Mom for Eesa

[AbooEesa]

:start:

:salams

Dearest Sisters....I am looking for a mother for my unborn son that I would love to name Eesa some day InshAllah. I am looking to get married InshaAllah, one would ask why I am posting here and not on a marriage site.
Reason being I have only been here for a few days and Alhamdulillah seen many sisters that are conscious Muslims. I am honest about my intentions and not beating around the bush, therefore I am making it known from the beginning.

I am 27 years of age practicing Muslim that wears a beard and topi live in SA,havent been married before. I have a good job and a comfortable home. I am looking at settling down now InshaAllah.

Please assist.
P.S don’t laugh!


:wswrwb:

[Mumtaz]

:start:

:salams

Dearest Sisters....I am looking for a mother for my unborn son that I would love to name Eesa some day InshAllah. I am looking to get married InshaAllah, one would ask why I am posting here and not on a marriage site.
Reason being I have only been here for a few days and Alhamdulillah seen many sisters that are conscious Muslims. I am honest about my intentions and not beating around the bush, therefore I am making it known from the beginning.

I am 27 years of age practicing Muslim that wears a beard and topi live in SA,havent been married before. I have a good job and a comfortable home. I am looking at settling down now InshaAllah.

Please assist.
P.S don’t laugh!


:wswrwb:

Wa alaikum salaam brother.

What if its daughter and not son:scratch:
Any way good luck for ur search, u r right mashAllah there is alot of good pacticing muslim sis here but it debend are they here for getting married or learning more about Deen perhaps even making new friend but ur intentions are good which is wanna get married so good luck.

[MMS]

nice title :up:

[HiBiScUs]

at first I thought that this thread was an adoption ad.

[Al-Farooq]

:wswrwb:

That's an interesting spin on an old classic! Kudos to you, my brother. :up:

Insha'Allah you will find what you are looking for.

All the best.:)

[Umm Al Shifaa]

la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah , i can not believe you are all encouraging him and wishing him 'luck' instead of advising him, astagfurulah!

This is not a way to search for a wife , brother , you want a happy halal marraige , then use halal ways of searching for a good sister. You honestly think that any sister with a bit of self-respect would reply to any internet ad , regardless of the beautiful words used? SubhanAllah. It is something we see alot and it is W-R-O-N-G.

B-I-G T-I-M-E

How many fathers would allow there daughters to talk to any man online?

How can a sister talk to a brother for marraige purposes without informing her dad?


I appreciate the fact that many sisters or brothers are in difficult situations (especially reverted sisters) , but please , lets all Fear Allah and search halal alternatives.

The greater effort we make , the better the outcome will be InshaAllah

[GothiKa]

How many fathers would allow there daughters to talk to any man online?

That's a good question. I wonder how many sisters here have the approval of their fathers to interact with the brothers and Kaffirs.

[Umm Al Shifaa]

I am not talking about 'interaction', in the way you seem to understand it. I'm talking about actually considering a brother for marraige and privately talking to him about that possibility ( without the knowledge of the father,which is haraam).

Even if a sister would be appealed to any marry-me post and she accordingly tells her mahram and does not contact the brother...then how many fathers would approve and say habeebti , i'll have a look at this internet-man?

unrealistic and opens the door for shaytan widely.

[turquoise]

Salaam,

Sometimes I wish they'd start a separate section for matrimonials... just because some, like this one, are interesting reading! :)

I'm talking about actually considering a brother for marraige and privately talking to him about that possibility ( without the knowledge of the father,which is haraam).

Most schools of fiqh believe that the consent of the father or other wali is a requirement for the marriage contract to be valid. However, that requirement only applies to the point at which the contract is signed. Why would considering someone (whatever that means) without the wali's knowledge be haram? Is there evidence for this?

[Umm Al Shifaa]

Wa Alaykuma Salaam wa Rahmatuulah

The original rule is that no brother (non-mahram) or sister are allowed to interact/freemix, unless they have a shari'ah permit to do so. A non-mahram is not allowed to chit-chat to a girl or keep her as a friend,etc. This is well-known and established in Islaam.

As for 'considering someone', i.e that is engagement in Islam. The moment that a sister considers to marry someone (after his proposal) then she is engaged to him and that gives him special rights; that he is allowed to correspond with her and talk to her (fittingly; about important matters that will affect their married life). For this her father (as her wali) must be aware ; it is his right as her father. If a sister wants to talk to a brother for purposes of marraige and her dad refuses due to non-islamic reasons, then she can appoint a wali.....w'Allahu A'lam

A sister can't chat to **** tom and jerry , then chose tom and take him to her dad for approval....la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah..

[LastFriday]

la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah , i can not believe you are all encouraging him and wishing him 'luck' instead of advising him, astagfurulah!

This is not a way to search for a wife , brother , you want a happy halal marraige , then use halal ways of searching for a good sister. You honestly think that any sister with a bit of self-respect would reply to any internet ad , regardless of the beautiful words used? SubhanAllah. It is something we see alot and it is W-R-O-N-G.

B-I-G T-I-M-E

How many fathers would allow there daughters to talk to any man online?

How can a sister talk to a brother for marraige purposes without informing her dad?


I appreciate the fact that many sisters or brothers are in difficult situations (especially reverted sisters) , but please , lets all Fear Allah and search halal alternatives.

The greater effort we make , the better the outcome will be InshaAllah

Wa Alaykuma Salaam wa Rahmatuulah

The original rule is that no brother (non-mahram) or sister are allowed to interact/freemix, unless they have a shari'ah permit to do so. A non-mahram is not allowed to chit-chat to a girl or keep her as a friend,etc. This is well-known and established in Islaam.

As for 'considering someone', i.e that is engagement in Islam. The moment that a sister considers to marry someone (after his proposal) then she is engaged to him and that gives him special rights; that he is allowed to correspond with her and talk to her (fittingly; about important matters that will affect their married life). For this her father (as her wali) must be aware ; it is his right as her father. If a sister wants to talk to a brother for purposes of marraige and her dad refuses due to non-islamic reasons, then she can appoint a wali.....w'Allahu A'lam

A sister can't chat to **** tom and jerry , then chose tom and take him to her dad for approval....la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah..


SO you're saying, finding a spouse online is HARAM? How so. Tell me, in a real life scenario, will the brother NOT approach the sister and ask for her FATHERS number? He has to approach her and talk to her one way or another! He can't go around asking random old guys if they have daughters or not. In some cases it is even ok to see her in her natural environment without her knowledge, if your interested in marriage no? Secondly, didn't khadija (ra) approach the Prophet (pbuh)? The brother never said, PM ME directly so we can CHIT CHAT. Maybe he is simply looking for a sister on here, to contact him with a PHONE NUMBER of her wali. Lets stop assuming things.

[Songbird]

Umm Al Shifa you really need to calm down and stop frothing at the mouth.

I could have a field day with your rant but it's Jum'a so I'll behave myself. Though I'll concede it did make me laugh here and there.

But for you to get on your holier than thou pedestal and talk about self-respect in terms of sisters 'advertising' themselves, in fact, speaks loads about *you.

How are you in your limited capacity able to gauge their level of self-esteem or respect?

Or is every Muslimah on such sites, in your estimation, devoid of respect? Geez, that's funny: I thought only Allah swt could be privy to this - seeing as how it's only He swt who can see into a person's heart.

Marriage sites aren't exactly my cuppa either but don't be so quick to label those sisters who do as lacking in respect, unless of course you're diggin' the whole Gheebah thing and don't mind gnawing on your sister's flesh in the Hereafter.

Dig?

[Songbird]

Maybe he is simply looking for a sister on here, to contact him with a PHONE NUMBER of her wali. Lets stop assuming things.
Exactly.

[princesssamiyah]

This is not a way to search for a wife , brother , you want a happy halal marraige , then use halal ways of searching for a good sister. You honestly think that any sister with a bit of self-respect would reply to any internet ad , regardless of the beautiful words used? SubhanAllah. It is something we see alot and it is W-R-O-N-G.

B-I-G T-I-M-E



I think this is a bit extremist response to this post, It is the perfect approach to find a mate, as long as after you meet one you use halal methods of contact and confirmation to seal a commitment.

Inshallah you will find the proper sister you are searching for.

[AbooEesa]

la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah , i can not believe you are all encouraging him and wishing him 'luck' instead of advising him, astagfurulah!

This is not a way to search for a wife , brother , you want a happy halal marraige , then use halal ways of searching for a good sister. You honestly think that any sister with a bit of self-respect would reply to any internet ad , regardless of the beautiful words used? SubhanAllah. It is something we see alot and it is W-R-O-N-G.

B-I-G T-I-M-E

How many fathers would allow there daughters to talk to any man online?

How can a sister talk to a brother for marraige purposes without informing her dad?


I appreciate the fact that many sisters or brothers are in difficult situations (especially reverted sisters) , but please , lets all Fear Allah and search halal alternatives.

The greater effort we make , the better the outcome will be InshaAllah

:salams

My brother...first things first! There is absolutly nothing haraam about my post. Please inform me how it is wrong ? You are aware that Khadija (ra) approched Muhammed :saw: for marrige?! My brother i did not befriend any sister on this site with the pretense of being friends but having a hinden agender that would be deceiving and that would be haraam.

We should also give our sisters some credit that they will do the correct thing InshaAllah.

May Allah (SWT) giude us all...and Shukran for the concern my brother.

Wassalaam

[Umm Al Shifaa]

SO you're saying, finding a spouse online is HARAM? How so. Tell me, in a real life scenario, will the brother NOT approach the sister and ask for her FATHERS number? He has to approach her and talk to her one way or another! He can't go around asking random old guys if they have daughters or not. In some cases it is even ok to see her in her natural environment without her knowledge, if your interested in marriage no? Secondly, didn't khadija (ra) approach the Prophet (pbuh)? The brother never said, PM ME directly so we can CHIT CHAT. Maybe he is simply looking for a sister on here, to contact him with a PHONE NUMBER of her wali. Lets stop assuming things.

Assalaamu Alaykum

I never said finding a spouse online is haraam, saying something is haraam is saying the person is sinning and disobeying Allah. However, I do believe, that trying to find a spouse online is a very dodgy issue that manifests in haraam interaction most of the time and Allah knows best. I have met some sisters who met their husbands online. One of them did not tell her father how they met but instead said that she knew him via uni friends,etc. Two other sisters (both european reverts) met their husbands online and flew to the UK , one of them fled from her husband and the other I just recently met and is getting marriend in 2 weeks, May Allah bless her marraige.

Come on we can not be so naive to think any Abu or Umm on X islam forum is trustworthy person and even if they were the fact is that no brother or sister should privately interact/freemix for the purpose of marraige on the net,unless her father is aware of the situation and has permitted her talking to him (and even then they are only permitted to talk about issues that will affect their marraige life or what they are considering in a partner).I can understand the words I used were strong, but SubhanAllah I feel strong about it, I can't believe brothers and sisters are encouringing eachother in something like this! Is that really just me? La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah. Has Allah not made enough halaal means available for us? Sadly the victims are msotly revert sisters (who do not have the protection of a wali) or young sisters who became attracted to one particular poster/chatter....subhanAllah.

Anyway in a real-life scenario a brother should not approach a sister a ask her for her fathers number....thats just plain bad akhlaaq (again not saying its haraam, I dont know) I heard of stories where a brother gave a sister his phonenumber in a bus or on a da'wah stall ( Im sure thats not the point of da'wah stall) ; la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah....in most cases there is NO need for this, the brother can talk to his sister to talk to her or talk to her brother,etc. Generally I haven't heard of brothers and sisters roaming the streets looking for spouses, but rather they inform their friends who are married who then will tell their spouses in return.....from there on (with the knowledge of her wali) he can ask her questions,look at her,etc. Yes he should look at her , like she should look at him, (hadith rassululah (saw) where he asked a sahabi who told him he was getting married wether he looked at his fiancee, when he replied he hadn't then Rassululahi (saw) ordered him to go back and look at her first)....bottom line there must be some sort of attraction and this is permitted in the right context....i.e sisters shouldnt be putting their pictures up on a website for any ***** to come vieuw her or should she be sending her picture to a lovely 'deeni' brother she met UmmahForum who really understands her , without the knowledge of her dad.....what mostly tends to happen....

anyway need to go , but ur point with khadiajah (ra) firstly this was 15 years before prohethood, so better to look at examples from when revelation came down, secondly she never approached him directly but asked a woman (she might have been elderly,w'Allahu a'lam) who went to Rassululah , and they got married after the approval of his uncle,etc

sorry quick end reply really neet to head off.....as for sister sun somethiing: assalaamu alaykum.

[PiElle2]

all i can say is i ain't going to raise my hand here and say 'aye'... but what i can suggest is for you to stick around, post enough til you are eligible to get into the bros' section and do your man stuff there.... is that way proper enough for everyone here...? all the best!

[AbooEesa]

Shukran brothers..the concern is really appreciated.
Shukran
Wasalaam

[Zesty]

What kinda wife ya what bro? :D and whereabouts in SA? Hehehe.. my husby and I will help you find a nice muslim bride :hidban:

[Chained_Water]

This isn't a matrimonial site, it's a discussion forum. Threads like this are usually pulled straight away, not sure why this one hasn't been tbh.

Although the admins are not against facilitating proposals for established users who are well known to them if done privately through the gender forums and profiles there or PM's through them.

But for users with few posts and who aren't known from Adam, then for internet safety reasons especially these kind of threads are not entertained in main. If one is going to look for a spouse online, it would be better done via specilist websites and services rather than discussion forums.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams



But for users with few posts and who aren't known from Adam, then for internet safety reasons especially these kind of threads are not entertained in main. If one is going to look for a spouse online, it would be better done via specilist websites and services rather than discussion forums.

This is a very good and important point raised.

:insha: Br AbooEesa you shall be successful in your pursuit but realise there are many in the same situation, have Patience and involve your family and friends.

The internet esp a forum is not the best route to take in my opinion as you could have all sorts of bad people online

The Mahrem of each sister here do not allow them to visit this place to pick up a random proposal and pursue it independently

Look in your area with help from others and take it from there otherwise join the countless number of matrimonial sites advertised everywhere (:sub: even on youtube)

This path opens up routes for those who do not have clean intentions and people being naive could end up in a dangerous situation esp as people we have spies masquerading as Muslims.

:wswrwb:

[AbooEesa]

What kinda wife ya what bro? :D and whereabouts in SA? Hehehe.. my husby and I will help you find a nice muslim bride :hidban:

:salams

lol...make them sound like a mail order Sis. InshaAllah one that fears Allah(SWT) is a steadfast muslima and one that would want little mujahids and will be a loving mother and loving wife InshaAllah.

I am in the Johannesburg area Alhumdulilah!

[AbooEesa]

:start:

:salams



This is a very good and important point raised.

:insha: Br AbooEesa you shall be successful in your pursuit but realise there are many in the same situation, have Patience and involve your family and friends.

The internet esp a forum is not the best route to take in my opinion as you could have all sorts of bad people online

The Mahrem of each sister here do not allow them to visit this place to pick up a random proposal and pursue it independently

Look in your area with help from others and take it from there otherwise join the countless number of matrimonial sites advertised everywhere (:sub: even on youtube)

This path opens up routes for those who do not have clean intentions and people being naive could end up in a dangerous situation esp as people we have spies masquerading as Muslims.

:wswrwb:

Shukran Sisters. I am sorry if i have offended any of you or members of the forum. Shukran once again for your assistance!

[seven]

*gives me an idea*

i think i should create a website called www.muslimmarriagetube.com or something :p

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

*gives me an idea*

i think i should create a website called www.muslimmarriagetube.com (http://www.muslimmarriagetube.com) or something :p


:smack:

(btw when you get four spaces filled, does the subscription finish, or are you holding a special feature on your website where there's a reserve bank?) :D:D


:wswrwb:

[Zesty]

:salams

lol...make them sound like a mail order Sis. InshaAllah one that fears Allah(SWT) is a steadfast muslima and one that would want little mujahids and will be a loving mother and loving wife InshaAllah.

I am in the Johannesburg area Alhumdulilah!

Wa-alaikum salaam

loooolll :hidban: hey akhi- youre the one asking on a forum for a wife :p
Ameen! May Allah (swt) guide you to and grant you a spouse of exactly that character. Ameen.

Theres plenty of nice sisters in Joburg! looll

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Shukran Sisters. I am sorry if i have offended any of you or members of the forum. Shukran once again for your assistance!

No no akhee you didn't offend :)

May Allah :Swt: place Barakha in your pursuit of a wife of piety AMEEN

:insha: i hope you understand where i'm coming from as you see there are more than one side of the situation as people can abuse other's trust- one person can be decent and honest when taking a route, but another taking the same route might have a different motive.

:wswrwb:

[AbooEesa]

Wa-alaikum salaam

loooolll :hidban: hey akhi- youre the one asking on a forum for a wife :p
Ameen! May Allah (swt) guide you to and grant you a spouse of exactly that character. Ameen.

Theres plenty of nice sisters in Joburg! looll

No Doubt Sis! :insha: Allah (SWT) would grant me a pious wife and loving mother. I tend to find that most sisters in joburg are materialisticaly inclined, also being inclined to the western lifestyle. InshaAllah I am looking to get married and then move overseas closer to the Islamic states, where we can focus on becoming better Muslims in a Muslim environment, where the focus is not on material gain but spiritual upliftment InshaAllah.

[Zesty]

No Doubt Sis! :insha: Allah (SWT) would grant me a pious wife and loving mother. I tend to find that most sisters in joburg are materialisticaly inclined, also being inclined to the western lifestyle. InshaAllah I am looking to get married and then move overseas closer to the Islamic states, where we can focus on becoming better Muslims in a Muslim environment, where the focus is not on material gain but spiritual upliftment InshaAllah.

:eek: DO you know my husband or something!?!?
:D im sure its a bit of a generalisation although its not the first time ive heard it which makes one wonder :scratch:
May Allah (swt) make you successful in your pursuits. Ameen.

[AbooEesa]

:eek: DO you know my husband or something!?!?
:D im sure its a bit of a generalisation although its not the first time ive heard it which makes one wonder :scratch:
May Allah (swt) make you successful in your pursuits. Ameen.


Ameen Thuma Ameen :jkk:

That might be possible! Where about are you guys from..!?

Im out of here for the weekend!

May Allah(SWT) protect all and keep you safe, Now and always InshaAllah!

:wswrwb:

[Zesty]

Ameen Thuma Ameen :jkk:

That might be possible! Where about are you guys from..!?

Im out of here for the weekend!

May Allah(SWT) protect all and keep you safe, Now and always InshaAllah!

:wswrwb:

Wa- Iyyakum Akhi :)

Well im not from SA- im from Good ole England. My husby is South African.
Ameen.

Wasalaams.

[neelu]

That's a good question. I wonder how many sisters here have the approval of their fathers to interact with the brothers and Kaffirs.

ME!

[AbooEesa]

:salams

Alhumdulilah I have found a mom for Eesa an will be getting married on the 30 August InshaAllah and will be going for Umrah for the second half of ramadan InshaAllah!

:jkk: for all your Duaas and may Allah (SWT) fill our marriage with love and understanding and create a strong companionship and grant us may Pios Children they will be the coolness of our eyes InshaAllah!

[Zesty]

:salams

Alhumdulilah I have found a mom for Eesa an will be getting married on the 30 August InshaAllah and will be going for Umrah for the second half of ramadan InshaAllah!

:jkk: for all your Duaas and may Allah (SWT) fill our marriage with love and understanding and create a strong companionship and grant us may Pios Children they will be the coolness of our eyes InshaAllah!

Wa-alaikum salaam!
WOW akhi! :D looll you were quick! See Allah Ta'ala makes things happens when He sees best! I pray you found a muslimah exactly and better than what you desired. May Allah Ta'ala guide your marriage to the highest level of prosperity and may you both attain the highest place in Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen.

Ameen to your duaa too :)

BTW is she south african? :p lol

[AbooEesa]

Wa-alaikum salaam!
WOW akhi! :D looll you were quick! See Allah Ta'ala makes things happens when He sees best! I pray you found a muslimah exactly and better than what you desired. May Allah Ta'ala guide your marriage to the highest level of prosperity and may you both attain the highest place in Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen.

Ameen to your duaa too :)

BTW is she south african? :p lol

Ameen :jkk: sis...No the sis is from a town called Almeria in Southern Spain.
He brother studied with my brother many years back and they came to visit while on holiday with the whole family. Strange thing is her parents were looking for a suitable husband for there daughter...and thats it... we getting married!:up:

[Zesty]

Ameen :jkk: sis...No the sis is from a town called Almeria in Southern Spain.
He brother studied with my brother many years back and they came to visit while on holiday with the whole family. Strange thing is her parents were looking for a suitable husband for there daughter...and thats it... we getting married!:up:

SubhanAllah! :D thats so absolutely wonderful! May Allah Ta'ala grant you barakah. Ameen.
You South Africans have a thing for foreigners! :p lol

[.: Anna :.]

mabrook :up:

[AbooEesa]

SubhanAllah! :D thats so absolutely wonderful! May Allah Ta'ala grant you barakah. Ameen.
You South Africans have a thing for foreigners! :p lol

lol...that's just a matter of opinion there sis Z. trust me I looked far and wide for a sister that has qualities that would be pleasing for Allah (SWT) and after all that my journey ends in Spain! lol

[AbooEesa]

mabrook :up:

:jkk: sis Anna

[carol_au]

lol...that's just a matter of opinion there sis Z. trust me I looked far and wide for a sister that has qualities that would be pleasing for Allah (SWT) and after all that my journey ends in Spain! lol

Alhumdulillah.. what a lovely lovely outcome for you akhi masha'Allah. And what a lovely thing to say about your wife to be.. May Allah azzawajaal who led you two together, keep you together and make the mercy and tranquility and love just keep growing between you and between you both and Eesa.

May you both grow in emaan as you come together and become garments for the other and grant you step towards Jannah al firdeus together



Ameen

[AbooEesa]

Alhumdulillah.. what a lovely lovely outcome for you akhi masha'Allah. And what a lovely thing to say about your wife to be.. May Allah azzawajaal who led you two together, keep you together and make the mercy and tranquility and love just keep growing between you and between you both and Eesa.

May you both grow in emaan as you come together and become garments for the other and grant you step towards Jannah al firdeus together



Ameen

Ameen...JazakAllah sis!

[insomniac]

ameen to all the a'diyah.

this brought tears to my eyes

May Allaah bless you and your wife to be both in this dunya and the aakhirah my bro. Ameen.

[RashidD]

Mabrook akhee! Reading this was awesome... "I found a mom for Eesa..." *thumbs up*

[Jilbabi]

Mabrook akhee! Reading this was awesome... "I found a mom for Eesa..." *thumbs up*

Mashallah, I agree!

Mabrook! Ameen to everyones duas

***Congratulations!***

[LastFriday]

:salams

Alhumdulilah I have found a mom for Eesa an will be getting married on the 30 August InshaAllah and will be going for Umrah for the second half of ramadan InshaAllah!

:jkk: for all your Duaas and may Allah (SWT) fill our marriage with love and understanding and create a strong companionship and grant us may Pios Children they will be the coolness of our eyes InshaAllah!

AWESOME! Mubarak! THat is so sweet! Everything is going so good for you Masha'Allah! Good to hear bro :) May Alllah (swt) bless you , your wife, and your whole family.

[Safiya]

:salams

Mubarak! This was nice to read. You seem very happy, Alhamdulillah.

May Allah SWT grant you a blessed, prosperous marriage; with pious children.

Fee Amaanillah.

[AbooEesa]

:jkk: for all the Duaas...And yes i am really greatful that Allah (SWT) has granted me a Pious Wife to be Alhumdulilah!