Father is trying to destroy his own family :(

[Distruction]

What do you do if your own father is trying to destroy his own family? Slowly but surely he has been chipping away at his sons and his own wife that his wife stops speaking to her sons and his sons stop speaking to their mother.

After so many years of his doing this, it is starting to have an impact.

I know people will ask "what is your father doing" or "why is your father doing that". My answer is "I do not know". I did not start this thread to talk about those 2 questions. I started this thread to ask for ideas on how to stop him doing this to his family.

He is not interested in praying and he thinks he is doing nothing wrong, he somehow thinks what we are wronging him.

Are their any dua's which can be read, is it black magic over him which is making him do this to his family?

HELP.

[neelu]

It's hard to know what to suggest when I don't know how he has been pitching people against each other or what he has said/done. It is possible that he's deviated from Islam willingly and that is what has led him to wrong his family in this way. On the other hand, it is also possible that he is under the influence of either black magic, or has become the follower of a dodgy pir. It is worth regularly reciting the last two surahs in the Quran.

[Tahiyah]

maybe you could talk to an adult family member that you really trust??

and remember all your answers are within Quran and Sunnah

learn about childrens rights over parents and parents rights over children

learn about our obligations to Allah. inform your parents of where they are wrong, islamically

if its difficult to talk to them, then perhaps try writing it down on paper/letter.

hold a family meeting and have everyone talk this stuff out, promise first to not argue during the meeting.

tell him how much you love and respect him and do not want to see the family destroyed and punished by Allah for not following his commands. speak in a kind tone. always have patience. ask your parents what you can do to help.

do salat where he can see you doing salat, do it together as a family, ask him to join you, remind him its time for salat, make adhan in the house. a family that prays together stays together..;) recite and/or play Qu'ran in the house frequently (especially surah al-Baqarah)

and maybe you could even attend your local masjid and seek help from the Imaam there, ask him if he can provide you with family counseling.

May Allah t'ala make it easy for you