how many children do you want/?

[farah.a]

assalamualaykum
as you are aware, i am unable to have children therfore i am interested in what you would like. mashallah it makes me happy seeing couples wanting many
i think that if you are able to concieve you must have as many as possible...
what are you opinions on this?
jazakumullah hu khair
allah-fis

[Pippin1376]

My mom wants me to have 10+ when she told me I had a dream that I had 4 sets of twins. To be honest, I'm happy with any amount I can get.

[urban_rose]

My mom wants me to have 10+ when she told me I had a dream that I had 4 sets of twins. To be honest, I'm happy with any amount I can get.

ditto, inshAllah :)

[LastFriday]

6+ Insha'Allah.

[Kal-El]

Stop with these polls

[Al-Farooq]

One to do the washing up, one to do the hoovering, one to take care of the garden, one to do the dusting and another 8 to go and work down a coal mine or clean chimneys, so i can lay on my arse all day eating biscuits. :up:

[Supernova Nebula]

One to do the washing up, one to do the hoovering, one to take care of the garden, one to do the dusting and another 8 to go and work down a coal mine or clean chimneys, so i can lay on my arse all day eating biscuits. :up:

lol that's exploitation, just wait they'll form a labour union

[Medievalist]

why are you ALWAYS making polls?

havent u got nething constructive to say?

[Islam's Warrior]

assalamualaykum
as you are aware, i am unable to have children therfore i am interested in what you would like. mashallah it makes me happy seeing couples wanting many
i think that if you are able to concieve you must have as many as possible...
what are you opinions on this?
jazakumullah hu khair
allah-fis

Sister i pray allah:Swt:gives you children, as all is in his hands.

I would like as many children as possible :up: loads a whole football team

[Zesty]

One to do the washing up, one to do the hoovering, one to take care of the garden, one to do the dusting and another 8 to go and work down a coal mine or clean chimneys, so i can lay on my arse all day eating biscuits. :up:

:eek: you stole my idea! You thief :crying:

[Zesty]

as many as biologically possible

Although i wonder whether youre psychologically healthy enough to handle any kids :p :hidban:

[Zesty]

speakin of which.. after all those kids, i just want 1 boy and 1 girl.. a perfect lil fam:inlove:

:rotfl: Yeh cos you can sooo choose what you want! :p
I can imagine you as a bully.. all yorkie boys are bullies :rolleyes:
InshaAllah Allah (swt) bless you with many pious, happy and healthy children. Ameen :)

[Zesty]

Yeah definetly - heard about that scientific research about the womans diet during pregnancy determines gender of baby :p :p

having said that.. gotta wait till i'm Baligh first :o i'm only 10 :o

haha, nah i aint a bully :rolleyes:


Aameen, and you too :)

ppffttt yeehh whatever :p its a load of codswallop! :hidban:

:rotfl: 10? youre being abit generous aint you!
Sure you aint :rolleyes:

Ameen :)

[truemuslima]

Sis r u gettin married er somthing? (@ sis farha--something)

[Islamiyyah]

why are you ALWAYS making polls?

havent u got nething constructive to say?

She said it makes her happy to see others wanting to have childeren since she cant. What is wrong with that? We all need to be a little more open minded.

I personally would like 2 at the most. I want to give my childeren as much care and attention as I could.

[Zainab_B]

10+ Inshallah.

Biological and adopted I hope.

[Joha]

One to do the washing up, one to do the hoovering, one to take care of the garden, one to do the dusting and another 8 to go and work down a coal mine or clean chimneys, so i can lay on my arse all day eating biscuits. :up:
:up: aye, now that's the spirit, spoken like a true irish man (although I'd substitute coal mining with potato farming :D)


having said that.. gotta wait till i'm Baligh first :o i'm only 10 :o


haaah - some 10 year old... who knows and cares about waxing :rubeyes:

[Ibrahim70]

As Allah Wills :D

[Basil al-Mamluk]

InshaAllah, 3; 2 boys, 1 girl.

[turquoise]

Salaam,

Why isn't zero one of the choices?

i think that if you are able to concieve you must have as many as possible...

Can you please explain why you think that?

[muslimma]

i hope allah swt blesses you with children sis...:love:

have faith enshallah i know quite a few couples who have children afetr 10 yrs.!!!

when dr's have said theres no chance

but then again they aint god r they ;)

[bitter_sweet]

10+ Inshallah.

Biological and adopted I hope.

if you adopted, as soon as they become baligh u would have to give them to a care home or sumink cause when a boy becomes baligh, its permissble fer you to marry him...
and when the girly becomes baligh, ur hubby can marry him..
that ghair mahram/mahram stuff....
its best not ta adopt cause then u become so emotionally attached to the kid...u wouldnt be able to bear giving the kid away!

[turquoise]

if you adopted, as soon as they become baligh u would have to give them to a care home or sumink cause when a boy becomes baligh, its permissble fer you to marry him...
and when the girly becomes baligh, ur hubby can marry him..
that ghair mahram/mahram stuff....
its best not ta adopt cause then u become so emotionally attached to the kid...u wouldnt be able to bear giving the kid away!

Salaam,

It's common for people to get around this by breast-feeding the adopted child, if it's young enough. Then it's mahram to the adoptive mother and father, regardless of gender. Even if the adoptive mother has never been pregnant, there are drugs that will induce lactation.

[Anonymous2008]

assalamualaykum
as you are aware, i am unable to have children therfore i am interested in what you would like. mashallah it makes me happy seeing couples wanting many
i think that if you are able to concieve you must have as many as possible...
what are you opinions on this?
jazakumullah hu khair
allah-fis

I am sorry to hear that.

A general question, are Muslims aloud to adopt?

[Noor_Usman]

We can foster :) Long term if needs be.

Adoption's a funny one. You can't change their last name, you have to make them aware they are adopted, they do not have the inheritence rights the rest of the famaily will have...and as stated they wont be 'realted' Islamically unless all children have had the mothers milk (which you can only do up to the age of 2yrs old) which means if they don't then at puberty everyone would have to start covering up etc and treating them as if they were any other friend or neighbour.
A lot of the new adoption rules in the west mean this is fine...they say you HAVE to let them know now and their old families can write to them ect via the agency....but the thing is you still have legal custody of the child over the original family which is not something that was done 'back in the day' unless the original family were dead.

Inshallah we will still adopt but it might be hard because for the above reason I'd want to adopt an orphan rather than a child that's been 'given up' and still has living family :)

Inshallah we will have 3 children....maybe 4 if we manage 3 naturally and still haven't been able to adopt yet :inlove:

If Allah gives us more then I'll just have to get busy!!! :D

[Phoenix CG]

well i voted all of em so thats 23 :rotfl:

[scribble]

2.

A boy and a girl.

[RoadWarrior]

if you adopted, as soon as they become baligh u would have to give them to a care home or sumink cause when a boy becomes baligh, its permissble fer you to marry him...
and when the girly becomes baligh, ur hubby can marry him..
that ghair mahram/mahram stuff....
its best not ta adopt cause then u become so emotionally attached to the kid...u wouldnt be able to bear giving the kid away!

True to some extent

It's not true if the child was breast fed by the mother, so if you adopt a child who is 2 yrs or below then it is fine and the father is mehram etc and mother doesnt have to wear hijaab infront of her son etc because he/she has been breastfed and this becomes his/her suckling mother

But you'll all have different surnames..which might create problems in school if 2 siblings go together..

but what's more better..having a life without family, food,shelter or having all that and just a diff surname?

I think theres a dire need for adoption in countries where there are wars, famine, drought etc...especially when you watch on the news stories from Palestine when a whole family has been murdered and a baby survives etc..but no family left..

There are quite a few orphanages there...children with absolutely NO family...

Inshallah, I would love to adopt

[scribble]

Oh yeah, you just reminded me.

I want to adopt, wanted to since I was a little kid. :D Inshallah, I'll be able to.

[c0508310]

2 are more than enough if we take care of them and guide them to the right path then InshaAllah our heaven is booked!!!!!!!!!
may ALLAH GRANT U WITH CHILDREN!ameen!

[afsalim]

I used to want 1. Now I've settled for 2.....

[Anonymous2008]

We can foster :) Long term if needs be.

Adoption's a funny one. You can't change their last name, you have to make them aware they are adopted, they do not have the inheritence rights the rest of the famaily will have...and as stated they wont be 'realted' Islamically unless all children have had the mothers milk (which you can only do up to the age of 2yrs old) which means if they don't then at puberty everyone would have to start covering up etc and treating them as if they were any other friend or neighbour.
A lot of the new adoption rules in the west mean this is fine...they say you HAVE to let them know now and their old families can write to them ect via the agency....but the thing is you still have legal custody of the child over the original family which is not something that was done 'back in the day' unless the original family were dead.

Inshallah we will still adopt but it might be hard because for the above reason I'd want to adopt an orphan rather than a child that's been 'given up' and still has living family :)

Inshallah we will have 3 children....maybe 4 if we manage 3 naturally and still haven't been able to adopt yet :inlove:

If Allah gives us more then I'll just have to get busy!!! :D

Thanks for clearing that up.

[Sister-Ameena*]

:salams I'd be satisfied with being blessed with at least one, but walhamdulilah if Allah blesses me with two or more.

[Raashid]

Where's ZERO as a choice?

[Supernova Nebula]

can i just have toddlers instead of babies? im afraid I will break their bones:o

[Yokel]

However Many Allah Swt Gives Me

[.: Anna :.]

Thread closed because we had this same poll question many times before in polling booth