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Ammarah
07-08-03, 09:20 PM
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
By Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.
4. Always wear jewelery and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. An argument is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
1o. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
Now thats the type of wife i want.:inlove:
Good post by the way. What abt 10 tips for successful husband?
Ammarah
08-08-03, 12:34 AM
lemme go dig it up :)
muslimcreed
08-08-03, 10:42 PM
Beautiful Naseeha ya ukhti
Jazaki Allahu kheiran
Gwenhwyvar
06-12-03, 06:54 PM
Lovely Post :D
ze leetle elper
08-12-03, 11:49 PM
:love: :D
AhmedSyed
09-12-03, 05:13 AM
Man...I sure do wish....:D :rolleyes: :love: :inlove:
Insallah my wife will have those characteristics!
.: Anna :.
09-12-03, 01:08 PM
:love:
Originally posted by Ammarah
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
By Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
Mine uses ornaments alright-as well as plates, pans, and anything else she gets her hands on to throw at me!
:(
Jazak Allah sis! :)
jus wonderin isn't the word in #1 suppose to be 'fitrah' instead of 'fitnah'?
Originally posted by rania
Jazak Allah sis! :)
jus wonderin isn't the word in #1 suppose to be 'fitrah' instead of 'fitnah'?
Nah! As I explained above, it must definitely be fitnah!
LOL sultan. I know exactly what you mean. Not to mention the locking you out the house lol. women! can't live wiv em cant liv without em!
StickyPeas
23-12-03, 12:22 AM
hey.. i like these tips.. mashallah.. :)
ils sont très utiles!!
Originally posted by Sultan
Mine uses ornaments alright-as well as plates, pans, and anything else she gets her hands on to throw at me!
:(
haha. Wife with temperament. Its not better to communicate with your wife, rather than to have a woman who always its agree with you even when you are wrong.
After me its better everyone to admit when is making a mistake, "i am sorry" should be said by both.
Originally posted by Ammarah
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
By Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.
4. Always wear jewelery and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. An argument is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
1o. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
To me this sounds like one boarding wife with a one dimensional character... and I am married.
Interesting post!
I wonder what an Italia man would think about this.
BAWAWWWWWWW!
Come to think of: The really American "cowboy" wishes he had this kind of wife.
HAHAHA!!!!!!!!
Come to think of it: i done all this '10' thinks. Maybe it`s why i am still with the same husband.
I really should chacge! Read this post , i think that i am a little old fashion! Geee!!!
Arsalan
05-02-06, 03:43 PM
For Sajids wedding cards??? :)
Brothers remember to send a copy of the above for your Mrs, too.
ur_yusra
05-02-06, 04:19 PM
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
By Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.
4. Always wear jewelery and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. An argument is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
1o. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
about 50% of those things are physical chracteristics.. what if a woman isnt beautiful by nature... does that give the man the right to dump her??
Where are the comments regarding her deen.. etc.. shouldnt there be more about her character apart from the obeying bit.. or are men really that narrow..
about 50% of those things are physical chracteristics.. what if a woman isnt beautiful by nature... does that give the man the right to dump her??
Where are the comments regarding her deen.. etc.. shouldnt there be more about her character apart from the obeying bit.. or are men really that narrow..
thats very true sis.......how about TALK to you husband, build your understanding and respect for one another......????????
Remember that physical beauty does not last forever, neither will a woman's voice after all that singing........however a marriage built on understanding and respect will....
ur_yusra
05-02-06, 04:27 PM
thats very true sis.......how about TALK to you husband, build your understanding and respect for one another......????????
Remember that physical beauty does not last forever, neither will a woman's voice after all that singing........however a marriage built on understanding and respect will....
lol.. i think we'l leave the singing to the hoors..
what makes a woman overtake the hoors in jannah in beauty and charm..?? It is the fact that she worshipped Allah (swt) on Earth.. that she obeyed him.. therefore this is a major characteristic that a man should look for in a wife.. but no... he wants her to LOOK like hoors..
lol.. i think we'l leave the singing to the hoors..
what makes a woman overtake the hoors in jannah in beauty and charm..?? It is the fact that she worshipped Allah (swt) on Earth.. that she obeyed him.. therefore this is a major characteristic that a man should look for in a wife.. but no... he wants her to LOOK like hoors..
Thats a really good point......:up:
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 04:45 PM
mashallah excellent advice.. subhanallah by a scholar in islam aswell mashallah....
shame so many sisters cant follow that advice.. no wonder we see so much divorce nowadays...
Since when were divorce rates largely due to the fact that the wife didnt sing to her husband??? I think they are due to the fact that the marriage lacked understanding and respect in the first place, and maybe they did not marry each other for the deen.....
No one is saying the advice isnt valid....however, there are many other important 'tips' too that will form a successful marriage....from other scholars also....
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
this one is very important
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allaah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1052)
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 05:23 PM
Since when were divorce rates largely due to the fact that the wife didnt sing to her husband??? I think they are due to the fact that the marriage lacked understanding and respect in the first place, and maybe they did not marry each other for the deen.....
No one is saying the advice isnt valid....however, there are many other important 'tips' too that will form a successful marriage....from other scholars also....
yup thats why ur slating this poor sheikh ... :rolleyes:
hes telling you how the sahabiyah used to act and cus it dont add up to ur views bachara getting blazed.... cant just say mashallah excellent advice like everyone else has...
yup thats why ur slating this poor sheikh ... :rolleyes:
hes telling you how the sahabiyah used to act and cus it dont add up to ur views bachara getting blazed.... cant just say mashallah excellent advice like everyone else has...
Slating who...??? where.. ????.. Blazed what ??????
the point is this, the tips are fine, for any sister who wishes to do that, but the reality is also that a marriage will not be successful based simply on physical attributes... like I said.....those fade with time anyway.....understanding, love and respect don't.....
Why men got to put so much emphasis on physical attributes ????? Women arent as fussed....piety all the way....but I guess we just have our priorities sorted Alhumdullilah.....
To me this sounds like one boarding wife with a one dimensional character... and I am married.
....interesting point...
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 05:46 PM
Slating who...??? where.. ????.. Blazed what ??????
the point is this, the tips are fine, for any sister who wishes to do that, but the reality is also that a marriage will not be successful based simply on physical attributes... like I said.....those fade with time anyway.....understanding, love and respect don't.....
Why men got to put so much emphasis on physical attributes ????? Women arent as fussed....piety all the way....but I guess we just have our priorities sorted Alhumdullilah.....
like i said he is a scholar and he is married... whilst you are niether a scholar nor are you married... so you have very little idea in comparison to him about what makes a happy marriage... strange how any book of the past you pick up from the great ulema which talks about advice talks about the same things.. :rolleyes: strange hey...
why men get so fussed about physcial attributes... why do u think... :rolleyes:
same reason why women spend so much on doing themselves up for men...
ur_yusra
05-02-06, 05:49 PM
Slating who...??? where.. ????.. Blazed what ??????
the point is this, the tips are fine, for any sister who wishes to do that, but the reality is also that a marriage will not be successful based simply on physical attributes... like I said.....those fade with time anyway.....understanding, love and respect don't.....
Why men got to put so much emphasis on physical attributes ????? Women arent as fussed....piety all the way....but I guess we just have our priorities sorted Alhumdullilah.....
yes very true.. the relationship you have with your husband is for the rest of your life.. and yes those physical characteristics will be successful in the first few years, but what after?? does passion have no end?? of course it does.. a womans beauty is not forever.. but her piety, her good character.. her humour.. these are things that will ultimately help a relationship to blossom and continue its blossom until death.. where physical charm will be renewed inshaAllah..
Imagine if a woman is not very good looking.. asking her to resemble hoors is too much pressure and it is unfair.. If people think that Muhammad al shareef is being criticised here.. then no this is not the case..
anyway.. of course men are gnna criticise this difference of opinion for obvious reasons..
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 05:49 PM
[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Wife
By Muhammad Al-Shareef
1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.
4. Always wear jewelery and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
7. An argument is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
1o. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
mashallah
yes very true.. the relationship you have with your husband is for the rest of your life.. and yes those physical characteristics will be successful in the first few years, but what after?? does passion have no end?? of course it does.. a womans beauty is not forever.. but her piety, her good character.. her humour.. these are things that will ultimately help a relationship to blossom and continue its blossom until death.. where physical charm will be renewed inshaAllah..
Imagine if a woman is not very good looking.. asking her to resemble hoors is too much pressure and it is unfair.. If people think that Muhammad al shareef is being criticised here.. then no this is not the case..
anyway.. of course men are gnna criticise this difference of opinion for obvious reasons..
So beautifully said MashAllah!!!! :inlove: .....
Men and their obvious reasons......hmmmmm..........:rolleyes:
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 07:07 PM
yes very true.. the relationship you have with your husband is for the rest of your life.. and yes those physical characteristics will be successful in the first few years, but what after?? does passion have no end?? of course it does.. a womans beauty is not forever.. but her piety, her good character.. her humour.. these are things that will ultimately help a relationship to blossom and continue its blossom until death.. where physical charm will be renewed inshaAllah..
Imagine if a woman is not very good looking.. asking her to resemble hoors is too much pressure and it is unfair.. If people think that Muhammad al shareef is being criticised here.. then no this is not the case..
anyway.. of course men are gnna criticise this difference of opinion for obvious reasons..
yup but what pleases a man aswell as her piety is her beauty... a woman who purposely lacks in pleasing her husband is one who lacks in piety aswell.. that is the message that the sheikh is trying to give... :rolleyes:
its like imagine you come home and you find your wife everyday dressed like a scruff not smelling nice not cooking properly... you think thats a pious wife :rolleyes:
i wonder why all the brothers and most of the sisters actually found this article very useful mashallah... shame about the few who didnt... wonder if theyll even take the advice...
dcentenero
05-02-06, 07:12 PM
Beuatiful post. I strive for those things and inshaallah, I'll be married within a year.
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 07:16 PM
Beuatiful post. I strive for those things and inshaallah, I'll be married within a year.
inshallah bro :D
yup but what pleases a man aswell as her piety is her beauty... a woman who purposely lacks in pleasing her husband is one who lacks in piety aswell.. that is the message that the sheikh is trying to give... :rolleyes:
its like imagine you come home and you find your wife everyday dressed like a scruff not smelling nice not cooking properly... you think thats a pious wife :rolleyes:
i wonder why all the brothers and most of the sisters actually found this article very useful mashallah... shame about the few who didnt... wonder if theyll even take the advice...
Marriage= Lie down and prepare to be stepped on. Tis the way it goes.
.: Anna :.
05-02-06, 07:25 PM
Sisters I dnt think the sheikh is saying everyone has to make themselves look exactly like a hoor or that if they are not pretty then they are not a good wife, cos some ppl are more good looking than others (although depends on the point of view) and obviously in Islam we do not judge each other by looks but piety is more important as you said, but really it's just about making an effort. If a sister made the effort, but still she doesn't look like a hoor, I doubt her husband is gna make a fuss cos she has made the effort 2 make herself look nice 4 him and insha allah he will appreciate it even if some other girls are "prettier" than his wife, afterall he has chosen that wife and knew what she looks like (generally) when he married her!
We don't need to critise every peice of advice... maybe there are some more advice you think could have been included aswell, it doesn't make the ones in the post any less of a useful advice though. Some of the things if you dnt wna do it, like singing, leave that then... and jst see what benefit u could derive from the rest of it. I'm sure u would find at least one of the advice u could agree with and insha allah implement in ur marriage :)
dcentenero
05-02-06, 07:30 PM
inshallah bro :D
I'm a Sister.
Guardian Hijab
05-02-06, 07:31 PM
about 50% of those things are physical chracteristics.. what if a woman isnt beautiful by nature... does that give the man the right to dump her??
Where are the comments regarding her deen.. etc.. shouldnt there be more about her character apart from the obeying bit.. or are men really that narrow..
the list isn't perfect. But you have to admit, there are some cute points:)
I was surprised there wasn't more points about her iman:scratch:
These "tips" would vary depending on the couple in question. It is not meant to be a "gospel" that you swear by. Some men may want their wife to look beautiful to a greater extent than other men.
That's their own personal matter, to be decided between the husband and wife.
Guardian Hijab
05-02-06, 07:37 PM
lol.. i think we'l leave the singing to the hoors..
what makes a woman overtake the hoors in jannah in beauty and charm..?? It is the fact that she worshipped Allah (swt) on Earth.. that she obeyed him.. therefore this is a major characteristic that a man should look for in a wife.. but no... he wants her to LOOK like hoors..
MashAllah, spot on sis.
The list is flawed. Its pretty much describing the perfect woman. But if a female scholar made a list about the perfect husband, then alot of muslim men would find it flawed as well:p
.: Anna :.
05-02-06, 07:39 PM
There is one of these lists for the husband around here somewhere
lol i remember the bros were picking at that advice aswell :p
but the only one i can remember was someting like "wear designer PJs" :rotfl:
Guardian Hijab
05-02-06, 07:45 PM
There is one of these lists for the husband around here somewhere
lol i remember the bros were picking at that advice aswell :p
but the only one i can remember was someting like "wear designer PJs" :rotfl:
:rotfl: @ pj's!
islamirama
05-02-06, 07:46 PM
I find it very humorful and amusing how people sit on forums (whether this one or others) and argue and debate like they are scholars but can't just go do some research and actualy go read islmaic articles and books on the subject. And that is why i do not like forums :)
anyways, here's some advice for women. advice for men will follow afterwards inshallah.
Mother's advice to a daughter
‘Abd al-Malik said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother Umamah came in to her, to advise her, and said:
‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.
‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.
‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.
‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.
‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.
‘The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
‘The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment, whilst the latter will make him unhappy.
‘Show him as much honor and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation
.
‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) choose what is best for you and protect you.’”
She was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success; she gave birth to kings who ruled after him.
This advice clearly included everything that one could think of as regards the good manners that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be taken as the standard for every young girl who is about to get married.
http://www.wefound.org/texts/Ideal_Muslims_files/herhusband.htm
Al-Irhaab
05-02-06, 07:52 PM
bro i like u , u got to good perception about u mashallah...
only problem is this advice was posted before and certain sisters described it in very derogatory terms.... :rolleyes:
alburaq
05-02-06, 08:20 PM
thats very true sis.......how about TALK to you husband, build your understanding and respect for one another......????????
Remember that physical beauty does not last forever, neither will a woman's voice after all that singing........however a marriage built on understanding and respect will....
yeah, respect and understanding is very important :up:
Al-Mujaddidah
05-02-06, 10:08 PM
Great post by sister Ammarah..:up:
:salams,
Sisters, just take the advice and move on. No one is forcing you to do every point, its just that, advice. If you disagree with it, then erm, don't do it :scratch:
It wasn't an article named: What makes a good wife. It was 10 tips to being a good wife. Its for those already married, in which the selectin process has taken place.i.e the character, piouty,, status etc.
The wife has already been chosen for her correct characteristics (inshaAllah), its for those who are now husband and wife and wish to improve the relation. Sisters thses days :rolleyes:
MalikOne™
05-02-06, 10:32 PM
I'll tell u sistas how to really get on ur husbands good side :D
Talk about cars and football all the time
Get up before Fajr and wax his car
Comment on how fly he looks every morning
Make his favourite food for breakfest
Hoover his car
Polish his car
Scrub tha alloys on his car clean
Love his car like your children:D
Al-Mujaddidah
05-02-06, 10:35 PM
I'll tell u sistas how to really get on ur husbands good side :D
Talk about cars and football all the time
Get up before Fajr and wax his car
Comment on how fly he looks every morning
Make his favourite food for breakfest
Hoover his car
Polish his car
Scrub tha alloys on his car clean
Love his car like your children:D
You missed out the Playstation :rolleyes:
janathi
05-02-06, 10:38 PM
:salams
..why can't sisters just be thier sweet selves, and Maybe husbands will love and appriciate sisters for who they really are..not Love them for things which they are not..:rolleyes: ..and doing favours should come from the goodness of one's heart..not JUST to please your Husband..but for the reason as well that you feel nice in doing them too...:D
..hmm just an opinion..:inlove: ..proberbly doesn't make sence..but oh well..:)
:wswrwb:
all this whilst adding a little something to his meals
SoulAsylum
05-02-06, 10:47 PM
I'll tell u sistas how to really get on ur husbands good side :D
Talk about cars and football all the time
Get up before Fajr and wax his car
Comment on how fly he looks every morning
Make his favourite food for breakfest
Hoover his car
Polish his car
Scrub tha alloys on his car clean
Love his car like your children:D
Tell him his got Abs to die for.
Tell him his got Abs to die for.
haahahaha :D
Al-Irhaab
06-02-06, 10:10 AM
I'll tell u sistas how to really get on ur husbands good side :D
Talk about cars and football all the time
Get up before Fajr and wax his car
Comment on how fly he looks every morning
Make his favourite food for breakfest
Hoover his car
Polish his car
Scrub tha alloys on his car clean
Love his car like your children:D
:rotfl:
oh and you forgot never ever ever drive his car.... :rolleyes:
Umm Khadijah
06-02-06, 02:00 PM
JAZAKALLAH HUKHAIR for the post ukhti, very informative although I'm sure there is much more than 10 points to make a marriage more successful!
Al-ghurabah
06-02-06, 02:04 PM
Mine uses ornaments alright-as well as plates, pans, and anything else she gets her hands on to throw at me!
:(
lol :rotfl: :rofl1:
luqmanthecarpenter
06-02-06, 02:21 PM
Every man would want this, but this is exactly what the femenists are fighting against. I don't agree with the feminists, its sad actually that they have to fight for their equality in the western world.
The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: "The birds in flight, the fish in the rivers, the angels in heaven and the animals in the jungles seek repentance for the woman who is obedient and submits to her husband." :inlove::inlove::inlove::inlove:
i came across this hadith on a website but the source was not mentioned
some more from the same site
The Holy Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: "May Allah show mercy to a woman who gets up during the night and prays, who wakens her husband and he prays, but if he refuses, sprinkles water on his face."
:inlove:
A companion said, "O Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) I have a wife, When I meet her she says, 'Welcome my chief and the chief of my household. ' When she finds me in a sad mood she says, 'Why worry about this world when the provision for your after-life is being earned (anyway)?" ' Upon hearing this the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said; "Inform that lady that she is among the workers of Allah , and she earns the rewards of half Jihad."
:love::love::love:
MalikOne™
06-02-06, 02:36 PM
Umm Salma (radhiallaho anha) reported Allah's messenger as saying, "Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise."[Tirmidhi]
The Holy Prophet (Sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: O people, your wives have a certain right over you and you have certain rights over them. Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. (Tirmidhi)
:inlove:
Al-Irhaab
06-02-06, 04:23 PM
The Holy Prophet (Sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: O people, your wives have a certain right over you and you have certain rights over them. Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. (Tirmidhi)
:inlove:
that belongs in the advice to brothers secion...
stop trying to suck up so u can become a mod :rolleyes:
.: Anna :.
06-02-06, 04:34 PM
:inlove: nice hadiths :up:
that belongs in the advice to brothers secion...
stop trying to suck up so u can become a mod :rolleyes:
:rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Proud_2B_Muslim
07-02-06, 04:11 AM
Masha'Allah, the original article is so beautiful and contains tremendous wisdom in its few lines.
When we discuss marriage, of course we will come across values such as respect, understanding, and love which are all vital to the success and endurance of a marriage. But I believe we do ourselves a great disservice when we paint such an important, social institution like marriage with these broad and vague terms without looking beyond the words.
Just what exactly is respect?
Or understanding?
And love?
When we simply claim, "The husband and wife should respect each other," we make it harder for ourselves to delve beyond that and ask the more important question, "How does a wife respect her husband?" or vice versa.
The ten tips provided in the article help answer crucial "how" questions and provide a very practical, useful outline in the normal, day-to-day affairs of the marriage. Of course, many more tips can be added, but the ones given provide a general idea and serve as a great foundation to build upon.
As brother K@M pointed out, these tips are meant to be implemented after the marriage--thus, already taking into account the appropriate criteria (Insha'Allah) such as character, personality, etc during selection of the spouse.
Therefore, the advice and suggestions exist to allow the marriage to thrive and flourish into a strong, beautiful, and lasting companionship, Insha'Allah.
Skeletonkey
07-02-06, 05:07 AM
I've got this swing. I could use some help setting it up though.
bd_syed
07-02-06, 08:56 AM
An Excellent prayer in signature. Subhanallah. If all the Muslims would pray like this & work accordingly we would have no worry.
Alhamdulillah. We are doing the samething .
like i said he is a scholar and he is married... whilst you are niether a scholar nor are you married... so you have very little idea in comparison to him about what makes a happy marriage... strange how any book of the past you pick up from the great ulema which talks about advice talks about the same things.. :rolleyes: strange hey...
why men get so fussed about physcial attributes... why do u think... :rolleyes:
same reason why women spend so much on doing themselves up for men...
Funny you say that, because you are not a scholar, nor are you married, neither are you a WOMEN....fortunately I AM A WOMEN, and I live in society where I have many close relatives and friends who are married...hence I have a very clear idea about the thoughts and implications of the advice given...since it was directed at WOMEN ....
It was a rhetorical question, I didnt actually want to know why men are so fussed about physical attributes....its quite obvious....but thanks for the extremely informative reply :rolleyes: ....
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 01:04 PM
Funny you say that, because you are not a scholar, nor are you married, neither are you a WOMEN....fortunately I AM A WOMEN, and I live in society where I have many close relatives and friends who are married...hence I havea very clear idea about the thoughts and implications of the advice given...since it was directed at WOMEN ....
It was a rhetorical question, I didnt actually want to know why men are so fussed about physical attributes....its quite obvious....but thanks for the extremely informative reply :rolleyes: ....
yup im not a scholar... but alhamdulillah i dont have the arrogance to presume that i know more then one... some people seem to believe they are scholars when they dont know what alif lam tehreef means :rolleyes:
i have many close friends and relatives married... your a woman and what? that helps you know what your husband wants ...i think that a man knows more what he wants from his wife... :D
and at the end of the day... succesful wife is the one that pleases her husband.. he is her path for jannah and her path for jahanam... no wonder more women in hell then men :rolleyes:
*shock horror* are you calling me arrogant???? assuming the level of my knowledge???? No???? Never???? But you never insult me???!!!!!! :rolleyes: , believe it or not, I dont actually take your cheap shots seriously :rolleyes:..their getting boring actually...
Please refer to my post before this. I NEVER SAID that a women will know what her husband always wants....I SAID that a women will better understand the IMPLICATIONS of the tips stated by the sheikh on her....:smack: Note to self;must remember to repeat things 10 times in each post, and clearly clarify all points to ensure all ummah members like Irhaab understand :rolleyes:...
Wife who looks after her husband AND looks after the kids AND maintains the house AND dresses up as a Hur Al Ayn AND finds the time to put on a bit of Kohl AND do her make up AND finds time to practise her singing AND is doing and Islamic studies AND is educating her community all in one day = SUPERWOMAN....
Husband who comes back from work, doesnt notice his wife is dressed up as a Hur Al Ayn, doesnt notice how clean the house is, doesnt comment on the amazing food, doesnt ask her what she covered in her Islamic course, doesnt tell her how beautiful she looks and how lucky he is to have her....all in one second = UNCARING NARROW MINDED HUSBAND WHO QUITE FRANKLY, DONT DESERVE SUPERWOMAN....
I know superwomans, and I know about the husbands that just dont appreciate them...
moral of the story is (JUST TO CLARIFY).. a lot of men are just NEVER satisfied...HENCE they put too much pressure on their wife...HENCE thats not fair
fortunately I AM A WOMEN,
Wow, cool. Can you tell be how I can be a men?
[/cheapshot]
Sorry couldn't resist.:embar:
Wow, cool. Can you tell be how I can be a men?
[/cheapshot]
Sorry couldn't resist.:embar:
hmmm.....cheap shot missed big time im afraid.......:D .....largely because I don't get it....:D
hmmm.....cheap shot missed big time im afraid.......:D .....largely because I don't get it....:D
Its WOMAN, your a WOMAN, not a WOMEN. I'm a MAN, not a MEN. You said the plural. Lol, explaining it completely takes out the point, sigh. So yea,a woman's awarah is, oops wrong topic.
May Allah allow all the Muslim women to become successful wives and mothers.
Wow, cool. Can you tell be how I can be a men?
[/cheapshot]
Sorry couldn't resist.:embar:
kamaljeet that was lame man, even for u :p :outta:
kamaljeet that was lame man, even for u :p :outta:
Bad day at college MMS messaging. Thought I'd give you a chance to be funny for once :p
Bad day at college MMS messaging. Thought I'd give you a chance to be funny for once :p
okay we have hit a new lowwww :p
i would rep u because i feel sorry for you that is how lame it is but i keep gettin that stupid 24hr msg :torture:
Saeedujana
07-02-06, 07:07 PM
as salaamu alaikum,
jazaak allahu khair for the post, it nice, but in today’s reality it may be a little too fanciful.
ma'asalaama
saeed
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 07:15 PM
*shock horror* are you calling me arrogant???? assuming the level of my knowledge???? No???? Never???? But you never insult me???!!!!!! :rolleyes: , believe it or not, I dont actually take your cheap shots seriously :rolleyes:..their getting boring actually...
Please refer to my post before this. I NEVER SAID that a women will know what her husband always wants....I SAID that a women will better understand the IMPLICATIONS of the tips stated by the sheikh on her....:smack: Note to self;must remember to repeat things 10 times in each post, and clearly clarify all points to ensure all ummah members like Irhaab understand :rolleyes:...
Wife who looks after her husband AND looks after the kids AND maintains the house AND dresses up as a Hur Al Ayn AND finds the time to put on a bit of Kohl AND do her make up AND finds time to practise her singing AND is doing and Islamic studies AND is educating her community all in one day = SUPERWOMAN....
Husband who comes back from work, doesnt notice his wife is dressed up as a Hur Al Ayn, doesnt notice how clean the house is, doesnt comment on the amazing food, doesnt ask her what she covered in her Islamic course, doesnt tell her how beautiful she looks and how lucky he is to have her....all in one second = UNCARING NARROW MINDED HUSBAND WHO QUITE FRANKLY, DONT DESERVE SUPERWOMAN....
I know superwomans, and I know about the husbands that just dont appreciate them...
moral of the story is (JUST TO CLARIFY).. a lot of men are just NEVER satisfied...HENCE they put too much pressure on their wife...HENCE thats not fair
why is it arrogant to judge the level of knowledge of a person... or is this more that mr hanson teaching... we judge the level of a persons knowledge and from that we base whether it is accepted to take knowledge from him or not.. and it is this point which you fail to realise... you are in position at all to say his advice is flawed... and no you dont understand the implications of his advice it is the men that understand these implications... why because its a man that will get a wife who he actually likes if she follows this advice... the only thing that a woman will understand is when she sees that her husband actually has interest in her actually enjoys being married to her... not takes it as a burdening neccessity :rolleyes:
a wife who does all of the above aint called a superwoman... shes called a muslim woman....
and the brothers have already accepted the sheikhs advice in the other thread... but still you complain... i guess some people will only realise once they married... lets see if you dont do the above for your husband see how long the marriage lasts...
alas no wonder hell is full of women... always ungreatful to their husbands just as the prophet (saW) said...
most practicing brothers aint satisfied because in one way or another the sisters dont take the above advice... always nagging always arguing always causing trouble and complaining... just as the prophet (SaW) said they do... :rolleyes:
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 07:16 PM
as salaamu alaikum,
jazaak allahu khair for the post, it nice, but in today’s reality it may be a little too fanciful.
ma'asalaama
saeed
inshallah lil bro ull find a wife like that... theres always hope... and if not, then u make your wife like that inshallah :D
Saeedujana
07-02-06, 07:41 PM
most practicing brothers aint satisfied because in one way or another the sisters dont take the above advice... always nagging always arguing always causing trouble and complaining... just as the prophet (SaW) said they do... i find this to be true, and when there is nothing to nag about you don't see them let alone hear them.inshallah lil bro ull find a wife like that... theres always hope... and if not, then u make your wife like that inshallah we cannot change anyone, except ourselfs akhi [smile] i say that from experience.
ma'asalaama
saeed
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 07:50 PM
the prophet (saw) said that the woman is made from the crooked rib of the man, if you try to straighten her too quickly you will break her, nevertheless she can be straightened... ;) just takes the right touches and right pressue :D
Saeedujana
07-02-06, 07:56 PM
the prophet (saw) said that the woman is made from the crooked rib of the man, if you try to straighten her too quickly you will break her, nevertheless she can be straightened... ;) just takes the right touches and right pressue :D
then surely this is beyond me, hence i shall refrain before i hurt myself.
ma'asalaama
saeed
MalikOne™
07-02-06, 08:15 PM
Bad day at college MMS messaging. Thought I'd give you a chance to be funny for once :p
:rotfl: :rotfl:
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 08:19 PM
then surely this is beyond me, hence i shall refrain before i hurt myself.
ma'asalaama
saeed
man wots wrong wid u ... u just got to be more agressive and more confident... lets take this to the bros forum hey ;)
Nightfall
07-02-06, 08:27 PM
masha'Allaah nyc article i also recommend Winning the heart of your Husband, cnt remember d authors name.
man wots wrong wid u ... u just got to be more agressive and more confident... lets take this to the bros forum hey ;)
saeed dont listen to him, he has no idea what he is "buk-ing" :rolleyes:
bilal_uk_101
07-02-06, 08:37 PM
Let ur husband get a second wife........:up:
MalikOne™
07-02-06, 08:39 PM
Let ur husband get a second wife........:up:
Let ur husband get four wives
Play on player @)
*islamia
07-02-06, 08:40 PM
Beautiful article.
Saeedujana, Inshallah, Allah wil reward you with a pious Muslimah. And all brothers who are wifeless.
Ameen Ameen Ameen
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 08:41 PM
saeed dont listen to him, he has no idea what he is "buk-ing" :rolleyes:
kya bakhti hai bhak bhak bhak bhak
hey i know what im talking about
Saeedujana
07-02-06, 09:06 PM
as salaamu alaikumSaeedujana, Inshallah, Allah wil reward you with a pious Muslimah. And all brothers who are wifeless.ameen to that [smile]
ma'asalaama
saeed
kya bakhti hai bhak bhak bhak bhak
hey i know what im talking about
yeh thats why your still unmarried :rotfl:
lagta hai zindagi-bhar kawara rehey ga
*islamia
07-02-06, 09:13 PM
yeh thats why your still unmarried :rotfl:
lagta hai zindagi-bhar kawara rehey ga
aww stop bein mean:( to him
*tisk tisk MMS*
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 09:36 PM
yeh thats why your still unmarried :rotfl:
lagta hai zindagi-bhar kawara rehey ga
hey at least i wond find my wife of mms messenger :rolleyes:
uli ki pati mai dunya sehr karta hu isliyay shadi ni kihi
Niqaabi
07-02-06, 09:39 PM
masha'Allaah nyc article i also recommend Winning the heart of your Husband, cnt remember d authors name.
yeh iv read that, as well as Winning the heart of your Wife, which i sincerely urge all brothers to read :rolleyes:
hey at least i wond find my wife of mms messenger :rolleyes:
uli ki pati mai dunya sehr karta hu isliyay shadi ni kihi
its msn messenger :rolleyes:
aww na mashriq mein kisi lardki ne al-irhaab ko kabool kiya or na hi maghrib mein
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 10:00 PM
its msn messenger :rolleyes:
aww na mashriq mein kisi lardki ne al-irhaab ko kabool kiya or na hi maghrib mein
i heard u use mms messenger :rolleyes:
boht nai kabool kiya mashriq mai or maghrib mai or shimal mai or yaman mai... bas hush kismiti un ko nahi kabool ki
:rolleyes: anyway back to topic... :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Dont know if this hadiths been post..
Anas (radhiallaho anho) reported Allah's messenger as saying, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she wishes (in other words nothing will prevent her from entering paradise)." (Mishtat)
The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: "O women, the pious among you will enter Paradise before pious men. When the husbands will enter Paradise these women will be presented to their husbands after being bathed and perfumed. These women will be on red and yellow coloured conveyances accompanied by children (as beautiful) as scattered pearls."
The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: "When a woman spends (in the Path of Allah) from her husband's wealth, not wasting it (but spends reasonably and within permissible limits) she will have her reward for what she gave and her husband will have his for what he earned. The same applies to the storekeeper. The reward of any of these persons does not diminish the rewards of the others." (Bukhari)
Al-Irhaab
07-02-06, 10:13 PM
:rolleyes: anyway back to topic... :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Dont know if this hadiths been post..
Anas (radhiallaho anho) reported Allah's messenger as saying, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she wishes (in other words nothing will prevent her from entering paradise)." (Mishtat)
huh... i thought women were supposed to work and have careers :scratch:
huh... i thought women were supposed to work and have careers :scratch:
My wife and I were playfully arguing recently and I said something
she didn't like.
"I ought to beat you up", she laughed.
"Ahh, you're not tough enough," I said.
"Ok, maybe I'll shoot you with the shotgun", she said.
"Oh please, it's only a 20 gauge, you'll need a bigger gun than that",
I sneered.
"In that case, maybe I'll just whack you with the frying pan", she said.
"I KNOW you don't know how to use that!" I said.
Its WOMAN, your a WOMAN, not a WOMEN. I'm a MAN, not a MEN. You said the plural. Lol, explaining it completely takes out the point, sigh. So yea,a woman's awarah is, oops wrong topic.
May Allah allow all the Muslim women to become successful wives and mothers.
O right...got it now...apologies for the grammatical error.....but calling your lame shot a cheapshot is actually giving it some credit...:D
.....
Hang on, are you are a brother or a sister??? 'YOUR A MAN'....no really???? I thought you were a sister...hang on, why you got a sis in your picture then....nah actually if your a bro, that explains why your always slating my comments :rolleyes: .....I knew it couldnt be a sister.......I was trying REALLY hard not to argue with you because I thought you were a sister!!!!!.......:S
why is it arrogant to judge the level of knowledge of a person... or is this more that mr hanson teaching...we judge the level of a persons knowledge and from that we base whether it is accepted to take knowledge from him or not.. and it is this point which you fail to realise... you are in position at all to say his advice is flawed... and no you dont understand the implications of his advice it is the men that understand these implications... why because its a man that will get a wife who he actually likes if she follows this advice...
I did not say his advice was flawed.....don't remember saying that at all :rolleyes: .....He is one sheikh who has given his advice, alhumdullilah...is it a crime to discuss the tips and what they mean for sisters in today's society????? If you arent able to answer the sisters questions or you cant handle their comments...dont reply :rolleyes: ......Also, the last time I checked...the title was '10 tips on how to be a successful wife'...exactly how do YOU propose to become a successful wife then??????.
the only thing that a woman will understand is when she sees that her husband actually has interest in her actually enjoys being married to her... not takes it as a burdening neccessity :rolleyes: ....a wife who does all of the above aint called a superwoman... shes called a muslim woman...
wow what a great feeling, my husband only has interest in me and enjoys being married to me because I dress up to the max everyday for him....doesn't love his wife simply for the sake of Allah, doesn't have interest in her because she is the mother of his children, I mean, why would he have interest in her... she ONLY looks beautiful not stunning like a Hur Al Ayn *shock horror...astagfirullah..she should sing and dresss like a Hur!!!*...otherwise shes a bad wife apparantly :scratch:
Muslim women are SUPER, Muslim women are WOMEN....hence if you put the two words together...you get SUPERWOMEN, ofcourse they are, no doubt.....you might have been thinking of superman's side kick...I wasn't :rolleyes:
and the brothers have already accepted the sheikhs advice in the other thread... but still you complain... i guess some people will only realise once they married... lets see if you dont do the above for your husband see how long the marriage lasts...
alas no wonder hell is full of women... always ungreatful to their husbands just as the prophet (saW) said...
I'm trying to brush over that cheapshot from the gutter...but having a bit of difficulty.....there aint no 'lets see' about it....its none of your concern....I'm glad to see you want your fellow sisters in Islam to have successful marriages...:rolleyes:
Also, see that hadith has so much meaning and wisdom but here is another example where a brother uses it to somehow make themselves feel better....anything to raise the spirits now and again I suppose...
most practicing brothers aint satisfied because in one way or another the sisters dont take the above advice... always nagging always arguing always causing trouble and complaining... just as the prophet (SaW) said they do... :rolleyes:
THIS IS THE POINT:......did anyone say the wife should walk round the house looking like a tramp???? Or that she should not make effort for her husband????? No, the point is, of course the woman will beautify herself etc etc...but if you are expecting her to get dulled up to the MAX, as well as look after the children, cook and clean, sing etc.....that is unrealistic and unfair.....
I mean, I knew one sister who married a really practising brother....what does he come out with one day????....must have thought he had a magnificent brain wave or something (clearly a rare event for brothers..:rolleyes: )..... 'I want you to look like cindy crawford'.......CINDY CRAWFORD!!!.......Shocking why, well firstly why would anyone, let alone a practising brother want their wife to look like a kaffir, secondly why's he looking at cindy crawford for?????????............brothers go too far......toooooooooo far.......forget that....joggers all the way......
Hang on, are you are a brother or a sister??? 'YOUR A MAN'....no really???? I thought you were a sister...hang on, why you got a sis in your picture then....nah actually if your a bro, that explains why your always slating my comments :rolleyes: .....I knew it couldnt be a sister.......I was trying REALLY hard not to argue with you because I thought you were a sister!!!!!.......:S
So wait, now you know I''m a brother, it's alright to argue with me? I now see where all your anti men arguments are coming from, you don't like men do ya.I don't don't slate your comments, I made one comment and only cos you said other peoples cheapshots didn't work on you, so I was sarcastic and did a literal "cheapshot", obviously you dind't get it.
And I got a sis in my avatar cos I respect what she stands for, I cahnce my avatar every so often and when you replied to me it was actualy a globe, and my sub name was "King of Ummah(.com) which would imply I'm a guy. I'm not actually a man by the way, technically, I'm still a kid, not legally (british law) adult yet :p
*17th time he has been called a sister*
Anyways, hope you van forgive me if I have offended you in any way, or done any harm to you.
p.s not all guys are bad
So wait, now you know I''m a brother, it's alright to argue with me? I now see where all your anti men arguments are coming from, you don't like men do ya.I don't don't slate your comments, I made one comment and only cos you said other peoples cheapshots didn't work on you, so I was sarcastic and did a literal "cheapshot", obviously you dind't get it.
And I got a sis in my avatar cos I respect what she stands for, I cahnce my avatar every so often and when you replied to me it was actualy a globe, and my sub name was "King of Ummah(.com) which would imply I'm a guy. I'm not actually a man by the way, technically, I'm still a kid, not legally (british law) adult yet :p
*17th time he has been called a sister*
Anyways, hope you van forgive me if I have offended you in any way, or done any harm to you.
p.s not all guys are bad
lol.......well takes me time to process the cheap shots, especially after a long day at uni.......lol......well the picture can cause confusion, thats understandable!!!!.........only 17 !!!!!! see now I just feel bad.....:embar:
khayr inshAllah.....no hard feelings :D
lol.......well takes me time to process the cheap shots, especially after a long day at uni.......lol......well the picture can cause confusion, thats understandable!!!!.........only 17 !!!!!! see now I just feel bad.....:embar:
khayr inshAllah.....no hard feelings :D
Alhamdulilah :D
I was called a sister even with a globe saying LA ILAHA ILLALLAH as my avatar, and "King of Ummah (.com)" as my subname. How someone can get confused is beyond me. And what makes you think I'm 17? :scratch:
MalikOne™
08-02-06, 08:55 PM
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Alhamdulilah :D
I was called a sister even with a globe saying LA ILAHA ILLALLAH as my avatar, and "King of Ummah (.com)" as my subname. How someone can get confused is beyond me. And what makes you think I'm 17? :scratch:
I dunno....it was another long day at university yesterday !!! NO actually..hang on...I know where I got that from......its on your user profile !!!!! :hidban:
Lol, according to my profile, I should be one years old soon inshaAllah , cant wait.:)
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