what advice would you give?

[what advice?]

assalamualaykum

what advice would you give to one who whos scared about losing something in terms of dunya sometimes very soon and this fear of losing the said thing is causing him great worry and anxiety. The greatest reason for this worry and anxiety is he fears his mistakes and sins will lead him to whats worse


if i were to advise such a person i would say "repent and ask for forgiveness and make dua' that Allah make things better"

yet i dont think that removes the anxiety... what can help...

[adviser]

anxiety is something normal that befalls a human, but nonethe less it musnt get to him. Its a horrible thing and if not controlled, can really do some damage. i would advice this person, and i would monitor this person in a kind calm, manner etc to take it easy. i think you should still try to encourage repentacne, you just never know.
just be really suppotive and keep an eye out for him/her, 'cos anxiety can really get to ya, as i said.
tell him/her also to change thier way of thinking. swap these depressive thoguhts with more positive one. also advice to pick up an activity to keep their mind off things.

why would his mistakes and sins lead him to what is worse? im sorry im abit confused...

Here's a good chapter from a book called 'You can be the happiest women in the world.' The chapter is called: "Keep busy with the present rather than the past or future."
What is the point in slapping your cheeks or rendering your garment in sorrow over somehthing you missed, or some calamity that befell you. what is the point in focusing your thoughts and feelings on some incident that has passed so as to increse your pain and make you fall apart. If it were possible to reach into the past and change its events which we did not like, and alter them the way we like then going back to the past would be essential. We would all rush to go and erase the things we regreted doing, and increse or share of good fortune. But that is impossible, so it is better for us to focus our efforts on what will help us get on with out lives, for that is our only means of compenstation. This is what the quran drew attention to after Uhud (a battle named after a mountain in Medina) when allah said to those who are weeping for the slain and regretting going out to the battle feild"


perhaps this person feels so guilty that they fear that thier sins are still there....

Repentance and Rulings Regarding It (Shaykh Bin Baz - Rahimahullah)

Fatawa Islaamiyah Section:
Repentance and Rulings Regarding It pgs.243-245

Being Afraid That your Repentance Will Not Be Accepted

QUESTION:A person committed some act of disobedience and afterwards repented to Allah; however, he feels deep iniside himself that Allah will not forgive him. So what is your advice for him?

ANSWER: This is among the proofs of the severity of your fear of Allah Almighty and your reverence for His prohibitions, if Allah wills, you are doing what is right. Nevertheless, you should try to allay this fear, a fear that has no basis for it because it is from the Shaytan. He wants you to feel constricted and he wants you to be miserable. Know him by what he is - an unmitigated enemy. He hates to see you loving and doing what is good, so disobey him and abstain from what he orders you to do. Seek peace in your Lord and know that repentance is sufficient. Even if a sin is greater than all other sins, repentance to Allah Almighty is above it. There is no greater sin than Shirk, but even if a man who associates partners with Allah repents and turns back to Allah, He will forgive him.

So it is required of you to repent from what you have done and after repentance to cease these other matters. It is not required of you to listen to the whispering or to follow the enemy of Allah by this fear which has harmed you. But know that - thanks to Allah Almighty - you have succeeded a great success by repenting sincerely, as Allah Almighty says:

"And verily I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes and does righteous deeds, then follow the right way." Surah Ta Ha (20:82)

There is another verse of even greater purport, for it states that a person who, after sinning, repents, has faith, and does good deeds, Allah Almighty will transform his sins into good deeds, which means that He will put a good deed in the place of every bad o¬ne:

"And those who invoke not any other ilah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such life as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse - and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. The torment will be doubled to him o¬n the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds, for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. " Surah Al-Furqan (25:68-70).

Allah Almighty informed us here that he transforms their bad deeds into good o¬nes because of their sincere repentance, their faith, and their good deeds. So you, by pondering over your sins which are an offence to Him, and by your repentance from that and your following that with what you do of righteous deeds and faith and conviction, hoping in the rewards with Allah Almighty, then you are exchanging your evil deeds for good. This is the same with all of the evil which the servant repents from and follows up with faith and righteous deeds, Allah exchanges them for good, out of His grace and beneficence, glorious is He the Almighty.

Shaykh Abdul Aziz Ibn Baz {Rahimahullah}


i hope that helps

[PK Aali]

:salams

To try and sort the problem out, or to busy oneself in different activites to take their mind off things

[AHMED..BHAI]

everything we have is from allah
he decides what we have or not have
he decides when he gives and takes back

this is imaan and it takes discipline and humility to truly believe in this from the heart
people talk big/easy.. but only when we are hit by trials of life do our true colours show

also to assume that trials are connected to allahs anger is wrong
if a test of life takes us closer to allah then the trial is/was a blessing in disguise
if the loss or even gain of something takes us away from our purpose in life then even that "gain" was really a punishment

allah tests those whom he loves the most
from prophets
to sahabah
to the best of the rest

so to think that losing dunya means allah is angry is a very wrong way of thinking

many muslims even say wrong things when they see/know someone tested..calling it a punishment..when they dont know the condition of the persons heart..astaghfirullah..
and how the person may actually be in a state of BLISS like in the battle of badr

for men/women of understanding