View Full Version : Are you willing to move for marriage?
Khubaib
11-05-08, 11:05 PM
:salams:
Would you be willing to move to get married or marry someone who wants to come to you? I don't mean passport hunters from "back home"/poorer countries
But what if the potential spouse was from Australia and you live in the UK? or from UK and you lived in Canada?
So 2 part question.
1) Are you willing to leave your home to move to someone decent you've been introduced to in another country? (Difficult for you leaving your family behind)
2) Are you willing to marry someone who will move to where you live (but it will be difficult initially since they would have to find work (esp. for brothers) and establish residency)?
One of my mates found a person he was too willing to marry but her parents insisted that he should move to their country (where he was originally from) but he was not willing to do that and married someone else mashallah who moved with him to France.
Khubaib
12-05-08, 02:16 PM
No input? :eek:
Yes or no will do for the ?s if you don't have time for a lengthier reply.
depends how buff he is init :scratch:
RashidD
12-05-08, 02:20 PM
In general i don't mind it, but i guess it depends on the place. One of my worries is whether it would hamper me practising my religion.
i would move to an islamic country in the middle east anyday.
scribble
12-05-08, 03:55 PM
I'd move.
souljaa
12-05-08, 04:00 PM
:salams:
1) Are you willing to leave your home to move to someone decent you've been introduced to in another country? (Difficult for you leaving your family behind)
2) Are you willing to marry someone who will move to where you live (but it will be difficult initially since they would have to find work (esp. for brothers) and establish residency)?
One of my mates found a person he was too willing to marry but her parents insisted that he should move to their country (where he was originally from) but he was not willing to do that and married someone else mashallah who moved with him to France.
:wswrwb:
1) I don't know if i would move cos the issue of parents would needed to be taken into consideration especially if the parents are separated/windowed etc.
2) Yep, i would but then the issue of her parents would needed to be taken into consideration as well :scratch:
That doesn't make sense does it? :o
Al-Farooq
12-05-08, 04:07 PM
:salams:
Would you be willing to move to get married or marry someone who wants to come to you? I don't mean passport hunters from "back home"/poorer countries
But what if the potential spouse was from Australia and you live in the UK?
:wswrwb:
*laughs quietly to himself*
:outta:
Khubaib
12-05-08, 04:10 PM
:wswrwb:
1) I don't know if i would move cos the issue of parents would needed to be taken into consideration especially if the parents are separated/windowed etc.
2) Yep, i would but then the issue of her parents would needed to be taken into consideration as well :scratch:
That doesn't make sense does it? :o
It makes sense :up: It would be up to her parents to decide because you might have to stay with them or have a considerable savings to get a place of your own while you look for work.
Khubaib
12-05-08, 04:13 PM
:wswrwb:
*laughs quietly to himself*
:outta:
:) Case in point. I didn't think of you for that example though. I just wanted to eliminate the freshie possibility.
:salams:
Would you be willing to move to get married or marry someone who wants to come to you? I don't mean passport hunters from "back home"/poorer countries
But what if the potential spouse was from Australia and you live in the UK? or from UK and you lived in Canada?
So 2 part question.
1) Are you willing to leave your home to move to someone decent you've been introduced to in another country? (Difficult for you leaving your family behind)
2) Are you willing to marry someone who will move to where you live (but it will be difficult initially since they would have to find work (esp. for brothers) and establish residency)?
One of my mates found a person he was too willing to marry but her parents insisted that he should move to their country (where he was originally from) but he was not willing to do that and married someone else mashallah who moved with him to France.
Why not have her move with you, see how she likes it, then you move to her home, see how you like it and you both decide where you'd prefer to stay.
if they live in canada - im there :D
Khubaib
12-05-08, 04:24 PM
Why not have her move with you, see how she likes it, then you move to her home, see how you like it and you both decide where you'd prefer to stay.
Too much work, plus the cost involved.
What I'm trying to get at is would location be a barrier to the marriage in the first place.
scribble
12-05-08, 04:31 PM
I don't see how it should be, besides whatever that's gonna happen will happen regardless money issues, loaction etc.
However, it will probably be very stressful...and emotional... Maybe cause a few rows here and there.. Who knows? :hidban:
RoadWarrior
12-05-08, 04:31 PM
Its so common for women to move where the boys family is, it happens in almost every marriage, unless the married couple live in the same town already.
But from my experience, girls always move to the boys town becuse a) boy is living with his parents b) the guy already has a job/house in that town
I do know of some situations where the boy moved to the girls town. Usually what happens is the boys family all blame the girl and say she 'brainwashed him' and 'took him away from his parents' lol which sometimes is true...you get some evil daughter in laws :rolleyes:
anyway
but in sme circumstances, the guy actually found a better job/working environment in the girls home town..so they moved there. The whole family gave them soo much stick and were soo mean to his wife..saying she took him there etc ad didnt like the boys family. But he got a better job there!!! lol it just happened to be in her home town...
sis_sarah
12-05-08, 04:34 PM
Personally not sure but my friends sister is in second year of uni and this guy and his family came from Canada on 'vacation' as they say, so they met etc etc. and theyre gettin married and shes movin all the way to Canada in the summer! so i guess some ppl are up for it...
~Warda~
12-05-08, 04:34 PM
Yeah, if he seemed like a really good guy then why not? But then again id want to live in a country that doesn't stop me from practicing my religion.
:salams:
Would you be willing to move to get married or marry someone who wants to come to you? I don't mean passport hunters from "back home"/poorer countries
But what if the potential spouse was from Australia and you live in the UK? or from UK and you lived in Canada?
So 2 part question.
1) Are you willing to leave your home to move to someone decent you've been introduced to in another country? (Difficult for you leaving your family behind)
2) Are you willing to marry someone who will move to where you live (but it will be difficult initially since they would have to find work (esp. for brothers) and establish residency)?
One of my mates found a person he was too willing to marry but her parents insisted that he should move to their country (where he was originally from) but he was not willing to do that and married someone else mashallah who moved with him to France.
:wswrwb: well actions are according to intentions, and the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said "he whose migration was for Allah and his messenger, his migration was for Allah and his messenger and he whose migration was to take a woman in marriage or for a worldy benfit he shall have that which he migrated for " and i`ve seen this hadith come true before my eyes subhanAllah, i married to have someone help me with the dawa and help teach the muslims here about islam ...but his intention unknown to me was to marry me for a passport and money, and it was just ajeeb how he managed to bipass all the laws and rules quite openly, even though the departments were well aware of his illegal status after we seperated, he managed to work illegally earn tons of cash, and got away with it and the government departments even assisted him in that, and he got his british passport handed to him on a plate and made his wads of cash it was just as Allahs messenger salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said .. and all on the basis of his intention and Allah ta ala is truely in control of all things.
anyway it all depends on a persons personal situation, i couldnt move because my sons are not yet able to leave home and be self sufficent, and i have to help them until they are financially able to have their own home. but then if a brother moved here and had the sincere intention to make that sacrifice and persevere for the sake of Allah, to assist with the dawa, and help teach and establish islamic practices amongst the muslims here, then his reward with Allah ta ala would be great subhanAllah. but even if i married here i would hope that eventually i would migrate for sake of Allah to a muslim land, and not a kufr one.
urban_rose
12-05-08, 05:24 PM
I do know of some situations where the boy moved to the girls town. Usually what happens is the boys family all blame the girl and say she 'brainwashed him' and 'took him away from his parents' lol which sometimes is true...you get some evil daughter in laws :rolleyes:
:smack: so true! :D
:salams:
Would you be willing to move to get married or marry someone who wants to come to you? I don't mean passport hunters from "back home"/poorer countries
But what if the potential spouse was from Australia and you live in the UK? or from UK and you lived in Canada?
So 2 part question.
1) Are you willing to leave your home to move to someone decent you've been introduced to in another country? (Difficult for you leaving your family behind)
2) Are you willing to marry someone who will move to where you live (but it will be difficult initially since they would have to find work (esp. for brothers) and establish residency)?
One of my mates found a person he was too willing to marry but her parents insisted that he should move to their country (where he was originally from) but he was not willing to do that and married someone else mashallah who moved with him to France.
wa alaikum salaam
1) id move, speshly if he was willing to move to Brunei too :o
2) would prefer if he didnt move where i live...because that would mean, id have to stay where i live to :(
Basil al-Mamluk
12-05-08, 05:25 PM
Yes. The cost of living is so high here. Plus it would give me the opportunity to get involved with another community so I can help improve my Islam.
i wouldnt mind having a second home abroad, but i would find it hard to move unless my family came with me inshaallah
Noor_Usman
12-05-08, 06:01 PM
I've offered to move on several ocassions but he likes it here :rotfl:
I've offered either Abu Dhabi or Pakistan....very different but both more Islamic than the UK :rolleyes:
depends how buff he is init :scratch:
:smack: have you NO shame????
:smack: have you NO shame????
wattt :| if he was buff then like it wouldn't matter what country you live in :D you would just be mesmerized by his buffness to even notice u moved, buh like if he wasn't then you would get home sick :(
wattt :| if he was buff then like it wouldn't matter what country you live in :D you would just be mesmerized by his buffness to even notice u moved, buh like if he wasn't then you would get home sick :(
:smack::smack:
My answer: all depends on parents, if they have someone to stay with them if I/he moved. Meaning mine/his parents. Even if they weren't that old it would just seem a bit selfish :o
wattt :| if he was buff then like it wouldn't matter what country you live in :D you would just be mesmerized by his buffness to even notice u moved, buh like if he wasn't then you would get home sick :(
buffness as in spoofi buffness or 6 pack buffness?
Khubaib
12-05-08, 07:38 PM
wattt :| if he was buff then like it wouldn't matter what country you live in :D you would just be mesmerized by his buffness to even notice u moved, buh like if he wasn't then you would get home sick :(
buffness as in spoofi buffness or 6 pack buffness?
This isn't the eeman and mms buffness discussion thread. :rolleyes:
You'll scare everyone away. :(
Khubaib
12-05-08, 07:39 PM
6-pack buffness :inlove:
You've joined in too :smack:
buffness as in spoofi buffness or 6 pack buffness?
both :up:
Mmmm i wouldnt mind moving, the only thing id be upset about is leaving my parents, i know they'd be 100% supportive but still i guess its only natural 2 miss them somethings just cant be helped....
id relocate in the north but never become one of those southern folk :S midlands yes, i like brummie folk but no further south than that.
and yeah, depends on how spoofi buff inshallah. move to the moon :D
Umm Haya
13-05-08, 12:10 PM
AssalamuAlaykum
I dont think I would...I'd have trouble moving down the same country even :o
WassalamuAlaykum
*Immortal Logic
13-05-08, 01:24 PM
Depends...
If I had financial stability - or had a job lined up as soon as I moved closer to my spouse then of course I would move.
If the situation was different then I would defer moving to a later date until I was stable. So technically in all cases I would eventually move.
muslimma
13-05-08, 01:35 PM
yep i would :inlove:
PK Aali
13-05-08, 03:21 PM
no he can live with m in my house or do 1
id relocate in the north but never become one of those southern folk :S midlands yes, i like brummie folk but no further south than that.
and yeah, depends on how spoofi buff inshallah. move to the moon :D
Eemaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!!! :torture: Nawty kuri! Thats it im on a mission to get all the spoofi buff bro's 2 move 2 the south! :hidban:
susu12092
13-05-08, 08:12 PM
Yes I would, and I would take my mom with me :up:
Ibrahim70
13-05-08, 08:18 PM
Question: Are you willing to move for marriage?
Answer: Yes I would too :coolbro:
id relocate in the north but never become one of those southern folk :S midlands yes, i like brummie folk but no further south than that.
and yeah, depends on how spoofi buff inshallah. move to the moon :D
n u were calling me besharam :rolleyes:
I'd move :up: but wouldn't wanna move too far from me parents house :o I wanna be able to take care of the parents
n u were calling me besharam :rolleyes:
i said spoofi bvuff i dint say 6 pack buff you shameless kotha.
PK Aali
14-05-08, 08:14 AM
so whats wrong with 6 pack? :s
so whats wrong with 6 pack? :s
Nothing :D
Islamisthebest
15-05-08, 04:01 PM
Ladies please stop aruging and bickering (don tknow if ths spellt right)
am i willing to move?
Depends where it is but im sure i would move anywhere else than the UK :up:
$HugoBoss$
16-05-08, 06:40 AM
so whats wrong with 6 pack? :s
Nothing :D
Never had a complaint yet ;)
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