what would you look for in a wife?

[farah.a]

assalamualaykum...
if possible, please could all males who come accross this thread answer?/...because i really need to know what it all comes down to overall...jazakallah i would really appreciate it.

basically,i am asking you men that what would u want in your future wife. whether you have 2 years left till marriage or 12 years...i think it would help us all to know and i am also interested..jazakumullah.

[Kal-El]

Some of those options are hilarious, omg nice surname? ahahaha

Honestly if you ask all the married brothers here or those who are engaged to be married they'll tell you you can't hold specific expectations, you just know when you find her. The thing is, naturally we'd all like someone perfect but there's no such thing, we're far from perfect ourselves. Some men will prefer a woman with more charisma than money or deen or appearance, and vice versa - it all depends on the guys preferences.

[farah.a]

Some of those options are hilarious, omg nice surname? ahahaha

Honestly if you ask all the married brothers here or those who are engaged to be married they'll tell you you can't hold specific expectations, you just know when you find her.


yes but stil vote!!!

[Kal-El]

yes but stil vote!!!

I accidentally voted on the wrong ones but I'll just say.

Best-friend material whom you'd want no one else to give birth to your children but her

[Joha]

For a spouse, I've got nothing specific other than:

Muslim
Less than half - witted (or should that be more than :scratch: - heuristically defined)
I gotta like them, they gotta like me :)

Dunno how else you can narrow it down - until you get married, at which point it's too late :D

[LaFanGa]

the simple reply would be....

looks dont matter,

a female version of me! and for a girl a male version of them

sorted! and woo hoo

[angel*]

:rotfl: :rotfl: im sorry but i just couldnt help but laughing really hard when i saw the 'nice surname' option! :outta:

The brothers i know. i really do doubt thats ever crossed their mind when thinking abiut a future wife , but i bet the really vain one's do :outta:

[bitter_sweet]

:rofl1: mind you, where i live you do get some pretty dodgy surnames u know....i think its the girls that ought to be worried about the nice surname bit cause its us who are meant to get ther surname!..

[urban_rose]

:rofl1: mind you, where i live you do get some pretty dodgy surnames u know....i think its the girls that ought to be worried about the nice surname bit cause its us who are meant to get ther surname!..

not really, sis, its up to you whether you want to take his name or not, preferably keeping your own surname, in Islamic terms. Adopting his surname is more of a Western concept :)

[bitter_sweet]

not really, sis, its up to you whether you want to take his name or not, preferably keeping your own surname, in Islamic terms. Adopting his surname is more of a Western concept :)

ooooh:rubeyes:..i didnt know that...

jazakallah for enlightening me sis:up:

[MrOnline]

What!!! Delete my preferences please. I thought it was a hidden poll. :o

Damn! Errmm, by the way i find the beaty option rather discriminative. Dark or Fair? :smack:

[LaFanGa]

:rofl1: mind you, where i live you do get some pretty dodgy surnames u know....i think its the girls that ought to be worried about the nice surname bit cause its us who are meant to get ther surname!..

but islamically, a girl aint expected or isnt meant to change her surname, after marriage, she gets to keep her identity

ooo yeahh, but like the people that do change the surname, because of dodgy surnames i dont blame them:p :up:

[Pippin1376]

I have always liked my surname. :hidban:

[urban_rose]

What!!! Delete my preferences please. I thought it was a hidden poll. :o

Damn! Errmm, by the way i find the beaty option rather discriminative. Dark or Fair? :smack:

:rotfl:

if you find it discriminative then why did you choose one of the options? :scratch:

[Umm Haya]

what would you look for in a wife?

Tbh I wouldnt look for anything in a wife :outta:

[bitter_sweet]

Tbh I wouldnt look for anything in a wife :outta:

errr...isnt that cause your a 'she'?

[bitter_sweet]

MMS seems to be the only one interested in the money so far..:rolleyes:

[MrOnline]

:rotfl:

if you find it discriminative then why did you choose one of the options? :scratch:

...because it is discriminative. Anyway, i wouldn't have chosen either if i had know it was a public poll! :o

[Stop trying to catch me out!]

[Kubs]

Why was my post deleted? I only said ''LOL @ MMS'' - other comments can also be classified as SPAM :scratch:

Anyhoo....should surname even be an option? :eek3:

As for colour of skin...a little disciminatory, don'tcha think? It can hurt people's feelings and just isn't nice.

[Khuram_2k?]

This Poll needs to be HIDDEN! what's the freakin reason for public?

[bitter_sweet]

This Poll needs to be HIDDEN! what's the freakin reason for public?

leave farah.a a comment an tell er to hide it then:rolleyes:

[bitter_sweet]

id prefer a latino ring to her surname, you know the ones you say and they make you seem nice.. eventhough in reality your not. Does that make sense :rubeyes:

:rolleyes:you gonna ask her if her straightners come with her when you marry her?

[urban_rose]

...because it is discriminative. Anyway, i wouldn't have chosen either if i had know it was a public poll! :o

[Stop trying to catch me out!]

sorry :o

but i think you meant the same as Kubs; discriminatory in place of discriminative :)

[Zesty]

MMS seems to be the only one interested in the money so far..:rolleyes:

Thats because you can only choose one option :( otherwise she would have chosen Money and LOOKS! :hidban:

[abood]

assalam alaikum

there should also a thread which regarding"what would you look for in husand?

wassalam

[Grotbags]

Why was my post deleted? I only said ''LOL @ MMS'' - other comments can also be classified as SPAM :scratch:

Anyhoo....should surname even be an option? :eek3:

As for colour of skin...a little disciminatory, don'tcha think? It can hurt people's feelings and just isn't nice.

:salams

I deleted yours and Umm Haya's posts because when people want to read threads, it can be quite annoying where people are just posting "lol" or *just smileys* on their own . Sometimes i have come across threads where i want to read and i have to go through 5/10 pages with just smileys or "lols", this can be quite frustrating,when your trying to learn something.

If you wish to take it further please post in helpdesk.

Grotbags

[Omar Mukhtar]

not another stupid pool.

i think votes should remain public, shows what sort of person voters really are.

[MrOnline]

leave farah.a a comment an tell er to hide it then:rolleyes:

Fara.A cannot edit the poll.

[MrOnline]

i think votes should remain public, shows what sort of person voters really are.

Errm...no! :spunch:

[Khuram_2k?]

not another stupid pool.

i think votes should remain public, shows what sort of person voters really are.

thats just one of the worst excuses to keep a poll public.

[bitter_sweet]

nah dont trust the wife.. ive just purchased my own :inlove: at a Bargain price too.. i can sort you out too if you want? :coolbro:

:rofl1:..gowan then:D

[bitter_sweet]

i agree with abood. someone create a thread for what a woman wants in her future man...

[MMS]

hey i voted on behalf of the brothers who are too shy to be honest so like thats 90% of them :up:

[Medievalist]

:rotfl: MMS voted :rotfl:

[Al-Farooq]

A heartbeat.

[Zesty]

I vote on behalf of my husby- he says he went for my wonderfully charismatic personality :D as well as drop dead gorgeous looks :outta:

[Khubaib]

Inshallah no one will take this poll seriously, some might develop an inferiority complex as far as the superficial qualities are concerned. Or worse start thinking they're not going to find a spouse based on the poll results. :smack:

[RoadWarrior]

ooooh:rubeyes:..i didnt know that...

jazakallah for enlightening me sis:up:


here's the thread...but there are differing opinions on scholars...so you should always consult your local one...

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=164503

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as for the thread...I think its of very low quality and definitely should have been anonymous...

[RoadWarrior]

I vote on behalf of my husby- he says he went for my wonderfully charismatic personality :D as well as drop dead gorgeous looks :outta:

mashallah:up:

[MrOnline]

assalam alaikum

there should also a thread which regarding"what would you look for in husand?

wassalam

i agree with abood. someone create a thread for what a woman wants in her future man...

Your wish is my command. :up:

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=169554

[Medievalist]

A heartbeat.

is that an essential pre-requisite or just a personal preference?

[angel*]

i want beauty brains religion, manners a nice surname everything else and plenty of money! :D



just messin around do not take me seriously!!!!

[ibn Iyaaz]

I vote on behalf of my husby- he says he went for my wonderfully charismatic personality :D as well as drop dead gorgeous looks :outta:


Ahem?????:rubeyes:

[Zesty]

Ahem?????:rubeyes:

:o whaaaa....its not like im lying.. i never lie! :hidban:

[RoadWarrior]

:rotfl: @ zesty and ibn iyaaz mashallah :love: May Allah always keep you both happy in your marriage. ameen.

[Zesty]

:rotfl: @ zesty and ibn iyaaz mashallah :love: May Allah always keep you both happy in your marriage. ameen.

LOL :inlove: Thumma Ameen! JazakAllah Khair :o

[talib ul islam]

To be fair a lot of people say looks don't matter but in reality they do, as you will experience when you actually start looking, but then again as the saying goes "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"(or something like that) so someone you find beautiful might not look too beautiful to someone else.

I myself have to admit "chemistry" as they say does matter, so not necasarilly looks but something, I've asked this question to most of my married friends and family (bros/and sisters) and they said when you find her you will know:up:

I myself am looking, but don't really know what I'm looking for:rolleyes:

So I'll make a list:

Practicing (Hijab minimum, and someone to throw water on my face when I miss Fajar )

Intelligent

Truthful and Honest

Strong Independent but still feminine(as opposed to butch:D)

Bright personality (you know one of those people who always see the good in things and smile a lot)

A bit Nutty/Funny

Must want loads of kids at least 10:D(I love kids, I have 10 nephews and 3 nieces )



Not asking for much am I:) (I'm sure I can go on too:))

Am I asking too much?
Am I being unrealistic?
Is this why I'm still single?

Maan you've opened a can of worms here:(

[Umm Haya]

AssalamuAlaykum

lol :masha: at the above, specially at the nuts part.

WassalamuAlaykum

:(

[Zesty]

eyy up! i love kids too :inlove: i think we're compatible :inlove:

:rotfl: :rotfl: You will never change will you!!

[Saudi Prince]

For a spouse, I've got nothing specific other than:

Muslim
Less than half - witted (or should that be more than :scratch: - heuristically defined)
I gotta like them, they gotta like me :)

Dunno how else you can narrow it down - until you get married, at which point it's too late :D

It's beyond the wit of man to have a wife who is less than half-wit. ;)

[Saudi Prince]

not really, sis, its up to you whether you want to take his name or not, preferably keeping your own surname, in Islamic terms. Adopting his surname is more of a Western concept :)

It's haram for a Muslim woman to take her husband's name!

[ibn Iyaaz]

It's haram for a Muslim woman to take her husband's name!

substantiate please, do surnames even play a part in Islam?

[angel*]

substantiate please, do surnames even play a part in Islam?

we've a 101 threads on this look em up and ul see :up:

[RoadWarrior]

substantiate please, do surnames even play a part in Islam?

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=164503

surnames play a part in islam with regards to lineage because on the day of judgement people will be called by the name of their father.

so for a woman to say she is of so and so man...it is like saying she was born from her husband...which ofcourse is wrong and desnt make sense..she will always be her fathers child

however there are differences in opinions of scholars as to what name states lineage..surname of fathers first name?

[Joha]

It's beyond the wit of man to have a wife who is less than half-wit. ;)

touché

:rotfl:

A dunce with wits :D

[Saudi Prince]

substantiate please, do surnames even play a part in Islam?

Yes, in Islam you must not claim you're the son of so and so when you're not! It's haram.