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_Said_
17-05-08, 11:57 PM
Asselamu aleikum brothers and sisters..

I came from a marriage just now and I gotta tell the truth there were really good looking girls. Suddenly, I saw her. She was such wonderful, I thought

"Oh Said, look at her ... She looks like your dreamgirl :D Oh, but sabir Said you know she looks great but you aint knowing her character. Maybe she gives a damn about religion and is just interested on partys, boys and so on. But who knows? Maybe she is the direct opposite and perhaps she is a really smart girl. But but.. I can not approach her, I will never know it, so forget it Said. Oh allah please give me sabir and a great wife in future :D."

And the worst thing is, she looked in my eyes and she was interested. :(

Oh brothers, what have got to do in such situations? Is it allowed for a muslim to approach a girl? It isnt, right?

But how do I will meet the woman who I want to marry maybe?

Oh please sisters please do not misunderstand me, but I suppose that is a really big problem for male muslims.

Medievalist
18-05-08, 12:00 AM
speak to yer mom and dad. Im sure they've got some nieces hidden away somewhere :p

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 12:05 AM
:wswrwb:

Lower your gaze.

Where is that thread on unrestrained glances gone...

Here: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=153765

Enigma Dreamer
18-05-08, 12:22 AM
Just do as sis water told you

Ur sis in Islam
18-05-08, 12:29 AM
errr what happened to lowering ur gaze??:confused: see this is the exact reason why weddings should be segregated!:(
Bro you should really talk to your parents, so that they can contact her wali, and just tke it from there!
Inshallah if its meant to be it will be, its all down to the qadr of Allah swt, so just leave it down to him!

Abu Muslim
18-05-08, 12:32 AM
You came from a marriage where there were lots of pretty girls? You what? *scratches head*

http://www.funnyforumpics.com/forums/I-dont-understand-what-your-saying/1/Understand-Bunny_%28Pancake%29.jpg

.: Anna :.
18-05-08, 12:35 AM
he means a wedding?

_Said_
18-05-08, 12:49 AM
You came from a marriage where there were lots of pretty girls? You what? *scratches head*

http://www.funnyforumpics.com/forums/I-dont-understand-what-your-saying/1/Understand-Bunny_%28Pancake%29.jpg


Sorry for my bad english. Actually I meant a wedding.

So I dunno, actually Iam really young and I want to study medicine and it takes a long time. There would not be any time for a family. And the second point is, my parents would not understand my problem cause they are not such religious.

@Chained Water

Thank you for the link :)

Enigma Dreamer
18-05-08, 01:58 AM
Sorry for my bad english. Actually I meant a wedding.

So I dunno, actually Iam really young and I want to study medicine and it takes a long time. There would not be any time for a family. And the second point is, my parents would not understand my problem cause they are not such religious.

@Chained Water

Thank you for the link :)
Yeah I am in the same situation as you. There would be time for your family. It is all about balancing your time, inshaaAllah. If your parent aren't religious, no one is in a better position to change them than you after Allah (s.w.). There is a lot you can do brother, you only need to realise that you indeed can with Allah's will.

ImaanSeeker
18-05-08, 02:08 AM
:salams bro,

It's tough, but not impossible bro. It takes some mujahida but InshaAllah this strife will bear its fruits in due time.

Here are some very wise words:

Taken From an Article :: Purpose of Life

By: Hazrat Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Sahab (db)

If a person treading the path of tasawwuf does only two acts, namely, safeguarding the gaze and protecting the heart, he will become a saint if Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla wills. The remaining papers are easy. It is easy to leave all other sins. Two acts are very important. One is the protection of the border, the other the protection of the gaze. The enemy comes from two paths, either he will come from the border or he will attack the capital directly with an aircraft. When you have protected the borders of your eyes according to the command of Rasűlullâh Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you protect the capital of your heart, then the road has been leveled for you to become a saint and friend of Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla. The one who abstains from sin, evil gazes, and also protects his heart, will he speak lies? The one who has solved the difficult paper can very easily solve the simple paper. Is it difficult for the one who has endured a fever of one hundred degrees (Fahrenheit) to endure fifty degrees?

When the kings used to announce anything, the camel drivers would beat the camels with a stick. The sound of this drum would travel for a distance of two miles. Moulânâ Rűmi (Rahimahullâh) states that when a camel, which was laden with these drums, went past a village, the children clapped their hands and interfered with it.

Moulânâ Rűmi (Rahimahullâh) states that the camel said,

"O children, what effect will your tiny hands have by making such a minor sound.
The drum, which is sounded on my back, has a sound that travels for two miles.
When my ears can endure this din, then the sound of your clapping hands is not even equivalent to a mosquito for me."


The Effects of Keeping in Mind the Greatness of Allâh

When the greatness of Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla enters the heart, and the fear of reckoning of the day of Judgement enters the heart, it will not be concerned with the reproach of the people of this world and their curses and teasing after such a great sound has entered it. It will not be bothered by what people say. A person sported a one-fist length beard and wrote to Hadhrat Thânwi (Rahimahullâh) that since the time he sported his beard, all his friends and acquaintances were mocking him. Hadhrat Thânwi (Rahimahullâh) replied to him that he should let his friends continue laughing. On the day of Qiyâmah he will not have to cry. He replied to another person, "Why are you fearing the laughter of people? You are a man and yet you fear. Let them laugh."

What a great reward Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla has granted for safeguarding the gaze.

Firstly, protection from regret, worry and uneasiness. Secondly, the sweetness of Imân. The one who safeguards his gaze, Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla will grant his heart the sweetness of Imân. After the sweetness of Imân, what will be his third reward? He will have a good ending, that is, he will die with Imân.

The Reason for a Good Ending

The question now arises: Why is there such a great reward for safeguarding the gaze which is not a very difficult task? Well, those who safeguard their gazes know what goes through their hearts at the time of turning away the glance. A person asked why is there the great reward of the sweetness of Imân for safeguarding the gaze. I replied that the heart carries the burden of all the grief when safeguarding the gaze and the heart is the king of the body. If the king has to work for you, will you pay him more or not? Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla also grants more reward for the work of the heart. When the heart makes an effort and endures the grief of not looking, it pleases the Owner, then Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla grants it reward. He grants it the sweetness of Imân. In reality, He grants it His own love. It has been freed from the love of corpses and attached to the Real Live One, namely Allâh Subhanahu wa Ta'âla.
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http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?p=287084

_Said_
18-05-08, 01:32 PM
Yeah I am in the same situation as you. There would be time for your family. It is all about balancing your time, inshaaAllah. If your parent aren't religious, no one is in a better position to change them than you after Allah (s.w.). There is a lot you can do brother, you only need to realise that you indeed can with Allah's will.

Oh brother, I tried many times but I think they do not want to change. Especially my father not.

And Iam also sure that I can not marry now. Iam 17 years old and I gotta do my A-Levels and after that I want to study as I already said.

But thank you brothers and sisters for your commentaries.

However, my second question is: Is there no opportunity for a male moslem to choose his wife himself? Because I think I have got to know something about her before I will marry her. Maybe she does not have the same opinions as me. Perhaps we are totaly different characters who dont belong together.

(*_Hamzah
18-05-08, 01:35 PM
Assalaam alaikum Said, have you tried bridal kidnapping?

MMS
18-05-08, 01:38 PM
:jkk: for an insight into the male mind :smack:

Medievalist
18-05-08, 01:41 PM
Assalaam alaikum Said, have you tried bridal kidnapping?

he hasn't but it sounds like YOU have. ;)

do tell (in the bros forum if you too shy :p )

muslimma
18-05-08, 01:45 PM
And the worst thing is, she looked in my eyes and she was interested. :(



:start:

...maybe she was thinking wot the hells is he staring at , goof' :rolleyes: :0:

Astraeus
18-05-08, 01:47 PM
I do not have much experience with this issue, but I have faith that if I follow the Qur'an & the Sunnah way on this issue, that I will find the wife which Allah (SWT) has willed for me.

_Said_
18-05-08, 02:08 PM
That means it is kader which woman you will marry, is that right?

@muslimma: Maybe you are right, but do not have a false impression of me. Actually Iam not the one who has nothing else in his mind than women. And Iam also not the person who gazes at somebody like a pervert :rolleyes:

abdullah3
18-05-08, 03:04 PM
1 - Fear Allah

2 - Lower your gaze

3 - Avoid mixed congregations as much as possible

4 - Fast Mondays and Thursdays if possible

5 - Put your trust in Allah and make plenty of Du'aa

6 - Seek a Halal means of marriage

Ebony
18-05-08, 03:11 PM
Talk about a roving eye....

DALEHYR
18-05-08, 03:11 PM
Brother have a glass of water Insha'ALLAH... :)

Souljette001
18-05-08, 03:13 PM
Another reason why women should dress modestly...

Al Qadr
18-05-08, 03:16 PM
Asselamu aleikum brothers and sisters..


And the worst thing is, she looked in my eyes and she was interested. :(


Wa alaykum asalaam. Jus a little reminder it's easy to fall in shaytaans trap...


A poet of ancient times has said:

‘All affairs begin with the sight,
the raging fire a spark can ignite'



‘While a contemporary poet declares:

‘A look, then a smile,
then a nod of the head,
then a talk, then a promise,
then the warmth of the bed’

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2535875#post2535875


Perhaps you could tell your mum about this girl, maybe she knows her. But don't do anything alone i.e go up to her. I'm sure you won't tho :up:

urban_rose
18-05-08, 03:18 PM
Another reason why women should dress modestly...

they may still come under the gaze of a man, sis and no reason to say why he may not feel attracted to her in same way as one who wasnt dressed modestly....



Wa alaykum asalaam. Jus a little reminder it's easy to fall in shaytaans trap...


A poet of ancient times has said:

‘All affairs begin with the sight,
the raging fire a spark can ignite'



‘While a contemporary poet declares:

‘A look, then a smile,
then a nod of the head,
then a talk, then a promise,
then the warmth of the bed’


Perhaps you could tell your mum about this girl, maybe she knows her. But don't do anything alone i.e go up to her. I'm sure you won't tho :up:


*Thumbs Up*

True words, mashAllah :)

Hiking
18-05-08, 03:23 PM
Bro would you really want a wife that went around giving people the interested eye? Do istikhara, and if you think she's right then make a proposal through the right paths, if not, then lower your gaze and trust in Allah :Swt: that all things will happen in good time

Redmist
18-05-08, 03:36 PM
Im beginning to be of the opinon:

Nothing ventured nothing gained!

If she gave u the interested eye, you have to make ur move, show her that ur interested too, than find a way of talking to her, ull find out from what she says whether she's just a party girl out to have a bit of fun with boys or theirs some substance to her, like what she does:work/uni, what is important to her/opinions so forth and then once you get an idea about her, dont take it any further. Speak to your parents about her and start the ball rolling.

Eemaan
18-05-08, 03:42 PM
:jkk: for an insight into the male mind :smack:

i know, what a flippin shock. :1popcorn: must be a first

RazielTemp
18-05-08, 03:57 PM
Peace be Upon those who Seek and Receive Guidance!

Read ...

Al-Quran, Chapter 24 : Verse 30
-------------------------------
"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do."

Follow this Instruction, and you won't have the Issues you've raised ...

If however you follow your Lusts/Desires then you will face destruction ...

:jkk:

Khubaib
18-05-08, 04:03 PM
Assalaam alaikum Said, have you tried bridal kidnapping?

Chechens :rolleyes:

c0508310
18-05-08, 04:29 PM
Im beginning to be of the opinon:

Nothing ventured nothing gained!

If she gave u the interested eye, you have to make ur move, show her that ur interested too, than find a way of talking to her, ull find out from what she says whether she's just a party girl out to have a bit of fun with boys or theirs some substance to her, like what she does:work/uni, what is important to her/opinions so forth and then once you get an idea about her, dont take it any further. Speak to your parents about her and start the ball rolling.

u r a very experienced person!!!!!!!!!

SAID u must trust Allah and offer tahjud and make dua for it, Inshaallah ur parents wil ask u themselves, as is there there any girl u want to marry!
inshaAllah ur desire will be fulfiled!

c0508310
18-05-08, 04:36 PM
bro, iehen im need of something i directly pray to ALLAH and i am provided with it MASAALLAH!
but for that i recite 4 rakaat nafal with 4 specific arabic dua!
if u want to have them, do PM me i will tel u INSHAALLAH tomorrow!
they are 4 duas to be recited each in one rakah 100 times after surah fatiha!
it do works!

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 04:37 PM
:jkk: for an insight into the male mind :smack:
Mind? :scratch:

ana_mujahid
18-05-08, 04:39 PM
:wswrwb:

Lower your gaze.

Where is that thread on unrestrained glances gone...

Here: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=153765

Agreed

Why are u attending a mixed party?

Souljette001
18-05-08, 05:16 PM
[QUOTE=urban_rose;2594403]they may still come under the gaze of a man, sis and no reason to say why he may not feel attracted to her in same way as one who wasnt dressed modestly....

[QUOTE]

Thats the whole point its got to work both ways:
1)Women Dress modestly
2)Men keep thier gaze loward.
Men are not Angels you cant expect them to abide by the rules 24/7 the're still Humans at the end of the day and Shaitan is always with humans leading them astray, Its our duty to stay firm on Islam.
May Allah Guide us All to the straight path and make it easy for us InshAlllah.


Hey Said watch this Video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wsYOI1pDssI

May Allah make it easy for you. Ameen

Medievalist
18-05-08, 05:37 PM
Im beginning to be of the opinon:

Nothing ventured nothing gained!

If she gave u the interested eye, you have to make ur move, show her that ur interested too, than find a way of talking to her, ull find out from what she says whether she's just a party girl out to have a bit of fun with boys or theirs some substance to her, like what she does:work/uni, what is important to her/opinions so forth and then once you get an idea about her, dont take it any further. Speak to your parents about her and start the ball rolling.

are you being serious?

yeh for jokez you might make freinds with a gyal like that, but wud a man wanna marry a woman like that?

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 05:42 PM
Med you are so mean, why do you have such horrible vids in your signature? :(

Medievalist
18-05-08, 05:46 PM
Med you are so mean, why do you have such horrible vids in your signature? :(

FINALLY!!!


:rotfl: :rotfl:

I bin waiting AGES for someone to comment on it. Isnt it HILARIOUS. Qasam me and the family watched it like 5 times in a row, gud bit of comedy :rotfl:


:rofl1:


Im being funny and responsible - the dangers of smoking. Paki government shud use that clip as a anti-smoking campaign add.


looooooooooool

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 05:48 PM
Poor uncle jee :( ..how can you take such pleasure in other peoples pain? :nono:

And that :wacko: dhol one that you had before was worse.. weirdo, have you got like a special collection of warped YouTube videos or something? :rubeyes:

Do worry about you sometimes :eek3:

Medievalist
18-05-08, 05:52 PM
Poor uncle jee :( ..how can you take such pleasure in other peoples pain? :nono:

And that :wacko: dhol one that you had before was worse.. weirdo, have you got like a special collection of warped YouTube videos or something? :rubeyes:

Do worry about you sometimes :eek3:

His reaction is HILARIOUS. your too old and grumpy to understand these things anymore.

dhol one? there wasnt anything mean in that? he was doing those tricks. nowt evil in that.


the horse one where the maharaj jumps right over the horse and lands on his side on floor - THATS funny. Theres' some other ones funny as well - but MP lingos a bit too hardcore for young ears.


are you saying you didnt laugh when you saw MP Bawa on fire? :rubeyes:

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 06:13 PM
Redmist your posts are coming off very weird bro :eek3:

You are encouraging dudes to go upto and start chatting to random girls they like the look of and have some aank mila-ing with and think there is a spark? Can't you see how wrong that sounds on like every single level :S

Worst advice ever on the planet.

This thread is a disaster :smack:

Omar Mukhtar
18-05-08, 06:18 PM
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Kubs
18-05-08, 06:25 PM
Merhaba Said :up:

You are young. If you want to become a doctor, do not even think about marriage at this age. Be realistic. Think realistic.

You see this girl from afar. She's good looking I presume. Instantly you are interested in her. You think she's 'the one'. Now rewind back......what exactly do you know about her? Nothing.

So she stared back at you. So? What makes you think she was interested in you also? Maybe it was an 'accidental' look. Maybe she saw you and thought 'why is that man staring at me.' :eek3:

Now onto my second point - bro, you should be lowering your gaze. The first look...fine.....but to look again.....and then again.....and then again....is wrong. Allah has asked us to lower our gaze and there is obviously logical reasoning behind this.

Onto my 3rd point......if you are genuinely interested in this lady....speak to your parents. Do not approach her and speak to her by yourself. If she is a practising sister....then she wouldn't like this. If she isn't a practising sister.............then why are you considering her for marriage?

However, I strongly recommend that you focus on your studies at the moment. Wait a few more years....maybe when you've started University. It seems the more sensible option.

Medievalist
18-05-08, 07:13 PM
Thats dodgy bro. Theres enough gyals out there who are nice, but going and talking to them isnt the right way to find out if she's right for you or not. If it was - then I'd be talking to gyals all day on rock road, big up to the alum rock massernis :outta:



:rotfl:

(*_Hamzah
18-05-08, 07:22 PM
Redmist, that’s terrible advice, how embarrass are you going to feel if the sisters says "I’m married and my husband is behind you!"

How do you approach here? Give her your Shaddi membership number? Ask her out to the halaal pub? Crazy

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 07:28 PM
big up to the alum rock massernis
:outta:



Oh

my

gosh

...you are just so out there sometimes :wacko:

Medievalist
18-05-08, 07:30 PM
Oh

my

gosh

...you are just so out there sometimes :Wacko:

as my old imaginery friend always says:

You can take the lad outta alum rock, you cant take the alum rock outta the lad

Joha
18-05-08, 07:32 PM
Merhaba Said :up:

You are young. If you want to become a doctor, do not even think about marriage at this age. Be realistic. Think realistic.


Careful of that point though. I don't think it's true, so long as the expectations on both sides are realistic it's entirely possible. Obviously if she expects him to have a house and shower gifts on her, it's not going to work. But if they're both students and studying, and living at each other's homes it'll work fine.

With those sisters who'll go around demanding their rights, it's not possible, but that's only their loss :p

I know a medic couple, they've managed, and they were married in their first year.

Chained_Water
18-05-08, 07:41 PM
I know a brother who's studying medicine too and got married half way through his degree.. it's definately something people can manage, if they are mature enough and all that :)

Redmist
18-05-08, 07:42 PM
Thats dodgy bro. Theres enough gyals out there who are nice, but going and talking to them isnt the right way to find out if she's right for you or not. If it was - then I'd be talking to gyals all day on rock road, big up to the alum rock massernis :outta:



:rotfl:

All im saying we live in the real world. 21st century.....boys and girls find their own partners! Be it thru work, uni or passing in the street! Whats wrong with trying to get to know a girl if you are attracted to her and she is Attracted to you?! But its got to be a 2 way street, no use hitting on gals who dnt like u or make it plain they dnt like you, by the way they put their noses up at you or they pull a face!

So all me is saying is that if theres a chemical reaction between 2 parties why not take the plunge and talk to her!!

And i doubt ud be out there talking to gyals all day on alumm rock road!! Male bravado :p

Redmist, that’s terrible advice, how embarrass are you going to feel if the sisters says "I’m married and my husband is behind you!"

How do you approach here? Give her your Shaddi membership number? Ask her out to the halaal pub? Crazy

yEH lets take it ur not completely dumb and u can tell if shes married, you make a comment " Oh this place is always the same" or "why cant they getthis right1" if a conversation is gonna develop it will.........you got to have the skills bro :D

or coversely it will end by her making it clear she doesnt like being chatted up by random strangers!

Medievalist
18-05-08, 07:44 PM
All im saying we live in the real world. 21st century.....boys and girls find their own partners! Be it thru work, uni or passing in the street! Whats wrong with trying to get to know a girl if you are attracted to her and she is Attracted to you?! But its got to be a 2 way street, no use hitting on gals who dnt like u or make it plain they dnt like you, by the way they put their noses up at you or they pull a face!

So all me is saying is that if theres a chemical reaction between 2 parties why not take the plunge and talk to her!!

And i doubt ud be out there talking to gyals all day on alumm rock road!! Male bravado :p

end of the day bro - its not jaiz. I was saying if it was jaiz then I'd be on alum rock rd everyday (mom always complains im on there too much as it is :o )

muslimma
18-05-08, 07:48 PM
@muslimma: Maybe you are right, but do not have a false impression of me. Actually Iam not the one who has nothing else in his mind than women. And Iam also not the person who gazes at somebody like a pervert :rolleyes:

lols okay bro safe.:up:

but i was just wondering how you knew she was interested in you...just cos she looked at you ? :scratch:

ibn Iyaaz
18-05-08, 07:50 PM
All im saying we live in the real world. 21st century.....boys and girls find their own partners! Be it thru work, uni or passing in the street! Whats wrong with trying to get to know a girl if you are attracted to her and she is Attracted to you?! But its got to be a 2 way street, no use hitting on gals who dnt like u or make it plain they dnt like you, by the way they put their noses up at you or they pull a face!

So all me is saying is that if theres a chemical reaction between 2 parties why not take the plunge and talk to her!!

And i doubt ud be out there talking to gyals all day on alumm rock road!! Male bravado :p



yEH lets take it ur not completely dumb and u can tell if shes married, you make a comment " Oh this place is always the same" or "why cant they getthis right1" if a conversation is gonna develop it will.........you got to have the skills bro :D

or coversely it will end by her making it clear she doesnt like being chatted up by random strangers!

Real World:confused:

So you saying those who have found their mates, without knowing them from a bar of soap, and have only spoken to them for the sum total of 5mins with the girls mahram/wali present are in La la land, considering two of my good friends have gone that root, while both of them still studying.

Better go tell them then huh?

Redmist
18-05-08, 07:52 PM
lols okay bro safe.:up:

but i was just wondering how you knew she was interested in you...just cos she looked at you ? :scratch:

I dont mean to butt in to your conversation, but its pretty clear when someone looks because ur staring at them or they just passing the time of day and when they look at you seriously, intensely, saying i am interested in you! Just my 2 pounds worth :p

Eemaan
18-05-08, 07:54 PM
big up to the alum rock massernis :outta:

:rotfl:

whassa massereni?

Medievalist
18-05-08, 07:55 PM
whassa massereni?
literally:
your maasi's daughter

Redmist
18-05-08, 07:56 PM
Real World:confused:

So you saying those who have found their mates, without knowing them from a bar of soap, and have only spoken to them for the sum total of 5mins with the girls mahram/wali present are in La la land, considering two of my good friends have gone that root, while both of them still studying.

Better go tell them then huh?

NO..........that is one route and still the most practiced route, but open ur eyes bruv b/f, g/f relationship is so casual now, no one even blinks at it twice!

muslimma
18-05-08, 07:58 PM
I dont mean to butt in to your conversation, but its pretty clear when someone looks because ur staring at them or they just passing the time of day and when they look at you seriously, intensely, saying i am interested in you! Just my 2 pounds worth :p

...oook...lets see hat the bro sais...

...mayb she was looking at someone stood behind him.....:p

Redmist
18-05-08, 07:59 PM
literally:
your maasi's daughter

So ur orignally bigging up admiring/respecting the ALumm Rock Road gyals?

yeh.......no?

Medievalist
18-05-08, 07:59 PM
NO..........that is one route and still the most practiced route, but open ur eyes bruv b/f, g/f relationship is so casual now, no one even blinks at it twice!

bro I know. its become common now, but that doesnt mean its right innit.

Sometimes what happens is that mashaALLAH practicing youth get frustrated that everyone else finds their spouse and they still sitting twiddling their thumbs but in that case the youth HAVE to be patient. and ALLAH opens ways without you even realising.

9 months before my marriage I didnt even know my wifes name despite her being my cousin. and I never even thought I'd marry into my auntys house - but subhanALLAH within days that all changed.

ALLAH opens up ways - just need to be patient bro :up:

Medievalist
18-05-08, 08:00 PM
So ur orignally bigging up admiring/respecting the ALumm Rock Road Bint, to put it in no finer terms?

Im bigging up the alum rock road massernis. **roll eyes**

mashaALLAH.

ibn Iyaaz
18-05-08, 08:00 PM
NO..........that is one route and still the most practiced route, but open ur eyes bruv b/f, g/f relationship is so casual now, no one even blinks at it twice!

Very Very sadly. Once you are married you realise that knowing or not knowing the person has no bearing in your marriage, for Allah (SWT) instills such love for your partner in you, it is truly amazing, and i say sadly for the very "b/f, g/f relationship" is the thing responsible for diminishing the goodness of the marriage before you even enter into it.

Medievalist
18-05-08, 08:01 PM
Very Very sadly. Once you are married you realise that knowing or not knowing the person has no bearing in your marriage, for Allah (SWT) instills such love for your partner in you, it is truly amazing, and i say sadly for the very "b/f, g/f relationship" is the thing responsible for diminishing the goodness of the marriage before you even enter into it.

true. :up:

_Said_
18-05-08, 08:38 PM
Oh thanks to you all, I never had thought that this thread will reach 4 pages :rubeyes:

There are really interesting commentaries and it makes me really glad that you took me serious. :up:

So I learned a new lesson, I gotta lower my gaze :D

Enigma Dreamer
18-05-08, 09:10 PM
FINALLY!!!


:rotfl: :rotfl:

I bin waiting AGES for someone to comment on it. Isnt it HILARIOUS. Qasam me and the family watched it like 5 times in a row, gud bit of comedy :rotfl:


:rofl1:


Im being funny and responsible - the dangers of smoking. Paki government shud use that clip as a anti-smoking campaign add.


looooooooooool
Man, I didn't see that before but it is absolutely hilarious! For some reason, I can't help laughing whenever I see it, no matter how many times I watch!

Medievalist
19-05-08, 10:51 AM
Man, I didn't see that before but it is absolutely hilarious! For some reason, I can't help laughing whenever I see it, no matter how many times I watch!

innit though. :D:D

Hiking
19-05-08, 11:17 AM
innit though. :D:D

Dude it's not funny to hear and see an old man get scared - he could have had a heart attack! :rubeyes:

Just my two pounds

Medievalist
19-05-08, 01:59 PM
Dude it's not funny to hear and see an old man get scared - he could have had a heart attack! :rubeyes:

Just my two pounds

You've not got a sense of humour. Your response is therefore completely understandable :)

As for me - I start chuckling just thinking about it. Bawa on Fire :rotfl:

what I wanna know - is what they put in the sutta for it to burst like that :outta:

Hiking
19-05-08, 02:31 PM
You've not got a sense of humour. Your response is therefore completely understandable :)

As for me - I start chuckling just thinking about it. Bawa on Fire :rotfl:

what I wanna know - is what they put in the sutta for it to burst like that :outta:

Are you questioning my sense of humour??! Why I oughta :0: *rolls up newspaper ready to take a swat*

Prolly a cap (y'know like those little red rolls they used to have)

:rotfl: that bawa ji is actually hilarious hahaa.. dunno how u guys dont see the funny side to it :rotfl:

okay i can kinda feel their sentiments but damn its too funnayy


Edit: actually watched it again and i think its nasty.. thats evil... :(

Your kidding right? :rubeyes: