How much authority does husband have over wife and vice versa?

[*Immortal Logic]

Salaam' dear brother and sisters...

My question is what is the role of the husband and wife in the marriage. I mean who controls the money, who decides what kind of education children should get i.e. secular or religious? I have some other embarrassing questions actually on making love with the wife and what are limits on foreplay is there any limits on foreplay?

[`asiya]

:wswrwb: husband can consult his wife about the issues but he has the final say,he controls the finances as he is the provider and the one who provides the finances, and he is the amir of the family, as for the 2nd part of your q insha Allah some of the brothers can pm u with the answer to that.

[*Immortal Logic]

Also I am looking for hadiths in urdu which clarfiy everything. As I want to pass them off to my wife. So we don't have any problems. insh'allah.

[Medievalist]

Tuhfa Dulhan
Tuhfa Khawateen are good books for ladies.

Bahishti Zewar
Misaali Maa are also beneficial.

[Unique1]

wa alaikum salam
bahishti zewar is good ders one for males aswell so if you get that and read it yourself it would be helpful

heres a link to the males one

http://www.azharacademy.com/Scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=1899

this is the females one
http://www.azharacademy.com/Scripts/prodView.asp?idProduct=1629

like sister Asiya said you make the decisions but make sure to listen to your wifes opinions and consider her feelings aswell that will help you build a stronger relationship with your wife.

[AbuMubarak]

as much as she submits to

[*Immortal Logic]

Salaam' brothers and sisters thank you for your responses. I will insh'allah get a hold of the books.

Yet my quesstion on the issue of foreplay has not be answered would it be answered in these books?

[*Immortal Logic]

I have a question and these books in Arabic? I can read only very little Arabic. And that I have to use an arabic dicnotry sometimes to find the deifntion of the words. So these books if they are in Arabic I will not be able to understand them. I need English books and also preferbely translation in Urdu too for my wife.


Edit never mind. It is an English translation.

[thurber]

As much as they mutually agree upon.