Am I weird??

[um_omar]

I am really worried if I am loosing it?? It just that the idea of marriage scare me so much. I am divorced, and I know not everyone the same but I am in so much peace with myself and my relation to allah, I feel marriage will ruin all that. I can practice Islam and pray to Allah as much as I can but with marriage come responsibilities, I feel that I am happy been single forever. The idea of marriage is not very exciting for me and my mum whenever she does dua for me marriage is first thing she pray for. Sometimes in odd times I feel I want to get married be loved, and bring children in the best Islamic way and hope they will be salheen who help this ummah. There is no right person, but I am not even looking, all my family looking to set me up, but I always say I am not ready.

Am I weired??

[PiElle2]

you'll be alright as soon as you can get the spelling of 'wierd' right... LOL

[um_omar]

lol:D

[IbnAbdulHakim]

its ok to be weird :)


we normally get worried about someone whos above 20 and doesnt wanna get married and we rush more to get them married then someone who does want to get married because the person who doesnt want to get married most probably * :| *

[turquoise]

Salaam,

That's not weird at all. You're divorced, so you've experienced marriage, and you prefer your current lifestyle to the one you had as a married woman. You have your reasons for that. Whether another person would feel the same way in the same situation is irrelevant - it's your life, no one else's.

Too many people (younger girls, especially) love the idea of marriage, because they want their life to change drastically. It's 'new' and 'exciting'. You can scroll through through the archives of this board to see some of the problems that arise when one or both parties enters a marriage without being prepared for or willing to accept the responsibilities and life changes it involves. Ironically, people such as yourself, who are mature enough to understand that, tend to have more stable marriages.

If your family really wants you to get married, then it might be best to remain open to the idea, because you may find someone with whom you could continue to live in the way you enjoy now. (It might help if you could discuss that in detail with your parents, so they know what sort of man you would consider.) However, if you're really against the idea, or you don't believe you could fulfill a husband's rights (or you just don't want to), there's nothing wrong with choosing to remain single. It's not fard to get married unless you're in danger of committing zina.

[stephenoskie]

I feel the same, like I wanna get married really badly then when I get around to it I get scared and I just tell the person sorry. :embar:

[scribble]

you'll be alright as soon as you can get the spelling of 'wierd' right... LOL

:eek:

You mean weird. :p

Heheheheee.

[Hiking]

Salaam,

That's not weird at all. You're divorced, so you've experienced marriage, and you prefer your current lifestyle to the one you had as a married woman. You have your reasons for that. Whether another person would feel the same way in the same situation is irrelevant - it's your life, no one else's.

Too many people (younger girls, especially) love the idea of marriage, because they want their life to change drastically. It's 'new' and 'exciting'. You can scroll through through the archives of this board to see some of the problems that arise when one or both parties enters a marriage without being prepared for or willing to accept the responsibilities and life changes it involves. Ironically, people such as yourself, who are mature enough to understand that, tend to have more stable marriages.

If your family really wants you to get married, then it might be best to remain open to the idea, because you may find someone with whom you could continue to live in the way you enjoy now. (It might help if you could discuss that in detail with your parents, so they know what sort of man you would consider.) However, if you're really against the idea, or you don't believe you could fulfill a husband's rights (or you just don't want to), there's nothing wrong with choosing to remain single. It's not fard to get married unless you're in danger of committing zina.

Totally agree with this bro/sis.
Just go on with your life and keep an open mind, it's all in the hands of Allah :Swt:.

[um_omar]

Salaam,

That's not weird at all. You're divorced, so you've experienced marriage, and you prefer your current lifestyle to the one you had as a married woman. You have your reasons for that. Whether another person would feel the same way in the same situation is irrelevant - it's your life, no one else's.

Too many people (younger girls, especially) love the idea of marriage, because they want their life to change drastically. It's 'new' and 'exciting'. You can scroll through through the archives of this board to see some of the problems that arise when one or both parties enters a marriage without being prepared for or willing to accept the responsibilities and life changes it involves. Ironically, people such as yourself, who are mature enough to understand that, tend to have more stable marriages.

If your family really wants you to get married, then it might be best to remain open to the idea, because you may find someone with whom you could continue to live in the way you enjoy now. (It might help if you could discuss that in detail with your parents, so they know what sort of man you would consider.) However, if you're really against the idea, or you don't believe you could fulfill a husband's rights (or you just don't want to), there's nothing wrong with choosing to remain single. It's not fard to get married unless you're in danger of committing zina.

Jzak Allah for the wise advice. My family made me think that way, because I refuse to discuss the topic of marriage. The things I look in husband are very simple but yet rare, I just want someone with taquwa, and lead Muslim life and who wish to do hijra in future to any Muslim country.

If I find someone like Omar el farouq may be I will consider the idea, lol I know I am asking a lot.

[Genghis]

Your English is wierd.. but other than that hehe..

Inshallah just carry on with your life.. if you do get married it will be at a time where your so called fear of getting married will be gone,

Allah knows best :D

[um_omar]

Your English is wierd.. but other than that hehe..



that is so mean Genghis:bangbang: :D

[Halim1814]

mmm, i think all you need is a religious man who has the same passion for Allah swt as you do, and when you do, it will be easier to talk about things that you felt uncomfortable talking about ,,,
I honestly think that marraige is the most sacred thing a person does in his life, and having a family is such a beautiful blessing that you will, inshalla, understand its value one day. You can practice Islam with your husband, and you get more points for praying in Jamaa3ah :) Teaching your children about Islam.
It will happen for you ....

[Mujib]

you'll be alright as soon as you can get the spelling of 'wierd' right... LOL

:eek:

You mean weird. :p

Heheheheee.

Your English is wierd.. but other than that hehe..

Inshallah just carry on with your life.. if you do get married it will be at a time where your so called fear of getting married will be gone,

Allah knows best :D

LOL your all weirdo's!

[Genghis]

LOL your all weirdo's!

LOOOOL!!!




erg... no. o(---_---)o

[Khubaib]

Don't worry about it too much inshallah. Just make the dua' of the salaf

rabbana aatina fiddunya hasanat wa fil akhirati hasanat wa qina adhab an-naar

Then Allah :Swt: we'll take care of everything inshallah.

[Khuram_2k?]

I think your wierd because you think your wierd. ;)

[PiElle2]

:eek:

You mean weird. :p

Heheheheee.


ya... just the spelling of the word makes you go weird wierd.... LOL @)

right, so we have a new ruling in this forum, those who cannot spell the word 'weird' should not get married... :rotfl:

[Genghis]

ya... just the spelling of the word makes you go weird wierd.... LOL @)

right, so we have a new ruling in this forum, those who cannot spell the word 'weird' should not get married... :rotfl:

We are sooo lucky that the goverment does not add such laws/rules like this in real life.. cos the chance of a marriage taking place would be as often as a solar eclipse :D