Short-Fuse
21-04-08, 07:45 PM
Assalamolayqum waramatullahii wabarakatuhu
I’ve made this thread because I have serious anger-issues, which I want to resolve. I have a horrible temper, I get angry quickly and it’s disgusting. I shout, I swear, I say every word under the sun and I hate that, I don’t care where I am who I'm with, everything just blurts out. I spout absolute rubbish, my mouth is a sewer. I don’t know how to solve this. The smallest thing can **** me off, I calm down after but it’s during those 5/10 minutes that I’m angry, that does all the damage. Our tongue is something that can raise us to the highest level of heaven and also take to us to the depths of hell, and the way I speak when I’m angry its just disgusting. I honestly have no control over it.
I’ve been trying to find ways to sort this out, one was reciting the durood? I came across a hadith where it said if you’re angry sit down and recite the durood, if not lay down and recite, even if recite It, and I sleep for I while, I wake up fuming. Doing wudu doesn’t change anything because I'm still angry. I can’t stop to think of Allah swt or his wrath because I'm like a rabid dog; my behaviour is so animalistic I just attack everyone who’s around me. I don’t know what to do. I’ve always been a very angry person as a child, as young as 8 I remember strangling my sibling, at 14 I remember throwing chairs around. A few years ago when I went to umrah, that calmed me down a lot, but now everything is getting back to ‘normal’ in terms of my anger. It’s all spiralling out of control. It’s getting to the point where I can’t restrain myself physically and am so tempted to lash out, and have done too and this what I find most appalling, I don’t want to hurt anyone. I do far too much damage with my words, but to hurt some physically is just horrible.
I don’t know why I have such a short fuse, and I don’t know how sort it out. Could someone please recommend any solutions? I am willing to try anything, the only issue with counselling is that, when I’m angry I hate it when people ask me questions; it just makes it even worse. If people just shut up, and stay away from me then im fine, I can calm down, but people are in my face I just erupt and cause far too much damage with my tongue. Once I start ranting I just cannot contain myself. It’s getting to me because I’m a very unstable person when I’m angry.
Another problem is parents, I find it hard to be patient when I'm getting nagged, I realise the importance of obeying and respecting them and how it’s a grave sin to upset/disrespect/disobey your parents but regardless of what I cant seem to be able to control myself. I have far too many negative traits, I’m impulsive, erratic, stubborn and have terrible anger issues, I want to change this I would be really grateful If you guys could just provide me with any solutions.
JazakAllah khair.
I’ve made this thread because I have serious anger-issues, which I want to resolve. I have a horrible temper, I get angry quickly and it’s disgusting. I shout, I swear, I say every word under the sun and I hate that, I don’t care where I am who I'm with, everything just blurts out. I spout absolute rubbish, my mouth is a sewer. I don’t know how to solve this. The smallest thing can **** me off, I calm down after but it’s during those 5/10 minutes that I’m angry, that does all the damage. Our tongue is something that can raise us to the highest level of heaven and also take to us to the depths of hell, and the way I speak when I’m angry its just disgusting. I honestly have no control over it.
I’ve been trying to find ways to sort this out, one was reciting the durood? I came across a hadith where it said if you’re angry sit down and recite the durood, if not lay down and recite, even if recite It, and I sleep for I while, I wake up fuming. Doing wudu doesn’t change anything because I'm still angry. I can’t stop to think of Allah swt or his wrath because I'm like a rabid dog; my behaviour is so animalistic I just attack everyone who’s around me. I don’t know what to do. I’ve always been a very angry person as a child, as young as 8 I remember strangling my sibling, at 14 I remember throwing chairs around. A few years ago when I went to umrah, that calmed me down a lot, but now everything is getting back to ‘normal’ in terms of my anger. It’s all spiralling out of control. It’s getting to the point where I can’t restrain myself physically and am so tempted to lash out, and have done too and this what I find most appalling, I don’t want to hurt anyone. I do far too much damage with my words, but to hurt some physically is just horrible.
I don’t know why I have such a short fuse, and I don’t know how sort it out. Could someone please recommend any solutions? I am willing to try anything, the only issue with counselling is that, when I’m angry I hate it when people ask me questions; it just makes it even worse. If people just shut up, and stay away from me then im fine, I can calm down, but people are in my face I just erupt and cause far too much damage with my tongue. Once I start ranting I just cannot contain myself. It’s getting to me because I’m a very unstable person when I’m angry.
Another problem is parents, I find it hard to be patient when I'm getting nagged, I realise the importance of obeying and respecting them and how it’s a grave sin to upset/disrespect/disobey your parents but regardless of what I cant seem to be able to control myself. I have far too many negative traits, I’m impulsive, erratic, stubborn and have terrible anger issues, I want to change this I would be really grateful If you guys could just provide me with any solutions.
JazakAllah khair.