No one to befriend but Kafiroon

[Slot]

Salaam wa alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh
Lately I have been in a place of despair as I still talk to my 'friend' who was my friend before I reverted. He casually tosses insults against Islam into common conversation but none so bad as today. I have considered and made du'a over the verses of the Qur'an and the hadith which tell me to turn away from befriending the muafiq, for some reason I continue to keep him as a friend. Today he said some things that utterly sickened me. Is there anywhere we I can meet other Muslims in my area to hang out with and do Halal things which follow the sunnah? My heart hurts because I think my taqwa is suffering because of my choice to continue to be friends with this person. The other problem is that I work with him so if I stopped being friends with him it may cause issues at work. Please give some guidance, Jazak'Allah Kheir beforehand.

Salaam wa alaikum.

[RashidD]

Are there any masjids around?

[WahYaLookin'At?]

:lailah: May Allah help you, Ameen,

I have Non-Muslim freinds and if anyone says anything that will hurt me they stick u for me, but I think It may be time for you to move on, the company you keep can influence you, you must have Muslim colleagues?

Anyway you're in my prayers,

Anyway this is nothing to get depressed over, just think, Allah tests those He loves as tests bring you close to Him,

SubhanAllah,

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

[parwaaz]

Wa alaikum Assalam

First of all congratulations on reverting! You and the other guy were friends when you both were on similar lines with regards to religion. You now have chosen to take a differnt path to him, Alhamdulillah. there is no requirement for you to tell/discuss things with him other than work related if you do not wish to do so. It will not be wise to suddenly stop contact with him as there needs to be some communication due to work. How have your other colleagues reacted to your reversion? If he is becoming such a nuicance, I advise you keep a diary of thins he says /does in case you need to report the issue to the HR/Personnel.

These indeed are testing times for you and hope you are able to keep your calm and overcome peoples troubling attitudes.

[dhakiyya]

First of all, ditch this "friend" I still have one or two friends from my pre Islam days but only ones who are 100% respectful to Islam. They don't have to agree with Islam but they can show basic respect. If your friend can't do this and accept that you have chosen Islam - you don't need him.

As a revert myself who knows lots of other reverts here mashaAllah - I can tell you that its very common for reverts to gradually drift away from previous circles of friends, and even end up making other life changes. If you want to discuss any issues relating to reverting to Islam with other reverts you can join the new Muslims forum here - go to User CP (on the left in the menu at the top) then go to "group memberships" (in the menu on the left) and there are a list of groups you can join -you can click on the new Muslim/reverts forum from there and inshaAllah I can approve your application.

InshaAllah you will find Muslims here that you can befriend online, and you never know inshaAllah there may be Muslim brothers here that live near you that you can meet up with (remembering basic safety rules about meeting people off the internet!!)

[Slot]

Jazak'Allah kheir for all your kind answers. The truth is that I am a revert but I reverted almost 3 years ago now. This was an old friend that I had dumped for a long time but then befriended again when we moved near where he lives. I will take your advice and lose him as I know he is bad for me.

I attend a local Masjid but... the next thing I say may be shocking for you (it was for me)... The average amount of people there for Salat ul-Fajr wa Ishaa is about 4-5, and they are all old men. I am thinking about starting to commute to the Masjid by the university to meet more Muslims my age by walahi thats a hard drive for me and we have a new child at home so I don't have too much time to do this.

Insh'Allah I will join the group here and hopefully meet some other reverts to hang out with.

Jazak'Allah kheir again, asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

[RazielTemp]

Salaam wa alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh
Lately I have been in a place of despair as I still talk to my 'friend' who was my friend before I reverted. He casually tosses insults against Islam into common conversation but none so bad as today. I have considered and made du'a over the verses of the Qur'an and the hadith which tell me to turn away from befriending the muafiq, for some reason I continue to keep him as a friend. Today he said some things that utterly sickened me. Is there anywhere we I can meet other Muslims in my area to hang out with and do Halal things which follow the sunnah? My heart hurts because I think my taqwa is suffering because of my choice to continue to be friends with this person. The other problem is that I work with him so if I stopped being friends with him it may cause issues at work. Please give some guidance, Jazak'Allah Kheir beforehand.

Salaam wa alaikum.

:wswrwb: Akhi,

Give Dawah to the Person to the best of your ability, If he accepts, then Alhumdulillah,

if not, and he insists on dissing Islam, then leave him to his works ...

This is the type of People who Allah Tabarak Wata'ala says, we should be with ...

Al-Quran, Chapter 9 : Verse 119
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"O ye who believe! Fear Allah and be with those who are true (in word and deed)."

a Kuffar hellbent on abusing Islam, leave him if he persists ...

There are Other ayah's which Prohibit us from making friends with Persistent Fasiqs, etc, but the above Ayah is sufficient ...

:jkk:

[AHMED BHAI]

reading the seerah of prophet mohammed s.a.w. gives us all the answers as to how to live with and manage living with none muslims

if we all run from none muslims when we are challenged how will they learn about islam

new muslims/reverts should understand this the most

[AHMED BHAI]

also to remember
the greatest enemies of islam have sometimes become the greatest protectors and leaders

if we do distance ourselves from some who really abuse and disrespect prophets/sahabas etc

we must still make duas for them as the prophet s.a.w did at TAIF

the children of whom accepted islam

there was an arab jamaat from TAIF here once who cried and said..because of the prophets.a.w. merciful duas for us

we are muslims today