How will i get through this

[Min Ahlul eit]

i am 24 years old divorced and i have one girl..and met a guy who is so religious and is everything i ever thought of wanting in a man. but because of my child his parents refuses him to marry me.

[Mujib]

i am 24 years old divorced and i have one girl..and met a guy who is so religious and is everything i ever thought of wanting in a man. but because of my child his parents refuses him to marry me.

Well your still young, and if you find yourself a brother who is willing to marry you regardless of your child, and you like him a lot...marry him....OR ELSE!!

[neelu]

This matter is all dependant on his relationship with his parents. Most brothers I know wouldn't like to marry someone without their parent's approval even though Islamically they can get married without parental approval (but parental approval is definitely preferred).

How old is your child? And are you sure that your child is the ONLY reason that they disapprove of you marrying him? If they have other reasons then by all means you can discuss the pros and cons between you and arrive at a decision inshallah. From an Islamic perspective, although it is preferred for him to listen to and respect his parents, but if their reason for disapproving of you is unIslamic (ie having a child), then he still has grounds to marry you because their reason is unIslamic.

Tbh this has less to do with you and more to do with the dynamic between him and his parents. Some practising brothers would be willing to marry someone their parents disapprove of because they realise that their parents reasons are unIslamic, but many others would be unwilling to put their relationship with their parents at risk over a potential marriage partner. Make lots of dua for him and do dua istikhara as well and leave the matter in Allah's (swt) hands. Inshallah if it is meant to be, then you will marry him no matter what anyone else thinks/wants and if it isn't meant to be, then it wont happen no matter what anyone says or does. Just make dua for the best possible outcome for your deen, your worldly life and the welfare of your child as well.

[Brother Noor]

mashAllah.. well said....^

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:salams

JUST SOMETHING TO REITERATE TO THE MENTIONED ABOVE.. AN EXAMPLE..

a small example i can give of a similar scenario is i know this bro who is around 30 now and subhanAllah, back in his teens he used to get into alot of silly things, and islam wasnt key..
but now alhamdulillah around 5 yrs ago he decided to change and mA he has turned out to be a very respectable brother, and is very practicing, always keen to learn etcetc...
moving on.. he was finding it difficult to get married, as time went.. i.e. theres a time when one realises its time to get married, cos of age blablabal.. and so he was finiding it difficult...
he did not have a degree but alhamdulllah was earning enough..

so after being really really patiant and making lots of dua and istikhara waiting and waiting.. thats what he did..
sisters came and went as he recieved offers and others said lets see blablabla.. but the problem he had was his mother, subhanAllah, she was/is very very picky and nosy.. and is a real gossip queen.. and anyone he liked, praticing or not.. she said no, because of this reason and that reason..

so time went on where he just couldnt seem to get married, mainly due to the fact that he was trying to respect his mum, aswell as because his dad had passed away..

so only a few months back did he find someone, and mA shes practicing and all...pious, and just generally an all good round muslim.. mA everything any bro would want in a sis.. alhamdulillah.. and after so much dua and istikhara, never loosing faith.. even though it had taken him soo long.. hes always looked to Allah, having left his jahil days.. and subhanAllah iv never seen him more happier..

Now the problem arrose when he told his mother, who again said no.. and for what reason,, like many others, this time it was her CAST, and also because of the fact that she was a divorcie, yet she was also pakistani as is he.. and as this is an unislamic reason for them to marry.. Allahu Alam, he saw this as a sign from Allah, having gone through so much trouble that the way he found this sister, he couldnt respect his mothers wishes no more.
Like some mothers, especially really traditional ones, to some extent, marrying a divorice is a big thing to them, they dont want their sons or daughters to have you could say 2nds (not that i mean it in that way, astaghfirullah) but you get my point. Allahu Alam
It was getting to a stage where her opinion was overcome by ISLAM.. he kept on growing into his deen and alhamdulillah got married to her..
Although he was kicked out of his house,, he still speaks to his mum as any child would, just doesnt live there no more..

but the point is theres a point where respecting parents can be overtaken by deen al Islam and for the path of Allah.. Allahu Alam

but he got what he wanted, infact he got better then he asked for subhanAllah..

him gone through a dramatic change in his life, he found someone practicing, pious, and had the same views of islam at a level that he does.

so you can see.. the point im trying to make, is as you like this bro alot or in general, never ever give up on Allah as said above, be sincere in what you ask for and the reasoning, and Allah shall answer your dua and give you what he sees best fit in your life in all aspects inshAllah..

whatever is written in your Qadr inshAllah, is what will happen by Allah.. have complete faith and Allahu Alam..

InshAllah its actually fajr time now here, as any normal person would I shall make dua that Allah grants you what is best for you sis.. And you shall recieve the best outcome..

may Allah guide you and your daughter inshAllah to live a good life with one that shall make you happy..inshAllah

MAKE DUA... ISTIKHARA AS SAID ABOVE AND LEAVE IT TO ALLAH.

i was actually with the brother today.. a few hours ago, we were at a qirat recitation at the mosque, and subhanAllah.. any time i see him, after all the hardship hes been through and the rocks he has stumbled upon with his mother, iv never seen his face shining so bright with NOOR, all but for and by the sake of Allah..