what should i do in this situation

[who d man east]

i lent my mate mate 300 pounds and he is not giving back my money he keeps making excuses. i sent him a text saying ur such a chief and if u dont give my money watch. he called me and said heres the deal i will give it by end of month i wont screw u were mates bla bla. idk if i should be friends with him still after he gives my money. im gonna ask him to lend me some money when he gives mine i know he wont give it. then i will spark some beef with him and i will terrorise him. he knows where i live so i cant do jack cos he can go grass. he is a playa and knows mandems but i dont think they will back him up. someone has to teach him to not **** around with ppl and he done with me. what should i do.

[Tahiyah]

if he is really your friend try not to get this upset about it, help him to help you, maybe you could suggest he make payments to you to help him pay off his debt?

don't let money come between your friendship and dont do something bad that you will later regret. think before you act, inshaa Allah. just remind him of his obligation of paying off his debts and bring him the proof from Quran and Sunnah as well.

also, try to be understanding. what is his situation like, is he financially struggling, has alot of responsibilities? take these things into consideration before you judge him wrong.

remember to keep your patience

and always be careful who you lend money to

[sunrise]

Nah allow it man, you don't know what his reasons were maybe he really just couldn't pay you back

thats not reall the muslim atrtitude to 'spark' him and start 'beef; with him, basically it will make the situation a whole lot worse!

If you think he isn't worthy of being your friend then just don't be his friend, but don't beat him up over money... you better than that.

May Allah reward you for you patience and increase you in sabr

Allah inshAllah will reward you for helping him out, but he won't be happy at all, at you being the crap out of him

[Abu Mus'ab]

Well if you're here asking for what Islam says then here's your answer,

According to the shariah he has told you he will pay you back so you have no case against him, you have to wait until the end of the month when he pays you.

And it is completely haraam to do what you're planning on doing, in more ways than one, and besides what benefit will there be in your 'terrorising' him? and what guarantees you that he wont try it with someone else even after you 'terrorise' him?

Let him pay you back and then just dont lend him money again, that's the most sensible thing to do.

But if you came here not wanting the shari view then...... read the above as well, because i dont give other views.

[OMG]

Let him know if he's having trouble he can pay in parts, like half soon and the other half a little later. its hard to fork over 300 all at once.

the beef and terrorising stuff is just being plain silly because then you're stooping even lower than him.

good things come to those who are patient Inshallah.

[Lone Wolf]

It's only 300 pounds, just forget about it and chalk it down to experience. If he does pay you back then it's a bonus.

[Fairy]

i lent my mate mate 300 pounds and he is not giving back my money he keeps making excuses. i sent him a text saying ur such a chief and if u dont give my money watch. he called me and said heres the deal i will give it by end of month i wont screw u were mates bla bla. idk if i should be friends with him still after he gives my money. im gonna ask him to lend me some money when he gives mine i know he wont give it. then i will spark some beef with him and i will terrorise him. he knows where i live so i cant do jack cos he can go grass. he is a playa and knows mandems but i dont think they will back him up. someone has to teach him to not **** around with ppl and he done with me. what should i do.

Wait till the end of the month, a day before. Text and say It is the end of the month tomorrow so i will be arriving to collect my money. Dont be rude about it. Wait and see what happens.

Although, if he still does not return it, he will be left answerable to Allah on judgement day for owing money.

[Police]

i lent my mate mate 300 pounds and he is not giving back my money he keeps making excuses. i sent him a text saying ur such a chief and if u dont give my money watch. he called me and said heres the deal i will give it by end of month i wont screw u were mates bla bla. idk if i should be friends with him still after he gives my money. im gonna ask him to lend me some money when he gives mine i know he wont give it. then i will spark some beef with him and i will terrorise him. he knows where i live so i cant do jack cos he can go grass. he is a playa and knows mandems but i dont think they will back him up. someone has to teach him to not **** around with ppl and he done with me. what should i do.

Salaam

It wasn't really clear as to whether you have waited till the end of the month or not - in which case I suggest you do to see if he pays you back Insha'allah.

With regards to 'make a beef with him and terrorise him' - you should not do this. If he has lent you money, focus on getting that money back, khalaas.

As to whether you should be his friend that is entirely your choice to make, if you feel that keeping this sort of company that is 'a playa that knows da mandems' will help you become stronger in your deen and develop a stronger sense of Imaan, then be his friend, if not, then calmly and maturely cut connections off with him, but love him as your brother for the sake of Allah SWT.

[who d man east]

thnx evry1. i know what i need 2 do

[who d man east]

update. i call him y2d he said on da day he give my money he wants 2 go clubbin. he must be dumb if he thinks im gonna pay cos evrytime he has money he blows it on gambling and ****. i do want 2 be his friend bcos i still have few things 2 learn from him. then mayb when da time comes i can allow him and give him a few slaps. oh yeh when i said he is a playa i mean he gets lashed bares.

[dhakiyya]

if he's into gambling a lot, thats most likely where your money went, and he hasn't paid you back because he can't, but he probably intends to when he wins a lot of money gambling. Trouble is, gambling addicts when they win money spend it straight away gambling trying to win some more. Its an addiction, you'd have as much chance getting your money back if you lent it to a heroin addict. If he won't see that he's got a gambling problem, then forget about him. Don't expect to see the money again either. And certainly don't give him any more!!

If he admits he's got a gambling addiction problem, there are organisations that can help him give up, like alcholics anonymous but for gambling. I don't know any off the top of my head but maybe you can find something about it on the internet inshaAllah?

[Sister Who]

When you say getting 'lashed'? Do you mean hes drinking alot? Sorry I dont understand the word, I googled it and there were two meanings either drinking or fornicating, judging by the context you were speaking in im assuming its the latter. Khair either way, if this person is your freind how about having a word with him about all of this.

Dhakiyya makes a valid point about getting help with gambling, maybe you could help him out and inshAllah Allah swt will reward you too.