scared of losing a loved one

[im scared]

im deeply interested in someone for marriage. I feel its so deep, I jus dno if i can handle him being married to any1 else. i mean i thought i cud. but than i hear these lil things that he maybe getting married to sum1 else, and it jus kills me.
Wat do I do?

[PK Aali]

:salams

Perform Istikharah (http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/8195-istikharah-prayer-asking-allaah-subhaanahu-wa-taaala-guidance.html).

[Eemaan]

errr lass are you considering eachother for marraige or is it just random bloke your in love with?

[im scared]

Im considering him, i dno if he's consiering me. he dosnt even know that im interested.

[Danniella]

errr lass are you considering eachother for marraige or is it just random bloke your in love with?

Err, if you read her post she clearly says what her intention is...

:o

[325]

get your wali to contact him/his family Inshallah. pray istikhara. be patient. make du'a.

if he's good for you, Allah swt will make it happen :)

remember, whatever Allah swt does, it for the best.

[afsalim]

Im considering him, i dno if he's consiering me. he dosnt even know that im interested.

Unless he feels exactly how you feel, it's not worth it. Love works both ways, i.e. you love someone and he loves you back. If love is one sided only, then its not love to begin with. It's just infatuation.

Try to talk to him. See if he feels the same way. If so, you can progress to the next step.

[im scared]

^i dont mean to be rude but what do u mean try talk to him? this guy is a non-mahram. I cant approach him and ask him things like that. i cant approach him full stop.
thanks for ur replies anyway.

[Umm_Hanzalah]

You can't lose what you never had or what you don't have.

It's all in your mind sis. :)

[354]

^i dont mean to be rude but what do u mean try talk to him? this guy is a non-mahram. I cant approach him and ask him things like that. i cant approach him full stop.
thanks for ur replies anyway.


Then you should get someone who is mahram to you/close to you to get the information from him either by asking him or asking someone else who can ask him.

this approach works better, and he doesnt have to know how you feel. it can just be by getting even a clue by asking something along the lines of "what do you think about sister 'aisha'"...

if the result is positive, well then the next step would be to involve your wali, or get the mediator to get him to send your family the proposal :p

patience is key here. dont get ahead of yourself :)

[al-istiqamah]

No man is worth that amount of heartache :)

[wjrenfoinrrn]

Asalamulaykum

MAke Lots Of Dua, and pray istikarah, then ask your brother or one of your friends with a brother etc to find out if he is interested.If the brothers involved in his local masjid then theres a way, if its a uni, the isoc is a way and if its work then i dnt have clue lool
BUT DNT LET IF BE A WHAT IF AND DNT EXPECT HIM TO COME TO YOU WHEN HE DOESNT HAVE A CLUE. MEN ARE THICK.

Tabarakallah, at least you didnt think about going up to him *waks head*..

May Allah swt make what is best for u in this life and your akirah happen and bless you with a husband from among the men of jannah.ameen.

w.salam

[Fairy]

There are some things in life you just cannot have. So if it does not happen, then move on, trust in Allah that it is not meant to be and if it is Allah will bring him to you.

[RashidD]

So why not ask your wali to send him a proposal? If he is righteous etc.

[practical]

where do you know him from? is he some random guy you see on the road? if so you dont even know what type of person he is, he might not be religious, he might not pray, he might be a lunatic
if youve never spoken to him, how do you know what he's like? do you know anyone that knows him?
if you really feel you cant live without him, go through that person and find out if he feels the same but whatever you do dont go up to him yourself!

[im scared]

No man is worth that amount of heartache :)
Trust me, if i didnt feel he was good, i would agree wiv u 100%. i feel this guy is a diamond!

So why not ask your wali to send him a proposal? If he is righteous etc.
because im so damned freaked out lol. its soooo nerve racking. lol

where do you know him from? is he some random guy you see on the road? if so you dont even know what type of person he is, he might not be religious, he might not pray, he might be a lunatic
yeah, ive got enough background to have figured that he's not, inshallah. *smiles*
how do you know what he's like?
because actions speak louder than words *smiles*

[RashidD]

because im so damned freaked out lol. its soooo nerve racking. lol


Once i was told to treat marriage as an ibaadah. With ibaadah, we wanna do our best and perfect it for the sake of our Deen. InshaALLAH approach your wali and speak.

You can recite the du'aa of Musa (Alayhis Salaam) "Rabbishrahli sadri wa yassirli 'amri wahlal'ukdatam millasaani yafka qawli"

[Fairy]

:inlove::inlove:Trust me, if i didnt feel he was good, i would agree wiv u 100%. i feel this guy is a diamond!


because im so damned freaked out lol. its soooo nerve racking. lol


yeah, ive got enough background to have figured that he's not, inshallah. *smiles*

because actions speak louder than words *smiles*

lol, someone is smitten!! :inlove:

[Medievalist]

sounds like a crush. Im sure you'll get over it :up:

[im scared]

ok, ive performed istikhara and everything seems positive, alhamdulilah *faints* lol
1 thing im worried about is his family. im not sure if/how they'll accept me, considering they are quite cultral, and im not from the same culture.