*sigh*... eyebrows

[Unregistered56]

:salams

question for the married sisters: - brothers can help for the 2nd half of this post inshallah :)

when you went to do your bridal makeup, did they pluck your eyebrows?

i am told they have to do this or else they cant set the rest of the makeup properly :rolleyes: i dotn want anyone touching my eyebrows. alhamdulillah i thank Allah swt for the decent shape i have been gifted with, however, my future sister in law tells me if i dont do it, it will look ugly. :(

this whole marriage thing is one big dilemma, im already having problems with explaining to inlaws why i cant be doing certain things before&for the wedding without offending anyone. i already feel like ive started to spark something when i said no to eyebrow plucking no matter how ugly i look even if its "just for one day" as they say :rolleyes:

question for everyone else:

any advice on how to explain religious aspects and how they are much more important on wedding day to please Allah swt so they we can lead a happily married life without seeming stuck up or snobby or "im better than you" type attitude ... i tried to be nice about it.. i used a lot of smileys :o

:jkk:

May Allah swt forgive us all.

:love:

[.: Anna :.]

a good advice with inlaws, when u want to say something which is against their opinion.. like they are saying u have to pluck eyebrows etc, what u can do is get ur hubby to deal with them bc they might take it better from him as he is their son. if u say it they can take it the wrong way and get a problem with u (depending on their personality).
if ur husband agrees on these issues with u, that is more important... then also if they tell u to do something n its haram or not good, u can say husband told me not to do this, sorry. they cant really argue with it and not so likely to, they wont want to tell u to disobey husband?
as for the eyebrows, jst keep firm in ur position insha allah... if the person doing make up says they "have to" do it then try to find someone else? if u get a practising sis to do the make up who understands it and doesnt try to force u into it, it will be better. and u dont even need to do it, esp as u said ur eyebrow shape is fine... leaving them is not gna make u look ugly at all.
just try to have patience with them, however annoying it might get speak to them only in a nice tone of voice, dnt snap at them or anything.. but dont give in about these issues. and also try to get hubby to do explaining in most issues if he would do that

[dhakiyya]

you dont' need to have eyebrows plucked for the make up to work, I know people whove had make up done professionally once or twice and they didnt pluck them at all.

Just checking you know its haram to pluck eyebrows, cause its not clear from the post cause the reason you gave is you like their natural shape. Its allowed to pluck facial hair that shouldn't be there, like on the lip or between the eyebrows (like monobrow type thing) but not the actual eyebrows themselves.

[Unregistered556]

:jkk: sister D i know its haram.

i told my sister in law to be, if they cant work with a person's natural features and shape then they dont have much skill now do they :p only after i said that she backed off :o

will the eye make up look weird with unsculpted eyebrows?

i know all the back home parlours "require" it to be done and arent much in terms of customer service :rolleyes: im just afraid i get in a fight with those ladies and they end up doing my makeup all bad because of my attitude :o

sis anna, :jkk: for the husband advice, i hadnt thought of that one before. When i told him about the eyebrow thing, he said if i dont want to do it no one can force me although the hadith i showed didnt do much in terms of backup :rolleyes:

:jkk: sisters :love:

[dhakiyya]

I agree if they can't work with your natural features they don't have much skill! You don't need to pluck eyebrows for make up to look good. If the fact that its haram isn't good enough for parlour staff to agree not to pluck them, tell them you're phobic of tweezers and are likely to vomit or pass out if they try to use them on you ;)

As for family I think Annas advice is best inshaAllah :up:

[bint]

well only a pro makeup artist would maybe suggest to pluck a few hairs underneathe but she would not force you either. Most likely she would neaten them with wax or a brow comb. dont worry, wild eyebrows look good too ;)
And seriously im not taking the mick :rubeyes:

[Unregistered57]

yeah ur right eh, they SHOULD neaten it with wax... :rubeyes:

but what if she doesnt? :eek: Do i suggest it to her? :scratch: what if she gets upset that i say no i dont want her to and doesnt even bother with my brows after that and just leaves it the way they are :nervous:

Sis D - hehe the phobia idea is great :p ... and true :o :outta:


back to sis Anna's advice about 'husband doesnt allow' "technique"... what if the husband is a wus who doesnt want to be the one to deny anyone of anything on his side on wifey's behalf :smack:


:jkk: :o :love: