer to your question, then be prepared to sit and listen for hours upon hours :). As for the ideal female, it depends on who you ask. As we can see we have from the internal (deen) etc etc to a specific type of nose. Go figure
Allah Hafiz
Nam ("Beauty is that which never ages, it remains with the person eternally" Nam 03/10/03)
its alwys best2 ask the guy wat annoys him..and wt doesnt.
hopefully he wont be too picky :p
Sis Ze...i bet ur loving this thread ;)
:inlove:
hahahaa!
Ws
ze leetle elper
03-10-03, 04:28 PM
Originally posted by Ebony
Sis Ze...i bet ur loving this thread ;)
:rolleyes:
Actually....no. (Ok, I'm a bad liar, but this is a great topic :inlove: )
Mu'minah
03-10-03, 04:31 PM
~nervous~
[edited - Baba please stop making cat noises :D]
Mu'minah
03-10-03, 06:14 PM
i thought all da guys had somfin in common except sistas .... well the Good RELIGIOUS brothers got sumfin in common n da Good Brothers got otha things in common ~ahem~
Originally posted by qaatil
beautiful face n very aesthetically pleasing bod athletic fit healthy nice mouth small nose small ears medium length hair {preferably brown} light coloured eyes about 5ft6 in height around 125 lbs 19-21 yrs old muslimsh {obviously} Very precise, but I see no mention of Islamic character. You disappoint me.
kaphirgoyim
03-10-03, 07:01 PM
...
seinhumour
03-10-03, 07:03 PM
Originally posted by baba
And what is a remale? :confused:
You don't want to know.
Mary Carol
03-10-03, 07:05 PM
Originally posted by kaphirgoyim
...
High heels? :eek:
I'd have thought barefoot would be the rule.
islamic jihad
03-10-03, 07:24 PM
hmmmmmm.....wow.....no1 mentioned her being chaste
Details
03-10-03, 07:33 PM
.... oh i so want to comment ..... lol
islamic jihad
03-10-03, 07:36 PM
well.....whose stopping u...like i said u mock no1's religion and ur ok.....so shoot
Details
03-10-03, 07:41 PM
i cant without sarcasm :( i just cant!!!
islamic jihad
03-10-03, 07:44 PM
u want me to give u a few slaps.... to get u to talk :p
i was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two, everything they say and everything they do!" :rotfl:
ze leetle elper
03-10-03, 10:12 PM
Originally posted by seven
i was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two, everything they say and everything they do!" :rotfl:
I thought you wanted to get married. :D
Not at this rate matey. :rolleyes:
AhmedSyed
03-10-03, 10:45 PM
Originally posted by AbuHanzalah
I would have to say the thing i that i looked for in a wife when i decided to look, was that she fears Allaah, after that i placed my trust in Allaah and Allhumdillaah i found someone who was everything and more.
Some say beauty, and so on so fourth, but no-one has seen true beauty until the akhirah, where we will find the likes of Mardhiyah and the Hoor Al Eyn!
Forgive my ignorance, but who is Mardhiyah and Hoor Al Eyn?
Also, I would definatly like a wife dedicated to Allah, because she would definatly have great characteristics (steryotypically unthought of;) )
If she is dedicated to Allah then she would surly be a great wife. Plus, the Prophet pbuh asked this of us, too look for religious women to marry. He pbuh said that those who marry muslimahs dedicated to Allah will succed.
i want sabees!!!
imshaAlla many many sabees from all colours cultures religions races countries
Originally posted by ze leetle elper
No comment. :banghead:
Ya took the words right outta my mouth. ;)
BubbleGum
04-10-03, 05:18 AM
Perhaps young unmarried men should not provide counsel on this matter. Your heads are full of the best intentions. But other parts of you are doing the thinking.
~Bub
Mu'minah
06-10-03, 06:16 PM
Originally posted by AhmedSyed
Forgive my ignorance, but who is Mardhiyah and Hoor Al Eyn?
errrr Hoor Al Eyn is beautiful to one's eye... i fink
and i don't no about mardhiyah... i'll ask
wait lemme get ma quran outta ma backpack ....
GUYS NEED TO READ THIS AYAH OF QURAN ... surah Furqan Ayah 74... infact MEMORIZE it...
Ali_Khan
07-10-03, 03:34 AM
Originally posted by islamic jihad
hmmmmmm.....wow.....no1 mentioned her being chaste
I was assuming that was taken as granted.
Ali_Khan
07-10-03, 03:36 AM
Originally posted by seven
always remember, men have many faults and women have two, everything they say and everything they do!" :rotfl:
:rotfl:
BraveHeart
07-10-03, 05:36 AM
Originally posted by Mu'minah
errrr Hoor Al Eyn is beautiful to one's eye... i fink
and i don't no about mardhiyah... i'll ask
wait lemme get ma quran outta ma backpack ....
GUYS NEED TO READ THIS AYAH OF QURAN ... surah Furqan Ayah 74... infact MEMORIZE it...
No let me correct you. Hural-eyn are the Most beautiful woman in Jannah.
There is no hural-eyn on earth :) so it can't be in anyone's eye.
Ma'Salama
AbuMubarak
08-11-03, 11:27 PM
marry a woman you want to be your friend, not your servant
and marry a woman that you want to raise your children in the manner that is best for islam and the ummah
CatcherInTheRye
08-11-03, 11:56 PM
Originally posted by qaatil
actually i would definately not give my love 2 a shia or qadyani noi i.e those out of the fold of islam
imagine i marry a ****e n she goes n does mutah with my friends the says it was halal
also never a madhkalli or tableeghee or bareilwee or sufi
Hey Qatil wots wrong with a tabhligee??
Wot proof hav you got that they are a deviant group in islam??
they r just trying to propagate islam, they hav no deviant beliefs like the qadiaanis.
btw who would you marry??if u dont want to marry a madhkalli, tabhleeghee, bareilwee or sufi??
How abt marrying a MUSLIM??;)
Talking about marriage, I'm being dragged to Morocco this January to attend a wedding.
The wedding has been delayed for several months because the couple refuse to marry unless I am there.
Just can't understand some people!
Lateafha
09-11-03, 12:32 AM
Originally posted by Sultan
Talking about marriage, I'm being dragged to Morocco this January to attend a wedding.
The wedding has been delayed for several months because the couple refuse to marry unless I am there.
Just can't understand some people!
Sultan your either the:)Wali who gives the girl away or the Imam who leads the cermony LOL;)
which is it? :)
Originally posted by LATEAFHA
Sultan your either the:)Wali who gives the girl away or the Imam who leads the cermony LOL;)
which is it? :)
Neither.
Mu'minah
09-11-03, 03:15 AM
this thing is still going on ... LOOOOOOOL
ze leetle elper
07-11-06, 12:05 PM
Bumpity Bump :d
Bumpity Bump :d
ahhhh the days eh!!! how sooo grown up some people are ...
And some are still as childish as ever!!! :rolleyes:
Refugee
07-11-06, 12:12 PM
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
She has be muslim (practising muslim that is) first of all - and thats main thing - Someone who understands me - and support me -
And she has to look like aishwarya rai - just kidding
beauty is in the eye of the beholder, anyways
Al Noor
07-11-06, 12:31 PM
Firstly I would look at her Taqwa...and how much relisation of Allah she has I mean doe sshe pray her namaaz,,,reads quran and basically what kind of a person she is...looks do count but they wont be on th etop of my list....iv married so am talking for experience..i can relate to a hadith of our beloved prophet that i remember vaguely.....if you look at beauty it will fade,,if you look at wealth it will decrease but if you look at imaan in a person that will always increase throughout the life..........please correc tme fi am wrong...but its the imaan that counts first inshallah..
Ibn-e-Muslim
07-11-06, 12:34 PM
A practicing muslimah, she comes with every thing u r expacting from a wife so..
sunrise
07-11-06, 12:39 PM
Firstly I would look at her Taqwa...and how much relisation of Allah she has I mean doe sshe pray her namaaz,,,reads quran and basically what kind of a person she is...looks do count but they wont be on th etop of my list....iv married so am talking for experience..i can relate to a hadith of our beloved prophet that i remember vaguely.....if you look at beauty it will fade,,if you look at wealth it will decrease but if you look at imaan in a person that will always increase throughout the life..........please correc tme fi am wrong...but its the imaan that counts first inshallah..
:up: :up: :up:
If only people actually looked for this then we have such sakinnah within the ummah
Not *s/he's asian/arab/white/black u cant marry him/her*
sunrise
07-11-06, 12:41 PM
also can you believe some ppl from this thread actually married each other:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
I was just reading some people say *oh i'm not married so i wouldnt know, or im guessing etc* and they married each other mashAllah!
Sunrise
also can you believe some ppl from this thread actually married each other:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
I was just reading some people say *oh i'm not married so i wouldnt know, or im guessing etc* and they married each other mashAllah!
Sunrise
loool! :rubeyes:
muslim_sis
07-11-06, 12:49 PM
.....if you look at beauty it will fade..
that reminds me of what a sheikh said in the talk i went to yesterday , he was talking about looking for a wife , and he was saying if u look only for beauty you will find years down the line , beauty will now become the beast lool .. so must take prophets advise in looking for a spouse and u urselves make it a successful marriage by how u make the marriage, not just by looks or wealth etc..
Salman Al-Farsi
07-11-06, 12:50 PM
someone with a brain.. even if its tiny :rolleyes:
!--Muzzamil--!
07-11-06, 04:08 PM
Biryani cooking skills JKE
.: Anna :.
07-11-06, 04:13 PM
also can you believe some ppl from this thread actually married each other:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
I was just reading some people say *oh i'm not married so i wouldnt know, or im guessing etc* and they married each other mashAllah!
Sunriselooool i went back 2 the first page n saw that :p
we got me n baba in here n seven n zee :inlove: alhamdulillah :up::up:
sunrise
07-11-06, 06:36 PM
looool i went back 2 the first page n saw that :p
we got me n baba in here n seven n zee :inlove: alhamdulillah :up::up:
yeah subhanaAllah i know it's late but mabrook 2 the both of ya!!!
Sunrise
Abu Hurairah
07-11-06, 07:04 PM
Assalamu Alaikum my Mod/ Admin brothers and sister,
Can one of you kindly move this to that 'Marriage' section of the forum so its no longer in general and I don't keep opening it here by mistake by seeing 'Brothers' in the title.
Jezak'allah.
Wa Alaikum wa Assalam,
Revenge.
07-11-06, 07:08 PM
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
Dean first, character, Family values and some one that could put up with my antics.
.: Anna :.
07-11-06, 07:24 PM
Assalamu Alaikum my Mod/ Admin brothers and sister,
Can one of you kindly move this to that 'Marriage' section of the forum so its no longer in general and I don't keep opening it here by mistake by seeing 'Brothers' in the title.
Jezak'allah.
Wa Alaikum wa Assalam,okay i will ia
Ibn Khattab
07-11-06, 08:05 PM
salaam sis
well i'm not married so i dont really know...but when u get married u could talk 2 ur husband about it and ask him what things he does and doesnt like u 2 do insha allah, cuz if u got that info from someone else it could b something that another bro thinks is good but ur husband doesnt like it, so just talk 2 him.
communication is sposed 2 really help marriages work i think, but yeah if he sees ur making the effort 2 ask n 2 try n please him insha allah he'll b satisfied w/ that
am not an expert tho cuz i dont really know nething about what its like bein married
fi imanillah
anna
i thought u were married to baba:wacko: :wacko: :wacko:
muslimah85
07-11-06, 08:06 PM
a good sense of humor :inlove:
Ibn Khattab
07-11-06, 08:09 PM
you know with some people yeh, if you just say the word marriage they go off on one :rolleyes:
(bid'ah, haram and all the rest of it:D)
.: Anna :.
07-11-06, 08:11 PM
i thought u were married to baba:wacko: :wacko: :wacko:
I am... the thread is years old. I was not married since forever u know... I was only 16 when I joined the forum
Ibn Khattab
07-11-06, 08:12 PM
I am... the thread is years old. I was not married since forever u know... I was only 16 when I joined the forum
ohhh my bad im so dumb:coolbro:
.: Anna :.
07-11-06, 08:16 PM
ohhh my bad im so dumb:coolbro:its okay ur excused :p
Al-Irhaab
07-11-06, 08:22 PM
Yeah I concur with Sajid too.
For me, "buff on the inside" is more important than "buff on the outside". Ideally my dream wifey would also have a good sense of humour and be interesting to talk to, i.e. so I can spend aaaaaages chatting and never get bored :D
interesting :D
.: Anna :.
07-11-06, 08:23 PM
:eek: :embar:
do u hav 2 quote that??
muslimah85
07-11-06, 08:24 PM
:eek: :embar:
do u hav 2 quote that??
awww :inlove:hehe :love:
Al-Irhaab
07-11-06, 08:38 PM
:eek: :embar:
do u hav 2 quote that??
yes :inlove:
Cristiana
07-11-06, 09:09 PM
:D well ppl are always ppl, outward does most of the time count a lot for many ppl
I myself would prefer character, than anything else,since u have many beautifull ppl these days, but very few beautifull characters..
Character and beauty often are fused together in what I call "THAT SPECIAL SOMETHING".
I don't think that people really "look for" mere physical beauty as such... especially because beauty is so subjective!
I think that more than a list of features (dress size, weight, hight, color...bla bla bla), when a person has "THAT SOMETHING" to him/her... This is what makes you like him/her.
THAT SOMETHING can be the sparkle in his/her eyes, or something he/she says during this very poignant conversation you are having that is absolutely special to you, or something about the way he/she talks or moves... that is much more powerful than the beauty on fashion magazines...
...or maybe is "the whole pakage", a general feeling about this person, an impression (but one that corresponds to reality)... this is what i mean by THAT SOMETHING.
Once you see it you won't look at this person the same way again.
And you can wonder as much as you want about the characteristics of the ideal partner and write lists...I myself enjoy talking about that, although I found mine (Mashallah)... however you will know "what you are looking for" ONLY when you meet him/her... and you realise you can't leave without THAT SOMETHING that only him/her has in the world.
I don't think you will have to tick boxes... when you see him/her you'll just throw away the list!!!
Abu Muslim
08-11-06, 12:04 AM
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
I wouldnt really look into a girl :scratch:.. unless she has butters teeth and wants to show me.
Other than that, if you looking for one of them pious brothers hanging around, they will follow the advice of Rasululalah SAW which is firstly and most importantly look for deen, then character, then beauty, then wealth, then lineage.
ur_yusra
08-11-06, 12:12 AM
I suppose there isn't a mod on at this time?
I suppose there isn't a mod on at this time?
I suppose you can't take a joke.
ur_yusra
08-11-06, 12:18 AM
I suppose you can't take a joke.
Do you have anything decent to say at all?
Al-Irhaab
08-11-06, 12:21 AM
I suppose you can't take a joke.
no we cant take haram jokes if u have a problem feel free to leave :rolleyes:
Do you have anything decent to say at all?
Hmm... My ideal girl,
ImanThats basically it, aslong as she has Iman I'll be happy.
HAPPY?
ur_yusra
08-11-06, 12:26 AM
Hmm... My ideal girl,
ImanThats basically it, aslong as she has Iman I'll be happy.
HAPPY?
Lets just hope shes not after someone with a good sense of humour.
Lets just hope shes not after someone with a good sense of humour.
A girl not going after a Brother with a good sense of humor?
NEVER!!! :hidban:
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
Intelligence, compassion and a sense of humour.
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
my ideal wife. She should be a good muslim,& educated loving,caring,& good heart person. Enhshallha hope allha help me to get soon!:torture:
I'm married for about six years and have to say 2 things for me are simplicity (no love for Dunyaa) and Obedience to Allah. I make duaa that Allah grant both my wife and me this
Ameen
Abu Hasim
08-11-06, 04:45 PM
was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two,
brother thats a joke,cone that the sisters arent supposed to hear lol some
was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two,
brother thats a joke,cone that the sisters arent supposed to hear lol some
That implies more men have faults?
Ridiculous. We rule
GothiKa
08-11-06, 04:53 PM
Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahe wa barkatuhu
what do u guyz look in to a girl i mean if you guyz are looking for a wife or ur dream wife ... n e fing : S other than beauty ....
jus asking :X
PhD
Ibn-e-Muslim
08-11-06, 05:42 PM
PhD
phira hua dimagh? :S
:scratch:
Medievalist
08-11-06, 06:14 PM
namaz and purdah. My two conditions they were :D.
ur_yusra
08-11-06, 06:34 PM
was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two,
brother thats a joke,cone that the sisters arent supposed to hear lol some
Is that a joke? I don't get it.
aamilah
08-11-06, 06:37 PM
Is that a joke? I don't get it.
he didnt quote it all, br. seven mentioned it couple of yrs back in this thread in previous pages :)
"for a successful marriage, remember, men have many faults and women have two:
everything they say and everything they do"
Assalamu Alaikum
Obviously a good muslim will look for good muslimah .
A muslim girl in hijaab with strong imaan and not to bad looks and with some education .
What more could be asked for ????
Allah Kareem
Asalamualekum, answer to your question. I am currently looking for a wife and there are two important things that i want.
They are 1. Deen, doesnt matter if she doesnt have much knowledge, as long as she has the intention to learn inshAllah 2nd Would be nice if she was a person with alot of patients. :)
ur_yusra
09-11-06, 11:07 PM
Asalamualekum, answer to your question. I am currently looking for a wife and there are two important things that i want.
They are 1. Deen, doesnt matter if she doesnt have much knowledge, as long as she has the intention to learn inshAllah 2nd Patients. :)
Aah so she has to be a doctor/dentist and the like then.. :p
Aah so she has to be a doctor/dentist and the like then.. :p
Oops ma bad lol, corrected :D Dont need no doctor!
sisinislam
10-11-06, 09:42 AM
:torture: speak urdu?
skinny?
yeah, top priorities
and what non-asian speaks urdur?
:torture: You are joking right??????????/
.: Anna :.
10-11-06, 09:48 AM
yes he was being sarcastic... he's not even asian himself
Asalamualekum, answer to your question. I am currently looking for a wife and there are two important things that i want.
They are 1. Deen, doesnt matter if she doesnt have much knowledge, as long as she has the intention to learn inshAllah 2nd Would be nice if she was a person with alot of patients. :)
InshaAllah you have ingrediants to get 1 good wife .:up:
Abu Hasim
10-11-06, 10:13 AM
I think patience, gentleness, loving, pious, and beautiful and shy too ( If she's a shy virgin, or naqabi even better). definitely has to be able to cook.
I think patience, gentleness, loving, pious, and beautiful and shy too ( If she's a shy virgin, or naqabi even better). definitely has to be able to cook.
:up: good luck
that's a rare phenomena though :D
:up: good luck
that's a rare phenomena though :D
Indeed it is lol, but never stop making dua brother, inshAllah ul get what you want :)
I think patience, gentleness, loving, pious, and beautiful and shy too ( If she's a shy virgin, or naqabi even better). definitely has to be able to cook.
LOL found that funny.
ur_yusra
10-11-06, 01:52 PM
:up: good luck
that's a rare phenomena though :D
Yard :S
Says who..
I said it without any bias .....same applies to brothers also .
We all pray that this tribe increase manifold .
Cristiana
10-11-06, 03:22 PM
i was at a nikah today, and the shaykh was giving a little talk on marriage... "for a successful marriage always remember, men have many faults and women have two, everything they say and everything they do!" :rotfl:
OMG....
HILAIROUS...
...AND SO ORIGINAL.... :zzz:
...buy some of those "sense of humor" tablets and do a full treatment before even considering marriage. Please. thank you.
:rotfl:
maybe i will buy some sense of humour tablets... and send them to you... clearly you're the one that needs them! :D
Na'eemah
10-11-06, 03:28 PM
:wacko: stop being mean to each other. You should know better!
Blaaady feisty ppl
Actually seven...that was quite funny :D
Fuchsia
10-11-06, 11:31 PM
Have read this post with interest and would like your view on a dilemma a close friend of mine is in:
We've been encouraging her to look for a husband for quite a while now. She does want to get married, her mum thinks she's being too picky as she's said no to quite a few brothers but they weren't right for her. I personally think she can afford to be a bit selective as she does have a lot going for her: hijabi, mid-twenties but looks younger, educated, funny, lively and extremely attractive, alhamdulliah. She has a very good heart, but the problem is that this doesn't always show due to personality flaws- she is not very patient and gets annoyed quite quickly (not a person you want to cross!). She is also quite bossy and a bit of a control freak, not liking to be criticised! Because of this, she has said recently that she fears she won't be able to get married, as it will be hard finding a practising brother willing to put up with a wife who is like this and she finds it difficult to change her personality. It breaks my heart because she clearly wants children and would be a very loving mother, inshallah.
Is she right, brothers? Would such a personality turn you away from a woman, even if she was gorgeous (and this sister definately is)?
Cristiana
10-11-06, 11:42 PM
Actually seven...that was quite funny :D
THANK YOU:D (ah! ah!)
Have read this post with interest and would like your view on a dilemma a close friend of mine is in:
We've been encouraging her to look for a husband for quite a while now. She does want to get married, her mum thinks she's being too picky as she's said no to quite a few brothers but they weren't right for her. I personally think she can afford to be a bit selective as she does have a lot going for her: hijabi, mid-twenties but looks younger, educated, funny, lively and extremely attractive, alhamdulliah. She has a very good heart, but the problem is that this doesn't always show due to personality flaws- she is not very patient and gets annoyed quite quickly (not a person you want to cross!). She is also quite bossy and a bit of a control freak, not liking to be criticised! Because of this, she has said recently that she fears she won't be able to get married, as it will be hard finding a practising brother willing to put up with a wife who is like this and she finds it difficult to change her personality. It breaks my heart because she clearly wants children and would be a very loving mother, inshallah.
Is she right, brothers? Would such a personality turn you away from a woman, even if she was gorgeous (and this sister definately is)?
As part of my duas is for my Allah to grant me patients aswell as my wife patients. If the husband has deen then inshAllah i think she wont have many problems. Personally i can always adjust my ways just to make things work good :)
Also i wrote in this thread, that i want a wife with Deen and patients, im sure if a sister was to specifiy her criteries she would also say something similiar such as "patients" so its important that the man has patients to :)
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