Inviting ummah members to your wedding? Did/would you?

[Robotnik]

As the title suggests.

Please vote and comments in posts will be welcomed.

If you did invite ummah members, then were they people you already knew offline? or were they complete strangers? have you ever met them before or was seeing them at the wedding the first time you met?

if you are not married, then would you invite ummah members in your future wedding and why? what's your opinion on inviting a complete stranger offline...maybe they are fried chicken man???? :0:

also, if you want to give personal information like which users you did invite or would then that's your choice but consult those specific users beforehand if they wanna be named or not?

ok so please post away...I'd really like to see opinions...

edited comment: also, if you did invite them and they were strangers offline, then how did you explain it to your family?

[`asiya]

lol what a strange question if u dont mind me saying so ... unless of course u are u getting married and strange ummah forum members are sending u pm`s and begging you for invites

[Kubs]

I will definitely invite people to my wedding.

Most of the Ummah sisters I've met already.....others that I haven't met, I know very well. I will speak to them via phone or meet beforehand just to confirm :up:

As for the brothers - none of them are invited..hah! :outta:

[LastFriday]

Hrmm, whenever someone is down and is feeling bad. Or whenever something exciting happens in their lives, a lot of people post about it here and get comfort from the members and if they can do that then why not? I would invite a few sure why not.

[Robotnik]

lol what a strange question if u dont mind me saying so ... unless of course u are u getting married and strange ummah forum members are sending u pm`s and begging you for invites

Oh..well..it's a shame you find it funny..but it's ok :)

I am asking because well..it's an honest question. Sometimes we feel a 'bond' with people online after having known them for a long time but unfortuately never had the oppertunity to meet. A wedding is a special event and you'd want special people to be around you.

The only strange factor is that we've never met these people and how can you explain it to family who dont use internet etc??

It is a scary thought to someone who hasn't experience this type of bond or friendship before

I dont know..I just wanted some opinions :)

[Robotnik]

I will definitely invite people to my wedding.

Most of the Ummah sisters I've met already.....others that I haven't met, I know very well. I will speak to them via phone or meet beforehand just to confirm :up:

As for the brothers - none of them are invited..hah! :outta:

aha a good point you raised about brothers!! Good, I would expect this from both genders!! Imagine a non mehram bro coming up to your new hubby 'hiya I am your wifes friend from ummah' :eek:

BUT

what about if you invited married sisters/brothers (youd invite their hubby/wife I'm sure, esp if they have kids) so...how would they explain their presence at your wedding? like..would you want them to say to your relatives 'oh salaam, no i'm not abc's cousin, I'm her/his friends husband/wife from online'

it's abit :confused: no?yes?

hmm

[Robotnik]

I will definitely invite people to my wedding.



I would invite a few sure why not.

PLEASE VOTE :up:

[Kubs]

aha a good point you raised about brothers!! Good, I would expect this from both genders!! Imagine a non mehram bro coming up to your new hubby 'hiya I am your wifes friend from ummah' :eek:

BUT

what about if you invited married sisters/brothers (youd invite their hubby/wife I'm sure, esp if they have kids) so...how would they explain their presence at your wedding? like..would you want them to say to your relatives 'oh salaam, no i'm not abc's cousin, I'm her/his friends husband/wife from online'

it's abit :confused: no?yes?

hmm

Well I don't expect my future husband to know the husbands of my friends...before the wedding :scratch:

I'll be inviting all my friends...whether they are from college or uni....so presumably they'll be married by then and thus bring their husbands also.

Same concept applies to the Ummah sisters.

[Robotnik]

Yeah ofcourse they wont know them before hand

BUT you know how people converse at weddings

'oh hi I am so and sos cousin'

'I am s and sos relatuve from fathers side..what about you?'

'oh are you the grooms friend?'

'where are you from?'

and so these brothers lets say, who are husbands of the ummah sisters, theyll be like 'yes I am abc from online'

LOL it's just abit random I dunno and ppl might be like 'what kind of person is she (bride) she has friends online????'

I dunno maybe I am thinking too much

ok forget that

[`asiya]

Oh..well..it's a shame you find it funny..but it's ok :)


im sorry i didnt mean strange in a bad way, maybe i should have said its an unusual question, instead :up: please accept my apology insha Allah i didnt mean to offend u.

[Robotnik]

im sorry i didnt mean strange in a bad way, maybe i should have said its an unusual question, instead :up: please accept my apology insha Allah i didnt mean to offend u.

oh no, no problem honestly. I did not get offended, thats why I did this :)

so don't worry about it.

I can understand why it's an unusual question, I agree to it

[Reema]

I wouldnt invite them to the wedding simply because I wont get married in the UK and I dont think anyone will want to tag along and come back home with me to watch the wedding although if they wanted to, they would be more than welcome.

However, next year when I hold the bridal shower, I will be inviting sisters from this board to attend and whether they come or not is really a matter of choice.

[Umm Haya]

What if you was getting married to an Ummah member then obviously you'd prob get Ummah members coming since the both of you would be close to at least a few Ummah brothers and sisters :outta:

[.: Anna :.]

If you think people will find it weird, just say its your friend, not necessarily from online?
If we did ours here then there are sisters in sis forum i might hav invited, but mostly i have met them though? it doesnt have to be a big deal, just cos u are both on ummah. Sometimes u go weddings n u dnt actually kno the bride anyway, like if husbands friend gets married or something, u dnt necessarily know the girl but u still go. And in ur own wedding im sure there will b quite a few ppl who u have no idea who they are and how family knows them :p

[Medievalist]

I didnt cos I got married back yard, but if I ever get married in UK, possibly would invite some of the bros.

[xyz]

I'll inshallah definately be inviting atleast one poster i can think of from here and possibly a couple from mpac lol

[Umm Haya]

If you think people will find it weird, just say its your friend, not necessarily from online?
If we did ours here then there are sisters in sis forum i might hav invited, but mostly i have met them though? it doesnt have to be a big deal, just cos u are both on ummah. Sometimes u go weddings n u dnt actually kno the bride anyway, like if husbands friend gets married or something, u dnt necessarily know the girl but u still go. And in ur own wedding im sure there will b quite a few ppl who u have no idea who they are and how family knows them :p

It dont bother me anyway coz I'm only having fish at my wedding. No people, just me and him and close fam....Like a handful of em insha'Allah.

[RoadWarrior]

It dont bother me anyway coz I'm only having fish at my wedding. No people, just me and him and close fam....Like a handful of em insha'Allah.

FISHH??? :confused:

my take on the thread: I think it's definitely important you phone or meet with whoevr you're thinking of inviting beforehand...or somehow ensure they are real people through other people who have met them etc

at the end of the day it's just about trust and you've got to be a smart individual to realise who is real and who is not

[Umm Haya]

Lol Fish....you know....the scaley, swimmy, tasty and sometimes lovely things you just cant live without? :inlove: :o No...? ok maybe thats just me then :o :outta:

[RoadWarrior]

Lol Fish....you know....the scaley, swimmy, tasty and sometimes lovely things you just cant live without? :inlove: :o No...? ok maybe thats just me then :o :outta:

oh wait I got confused!!

You mean for the menu? as in thats the food you're serving? am I right?

[Umm Haya]

oh wait I got confused!!

You mean for the menu? as in thats the food you're serving? am I right?

looooooool *rotfl* ... No comment *grin*

[RoadWarrior]

looooooool *rotfl* ... No comment *grin*

:rubeyes: Then...?? I dare ask...??

[Umm Haya]

:rubeyes: Then...?? I dare ask...??

Lol....Hmmm....What if I end up marrying a Fish? not in the literal sense though *grin* :outta:

[RoadWarrior]

Lol....Hmmm....What if I end up marrying a Fish? not in the literal sense though *grin* :outta:

Ok you've seriously lost me there

I'm lost

would you care to elaborate or...ok you know what leave it..lets just

yeah..ok...fish..tuna..ok..salmon?..smoked?

ok yeah forget it..

[Umm Haya]

Ok you've seriously lost me there

I'm lost

would you care to elaborate or...ok you know what leave it..lets just

yeah..ok...fish..tuna..ok..salmon?..smoked?

ok yeah forget it..

looool you're such a fish! :rotfl:

:outta: yeh lets leave it at that :outta:

[Pippin1376]

I still don't know anyone really well here, but when I finally (inshallah) break out of my shell and talk to more of the sisters here, I'd invite them to my future wedding.

[Sulaiman Harun]

:start:

:salams

I can never forget that my brother raziel sent me his wedding card all the way from England to Canada even though he knew I wouldn't be coming

[Cartman]

I'd invite you but I'd have to see you in person and talk to you before hand

[ze leetle elper]

Yeah we invited quite a few..and most of them came! :p And I have been to a few Ummah weddings as well mashaAllah. Its no big deal, end of the day it doesn't matter how you met them, if you trust one another and are friends, its like inviting any other friends.

Anna makes a good point about 'strangers' and how people don't necessarily have to be from 'online' to be strangers :up:

[angel*]

Id invite a few ummah members to my wedding, why not?

[Robotnik]

salaam

wow excellent responses. jazakallah for participating in the thread and poll

I see alot of people would like to invite ummah members...but how many would in reality...

and I think the reality is reflected by the votes...only 3 so far have voted they actually did invite members...so ideally people would 'like' to invite members and are ok with the idea of it...but in practice it isn't done

hmm

ok thanks :)

Feel free to post more!!! and others vote too!!

oh and bro sulimen wow @ raziel [posting you his invite :) thats so nice.

I found it funny when it Ze said 'most of them came' thats another thing..what if you invite people and they dont come? but it would be ok if they gave a reason or something like far distance etc.

[ze leetle elper]

Well yeah some lived very far and some couldn't make that date due to other commitments :p I do not think any did not come cos they just didn't want to or anything?! :p

[xyz]

Ive only ever been invited to two ummah weddings and i wasnt able to make it on both ocassions :( cos of prior commitments

[Robotnik]

Well yeah some lived very far and some couldn't make that date due to other commitments :p I do not think any did not come cos they just didn't want to or anything?! :p

I love how you use ':p' in ever post! LOL

yeah or some people may think the bride/groom are fried chickan man and the whole thing is a hoax :eek:

never know..some people got extreeemely paranoid minds

xyz- shame you couldn't make it to those weddings

[ajnabee]

I will definitely invite people to my wedding.

Most of the Ummah sisters I've met already.....others that I haven't met, I know very well. I will speak to them via phone or meet beforehand just to confirm :up:

As for the brothers - none of them are invited..hah! :outta:


so when do i get my invite? any time soon? :D

[Kubs]

so when do i get my invite? any time soon? :D

A wedding without the groom? :eek3:

[ajnabee]

A wedding without the groom? :eek3:


but i thought mms was on the case... :D

[Kubs]

but i thought mms was on the case... :D

Women :rolleyes:

[RoadWarrior]

so when do i get my invite? any time soon? :D

A wedding without the groom? :eek3:

:rotfl:

I see 14 people would like to invite ummah members!!!!! :eek:

I guess I should be expecting a few invites in the future :coolsis:~ahem~ :p

[bint]

angel why thnx love :p

[ze leetle elper]

I love how you use ':p' in ever post! LOL

yeah or some people may think the bride/groom are fried chickan man and the whole thing is a hoax :eek:

never know..some people got extreeemely paranoid minds

xyz- shame you couldn't make it to those weddings

Well considering we had one person cross the ocean to come to the wedding :eek: they can't be that paranoid aye :p

And seven is not fried chicken man thank you very much...that is sajid :D

[Robotnik]

Well considering we had one person cross the ocean to come to the wedding :eek: they can't be that paranoid aye :p

And seven is not fried chicken man thank you very much...that is sajid :D

wooww @ person from abroad that sounds fantastic!! lucky you and lucky guest. Not everyone could just travel far distance like that for a wedding.

lol @ sajid

ok inshallah I can start making my list ;)

[angel*]

angel why thnx love :p

np dearie cuz u missy wuld prolly be there helping me organize the whole thing! :love:

[Kal-El]

I wouldn't, sorry

[Robotnik]

I wouldn't, sorry


whats to be apologetic about?

so could you please expand on your post like, why?

is it because you don't know the members well enough, you're not close enough to them online?

[Kal-El]

whats to be apologetic about?

so could you please expand on your post like, why?

is it because you don't know the members well enough, you're not close enough to them online?

No it's nothing to do with my relationship with people that I befriend online, it's just that my (our) idea of a wedding is a very private, family and close friends that you grew up-with, dinner and afternoon/evening.

[Umm Haya]

AssalamuAlaykum

Tbh I wouldnt invite any Ummah Members either....only if I knew them offline and they happened to be on Ummah also....and unfortunately....(or fortunately) thats all of one person *grin*

WassalamuAlaykum

[WahYaLookin'At?]

No I wouldn't, I dun wan nun ov you there! :lailah:

Mainly because I duno you guys personally.. I guess.

[Robotnik]

:rotfl: at above answer

ok I would like to hear more from those who have voted they DID invite members. I;ve heard from Ze so far

So you might trust the members...but what if they dont trust you? how do you send them an ivitation card if they dont wanna give you their address? which is totally understandable. What do you think of e-invites? or is this just silly?

Personally it would be much nicer to be able to post a proper invite but like I said before- some users might not feel comfortable about giving out their address

[.: Anna :.]

if they are not comfy to give out their address, then i dnt think they can come :p
u are giving ur address of where the wedding will be and were u will b @ that day. so they have to reciprocate to give their address.
otherwise its unbalanced, and if they want to come wedding they shud just give the address

[Al-Farooq]

I had the pleasure of having two Ummah members at my wedding......the first was one of the witnesses and the second was the poor woman who married me. :inlove:

Actually, I think there may have been a third Ummah member there, as well....can't say for sure because it was fairly well segregated alhamdulillah.

[ze leetle elper]

Re: invites, I think all of the people we invied that were also on the forum were by posting an invitation card to them? Like Anna said, if they are too worried to give their address, there obviously isn't enough trust, so you wouldn't really want them to be at your wedding then eh? :p

[ze leetle elper]

I had the pleasure of having two Ummah members at my wedding......the first was one of the witnesses and the second was the poor woman who married me. :inlove:

Actually, I think there may have been a third Ummah member there, as well....can't say for sure because it was fairly well segregated alhamdulillah.

MashaAllah @ witness, that must have been an amazing experience for that person! :D

Re: poor woman who married you lol, tell me about it! I mean the spouse in question here (your wife and my hubb) have the pick of the whole forum to choose from and they go for us bumbling sods :o Must be something in the air :p

[Ibrahim70]

I think...................yes, if I made good friends with some Brothers (or Sisters?) on this forum in the flesh then I would like to invite them to my wedding mashallah :up:

[Robotnik]

:rotfl: @ giving out address well in that case I can exclude 1 person definitely lol but I'd rather not...we'll see how it goes when the time comes...

wow bro farooq that sounds wonderful! May Allah keep you and your wife happy ameen

I think...................yes, if I made good friends with some Brothers (or Sisters?) on this forum in the flesh then I would like to invite them to my wedding mashallah :up:

I can't imagine why you'd wish to invite sisters? if they arent the wives of brothers you know?

It's like imagine a woman coming up to you nd your wife like 'hiii bro ibrahim its me ummah_muslimmah haha remember abc thread???'

I dunno :scratch: I find it wrong because thats just emphasising you having a 'friendship' with a sister who you're not a mehram too and er..it just seems wrong. If you invited a brother from forum and he brought his wife thats diff. But inviting a sister solely because shes a 'friend' on ummah? I dunno..I know I wouldn't do it! unles your wife knew her aswell or something

but imagine if you were at your wedding and a random guy comes up and tells you he's a 'friend' of your newly married wife from the internet..I'd be like :eek: :rubeyes:

Maybe you're relaxed about those things

[Ibrahim70]

Maybe you're relaxed about those things

What I meant was that if my future wife was an ummah member too, who knows what may happen in the future :up:, and she had Sisters on ummah that she knew outside of ummah..........if you get what I mean.............then she would invite them innit :up:

[scribble]

Wouldn't wanna scare anyone and have them think I'm a nutter. :up:


But we shall see.

Hell, I'm only 16! :eek: :p

[Robotnik]

What I meant was that if my future wife was an ummah member too, who knows what may happen in the future :up:, and she had Sisters on ummah that she knew outside of ummah..........if you get what I mean.............then she would invite them innit :up:

yeah like I mentioned in my post aswell, that;d be better. if you're inviting a friend who is married, it's just nice to invite their other half isn't it :)

Wouldn't wanna scare anyone and have them think I'm a nutter. :up:





yes but would YOU go to someone elses wedding, having to give out your personal details? or would you be too concerned about them being nutters?

because we might be trusting of the guests and inviting them..but the guests might not trust us. so like sis ze and anna said, they dont deserve invites

[MalikOne™]

every ummah member i dnt kno personally bring at least £100 cash ina envolope to my wedding and ul get in, no cash= no entry= no food :coolbro:

[xyz]

:nono:That was my idea

[Yokel]

your all welcome

salam