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sis_niqabi
28-05-08, 05:33 AM
Ruling on wife taking the husband’s last name if the husband insists on that
I read on your website the questions and answers regarding the issue of women changing their surname upon marriage. My question is, can a husband force his wife to change her surname against her will? And what can the wife do if her husband and his family are pressurizing her to change her surname in the name of legal issues?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a woman to take her husband’s name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to someone other than one’s father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted.
Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.”
“when he has nothing to do with them” means, when he has no lineage among them, as is highlighted in some reports.
Based on that, the husband has no right to force his wife to do that, and if he forces her to do it she should not obey him, because it is obedience to a created being which involves disobedience to the Creator. So she should persist in her refusal and explain to him that it is haraam, and look for Islamically acceptable means of establishing her rights from a legal point of view.
For more information please see the answer to question no. 6241 and 1942.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/114624
Rosalie-Beauty
28-05-08, 05:36 AM
But so many people do this nowadays and sometimes its simply easier if your applying for a visa or greencard.
Ruling on wife taking the husband’s last name if the husband insists on that
I read on your website the questions and answers regarding the issue of women changing their surname upon marriage. My question is, can a husband force his wife to change her surname against her will? And what can the wife do if her husband and his family are pressurizing her to change her surname in the name of legal issues?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a woman to take her husband’s name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to someone other than one’s father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted.
Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.”
“when he has nothing to do with them” means, when he has no lineage among them, as is highlighted in some reports.
Based on that, the husband has no right to force his wife to do that, and if he forces her to do it she should not obey him, because it is obedience to a created being which involves disobedience to the Creator. So she should persist in her refusal and explain to him that it is haraam, and look for Islamically acceptable means of establishing her rights from a legal point of view.
For more information please see the answer to question no. 6241 and 1942.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/114624
assalam alaikum
please explain me more
i did not understand it properly .. what kind of name???
jazakALLAH khair
Medievalist
28-05-08, 02:18 PM
thats why you should get married to your cousin. You'll have the same surname :D:D
thats why you should get married to your cousin. You'll have the same surname :D:D
what kind of sunrname brother???
Medievalist
28-05-08, 02:21 PM
what kind of sunrname brother???
lol. if you from one family then you probably already will have the same family name :up:
lol. if you from one family then you probably already will have the same family name :up:
don't do family names medi :)
Dad's name is a good enough surname.
lol. if you from one family then you probably already will have the same family name :up:
like my father name that comes after my name???
and that fatwah says that it is haram that we put husband surname after wife surname..
my father is imam but my sister have surname of her husband's family.. my father did not say any thing regarding this.
Medievalist
28-05-08, 02:30 PM
lol. Sometimes in the west people from one family have the same family name. eg. Blair.
So all the family members are called something something blair.
Like arabs can have a name Muhammad ibn Abdul Azeez al Qurayshi. or Saud ibn Fareed ash Shaatiree.
:)
So if a guy is called Muhammad Chaudhry. and his cousin is called Aysha Chaudhry. then they get married, they can be Mr and Mrs Chaudhry without anyone changing surname - lol.
سج
:banghead: :crying2: انا ماني فاهمة شيء
help me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee
see if i am from AL-MUHAIRI tribe and my surname is AL-MUHAIRI then if i am will marry to AL-QURAISHI tribe then it will be haram that i would have AL-QURAISHI surname???
dudette
28-05-08, 02:57 PM
bismillah,
subhanAllah i didn't know it was haram! i just thought we had the choice of taking iur husband's surname or keeping ours...i was looking forward to changing it aswell...and abood yes what the thread is saying is if you take your husband's family name it is haram...
wa Allahu a3lam
bismillah,
subhanAllah i didn't know it was haram! i just thought we had the choice of taking iur husband's surname or keeping ours...i was looking forward to changing it aswell...and abood yes what the thread is saying is if you take your husband's family name it is haram...
wa Allahu a3lam
i also wanted to change
jazakALLAH khair
dudette
28-05-08, 03:01 PM
i also wanted to change
bismillah,
why? you guys in the UAE have great surnames!!! you should hear mine lol but alhamdulillah lol...
bismillah,
why? you guys in the UAE have great surnames!!! you should hear mine lol but alhamdulillah lol...
no sister
in here we change our surname
like if a girl is from AL-MUHAIRI tribe then if she marry a guy from AL-SHAMSI tribe then her surname becomes AL-SHAMSI
dudette
28-05-08, 03:12 PM
no sister
in here we change our surname
like if a girl is from AL-MUHAIRI tribe then if she marry a guy from AL-SHAMSI tribe then her surname becomes AL-SHAMSI
bismillah,
i guess that is the common thing to do in this day and age but i guess if they didn't do it in the Prophet's saw time then we should also refrain from it inshaAllah...
i guess it'll be hard for you when you get married then inshaAllah, having to tell your parents and his that you wana keep your name they might take is as an insult or sumthing...
may Allah guide us all onto siraat al mustaqeen.ameen.
wa Allahu a3lam
My name is after my daddy's name and my kids are after their daddy's name no problems no worries except on the odd occasion i get called after my hubby's name but i just tell them straight that i kept my maiden name which is fine.
sis_niqabi
28-05-08, 08:01 PM
salam
it's a important that a woman keeps her last name so people know her lineage. and why should a woman have to lose her identity and take on her husbands?
no sister
in here we change our surname
like if a girl is from AL-MUHAIRI tribe then if she marry a guy from AL-SHAMSI tribe then her surname becomes AL-SHAMSI
they really change it in the uae? because in qatar they don't do it. i assumed it was the same for the uae
no sister
in here we change our surname
like if a girl is from AL-MUHAIRI tribe then if she marry a guy from AL-SHAMSI tribe then her surname becomes AL-SHAMSI
Abood, everytime I read your comment and then I see your avatar, I keep thinking that pic is actually YOU. lol
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