Half your deen...

[SalafUsSalih]

Asalaam-U-Aleikum

I am a 20yr old sister. InshAllah intrested in completing Half her deen soon. However i feel that i will not be reciving any proposals as noone knows. I am too shy to mention this to anyone, even friends/sisters at my local masjid which i am activly part of. I doubt a brother could notice me (as i wear Niqab) and find out who i am and try and propose either.
InshAllah i will be patient, by the permission of Allah.
Also the thing is i'd rather a brother propose out of his will, not for a sister to go tell her husband that so-and-so wants to get married...go find out if there are brothers looking...if you understand what i mean.
And my mother, although our relationship is excellent Alhamdulilaah i don't wish to mention it. She has already said if im not married by 22/23 shes going to search for me. But i dont want that. Feels a little degrading.

Any advice? this is serious InshAllah.

[Fitnah Bolice]

Nothing to be shy about, speak with your father and tell him you're ready to marry, also speak to your local imam at the masjid in which you are an active participant.

[stephenoskie]

Walikum Assalaam

MashAllah on the decsion to consider marriage. I would suggest that you could maybe ask other sisters or your friends. Some times at my local masjid they do marriage events.

You shoudl talk to your parents about it, let them know what your plans are and how you want to go about completing them. Inshallah

Tek Cre, Sorry im not of much help.

Amira X

[seven]

forgive me if i'm wrong, but you post comes across a little naive.

no guy is going to propose to you out of the blue. maybe express their interest... but not propose. if people don't know you... don't know that you're looking to get married, how do you expect proposals to come in?

speak to you family first inshaAllah... if you want to complete half your deen, then there's no point in being shy about it. there's nothing degrading about it.

[SalafUsSalih]

Salaam

May Allah reward you all for your replys. Ameen.
Seven-You are correct, it is a lil naive. And maybe i phrased myself wrong?
Alhamdulilah i am in no rush, as only what Allaah has decreed will happen, for He (swt) is the best of planners.
Also i am currently a student and i feel as though being married would mean i would have to give that up, and i don't wish to as i see it as a blessing from Allah that i have that opportunity. So that is my down fall.
My parents.. once i get to a certain age they are getting involved, Its quiet amusing.
And about saying 'im ready' lol i can imagin myself saying that.

I'v only just started to think about it. i don't know, isit a phase?

Allaah is with the Sabiroon.
And Allah knows best.

JazakAllahu Khayran

[Islamisthebest]

hmmm, everything happens for a reason and Allah will will when you will get married so dont worry about it too much, i go through that phase as im also a student but i know i wont at least hear the word "Marriage" from my parents in a serious note for a few years, so best thing just do your studies and like you said your parents will search for you at the age of 22/23 thats ideal age, you'l be out of uni Inshallah and Inshallah things will work out for the best...

Hope i helpd a little bit if not then im a total looney bin :)

All the best

[SalafUsSalih]

i Meant i 'Can't'...imagin myself saying that

J'khair

[SalafUsSalih]

ok, this is to both brothers and sisters.
how do you go about finding a partner?

like really, those who are married could shed some light.
Jzk