What is the solution for sudden loss of libido in Islam ?

[modu_manga]

I got married to a muslim sister some months ago, but may be due to demonic interference, anytime I go to her for the purpose of satisfying my urge, it could not be possible due to sudden loss of desire. Any ruqyah or medicine that could take me out of this problem ?

mmanga

[curiousmind]

Salam Alaykom,
I know this is a diffivult topic to discuss and probably won't get many responses...but I'd like to mention something..

I once read an article about impetence - I KNOW THIS DOES NOT PERTAIN TO YOU BUT MAY BE HELPFUL - and in the article is mentioned re-programming your mind. The thought is already in your mind when you approach her and so you are more likely to continue the pattern. I am not sure if that makes sense? Anyway, try to think of other things...try to approach her at a time that is unexpected for both of you & try very hard to focus on things other than you losing interests. If you dwell on this..it will only get worse. Your mind is working against you I THINK?! I could be wrong because I am not a doctor. I am not sure what Islam says either but I do know that if there is genuine love for Allah swt and for yourselves, then the emotions should be there...I would think.
Also, you may be stressed about another issue that can be causing some underlying problem...something in your mind perhaps...try to approach this differently and not as something negative. The more negativity you give to this issue, the worse it can become.

Pray alot..do lots of Dua' and ask Allah swt to help you relax and clear you mind...and try to do things other than sexual with your wife that can bring the two of you closer on a more intimate level.

I don't know if I made any sense at all but I hope that it might be of some help. I am sure you can do a search and for psychological reasons for not getting aroused? Maybe?

Insha'Allah things will get better.

OHHH!!!! AND ONE MORE THING....I think that the fact that you ALREADY have in your mind that this is demonic interference tells me you might be lacking in Iman. SUrely marriage is a blessing and one that is encouraged in Islam and liked by Allah swt. So try to erase that thought from your mind...replace it with trust in Allah swt...replace it with dua and positive thoughts!!!!!!!!!

[neelu]

Hmm it depends on the cause of loss of libido. If it is definitely to do with black magic interference, then regularly recite surah falaq and surah naas each day inshallah. I've heard that there are other duas for such things but I don't know which ones they are maybe someone else can advise about that inshallah. Also be patient with your wife inshallah, sometimes newlyweds are shy and it takes time for certain feelings to develop so don't feel under too much pressure that you must have intercourse straight away but spend time getting comfortable with her company in the evenings just being close to her and inshallah this can make it easier for you to do more and more together as a couple over time.

If it is a medical issue, then I've heard that regular yoga exercises and consumption of raw garlic cloves daily (it tastes better if you mix in in raita or something and obviously brush your teeth before approaching her lol) is good for this because they're both things which increase circulation and make the physical aspects of intimacy in marriage easier. If after a month or so none of those things work, then don't feel too proud to speak to a Dr about this. It could in fact be a sign of a medical problem which can be treated.

[Pippin1376]

Brother, it may be down the the way you are going about this with your wife. I don't want to get graphic, but with women you need to do some work before you get anywhere. If that doesn't work, take her to the doctor.

[thurber]

Please clarify...do you experience this loss of desire or does your wife?