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Khubaib
28-05-08, 12:47 AM
:salams:
Should you wear a kufi when visiting a potential spouse or should you leave your head uncovered to let her see your hair which may/may not make you look more beautiful to her?
I'm so embarrased asking this but if I asked it in the bros. forum the only responses I'd get would be jokes.
The other question- should you wear a kufi if the parents are more cultural, and not as enthusiastic about deen?
:embar:
I'm asking now so I know what to do in the distant future. No planned wali meetings in sight.
:wswrwb: i dont think u should cos then she cant see what u look like properly, or what ur hair is like etc.
Khubaib
28-05-08, 12:53 AM
:wswrwb: i dont think u should cos then she cant see what u look like properly, or what ur hair is like etc.
:jkk:
Interesting. So it's important for her to be able to see your hair/head.
RashidD
28-05-08, 12:54 AM
Just take it off while there and give your hair a stroke or something so she can get a glimpse and then put it back on again...
Cartman
28-05-08, 12:55 AM
no........there's no such requirement, but if it makes you feel better, you better wear it :up:
:jkk:
Interesting. So it's important for her to be able to see your hair/head.
for sure or how will she know what u look like properly ? if u put a hat on, it makes ur head shape look different depending on how far forward or back u put it, and maybe u could be have a bald patch, which is fine men cant help that, but at least let her see ur hair ( or lack of it ) so she knows how u really look :)
Cartman
28-05-08, 12:56 AM
:jkk:
Interesting. So it's important for her to be able to see your hair/head.
she's got to see what you look like
Umm 'Umarah
28-05-08, 12:58 AM
Depends...
If you normally wear a kufi all the time...then wear it.
If you don't always wear a kufi, then why wear one?
RashidD
28-05-08, 01:08 AM
Umm 'Umarah's made a good point. I was just coming back, also wanted to say that it shouldn't be deceptive... Like in the sense u trying to portray you're more religious or whatever (I know that's not your intention) but i'm just trying to say that that meeting should be as natural as possible - yes dress smart, but it should be an indication of everyday life after marriage.
LastFriday
28-05-08, 03:59 AM
You know, I have a similar question. Should you wear a Kurta or dress pants and shirts?
.: Anna :.
28-05-08, 08:14 AM
Depends...
If you normally wear a kufi all the time...then wear it.
If you don't always wear a kufi, then why wear one?
exactly what I was gonna say. Just go as your usual self?
Wear it when you get there, meet greet everyone blah blah with it on. Once inside and the whole "nice to meet you" stuff's over, take it off and leave it off until you depart.
muslimahk
28-05-08, 09:29 AM
Just take it off while there and give your hair a stroke or something so she can get a glimpse and then put it back on again...
What ever you do dont say because youre worth it.
Be yourself. Its better to be honest about who you are otherwise youll have problems if you give a different impression later on.
Medievalist
28-05-08, 10:29 AM
Khubaiba sis . . . you're meant to cover all your hair when the boyz side come for a rishta. Why you wanna look daft and wear a kufi? They for bros :smack:
If you don't always wear a kufi, then why wear one?
Perfect point...
But, if you think the parents have particular sensitivities, take them into account. If they absolutely hate wide collar shirts (just an example), don't wear it, even if you wear it everyday.
That wouldn't come under 'you're trying to be someone you're not', that would just be being sensitive to their prejudices. Which is always a good thing.
Now if the girl hates them, then you've gotta think harder, 'tis either her or the shirt :D
Khubaib
28-05-08, 02:12 PM
Khubaiba sis . . . you're meant to cover all your hair when the boyz side come for a rishta. Why you wanna look daft and wear a kufi? They for bros :smack:
It will make the meeting more interesting. :nerdsis:
Khubaib
28-05-08, 03:38 PM
whats a kufi? :o
A hat that covers your head for muslims. Like what you would wrap your turban around.
A hat that covers your head for muslims. Like what you would wrap your turban around.
Oooh :smack: i thought it might be just wasnt sure, but umm lol let her c ur hair! :p
Well, if you wear a kufi that shows your iman is higher (I think), so I think it would be important.
I'm waiting till I can grow a proper beard before I get married.
Muhammad2
30-05-08, 10:09 AM
Aren't you native American, Wolfy?
From what I've heard you could be waiting a long time :p
Wear a banyan (vest), kacha (boxers) and kufi (hat)
IbnAbdulHakim
30-05-08, 10:22 AM
you said:
Just take it off while there and give your hair a stroke or something so she can get a glimpse and then put it back on again...
my mind read:
Just take it off while there and let her give your hair a stroke or something so she can get a glimpse and then put it back on again...
:|
as for the advice, i think she would like to see you withour your kufi bro :), wallahu a'lam
you can keep it on and then take it off inside or something?
Assalamu Alaikum
Asalamu alaikum.
I think u should be UR self, If u wear normally then wear when going to meet ur spouse if u dont wear normally then leave it and dont wear.
Simple is that.
urban_rose
30-05-08, 11:23 AM
Asalamu alaikum.
I think u should be UR self, If u wear normally then wear when going to meet ur spouse if u dont wear normally then leave it and dont wear.
Simple is that.
i agree with Mumtaz and all others who've said same thing :)
make sure whatever you do.. it;s smart! might sound a little obvious.. but be smart dressed! :up:
Tranquillity
30-05-08, 01:42 PM
[QUOTE=Khubaib;2612243I'm so embarrased asking this but if I asked it in the bros. forum the only responses I'd get would be jokes.
/QUOTE]
That's well mean!
Alhamdullilah for the lovely sisters forum where we're all extremely helpful :D
Tranquillity
30-05-08, 01:44 PM
Well, if you wear a kufi that shows your iman is higher (I think), so I think it would be important.
I'm waiting till I can grow a proper beard before I get married.
eh? I've seen a lot of non-religious but very cultural Muslims wear them.
or am I thinking of topi? same difference maybe?
but umm lol let her c ur hair! :p
:smack: what's it to her what your hair's like
Aren't you native American, Wolfy?
From what I've heard you could be waiting a long time :p
Yeah, I'm half Native American. So I'm thinking in like 4-5 years, inshallah.
-Shamil-
30-05-08, 04:41 PM
:smack: what's it to her what your hair's like
she should know what she's letting herself in for
i used to have big afro type hair but covered it with a mosque hat - everytime i took it off, i looked like sideshow bob
yes you should, and if they have problem with it, than it jus shows they have problem with people following the sunnah.
yes you should, and if they have problem with it, than it jus shows they have problem with people following the sunnah.
kufi isnt sunnah a turban is. kufi is just cultural wear, sahabba and prophet :saw: didnt wear it.its just common today with the muslims.
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