% wise how compatible husband/wife

[bhatti00]

out of 100% how compatible would you say you are with your husband or wife, considering various things u put up with and do sabbar for?

[Medievalist]

0%

[Umm Haya]

If I was married I'm hoping it would be 100%....*grin*

[Jilbabi]

0%

what? n please be serious

[Pippin1376]

If I was married I'm hoping it would be 100%....*grin*

Mashallah! Inshallah that happens for you. I'm hoping the same thing when I (inshallah) get married.

[Medievalist]

what? n please be serious

mind yr bijniz jalebiji.:torture:

[Jilbabi]

Mashallah! Inshallah that happens for you. I'm hoping the same thing when I (inshallah) get married.

me 2 :inlove:

[Jilbabi]

mind yr bijniz jalebiji.:torture:

ok sorry :o

[MrOnline]

Forget compatibility. As long as my wife and i are happy, then all i can do is make shukr.

[Umm Haya]

Mashallah! Inshallah that happens for you. I'm hoping the same thing when I (inshallah) get married.

me 2 :inlove:

Ameeen! :inlove: :love:

JazakAllah khayr....

WassalamuAlaykum

[XRUHYX]

:salams

I don't think any couples can be compatible 100%! Like they say, sometimes opposites attract :outta:

[Umm Haya]

:salams

I don't think any couples can be compatible 100%! Like they say, sometimes opposites attract :outta:

Wa'alaykum salam

But birds of a feather flock together.

WassalamuAlaykum

[Enigma Dreamer]

If I was married I'm hoping it would be 100%....*grin*

It won't happen :)

[Umm Haya]

considering various things u put up with and do sabbar for?

In reply to Enigma Dreamer, it can Insha'Allah. If we love one another to overlook minor faults and bear them with Sabr *smile*

WassalamuAlaykum

[RaNdOm]

:salams

100% in my world inshaAllah :inlove:

[MMS]

:salams

100% in my world inshaAllah :inlove:

gotta find him from a mental institute then :o

[Umm Haya]

gotta find him from a mental institute then :o

*rotfl* Mums gonna get out her chappal when she sees how far my food flew just now :o looooool *rotfl* ^^ :o

[RoadWarrior]

I think if you're 100% compatible with regards to deen

then there's no problem

because everything else, personal interests, hobbies etc it makes life more interesting and varied if you're both into diff things

sometimes we can pick up hobbies from our spouses or end up doing things we never would have on our own (bunjee jumpng anyone? :p)

so I think with interests and hobbies it's not even that important

as long as you are compatible in deen and character (honest, loyal, respectful, patient...maybe bad tempered) whatever they are, not always good...but if you are compatible in those things then it's allllll good inshallah :up:

[LaFanGa]

^ agreed on deen

however you have to be compatible like 100% in personality and stuff, like your wife/hubby is meant to be your best friend, your meant to rely on each other

many people just get married for "companionship" why dont they just adopt a old person! psssh

marriage is all about friendship, love and compatibility, if there isnt 100% all of these are required to make a woo hoo marriage!

like look at RasoolAllah (Saw) he was his wifes best supporter and their best friend, he even joked about with them, and he loved them!

so 100% compatibilityy

btw theres quite a lot of marriage threads, seems quite a lot of people here are desperate to get married :p (please dont attack me now, im a innocent little child):D

[Medievalist]

btw theres quite a lot of marriage threads, seems quite a lot of people here are desperate to get married :p (please dont attack me now, im a innocent little child):D

I know, there are soooo many marriage threads. Its embarassing innit. feel sorry for em :p

ps - lafanga, you're not related to loafer are ya? and is awarapagal D. wana related to u?

[Umm Haya]

I know, there are soooo many marriage threads. Its embarassing innit. feel sorry for em :p

ps - lafanga, you're not related to loafer are ya? and is awarapagal D. wana related to u?

Bro Med, :nono: my bro may be Lafanga but he aint no Loafer :asta: lol :outta:

[LaFanGa]

ps - lafanga, you're not related to loafer are ya? and is awarapagal D. wana related to u?

in their dreams :p

[Medievalist]

Bro Med, :nono: my bro may be Lafanga but he aint no Loafer :asta: lol :outta:

is he's yr bro? unlucky (for him)

Lafanga: bas ALLAH ni marzi sakkeya

[LaFanGa]

is he's yr bro? unlucky (for him)

Lafanga: bas ALLAH ni marzi sakkeya

no lol i dont know her, she been asking me for money callin me her bro:p muhahaaaa

Allah ni marzi? erm MIRPURIIII :p

its Allah ki marzi hai = urdu
or Allah di marzi eh = panjabi!

sakkeya, hai oi!! wink wink

[Medievalist]

gotta find him from a mental institute then :o

worked oiut well for you didnt it, and u shud love for yur sister what you love for yrself. lucky gyals :D:D

[Medievalist]

no lol i dont know her, she been asking me for money callin me her bro:p muhahaaaa

Allah ni marzi? erm MIRPURIIII :p

its Allah ki marzi hai = urdu
or Allah di marzi eh = panjabi!

sakkeya, hai oi!! wink wink

oh . . . yr a paki **roll eyes**

I dont know why you're winking at me but stop it, it disturbs me :torture:

[.: Anna :.]

Erm how exactly are we supposed to work out compatibility as a percentage and what really is the benefit of sharing this "score" with the forum? :scratch:

[RaNdOm]

gotta find him from a mental institute then :o

:salams

actually i think a lot of people in mental institutes aren't their cos they're mental but cos they're misunderstood and just need someone to actually give themselves 100% to them so that they know that everyone out there isn't evil or just care about themselves :D

[LaFanGa]

oh . . . yr a paki **roll eyes**

I dont know why you're winking at me but stop it, it disturbs me :torture:

well i wasnt winkin at you, dont get your hopes up bro:p

i was winkin @ myself:D

[Medievalist]

Erm how exactly are we supposed to work out compatibility as a percentage and what really is the benefit of sharing this "score" with the forum? :scratch:

Sister - the threads more for the fantasist who aint yet married. They have funny ideas about marriage **roll eyes**

[Medievalist]

well i wasnt winkin at you, dont get your hopes up bro:p

i was winkin @ myself:D

dont try covering up yr activities by this excuse above. pls behave yrself. and why wud u wink at yrself? thats even more weird.:rubeyes:

[LaFanGa]

dont try covering up yr activities by this excuse above. pls behave yrself. and why wud u wink at yrself? thats even more weird.:rubeyes:

well maybe i have a twitching eyes problem!! lol stop makin me sound weird:p

back on topic :p

yes erm should be compatible

[RaNdOm]

Sister - the threads more for the fantasist who aint yet married. They have funny ideas about marriage **roll eyes**

:salams

no we dont... i think if u think the person is :inlove: when u marry em then itd take a LOT to make u think otherwise.... so even if to the world u dont seem compatible, in ur heads u will be :D

plus flaws = compatibility cos they make things more real :D

[RoadWarrior]

Sister - the threads more for the fantasist who aint yet married. They have funny ideas about marriage **roll eyes**

that is quite true

because if you read all the people who wrote 100% are people who havent even got married :confused:

so maybe it's good because people who are married can tell them how it is

[RaNdOm]

that is quite true

because if you read all the people who wrote 100% are people who havent even got married :confused:

so maybe it's good because people who are married can tell them how it is

:salams

bah... watch inshaAllah... u gotta have faith :D

plus u probably just forgotten what kinda stuff made ur wife beautiful to u when u first met her :D

[Umm Haya]

no lol i dont know her, she been asking me for money callin me her bro:p muhahaaaa

AssalamuAlaykum

:nono: what liesssss! The money dint even reach my account though :outta:

[Medievalist]

:salams

no we dont... i think if u think the person is :inlove: when u marry em then itd take a LOT to make u think otherwise.... so even if to the world u dont seem compatible, in ur heads u will be :D

plus flaws = compatibility cos they make things more real :D

:wswrwb:

and do you have a lot of these ideas, in ur head, do u?

interesting **takes notes**

[LaFanGa]

AssalamuAlaykum

:nono: what liesssss! The money dint even reach my account though :outta:
are you sure sister?

chaudhry and sons halal/non halal meat shop, thats where you said to debt itt:D

andd why do people say bla bla unmarried people are livin in a dream world, not all marriages are the same you know pssssh

[Medievalist]

well maybe i have a twitching eyes problem!! lol stop makin me sound weird:p

mashaALLAH bro you doing a gud job at that yrself, I dont have to say owt.:coolbro:

[LaFanGa]

mashaALLAH bro you doing a gud job at that yrself, I dont have to say owt.:coolbro:

:hidban::hidban: :p lol ok (sarcasm) mehhh

[.: Anna :.]

are you sure sister?

chaudhry and sons halal/non halal meat shop, thats where you said to debt itt:D

andd why do people say bla bla unmarried people are livin in a dream world, not all marriages are the same you know pssssh

not all marriages are the same, but then again how can u make up a comatibility percentage between yourself and non existent imaginary hubby?
obviously your result is gonna be completely based in fantasy, and also a bit pointless

[LaFanGa]

not all marriages are the same, but then again how can u make up a comatibility percentage between yourself and non existent imaginary hubby?
obviously your result is gonna be completely based in fantasy, and also a bit pointless

lol yes, but erm i was only replyin to the thread, so the thread starter didnt feel left out:D

[RaNdOm]

:wswrwb:

and do you have a lot of these ideas, in ur head, do u?

interesting **takes notes**

:salams

its not an idea... its what i know, like u know if u feel sumts rubbish then u havta make urself so the non rubbishness to it... OR tell the person why u feelin :( and then theyll make it all ok and ul be :hidban: gen :D

like i dno i thnk people want it to be all :D:D:D:D:D all the time but when stuff gets :( u see another side to the person that u wouldnt have known or been able to love if u were :D allllllllllll the time :D

[.: Anna :.]

i dont mean u specifically just in general

[Hiking]

not all marriages are the same, but then again how can u make up a comatibility percentage between yourself and non existent imaginary hubby?
obviously your result is gonna be completely based in fantasy, and also a bit pointless

I see your point.....that answer would be 100% :p (based on imaginary hubby)

[RaNdOm]

not all marriages are the same, but then again how can u make up a comatibility percentage between yourself and non existent imaginary hubby?
obviously your result is gonna be completely based in fantasy, and also a bit pointless

:salams

no it wont... cos if u believe that ur husband will be like that, and trust that Allah swt will grant u with the husband that u want, then it will be like that :D so it aint pointless

[.: Anna :.]

:salams

no it wont... cos if u believe that ur husband will be like that, and trust that Allah swt will grant u with the husband that u want, then it will be like that :D so it aint pointless

why not just make dua though? :p

[RaNdOm]

why not just make dua though? :p

:salams

yeh we do... and then cos we got so much hope and trust in Allah alhamdulillah... cant help gettin a bit :hidban::inlove::D enitttttt :p

[Kubs]

Two people cannot be 100% compatible - 'tis impossible.

Wake up and stop dreaming :outta:

[LastFriday]

If I was married I'm hoping it would be 100%....*grin*

how can you be sure o.O

[RaNdOm]

Two people cannot be 100% compatible - 'tis impossible.

Wake up and stop dreaming :outta:

:salams

oh great we got the mood killer :rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

:smack: :smack:

[Kubs]

:salams

oh great we got the mood killer :rolleyes:

I'm being realistic.....:D

[RaNdOm]

I'm being realistic.....:D

:salams

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: :rolleyes::rolleyes:

anyway 100% compatibility inshaAllah :inlove: and even at first u find it kinda difficult, ur menta like learn to be patient aint ya... like if we accept each other for who we are, then we'd learn to be patient with them, and so love em even more for helpin us develop good qualities like patience and seeing good in ppl even if they make u mad...

like always getting annoyed and bein mad is a bad quality right but inshaAllah cos ud love ur wife for example ud learn to let things go and maybe like sometimes its a fault within urself that u need to work on and living with someone from a diff fam would help u realise what u need to work on to improve ur own character :D

[~Warda~]

Two people cannot be 100% compatible - 'tis impossible.

Wake up and stop dreaming :outta:

:up:
But they can be 99.9 %... :outta:

[shariff2]

As-salaamoualaikum

100% compatibility is the aim. Sometimes we start with 50% compatibility. The main thing it that we agree on the most important bits, namely the deen.

Sometimes what one feels to be the most important compatibility issue is wrong, but then once married one realises that one has to be more open-minded and realise that your wife/hubby can be right too.

As someone who has been married for some time, this is exactly what happened for me. I started off with ideas of how I would lead my married life, but then after marriage I realised that there were other ways to lead an Islamic life that was not the same as my own idea but still different.

Alhamdulillah I was open-minded enough not to oppose my wife's ideas. I took them on board just as she took some of my ideas on board and we moved together as one towards Allah's happiness.

Without harping on, my point is that sometimes settings the bar too high means that you never find the 'perfect' one. But also one must be prepared to accept that probably one's idea is not the only right way. Probably not having 100% compatibility is NOT a bad thing. Probably it is better to have 50-60% compatibility and then the remainder makes for a lively, interesting marriage with plenty of healthy discussions , plenty of opportunites for learning about your wife's/hubby's way of looking at things, accepting other's views sometimes , them accepting yours at others.

Everyone is different! Let's celebrate diversity!

[Islamiyyah]

Like Anna said what is the point of measuring this? The people who ask these questions arent married. And no there is nooo such thing as 100% capabilty. So unreal. Theres nooooo such thing guys.

[RaNdOm]

:salams

i think married people just wanna be hope killers :rolleyes:

dont blame us that u turned all borin n undreamy :p

[Khuram_2k?]

i say you'd be lucky to get 75% compatibility

the 100% dreamers need to wake up and see the real world ;)

[JayC]

95%

[MMS]

those who expect 100% compatibility will probably find it harder to deal with conflict in a marriage :nervous:

[Jilbabi]

^^^ i knw wot you mean

i dont expect 100% compatability bcos wudnt that be boring?

sum1 who jus does evryfin like u or jus alwys agrees.. lol?

sum difference shud be there.. like sum1 said opposites attract and sumtimes thats how people work :up:

[Umm Haya]

how can you be sure o.O

I can't....I did say I was hoping. And most people are missing the second part of the question in the first post....its talking about compatible you'd be in terms of Sabr and how much you'd be willing to put up with. I'd like to think we all had the Sabr to put up with our spouses faults since if there's one thing we dislike in them there must be at least 10 things we do. :sub: Simple as.

[LaFanGa]

Allah hu alim, but the people that are like bla bla your imaginin, just cause after you got married, your dreams about marriage were shattered:p dont mean everyone elses will be:p

muhahaaa haa haaa :D

[Umm Haya]

Allah hu alim, but the people that are like bla bla your imaginin, just cause after you got married, your dreams about marriage were shattered:p dont mean everyone elses will be:p

muhahaaa haa haaa :D

lol thats mean ^^^

Dont mean that everythings gonna be negative just coz we have that hope. Reality is that no two people are the same. Thankfully for us Allah :Swt: places love and mercy in the hearts so that we can try to get on as well as possible...

WassalamuAlaykum

[Islamiyyah]

Allah hu alim, but the people that are like bla bla your imaginin, just cause after you got married, your dreams about marriage were shattered:p dont mean everyone elses will be:p

muhahaaa haa haaa :D

Ummm no thats not the case.:rolleyes: So please get over yourself.

[Al-Farooq]

Allah hu alim, but the people that are like bla bla your imaginin, just cause after you got married, your dreams about marriage were shattered:p dont mean everyone elses will be:p

muhahaaa haa haaa :D

That's definitely not the case for my marriage either alhamdulillah :)

That "muhahahaaa" evil-wannabe laugh makes it sound like you enjoy the thought of peoples marriages proving to be a disappointment, when the cold, hard reality bites.

You may find that funny, but I find you pathetic.

How d'ya like them apples? :)

[carol_au]

Has anyone asked the obvious question yet? What does it mean to be compatiable?

suggesting a percentage without defining what your criteria for compatiablity is .. is actually not that helpful.

Compatiablity goes way beyond whether you share the same interests or how many children you want..

A broader definition of compatiability is actually a good starting point

com·pat·i·ble (khttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/schwa.gifm-phttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/abreve.gifthttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/prime.gifhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/schwa.gif-bhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/schwa.gifl)
adj. 1. Capable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with another or others:
2. Capable of orderly, efficient integration and operation with other elements in a system with no modification or conversion required.
3. Capable of forming a chemically or biochemically stable system.
4. Of or relating to a television system in which color broadcasts can be received in black and white by sets incapable of color reception.
5. Medicine Capable of being grafted, transfused, or transplanted from one individual to another without rejection:
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/compatibility

Obviously most of these are not really specifically about marriage but they use some good terms to describe what should be between a husband and wife

Number one and two are self explanatory

I liked number 3.. Capable of forming ....... a stable system (in this case marriage)

Number 4 is lovely... imagine that as a marriage.. :) capable of receiving colour in black and white by sets incapable of color reception.

Imagine that in a marriage.. where both spouses are capable of changing their view on life and life issues depending on the imput received when discussing with one's partner and their perspective on things.

And Number 5 :) Capable of being grafted, transfused, or transplanted from one individual to another without rejection:

This is how every marriage should be in the sharing of ideas and lives .. :) it is unconditional love and acceptance of one's spouse and the differences they will bring into the relationship.. whether husband or wife. ..so that that spouse doesn't feel rejected when their ideas are presented. Even the concept of grafted transfused or transplanted means we can accept our spouses ideas at different levels of acceptance.. the only concern we should have is that however we think of their ideas.. we don't reject them .. their ideas are part of who they are.

Alhumdulillah.. no one should enter marriage where these broader definitions of compatiablity arn't seen in the relationship..

[PiElle2]

what about...

compatible [kəmˈpӕtəbl] adjective

able to agree or exist successfully side by side


Arabic:مُتَوافِق، مُنْسَجِمChinese (Simplified):可和谐共存的Chinese (Traditional):可和諧共存的
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/compatible (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/compatible)




Not sure about the Arabic word's exact meaning, but the chinese one is more like the 1 st meaning in sis Carol's post.

1. Capable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with another or others