How to Advice Blind Youth!?

[GoingInsane!]

I am confused! and it is making me upset :( and worried :(

What do you do when you know 2 people are doing something wrong OR that whatever they're doing could lead to worse things? That there is NOWAY they can make their situation halaal until a loongg loonggg tiime and only Allah knows what's going to happen in that time...might not be even able to do anything then...

what do you do when you have spoken to atleast one of the parties involved about it and they agree and they say they're going to change...yet x months down the line it's still going on and sooo obvious for everyone to see aswell

so you contact them again as a warning to tell them not only what they're doing is wrong but its bloody public for everyone to realise and they agree again

and next minute it's there again!!! they're doing it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

arrghhh :crying: and how do you explain to youth that Pm-ing is just as bad as chatting on msn :smack:

dunno what to do anymore man..I just feel like I don't want to be blamed for anything bad that happens in future like 'you knew what was going on??why didnt you tell us??'

I seriously could not approach the parents or any other family member about the issue because I don't want to loose the trust of individuals...I've tried bringing it up with the parties involved...and now I feel like they've got to be mature enough to make the right decisions...but I don't want them to make the wrong decisions :crying: I am going crazy here because everything is happening infront of me and I cannot physically prevent it...

I guess it is their life and they need to realise the consequences of their own actions...but I don't want to see anyone get hurt or just basically I dont want to see them doing wrong things :(

I am making dua all the time...but what use is my dua when they want what is wrong themselves? they need to make dua to Allah to make them strong in themselves and for them to stop doing what they are doing :(

I feel so helpless...It's one thing to do something wrong, but to reveal your sins and making it public is completely out of order :( and I am getting fed up!

Last thing I want to do is have to inform elders about it...I don't...I don't...I dont!!!!!!!!!! :crying: NO I DONT! I wont!!!

argh! driving me crazy

but sometimes I feel like it is going on for tooo long and things are progressing tooo deep...I feel like the right thing to do is to get elders involved..?

But I don't want to seem like a bad person :(

I'm lost and confused...and incredibly sad..and it's not even my situation...

[InAgreement]

What you have just said seems very familiar, i was thinking something similar a while ago. IF it is the same thing, then i agree with you. It is all too free and too obvious for all to see.
I can only say what you have suggested yourself: advise them, you say you have done it twice already, bro/sis, try a couple of more times and see what happens. Use examples of other people who have been in the same situation and what has happened as a result. If they still persist to not listen and to not take heed then there is no more you can do. They have to go through things in life like the rest of us and have experience, but if they can avoid it all then there really is no point in even going through it.

Sometimes, under the banner of an "Islamic Forum" people think everything is legit. They can take advantage and do things without thinking it through. You are right, pming is just as bad as MSN and everyone needs to know to be careful and remember your Islamic principles and boundaries. This applies a lot to the youths on this forum, who may chitchat unnecessarily and exchange information which is not safe in the long run.

Bro/sis, id advise you to try again with the people a few more times and then IF nothing seems to be going into their minds, ask someone else (mods) to have a word. Because like you say, the issue of involoving elders may backfire in the wrong way.

Inshallah the people will understand of their own accord and amend their ways.

[Unregistered12]

asalamu aleikum

maybe you could warn them that if they dont stop you're gonna tell their parents , or just be patient inshallah and keep advicing them because that is all you can do and its not ypur fault so do not go crazy about it.Best thing is to remind them about death inshallah



wa asalamu aleikum

[AHMED BHAI]

TELL THE PARENTS

because it is inevitable that the parents will suffer by you NOT telling them,,anyway

when you are the parent of teens you will want to know of everything youre children do..and appreciate any input from anyone in the know

AND if theyre true friends then they will appreciate the concern to guide them to the right way