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Diamond_Dust
17-05-08, 01:55 PM
I find it really strange how getting married has become such a difficult task, when really it should be one of the easiest things in the world. Girl meets boy (in a halal way obviously lol), girl likes boy, boy likes girl, they both say yes and hey presto you become a Mrs :D Okay that's an idealistic view of things, obviously you would have to be compatible and have the same future goals and what not, but it shouldn't be as difficult as it is.
Guys seem to think that they need to be earning bucks to keep a wife, well let me enlighten the brothers out there...most of us sister aren't really that fussed! As long as there's a roof over our heads, bit of food on the table and plenty of love we're good to go lol :inlove: You can keep your fast cars, diamond rings and the photo from your graduation ceremony. Money doesn't equate to happiness. SubhanAllah the Prophet (saw) lived in such poverty, but all his wives were the most blessed and content women in the world. If you get married for the sake of Allah and for the sincere reason of keeping away from haram, then subhanAllah Allah will put love and mercy between your hearts. As Allah says: 'And for whoever fears Allah, He prepares a way forward for him, and He provides for him from where he does not expect. And he whoever relies on Allah, then He is enough for him.' (65:2-3)
Marriage isn't a perfect science. There are always going to be ups and downs, as with any relationship. All you've got to remember is that 'Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.' (94: 6) Just trust that Allah will fix everything and whatever it is will probably bring you closer together. I think it's imperative that couples have love and respect for each other, but that you are also really good friends. I could spend the rest of my life with my mates no problem, in fact it would be a total blast. So why not be able to have that with your husband?
I think it's the little things in a marriage that really make it work, rather than the extravagant gestures most brothers seem to think (hence they want to be earning a lot of money before they get married) Like I'd proper love it if every now and again my hubby would bring me breakfast in bed. I'm not talking about a gourmet meal, I'd be happy with a glass of juice. It's the thought that counts :D And like little notes around the house, or random text messages when I'm at uni (hahaha yeah that's if I get married while I'm still studying :p) or coming home early from work to spend the day with me rather than playing footie with his mates. He doesn't even need to take me out somewhere nice, I'd be happy sitting on a park bench as long as I'm getting cuddles from the man I love *sighs* :embar: And don't underestimate the power of a sincere 'I love you' *hides*
As long as I'm the third most important person in his life (after Allah SWT and the Prophet SAW) then I'd be the happiest woman in the world. Just to know that there is someone out there (other than Allah) who I can really trust and rely on would keep me content. Things like travelling the muslims lands learning about Islam and seeking knowledge would be an added bonus. And lets not forget the mini-mes :D
SubhanAllah marriage is such a blessed institution and there is so much wisdom behind it. Well the point of this was basically to advocate young marriages :up: Lets revive the sunnah people!
*smiles*
Unique1
17-05-08, 02:02 PM
I find it really strange how getting married has become such a difficult task, when really it should be one of the easiest things in the world. Girl meets boy (in a halal way obviously lol), girl likes boy, boy likes girl, they both say yes and hey presto you become a Mrs :D Okay that's an idealistic view of things, obviously you would have to be compatible and have the same future goals and what not, but it shouldn't be as difficult as it is.
Guys seem to think that they need to be earning bucks to keep a wife, well let me enlighten the brothers out there...most of us sister aren't really that fussed! As long as there's a roof over our heads, bit of food on the table and plenty of love we're good to go lol :inlove: You can keep your fast cars, diamond rings and the photo from your graduation ceremony. Money doesn't equate to happiness. SubhanAllah the Prophet (saw) lived in such poverty, but all his wives were the most blessed and content women in the world. If you get married for the sake of Allah and for the sincere reason of keeping away from haram, then subhanAllah Allah will put love and mercy between your hearts. As Allah says: 'And for whoever fears Allah, He prepares a way forward for him, and He provides for him from where he does not expect. And he whoever relies on Allah, then He is enough for him.' (65:2-3)
Marriage isn't a perfect science. There are always going to be ups and downs, as with any relationship. All you've got to remember is that 'Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.' (94: 6) Just trust that Allah will fix everything and whatever it is will probably bring you closer together. I think it's imperative that couples have love and respect for each other, but that you are also really good friends. I could spend the rest of my life with my mates no problem, in fact it would be a total blast. So why not be able to have that with your husband?
I think it's the little things in a marriage that really make it work, rather than the extravagant gestures most brothers seem to think (hence they want to be earning a lot of money before they get married) Like I'd proper love it if every now and again my hubby would bring me breakfast in bed. I'm not talking about a gourmet meal, I'd be happy with a glass of juice. It's the thought that counts :D And like little notes around the house, or random text messages when I'm at uni (hahaha yeah that's if I get married while I'm still studying :p) or coming home early from work to spend the day with me rather than playing footie with his mates. He doesn't even need to take me out somewhere nice, I'd be happy sitting on a park bench as long as I'm getting cuddles from the man I love *sighs* :embar: And don't underestimate the power of a sincere 'I love you' *hides*
As long as I'm the third most important person in his life (after Allah SWT and the Prophet SAW) then I'd be the happiest woman in the world. Just to know that there is someone out there (other than Allah) who I can really trust and rely on would keep me content. Things like travelling the muslims lands learning about Islam and seeking knowledge would be an added bonus. And lets not forget the mini-mes :D
SubhanAllah marriage is such a blessed institution and there is so much wisdom behind it. Well the point of this was basically to advocate young marriages :D Lets revive the sunnah people!
*smiles*
oooooh sister thats soo sweet:inlove: i'v gone red reading ur post.Ur so right we(women who love Allah) want LOVE not Money.Money is a coming going thing.A sweet,loving,caring husband is all we need.May Allah help us find such husbands.
LOOOOOOOL! Minus the mushiness, you 'kinda' summed it all up in 6 paragraphs.
Can I also add that sometimes it can be difficult to balance family life with University. Firstly to buy a house...you need money. To bring food to the table....you need money. To travel around.....you need a car....and suprise suprise....you need money for this also.
Sorry to burst your mushiness bubble.....but it will be extremely difficult for a man to go Uni and then work...and then provide for his house.....and so forth.
The ideal thing would be to get engaged...have your nikah done....but live in seperate houses. That way it's halaal for you to speak to each other alone....and by that time....the guy AND the girl...would've finished University. The good part of having your nikah done beforehand is so that you can 'secure' that person - in other words...that individual will not get any other proposals.
Marriage is not just a bed of roses. It's not all :inlove: :nuts: like in fairytale stories. Hehe! :p It takes a lot of effort and commitment to make it work. Marriage is a wonderful thing but if the sister and brother are young then they have a lot of growing to do.
Waiting a few years until both sides have completed their education might give them both a chance to focus on their studies and grow together as individuals before they make that life long commitment to get married and live together. In the meantime, if they want, they can stay engaged....(i.e. Nikah).
Diamond_Dust
17-05-08, 02:25 PM
LOOOOOOOL! Minus the mushiness, you 'kinda' summed it all up in 6 paragraphs.
Can I also add that sometimes it can be difficult to balance family life with University. Firstly to buy a house...you need money. To bring food to the table....you need money. To travel around.....you need a car....and suprise suprise....you need money for this also.
Sorry to burst your mushiness bubble.....but it will be extremely difficult for a man to go Uni and then work...and then provide for his house.....and so forth.
The ideal thing would be to get engaged...have your nikah done....but live in seperate houses. That way it's halaal for you to speak to each other alone....and by that time....the guy AND the girl...would've finished University. The good part of having your nikah done beforehand is so that you can 'secure' that person - in other words...that individual will not get any other proposals.
Marriage is not just a bed of roses. It's not all :inlove: :nuts: like in fairytale stories. Hehe! :p It takes a lot of effort and commitment to make it work. Marriage is a wonderful thing but if the sister and brother are young then they have a lot of growing to do.
Waiting a few years until both sides have completed their education might give them both a chance to focus on their studies and grow together as individuals before they make that life long commitment to get married and live together. In the meantime, if they want, they can stay engaged....(i.e. Nikah).
I understand your point of view, the Prophet (saw) got married to Aisha (RA) but she didn't go and live with him until much later. But then you miss out on all the fun. Plus if I was married I'd want to spend my time with my hubby, get to know him, grow up together, not have him live miles and miles away. Who's going to keep me warm at night? :embar: I'd happily live in a one bedroom flat with my hubby and sleep on the floor because we can't afford a bed. The simple life :)
Diamond_Dust
17-05-08, 02:26 PM
oooooh sister thats soo sweet:inlove: i'v gone red reading ur post.Ur so right we(women who love Allah) want LOVE not Money.Money is a coming going thing.A sweet,loving,caring husband is all we need.May Allah help us find such husbands.
Ameen!
:salams
lol tabarakAllah.. true true true... may Allah grant u the best husband for u, someone He is pleased with and always will be pleased with Ameen
but for now pleeeeeeeeeeease :crying: do ur work :torture:
n i agree with u more than i agree with kubs tho :o because sometimes even if it is a bubble, when ur living in that bubble the bubble just makes the real nasty stuff appear kinda blurry and not so obvious... sure u need money n that but u don't need THAT much money... i agree simple life is awesome and more real
and if u marry someone that u love to be with then it won't seem like so much of an effort kubsy dear!
:salams
lol tabarakAllah.. true true true... may Allah grant u the best husband for u, someone He is pleased with and always will be pleased with Ameen
but for now pleeeeeeeeeeease :crying: do ur work :torture:
n i agree with u more than i agree with kubs tho :o because sometimes even if it is a bubble, when ur living in that bubble the bubble just makes the real nasty stuff appear kinda blurry and not so obvious... sure u need money n that but u don't need THAT much money... i agree simple life is awesome and more real
and if u marry someone that u love to be with then it won't seem like so much of an effort kubsy dear!
Argh! You girls need to open your eyes and live in the real world. :smack:
Money is important to an extent. Obviously it's incredibly selfish to ask your husband (who is a uni student) to buy you diamonds and rings and dresses and whatnot....it's blatantly obvious he won't be able to afford it.
However to buy a house...you need money..... no one can survive on bread and milk alone - how would the husband feel knowing that he cannot support his wife and contribute to his household?
Unique1
17-05-08, 03:03 PM
Argh! You girls need to open your eyes and live in the real world. :smack:
Money is important to an extent. Obviously it's incredibly selfish to ask your husband (who is a uni student) to buy you diamonds and rings and dresses and whatnot....it's blatantly obvious he won't be able to afford it.
However to buy a house...you need money..... no one can survive on bread and milk alone - how would the husband feel knowing that he cannot support his wife and contribute to his household?
so true but i think wat they are trying to say is they dont want want all the riches of life.Married life is hard whether ur young or old but wen ur young its nyc to think of marriage in the mushy way:inlove:
I found this - also found another version on another ummah thread
Shows that you don't really need money to get married:
It is reported from Anas (radiAllahu anhu) that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) asked a certain companion if he was married. He replied. "I do not have so much money as to get married." RasulAllah (peace and blessings be upon him) said "Do you know Surat al-Ikhlas?" He replied: "Yes". RasulAllah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) remarked: "That equals to a quarter of the Qur’an. Do you know Surat al-Kafirun?" He replied: "Yes." RasulAllah (peace and blessings be upon him) said "it equals to a quarter of the Qur'an". He further asked “do you know Surat al-Zilzal?” He replied, “yes.” RasulAllah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: "That equals to a quarter of the Qur’an. Do you know Surat al-Fath?" He replied: "Yes". RasulAllah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: "That equals to a quarter of the Qur’an. Do you know Ayat al-Kursi?" He replied: "Yes". RasulAllah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: "That equals to a quarter of the Qur’an. Get married, get married, get married!"
On the other thread:
5) Hadhrat Anas (Radiahallahu Anhu)narrates that Rasulallaah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked one of his companions: " Oh, so and so are you married?" He replied: "No, I do not have enough wealth that I may marry.", Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "Do you know Surah Qul Huwallaahu Ahad?" The Sahaba replied: "I know". Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "It is equal to a quarter of the Qur'aan. Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked: "Do you not know Qul Yaa Ayyuhal Kaafiroon?" The Sababi replied "I know". Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said " "It is equal to a quarter of the Qur'aan." Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked, "Do you not know Surah "Iza Zul Zilzilaat " ?" The Sahaabi replied, "I Know". Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "It is a quarter of the Qur'aan". Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked: "Do you not know Surah Iza Jaa a Nasrullaahi Wal Fath" The Sahabi replied "I Know" Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, it is a quarter of the Qur'aan. Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked: "Do you know the Ayatul Kursi?" The Sahabi replied "I know". Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, "It is equal to a quarter of the Qur'aan. Marry, Marry, Marry."
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=54297&highlight=Ayah+kursi
This is reinforced by :
From Umar ibn Al-Khattab from the Prophet (sas) who said:
"If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs."
Ahmad, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi who said: "Hassan sahih"
Apologies for any mistakes
Diamond_Dust
17-05-08, 04:43 PM
Yaaaaaaaay! :D All I need to do now is find a suitable husband and wait for him to propose... :inlove:
MizMuslimahUK
17-05-08, 05:15 PM
I find it really strange how getting married has become such a difficult task, when really it should be one of the easiest things in the world. Girl meets boy (in a halal way obviously lol), girl likes boy, boy likes girl, they both say yes and hey presto you become a Mrs :D Okay that's an idealistic view of things, obviously you would have to be compatible and have the same future goals and what not, but it shouldn't be as difficult as it is.
Guys seem to think that they need to be earning bucks to keep a wife, well let me enlighten the brothers out there...most of us sister aren't really that fussed! As long as there's a roof over our heads, bit of food on the table and plenty of love we're good to go lol :inlove: You can keep your fast cars, diamond rings and the photo from your graduation ceremony. Money doesn't equate to happiness. SubhanAllah the Prophet (saw) lived in such poverty, but all his wives were the most blessed and content women in the world. If you get married for the sake of Allah and for the sincere reason of keeping away from haram, then subhanAllah Allah will put love and mercy between your hearts. As Allah says: 'And for whoever fears Allah, He prepares a way forward for him, and He provides for him from where he does not expect. And he whoever relies on Allah, then He is enough for him.' (65:2-3)
Marriage isn't a perfect science. There are always going to be ups and downs, as with any relationship. All you've got to remember is that 'Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.' (94: 6) Just trust that Allah will fix everything and whatever it is will probably bring you closer together. I think it's imperative that couples have love and respect for each other, but that you are also really good friends. I could spend the rest of my life with my mates no problem, in fact it would be a total blast. So why not be able to have that with your husband?
I think it's the little things in a marriage that really make it work, rather than the extravagant gestures most brothers seem to think (hence they want to be earning a lot of money before they get married) Like I'd proper love it if every now and again my hubby would bring me breakfast in bed. I'm not talking about a gourmet meal, I'd be happy with a glass of juice. It's the thought that counts :D And like little notes around the house, or random text messages when I'm at uni (hahaha yeah that's if I get married while I'm still studying :p) or coming home early from work to spend the day with me rather than playing footie with his mates. He doesn't even need to take me out somewhere nice, I'd be happy sitting on a park bench as long as I'm getting cuddles from the man I love *sighs* :embar: And don't underestimate the power of a sincere 'I love you' *hides*
As long as I'm the third most important person in his life (after Allah SWT and the Prophet SAW) then I'd be the happiest woman in the world. Just to know that there is someone out there (other than Allah) who I can really trust and rely on would keep me content. Things like travelling the muslims lands learning about Islam and seeking knowledge would be an added bonus. And lets not forget the mini-mes :D
SubhanAllah marriage is such a blessed institution and there is so much wisdom behind it. Well the point of this was basically to advocate young marriages :up: Lets revive the sunnah people!
*smiles*
:up: mashallah sis i really like what you wrote and i totally agree with you also i want to give u a rep power but i dnt know how :o:embar:
:up: mashallah sis i really like what you wrote and i totally agree with you also i want to give u a rep power but i dnt know how :o:embar:
:D sis see those 3 little icons at the bottom of her post? the green or grey circle, the scales and the triangular sign (its on the bottom left of a post) - click on the scales (the middle one)
MizMuslimahUK
17-05-08, 05:22 PM
:D sis see those 3 little icons at the bottom of her post? the green or grey circle, the scales and the triangular sign (its on the bottom left of a post) - click on the scales (the middle one)
:hidban: wow i did it :hidban: wow it feels so good 2 give rep power now for telling me how to give rep power i think you deserve 1 don't you? lol
:hidban: wow i did it :hidban: wow it feels so good 2 give rep power now for telling me how to give rep power i think you deserve 1 don't you? lol
Lol :rotfl: I didn't do it for a rep but I'm giving you one anyway because you made me smile :D Now go and practice on other people! :up:
GurjotAbbas
17-05-08, 05:42 PM
Asalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
I think getting nikaah'd ( which technically is the marriage Islamically, I believe) and living seperately, or even together while we're still young is important. To avoid falling into fitnah...and keeping our imaans strong when there is just so much haram around us. Either way, living seperately or together, the only thing that needs to be present is Love, Compromise, and faith in Allah(swt) ...after that, everything, including financial issues can be worked out...insha Allah.... Marriage is beautiful and it does require a lot of work, but it is half of our deen after all :o We're all seeking someone to help us become closer to Allah(swt) and help us learn more about Islam....
Walaikum Asalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
.: Anna :.
17-05-08, 05:54 PM
there is a middle way between either "have alot of money and buy a house" and "live seperately", why not just rent somewhere small, if newly married and no kids u can even live in a studio... that is better than living seperately imo. u cant have a proper married life while seperate its not the best way to start off.
You need money, not loads of it, but not hardly any of it either.
there is a middle way between either "have alot of money and buy a house" and "live seperately", why not just rent somewhere small, if newly married and no kids u can even live in a studio... that is better than living seperately imo. u cant have a proper married life while seperate its not the best way to start off.
I don't know how it's in other cultures.....but here when the Nikah is done...both the girl and guy are said to be engaged. They are allowed to speak to each other alone...via phone etc....but that's just about it.
Proper marriage life starts when they are legally married......marriage contract signed....and house bought.
:outta:
Yaaaaaaaay! :D All I need to do now is find a suitable husband and wait for him to propose... :inlove:
DD your too cute. you have this fantasy ticking along in your head mashallah :D i used to do that. and i used to have a really long list about all the little things i wanted him to do. now my list is whittled down to one thing (mr gowjusessnes do you promise to spend your life with me in obedience and fear of allah?)
and your right, you could be a street cleaner and be walli of allah :love: so yes, your wealth is insignificant, the wealth of your meaan however is tantamount and guys she will love you unconditionally if you can manage to fulfill your requirements to allah.
Sister-Ameena*
17-05-08, 08:30 PM
:salams Us sisters think so much alike lol. I agree with you sister, getting married young is the way to go but it's all your choice at the end. I actually went through (and still am) going through the process of talking to the parents and whatnot. My husband (inshaaAllaah) never went up to me and told me he was interested in me, he went up to my neighbour who he's known for a very long time and then my neighbour's sister told me. It was weird at first, but organising meetings made me know him more. MashaaAllaah he has all of his priorities straight. He's one year older than me (19), he wants to be a doctor, attends University (he just finished his first year) and he wants to get married this year whereas as I don't. I already had a family meeting with his father and mother, my parents were present too, and it was really formal. I personally find it more easier to have the nikah done and live seperately, since being a Uni student requires you to fork out a lot of cash and it's way more convenient to live with your parents at the mo. So inshaaAllaah we don't fall into haraam, and he can take me on dates and stuff since we're practically married. Being wealthy is insignificant, as someone already mentioned in this thread, what counts if there's love between the two of you. If you married for the sake of Allaah, then surely the marriage will go great with his will inshaaAllaah.
Diamond_Dust
17-05-08, 08:46 PM
:hidban: wow i did it :hidban: wow it feels so good 2 give rep power now for telling me how to give rep power i think you deserve 1 don't you? lol
Awww sis you're well cute. I didn't know how to do it either lol. You learn something new everyday :up: Yayyy!
.: Anna :.
17-05-08, 10:59 PM
I don't know how it's in other cultures.....but here when the Nikah is done...both the girl and guy are said to be engaged. They are allowed to speak to each other alone...via phone etc....but that's just about it.
Proper marriage life starts when they are legally married......marriage contract signed....and house bought.
:outta:
yeh i know some people see it like that.
but nikah is marriage islamically speaking, all their rights and duties and everything apply from that point.. so to me its better to consider themselves married, because they are. but if they are both from the same background and share that same understanding about it that way then i guess its no harm. seems a bit sad though, u got married but all u can do is just talk on phone :( u might wana live a proper married life :p
~Warda~
17-05-08, 11:20 PM
This thread is sooo cute Masha-Allah :love:
Its soo true true, moneys not that important, u need a bit for nessesary things but other stuff (ie.car) can come later insha-Allah. U dont need to 'buy' a house straightaway either...u can just rent a 1 bed flat!
yeh i know some people see it like that.
but nikah is marriage islamically speaking, all their rights and duties and everything apply from that point.. so to me its better to consider themselves married, because they are. but if they are both from the same background and share that same understanding about it that way then i guess its no harm. seems a bit sad though, u got married but all u can do is just talk on phone :( u might wana live a proper married life :p
loool sis...so true...
HiBiScUs
18-05-08, 12:18 AM
Mashallah, v.nice thread, coz most brothers seem to have it in their head that the only thing that matters to us sisters is money, but thats so not true, being truely loved by someone is far greater than having the latest car/amazing furniture etc. I wldnt mind sitting on the floor in a tinsy winsy flat, just as long as i was near my dearest. But what is really common nowadays is that guys are not even putting/accepting proposals coz they think that they dont have enough provision, what they need to realise is, that if their deen is sound, they have a good character, and aim to provide a means of financial support at some point (like if their at uni or something), then there is absolutely no reason why a girl would say no to that, I certainly wouldnt. Subhanallah, if only they knew....*sigh* :D
oh yeah and kubs, the nikah is the official marriage contract, as soon as you have the nikah done, you are islamically recognised as a husband and wife, its not an engagement.
Um_yusuf
18-05-08, 12:55 AM
I don't know how it's in other cultures.....but here when the Nikah is done...both the girl and guy are said to be engaged. They are allowed to speak to each other alone...via phone etc....but that's just about it.
Proper marriage life starts when they are legally married......marriage contract signed....and house bought.
:outta:
salaam sis
what culture says, is not important, its what islam says and in our deen once the 'nikah' is done, your married. The rest are all cultural traditions and theyre not even necessary . After the nikah , you can begin your life as man and wife inshAllah
oh yeah and kubs, the nikah is the official marriage contract, as soon as you have the nikah done, you are islamically recognised as a husband and wife, its not an engagement.
salaam sis
what culture says, is not important, its what islam says and in our deen once the 'nikah' is done, your married. The rest are all cultural traditions and theyre not even necessary . After the nikah , you can begin your life as man and wife inshAllah
Wa Alaikum Salaams :D
LOOOL you girls misunderstood me. Obviously you're married after nikah....but certain cultures wait after the marriage contract is signed.....until you are husband and wife under the UK law :p
Obviously the husband and wife have the right to refuse this.....it's completely up to them. They could start normal marriage life straight after the nikah or wait a year or so until both have completed University and bought a house together. In the meantime, they can go out on 'dates' or speak to each other....and so forth.
There's no harm if both sides agree or disagree to this. It's personal prefrence.
This thread is sooo cute Masha-Allah :love:
Its soo true true, moneys not that important, u need a bit for nessesary things but other stuff (ie.car) can come later insha-Allah. U dont need to 'buy' a house straightaway either...u can just rent a 1 bed flat!
loool sis...so true...
Do you have any idea how much it costs to rent a one bedroom flat in London these days, plus university fees, and gas, electric, telephone bills, grocery shopping. Its a nice fantasy but its like even if you don't have a car just an oyster card will be a drain on your accounts.
Diamond_Dust
18-05-08, 10:07 AM
Do you have any idea how much it costs to rent a one bedroom flat in London these days, plus university fees, and gas, electric, telephone bills, grocery shopping. Its a nice fantasy but its like even if you don't have a car just an oyster card will be a drain on your accounts.
:crying: There go all my fantasies of getting married...heck I'd even settle for sleeping on his bedroom floor in his parent's house! Now if that's not compromise and dedication and I don't know what is ;)
Or I could just never get married and stay at home...good times :(
me.sawda
18-05-08, 10:45 AM
:crying: There go all my fantasies of getting married...heck I'd even settle for sleeping on his bedroom floor in his parent's house! Now if that's not compromise and dedication and I don't know what is ;)
Or I could just never get married and stay at home...good times :(
:salams
Keep praying to Allah:Swt: He's most able to meet up our desires.
By the way, Interesting thread!:inlove:
May Allah grant us happy and prosperous hitched life ;)
~Warda~
18-05-08, 12:17 PM
:crying: There go all my fantasies of getting married...heck I'd even settle for sleeping on his bedroom floor in his parent's house! Now if that's not compromise and dedication and I don't know what is ;)
Or I could just never get married and stay at home...good times :(
Sis dont worry...i know its difficult but Allah has plans for everyone so dont despair...maybe u dont have to nessesarily marry someone whos in Uni WITH u...u could still be in uni and he could be finished and working. Anyways whatevers gonna happen will happen, Insha-Allah ur dreams will come true :love:
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