OBL
16-06-08, 02:05 PM
The Muslim Womans Character
1) She chooses a good husband:
"If there comes to you one with whose religion and attitude you are satisfied, then give your daughter to him in marriage, for if you do not do so, fitnah and mischief will become widespread on earth." (Ibn Majah)
2) She is obedient to her husband and gives him respect:
"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: `Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish.'' (Ahmad)
3) She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect
4) She is always keen to utmostly please her husband:
"A son of Abu Talhah by Umm Sulaym died. Umm Sulaym told her family, `Do not tell Abu Talhah about his son until I tell him about it.' Abu Talhah came home, so she prepared dinner for him, and he ate and drank. Then she beautified herself in a waythat she had never done before, and he had sexual intercourse with her.
When she saw that he was satisfied, she said, `O Abu Talhah, do you think that if a people lent something to a household, then asked for it back, do they have the right not to return it?' He said, `No.' She said, `Then resign yourself to the death of your son.' Abu Talhah became angry and said, `You let me indulge myself and then you tell me about my son!'
He went to the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and told him what had happened.
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, `May Allah bless both of you for this night!' (Sahih Muslim)
5) She does not disclose his secrets
"Among the worst type of people in the sight of Allah (SWT) on the Day of Judgement is a man who enjoys his wife's intimate company, and she enjoys his intimate company, then one of them goes and discloses the secret of the other."(Sahih Muslim)
6) She stands by him and offers him advice
"Khadijah had faith, and believed in what he brought from Allah (SWT). In this way, Allah (SWT) helped His Prophet (PBUH). Whenever he heard any hateful words of rejection or disbelief that upset him, Allah (SWT) would cause his spirits to be lifted when he came back to her. She encouraged him to be patient, believed in him, and made it easier for him to bear whatever the
people said or did. May Allah have mercy on her." (ibn Hishams Seerah)
7) She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allah (SWT)
8) She helps him to obey Allah (SWT)
"The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: `May Allah have mercy on the man who gets up at night to pray and wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses, he sprinkles water in her face. And may Allah have mercy on the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband up to pray, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face." (Abu Dawud)
9) She fills his heart with joy
"Three things make the son of Adam happy, and three make him miserable. Among the things that make the son of Adam happy are a good wife, a good home and a good means of transport; the things that make him miserable are a bad wife, a bad home and a bad means of transport." (Ahmad)
10) She makes herself beautiful for him
Aisha (ra) said: "If you have a husband, and you could remove your eyes and replace them with something better, then do it." (Ibn Jawzi)
11) She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him
"Allah (SWT) will not look at the woman who does not thank her husband at the time when she cannot do without him." (reported by Al Hakim, in mustadrak)
12) She shares his joys and sorrows
13) She does not look at other men
''And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze ,'' (24:31)
''In them will be [Maidens] chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or jinn before them has touched,'' (55:56)
14) She does not describe other women to him
"No woman should talk about another woman, or describe her to her husband (so that it is) as if he sees her." (Hadith)
15) She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him
''And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts],'' (30:21)
16)She is tolerant and forgiving
17) She is strong in character and wise
AND REMEMBER:
"This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a righteous woman."
(Sahih Muslim)
1) She chooses a good husband:
"If there comes to you one with whose religion and attitude you are satisfied, then give your daughter to him in marriage, for if you do not do so, fitnah and mischief will become widespread on earth." (Ibn Majah)
2) She is obedient to her husband and gives him respect:
"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: `Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish.'' (Ahmad)
3) She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect
4) She is always keen to utmostly please her husband:
"A son of Abu Talhah by Umm Sulaym died. Umm Sulaym told her family, `Do not tell Abu Talhah about his son until I tell him about it.' Abu Talhah came home, so she prepared dinner for him, and he ate and drank. Then she beautified herself in a waythat she had never done before, and he had sexual intercourse with her.
When she saw that he was satisfied, she said, `O Abu Talhah, do you think that if a people lent something to a household, then asked for it back, do they have the right not to return it?' He said, `No.' She said, `Then resign yourself to the death of your son.' Abu Talhah became angry and said, `You let me indulge myself and then you tell me about my son!'
He went to the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and told him what had happened.
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, `May Allah bless both of you for this night!' (Sahih Muslim)
5) She does not disclose his secrets
"Among the worst type of people in the sight of Allah (SWT) on the Day of Judgement is a man who enjoys his wife's intimate company, and she enjoys his intimate company, then one of them goes and discloses the secret of the other."(Sahih Muslim)
6) She stands by him and offers him advice
"Khadijah had faith, and believed in what he brought from Allah (SWT). In this way, Allah (SWT) helped His Prophet (PBUH). Whenever he heard any hateful words of rejection or disbelief that upset him, Allah (SWT) would cause his spirits to be lifted when he came back to her. She encouraged him to be patient, believed in him, and made it easier for him to bear whatever the
people said or did. May Allah have mercy on her." (ibn Hishams Seerah)
7) She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allah (SWT)
8) She helps him to obey Allah (SWT)
"The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: `May Allah have mercy on the man who gets up at night to pray and wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses, he sprinkles water in her face. And may Allah have mercy on the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband up to pray, and if he refuses, she sprinkles water in his face." (Abu Dawud)
9) She fills his heart with joy
"Three things make the son of Adam happy, and three make him miserable. Among the things that make the son of Adam happy are a good wife, a good home and a good means of transport; the things that make him miserable are a bad wife, a bad home and a bad means of transport." (Ahmad)
10) She makes herself beautiful for him
Aisha (ra) said: "If you have a husband, and you could remove your eyes and replace them with something better, then do it." (Ibn Jawzi)
11) She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him
"Allah (SWT) will not look at the woman who does not thank her husband at the time when she cannot do without him." (reported by Al Hakim, in mustadrak)
12) She shares his joys and sorrows
13) She does not look at other men
''And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze ,'' (24:31)
''In them will be [Maidens] chaste, restraining their glances, whom no man or jinn before them has touched,'' (55:56)
14) She does not describe other women to him
"No woman should talk about another woman, or describe her to her husband (so that it is) as if he sees her." (Hadith)
15) She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him
''And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts],'' (30:21)
16)She is tolerant and forgiving
17) She is strong in character and wise
AND REMEMBER:
"This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a righteous woman."
(Sahih Muslim)